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Stretch marks

By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I've had extensive ones since giving birth some 30 years ago. They don't bother me and I certainly don't think they make me unattractive. However, having spoken to other women about this many do feel ugly with them. One person I know hides them from her hubby and even undresses in the dark!!

How do you feel about them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have them...

They look a lot better since loosing a chuff loads of weight and getting some tan on too.

But I'm getting into the mantra of love your body....it's hard but hell it's worth it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Siren was lucky in that with her two pregnancies she never got a single stretch mark. She's reasoned that as she quite tall her skin did all it's stretching in her teens lol.

I dated a girl years ago who had stretch marks and she called them her 'mummy pocket'. She reasoned that she'd earned them giving birth to her daughter and was proud of them.

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I never tan. Always white. But still think I'm attractive. As Sophia Lorenzo said ; sex appeal is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

To be honest ive never given it a second thought, majority of women who have had a child have them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Speaking from the male perspective here i love them. The badge of a real woman, ideal for tracing with fingers and tongue on your way somewhere naughty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They don't bother me in the slightest.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I've got them but never had kids lol was embarrassed about them at school but now don't even think about them. I can walk round chams on naked night and no one stares and says eurgh look at her stretch marks!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have lots and they don't bother me one little bit. I have never been turned down because of them nor has anyone actually mentioned them. I wouldn't be without mine as it would mean being without my 3 beautiful kids

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

I was lucky and didn't get them, no idea how as I was the size of a house. Lol. My sister did tho and she hates hers. I don't think I would of been bothered, they'd be worth it for my boy x

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I have lots and they don't bother me one little bit. I have never been turned down because of them nor has anyone actually mentioned them. I wouldn't be without mine as it would mean being without my 3 beautiful kids

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Different body types appeal to different people. however, i am a massive fan of real women! Stretch marks on a cuddly woman is amazing. but swinging is inclusive so id never rule anything or anyone out.

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple over a year ago

bradford

I have stretch marks, not loads, always felt self conscious about them, hubby says it doesn't bother him at all, I've been reassured by him and others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Two grown up boys and two tiny marks which no one else would even see, I've been very lucky

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Two grown up boys and two tiny marks which no one else would even see, I've been very lucky

But would you feel ugly with them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guys get stretch marks too. I have them, a constant reminder of having been overweight for many many years.

How do others _iew them on men, I wonder? Are they as tolerated / ignored as they are on women?

Just a thought, as there didn't seem to be any guys owning up to having them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are tiger stripes for a mum bearing her cub!

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Guys get stretch marks too. I have them, a constant reminder of having been overweight for many many years.

How do others _iew them on men, I wonder? Are they as tolerated / ignored as they are on women?

Just a thought, as there didn't seem to be any guys owning up to having them! "

Never seen them on a guy so don't know how I'd feel. I would like to think it wouldn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The wife has some, she's starting to see my side of things, they are a badge of honour, each one is a little kiss from the babies as they grew in her womb.

I also have stretch marks, where i train in the gym, and grew, i now have them top of my arms and thighs. They don't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They are tiger stripes for a mum bearing her cub!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't, and I would assume many other guys too, don't give them a second thought if a woman has them!

You women and your insecurities, I just love it when women and sassy and confident and rock whatever they've got.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have lots across my tummy, used to hate them and feel very self conscious of them. I accept them now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Two grown up boys and two tiny marks which no one else would even see, I've been very lucky

But would you feel ugly with them?"
I guess it's a woman thing hun, we're never satisfied are we, but I'm fairly happy with how lucky I have been. If I had loads then quite honestly, I don't know how I would feel, hubby always says I had his children and he loves it regardless, but as a woman, well we're self critical, but personally I think they are totally natural and women should be proud

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

I've not had any children but i've had extensive surgery since i was 14 and i have alot.

I'am really self consious and hate them.

I've been told i may not be able to have children but the thought of more stretchmarks during pregnancy. Is a major turn off.

As much as i hate saying this, i have seen some womens stomachs which i do find unattractive due to the mass of stretchmarks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*are sassy and confident.

Damn you auto correct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have them on my belly and my boobs and I never give them a thought. I'm proud of my tiger stripes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guys get stretch marks too. I have them, a constant reminder of having been overweight for many many years.

How do others _iew them on men, I wonder? Are they as tolerated / ignored as they are on women?

