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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After a conversation earlier, about lifes choices, decisions, and mistakes. And I've made some bad choices, and some really bad decisions. That lead me down some dark dark roads. But I don't regret them, and would do it all over again. As I've learnt from them. I regret nothing.
So my question to you wonderful people, do you have regrets, is there decisions you'd reverse given the chance?..
I'll leave it on this which a wise man instilled in me " the only mistake I really need to worry about is the one I don't learn from, the first time it's a mistake, second and third it's a choice". |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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Biggest regret I’ll ever have is the actions thst lead up to the breakdown of my family, long story short I never got over her cheating then leaving me for someone else back in 2014 then realising she made a mistake and coming back, fast forward to 2021 and she had turned cold again (she did off and on entire relationship) and while working away got chatting to a lass who i thought never in a million years would be interested in me but turned out she was I declined but went home and let it go to my head thinking I’d made a big mistake and turned down my chance at happiness and it showed a few months later she moved out now I live with the regret every day waking up in empty bed, not being able to wake my daughter up or put her to bed, coming to empty house (may as well be I have custody of my son but he only comes down from the loft to eat haha) it’s miserable and dream every day still having my family here |
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I have only one situation I regret and would change if I could go back.
Most things I am happy to accept as learning experiences. That one I already knew better, I was just in a very self destructive space when it started and then was trapped for 2 years of increasing misery that I did not need. |
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Regrets? Maybe. Missed opportunities? Definitely. But there are some things now that would be different and some of them are what make my life worthwhile.
As a wise man said to me recently, it's just a life's journey is all
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"After a conversation earlier, about lifes choices, decisions, and mistakes. And I've made some bad choices, and some really bad decisions. That lead me down some dark dark roads. But I don't regret them, and would do it all over again. As I've learnt from them. I regret nothing.
So my question to you wonderful people, do you have regrets, is there decisions you'd reverse given the chance?..
I'll leave it on this which a wise man instilled in me " the only mistake I really need to worry about is the one I don't learn from, the first time it's a mistake, second and third it's a choice". "
I've made many a mistake over the years but each and every one has led me to where I am today.
And right now there's nowhere I'd rather be and I can't see that changing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t know why but when people say they made a decision that they regret but wouldn’t change a thing if they could go back in time - I always think really ?????? |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I don't believe in thinking of things as regrets as it means the past always has a hold of you. I believe things happen, I make a choice and then live with that choice good or bad. I learn (hopefully) and move on and grow. Hindsight is always a friend  |
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I regret not getting the authorities involved with my mother. I also wish she'd been allowed to fail so that we could have been brought up by my grandparents full time. But, if we'd not been living around this sort of area, I'd never have met Mr KC etc. Regret can be a double edged sword. |
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"Biggest regret I’ll ever have is the actions thst lead up to the breakdown of my family, long story short I never got over her cheating then leaving me for someone else back in 2014 then realising she made a mistake and coming back, fast forward to 2021 and she had turned cold again (she did off and on entire relationship) and while working away got chatting to a lass who i thought never in a million years would be interested in me but turned out she was I declined but went home and let it go to my head thinking I’d made a big mistake and turned down my chance at happiness and it showed a few months later she moved out now I live with the regret every day waking up in empty bed, not being able to wake my daughter up or put her to bed, coming to empty house (may as well be I have custody of my son but he only comes down from the loft to eat haha) it’s miserable and dream every day still having my family here "
Shit dude. Sending you a virtual hug, I desperately miss seeing my kids every day, it sucks. Keep your chin up fella!  |
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"I don’t know why but when people say they made a decision that they regret but wouldn’t change a thing if they could go back in time - I always think really ?????? "
Only because it would change aspects of life now. While I am not completely happy with everything at the moment, there are some things I