Just a thought, as there didn't seem to be any guys owning up to having them!

Never seen them on a guy so don't know how I'd feel. I would like to think it wouldn't bother me."

Its not exactly something which I think many guys discuss, nor take pictures of!

As someone said, in women its a sign of 'the lioness bearing her cub'.

In men, its seen as a sign of 'the sloth bearing his pies'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never tan. Always white. But still think I'm attractive. As Sophia Lorenzo said ; sex appeal is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guys get stretch marks too. I have them, a constant reminder of having been overweight for many many years.

How do others _iew them on men, I wonder? Are they as tolerated / ignored as they are on women?

Just a thought, as there didn't seem to be any guys owning up to having them! "

I'm not bothered about them either in fact I only noticed some on a friend of mine a couple of weeks ago and I have seen him naked loads of times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had extensive ones since giving birth some 30 years ago. They don't bother me and I certainly don't think they make me unattractive. However, having spoken to other women about this many do feel ugly with them. One person I know hides them from her hubby and even undresses in the dark!!

How do you feel about them?"

i hate mine

I've had 3 sections so not only do i have a lot of stretch marks my bellies really baggy too, i have tried all sorts to get ride of it but due to the amount of times my stomachs been cut open the muscles are fooked, when i look at it it reminds me of a deflated balloon, all wrinkly and saggy, if i have the money id have it removed but i dont so i have to live with it

I very rarely get naked when im having sex, i cant relax when my bellies on show, i have to have a bit of something round my midriff at least

i know a lot of men say they dont bother them but i think thats because they are used to a few on a flatish belly, i think my belly would put a lot off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oddly not too fussed about the ones on my tummy. its the ones on my boobs i dislike. used to get bullied for having large boobs at school and when my breasts were developing so quickly id have purple stretch marks. physical and emotional scars. now they have faded to white but i still see them and it takes me back

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

It is refreshing to see so many men saying stretch marks do not bother them, good on you all

I was bullied at school because I had scars on my lower leg from a burn and upper thigh from the skin graft so a few wee stretch marks don't bother me.

personally i really believe that it is the media that feeds insecurities. There are creams for stretch marks, wrinkles and scars. Yet every mark on a persons body tells a story and that story is what makes you who you are today.

Shy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is refreshing to see so many men saying stretch marks do not bother them, good on you all

I was bullied at school because I had scars on my lower leg from a burn and upper thigh from the skin graft so a few wee stretch marks don't bother me.

Shy

my god awful c-section scar is proof of that!

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

How do you feel about them?

i hate mine

I very rarely get naked when im having sex, i cant relax when my bellies on show, i have to have a bit of something round my midriff at least

i know a lot of men say they dont bother them but i think thats because they are used to a few on a flatish belly, i think my belly would put a lot off"

That's such a shame you feel like that. My stretch marks are extensive and I have a long vertical operation scar too. When I lost a fair bit of weight my belly became more saggy but I can honestly say it has never bothered me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i dont have them anywhere else besides my belly, ive seen some women with them round their boobs and hips, thighs etc but i never got any anywhere else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you feel about them?

i hate mine

I very rarely get naked when im having sex, i cant relax when my bellies on show, i have to have a bit of something round my midriff at least

i know a lot of men say they dont bother them but i think thats because they are used to a few on a flatish belly, i think my belly would put a lot off"

Up until I had my oven removed 7 years ago and even after 1 c section I had never had an over hang as I see it. I at first hated it but as I thought about it I realised that over hang is a very small price to pay for now having a life free of so much pain. I don't allow it to bother me and again havnt been turned down or had men run when they see it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you feel about them?

i hate mine

I very rarely get naked when im having sex, i cant relax when my bellies on show, i have to have a bit of something round my midriff at least

i know a lot of men say they dont bother them but i think thats because they are used to a few on a flatish belly, i think my belly would put a lot off"

I can relate to this so much

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

Shy

my god awful c-section scar is proof of that!"

Going through child birth is tough enough. For me, it takes real guts to have a c-section so hats of to you and the lady who has had to go through it 3 times. Your scars are testimony to your bravery

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *unknSoulCouple over a year ago

dumfries-ish

we both have them and neither of us have have gave birth lol. Most of us have them be it through pregnancy or change in body weight if you look hard enough they are there, not just on the tummy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is refreshing to see so many men saying stretch marks do not bother them, good on you all

Would you really expect men to post negative comments about something like this - could you imagine the massacre which would follow a guy being disparaging about such a sensitive topic?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think they look ugly., not much i can do about them though so i dont worry too much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just see them as part of me, love or hate, but can understand how some women feel xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is refreshing to see so many men saying stretch marks do not bother them, good on you all

Would you really expect men to post negative comments about something like this - could you imagine the massacre which would follow a guy being disparaging about such a sensitive topic?"
good answer x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

mummy marks - im proud of them

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going through child birth is tough enough. For me, it takes real guts to have a c-section so hats of to you and the lady who has had to go through it 3 times. Your scars are testimony to your bravery

I had no option, it was an emergency, and they did a shite job and I ended up with MRSA x my second was a vbac with forceps though. determined he wasn't coming out the sun-roof!

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Don't bother me in the slightest but I used to meet someone for regular sex and she was obsessed. Was such a shame and despite much reassurance, she would never fully relax, always have her hands covering her stomach and after a while, it was frustrating. I would be a liar to say otherwise but the control of how she feels is with her, that I respect.

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

Nice and refreshing to see so many guys not that bothered about them. I may not be quite so bothered about them

My brother says my silver strips are quite cool as i shimmer in the night! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shy

Its more than just the media which feeds those insecurities.

Sadly there are some prevalent attitudes and opinions within the Swinging world which quite happily feed the fires of peoples insecurities. Swinging's primary driver is that of physical appearance.

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

"They are tiger stripes for a mum bearing her cub!

Great saying!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have a couple of scars - and used that bio oil on them - have to say did improve the stretch marks a heap -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't bother me in the slightest but I used to meet someone for regular sex and she was obsessed. Was such a shame and despite much reassurance, she would never fully relax, always have her hands covering her stomach and after a while, it was frustrating. I would be a liar to say otherwise but the control of how she feels is with her, that I respect.

i think im like that

To be honest and i hope this dont sound vain cause its not ment to but i think its my own insecurities and the way i handle them that put men off me more than the way i look, when i meet someone i feel the need to point out all my inperfection

I cant take a compliment, if anyone says anything nice to me i react like they are mocking me and i think a lot find that more off putting than the way i look

did that sound vain? i hope not lol

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By *aceytopWoman over a year ago

from a town near you

iv had three kids one with c section but i was lucky not to get ant stretch marks and you cant even see the c section scar,but i have other scars that used to bother me a lot,now i just think if someone else doesnt like them its their problem not mine.

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"It is refreshing to see so many men saying stretch marks do not bother them, good on you all

Would you really expect men to post negative comments about something like this - could you imagine the massacre which would follow a guy being disparaging about such a sensitive topic?"

Fair point Professor, though I have seen men and women make some really smart assed comments on these forums (bravery through a pc screen), so strangely believe in general that they are speaking the truth.

Shy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is refreshing to see so many men saying stretch marks do not bother them, good on you all

Would you really expect men to post negative comments about something like this - could you imagine the massacre which would follow a guy being disparaging about such a sensitive topic?

Shy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We think it doesn't make a women any less attractive. Personality so my much more important.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It does not bother me in the slightest actually find them quite sexy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stretch marks are seen as beautiful in many parts of the world... I see them as "natural tattoos" without any outside influence touching the body.. Whether women have given birth or not or whatever the gender, I think it's the body's way of saying my body is changing and that's ok...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my experience I think women are more bothered about them than men are they don't bother me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you feel about them?"

I really do dislike mine, but i also dislike the fact that I have a lovely scar too, as both of mine had to be delivered by C-Sections.... and it has taken its toll on my lower stomach area.... Having said that, I am aware that i have to lovely children who I would not be without...... xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you feel about them?"

A women who has earned her stripes lol

They don't bother us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldnt want to be without my son either, love him to bits.

however, if i knew what being pregnant and giving birth was going to do to my body, then i would have avoided it.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I didn't get any from pregnancy but do have some on my bum from.puberty I never even think about them ....until now I'll just rush off to the bathroom to have a look lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I seriously cant ever remember in my life having a discution or thinking about my stretch marks once. Its something that never comes to mind.

But i also grant men with a slight bit of intelligence to know that (in most cases) a 40 year old body isnt going to look like a 20 year old body

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have them all over from being pregnant and also from being very big. They don't bother me at all. I have scars too and they don't bother me either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An ex used to say they were a roadmap of england on her. I ended up on the north circular road regularly

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have stretch marks, lumps, bumps and wobbly bits, don't like the look of my body at times but there are some men that make me feel so sexy I'm happy to strip off in front of them, even outside

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have stretch marks, lumps, bumps and wobbly bits, don't like the look of my body at times but there are some men that make me feel so sexy I'm happy to strip off in front of them, even outside

This is how it should be, and makes me happy

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

mine are a reminder of the life i've lived, i dont like them much but they have helped shape the person i've become....and i love being me!

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I seriously cant ever remember in my life having a discution or thinking about my stretch marks once. Its something that never comes to mind.

But i also grant men with a slight bit of intelligence to know that (in most cases) a 40 year old body isnt going to look like a 20 year old body"

My 20 year old body didn't look like a 20 year old body! I was pregnant at 18 and gave birth at 19 - had the stretch marks since then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seriously cant ever remember in my life having a discution or thinking about my stretch marks once. Its something that never comes to mind.

But i also grant men with a slight bit of intelligence to know that (in most cases) a 40 year old body isnt going to look like a 20 year old body"

Hopefully, ladies also know that a 40 year old blokes body isn't going to look like a 20 years old either!

Mind you, its not years, its the mileage!

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By *teve oneilMan over a year ago

manchester

Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

dont worry bout stretch marks girls. just part of life

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off"

When skin gets stretched it sags - nothing but costly surgery will correct it. You can go to the gym and tone up all you like but once the skin has lost its elasticity that is it - it cannot be changed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not like men don't get them to at times.

I personally don't have an issue with them

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"It's not like men don't get them to at times.

I personally don't have an issue with them "

Very true - I was, however, thinking, originally, about those that women get when pregnant. Now that others have posted about non-pregnancy ones though it's interesting. I suppose I just didn't see that side of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going through child birth is tough enough. For me, it takes real guts to have a c-section so hats of to you and the lady who has had to go through it 3 times. Your scars are testimony to your bravery

I had no option, it was an emergency, and they did a shite job and I ended up with MRSA x my second was a vbac with forceps though. determined he wasn't coming out the sun-roof!"

My first was emergency, after 17 hours labour and failed forceps. He came out weighing 10lb9oz

no wonder I couldn't get him out.They thought my second pregnancy indicated that the baby would be of equal size so recommended an elective c section, so I've had two and don't plan on every having any more even though the doctor said I had a lovely uterus lol. I've got loads of stretchmarks, I'm really not surprised because I was the size of a house. But it's my overhang from the section that bothers me most. I can't even look at my tummy because it's so ugly and I cover up when I play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no stretch marks on my tummy, but I do have a skanky big scar from my hysterectomy and a ruptured ectopic pregnancy, looks like a damn tram line, horrible, I might have a tattoo across it to disguise it a little.

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I have no stretch marks on my tummy, but I do have a skanky big scar from my hysterectomy and a ruptured ectopic pregnancy, looks like a damn tram line, horrible, I might have a tattoo across it to disguise it a little. "

I don't think of my scar as ugly - it just is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going through child birth is tough enough. For me, it takes real guts to have a c-section so hats of to you and the lady who has had to go through it 3 times. Your scars are testimony to your bravery

I had no option, it was an emergency, and they did a shite job and I ended up with MRSA x my second was a vbac with forceps though. determined he wasn't coming out the sun-roof!

My first was emergency, after 17 hours labour and failed forceps. He came out weighing 10lb9oz

I hate mine too

even though the scar is quite fine its the little pocket of fat that now sits there that's horrid. Its fine when flat on my back but can't just lay there can I

lol x

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple over a year ago

horwich

"i have a couple of scars - and used that bio oil on them - have to say did improve the stretch marks a heap - "

My friends swears by Bio oil too

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off"

... and it's comments like this one that only increase any insecurities women may have about their post baby tummies. Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think of my scar as ugly - it just is."

Mine is still quite red tho, not been done that long, I might feel differently when it's faded.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i have a couple of scars - and used that bio oil on them - have to say did improve the stretch marks a heap -

My friends swears by Bio oil too

I use Bio Oil as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

... and it's comments like this one that only increase any insecurities women may have about their post baby tummies. Thanks!"

All mummys are yummy mummys in my eyes

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By *ev and TrevCouple over a year ago

cardiff

I have stretch marks on my stomach & boobs from pregnancy & on my hips & thighs from puberty, they have never bothered me one bit & have been part of me for so long that I never give them a second thought.

since having my last child however 18 months ago I now have that awful 'jelly belly' & overhang that's been talked about, that bothers me, alot!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have developed a hell if a lot of them whilst carrying my twins n I love them they will be a lovely reminder of this perfectly natural and beautiful process my body has gone through to make me the mother I've always wanted to be. If others don't like them that's their choice but ill never be ashamed of them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off"

Wow how delightful are you? Do you have won't meet females/ mummys unless they have a totaly flat stomach on your profile ?

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I don't think of my scar as ugly - it just is.

Mine is still quite red tho, not been done that long, I might feel differently when it's faded."

I got an infection in part of mine which makes the bottom end of it (just above the lady garden) large and lumpy. It still doesn't bother me. I know what you mean - but it will just fade into a light silver line. It's nothing - honest.

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By *ev and TrevCouple over a year ago

cardiff

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

Wow how delightful are you? Do you have won't meet females/ mummys unless they have a totaly flat stomach on your profile ?

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By *teve oneilMan over a year ago

manchester

Was just being honest... Just as some women find hairy chests a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He finds saggy tummys a turn off, nothing wrong with that, he can't help what he likes and what he don't like, just like I don't like men with long hair. Everyone has different taste

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your so right. Like mentioned earlier! We are all different and like different things.

some remarks can just be a little bit hurtful to some people !

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By *teve oneilMan over a year ago

manchester

Thanku red x

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By *luespartanMan over a year ago

crawley

I think they should be treated like wrinkles. Unavoidable and a sign of a past life xx

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"He finds saggy tummys a turn off, nothing wrong with that, he can't help what he likes and what he don't like, just like I don't like men with long hair. Everyone has different taste

True - but I think most women with stretch marks will have a saggy tummy. Unless those stretch marks are not the result of pregnancy just growth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

I also thought this for years but its so not the case, if you exercise,stretch,tone and build the correct muscle groups there is no reason for the sag...also the appearence of stretch marks can be greatly improved by PROPER hydration of the skin and body...which in turn improves the skins elasticity!

You simply get back what you put in!

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

You simply get back what you put in! "

Which I have. But as you say the APPEARANCE can only be IMPROVED. I stand by what I say. Any decent dermatologist will make it clear that you cannot CURE it. Once it is stretched, it is stretched. You can spend hours at the gym and a fortune on creams, lotions, hydrating formulas, moisturisers, etc, but this will not change the fundamental nature of stretched skin. It is not just stretched on the surface. Deep layered damage to skin remains.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you feel about them?"

I feel proud of my stretch marks, after all they are a lifelong reminder to the wonderful daughter my body created.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

stretch marks, 2 c-section cuts, and alot of wobbly bits, but this is me and i can't change that, so you can either like me or avoid me, either way im not changing. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

You simply get back what you put in! "

I agree, I was stretched beyond belief with my second but after a few months doing specialised training intensively several times a week, and a very balanced diet my baby belly has flattened out!

Must just depend on the person I think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have 3 kids i have them we all get them,they don't bother us at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have them. From both having kids and weight loss an gain. They are part of me. So I can't change them.

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

You simply get back what you put in!

I agree, I was stretched beyond belief with my second but after a few months doing specialised training intensively several times a week, and a very balanced diet my baby belly has flattened out!

Must just depend on the person I think

No it doesn't. It depends on the level of stretching, it depends on the skin type. Some women have told me how bad their stretch marks are only to have shown me a few piddling little ones.

These, once faded, can barely be seen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

... and it's comments like this one that only increase any insecurities women may have about their post baby tummies. Thanks!"

Can I complain then about the prolific number of profiles with 'No fat hairy blokes', 'No Beer Bellies', 'No cocks smaller than 8 inches'!

Because I could find those expressions of preference fuel my insecurities about my self image.

Right.....Blokes don't have negative self image issues, do they?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Actually, I quite like stretch marks and if I saw some, I'd kiss them. I like scars too. They tell a story and make a person more interesting.

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By *B9 Queen OP Woman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

... and it's comments like this one that only increase any insecurities women may have about their post baby tummies. Thanks!

Can I complain then about the prolific number of profiles with 'No fat hairy blokes', 'No Beer Bellies', 'No cocks smaller than 8 inches'!

Because I could find those expressions of preference fuel my insecurities about my self image.

Right.....Blokes don't have negative self image issues, do they?

Yes, they do. But nowhere near those of women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

... and it's comments like this one that only increase any insecurities women may have about their post baby tummies. Thanks!"

I dont think theres anything wrong with what he said, our opinions were asked for and thats his, good on you for being honest. I have lots of stretch marks and struggle to keep any overhang to a minimum, I too dont find a saggy belly a turn on... and I have one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love mrs spankme's stretch marks.

I stroked and kissed and talked to her bump rubbing oil in each night. I think they are sexy and that she is a great mum x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

... and it's comments like this one that only increase any insecurities women may have about their post baby tummies. Thanks!

Can I complain then about the prolific number of profiles with 'No fat hairy blokes', 'No Beer Bellies', 'No cocks smaller than 8 inches'!

Because I could find those expressions of preference fuel my insecurities about my self image.

Right.....Blokes don't have negative self image issues, do they?

Yes, they do. But nowhere near those of women."

But how do you know they dont, just because they dont speak about it it doesnt its not there. Like he says women/couples can state things like that on profiles but when a single guy states things like that he gets a slating?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

... and it's comments like this one that only increase any insecurities women may have about their post baby tummies. Thanks!

Can I complain then about the prolific number of profiles with 'No fat hairy blokes', 'No Beer Bellies', 'No cocks smaller than 8 inches'!

Because I could find those expressions of preference fuel my insecurities about my self image.

Right.....Blokes don't have negative self image issues, do they?

Your right, but there are still plenty of women who dont mind fat hairy blokes with average sized willys, so why worry about those who dont.

We cant all be pretty can we.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A women with stretch marks is just another tiger who earned her strips

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

There are many men with hangups about themselves, either bod conscious or they are shy, just they are less likely to start threads as they may think they will be ridiculed.

I have a friend and hes absolutly gorgeous, i helped him to get some confidence, mainly he was just shy, and now he has met a lovely lady for a casual relatinship. I feel as though i helped him find himself

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"There are many men with hangups about themselves, either bod conscious or they are shy, just they are less likely to start threads as they may think they will be ridiculed.

I like this thread, it is sensitive, not overly fawning... it does feel real.

but if a guy posted something sensitive, it is not always so. The worst offenders many times are other guys elevating themselves.

Swinging helps some people with body issues, others less so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think of my scar as ugly - it just is.

Mine is still quite red tho, not been done that long, I might feel differently when it's faded.

Well they made a pigs ear of mine which caused an infection, so it's quite thick and bumpy, but hey ho, things could be worse.

Men are usually too stunned by my beauty to notice anyway

..... Joke

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couldn't care less about stretch marks, not a thing I can do about them anyway

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

How do you feel about them?"

I have quite a few on my tummy and the tops of my arms and legs...some are from pregnancy but most are from being very overweight for many years.

Used to be really paranoid about them but now I don't take any notice of them, they are just there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stretch marks are fine ...its the saggy belly that's the turn off

You simply get back what you put in!

I agree, I was stretched beyond belief with my second but after a few months doing specialised training intensively several times a week, and a very balanced diet my baby belly has flattened out!

Must just depend on the person I think

No it doesn't. It depends on the level of stretching, it depends on the skin type. Some women have told me how bad their stretch marks are only to have shown me a few piddling little ones.

These, once faded, can barely be seen."

My fundal height was over 40cm (aka off the charts) at just 32wks and he didnt stop growing, my skin was extremely stretched as he was a 10lber and I'm only 5' 2". I had inches of baby belly and it can and has been reversed on me. It does depend on the skin type which obviously depends on the person - we're all different. I wouldn't ever be as presumptuous to say "everyone can get rid of loose skin by hard work" but some people can, as I have! Some people can just through luck and good genetics!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you feel about them?"

i think all mummies have stretch marks!i have them on my tummy and top of my legs,there 15 yrs old so there faded,i used to hate them and always hide my belly but as ive gotten older i just accept their never gonna go away ,i dont even think men notice them at all anyway

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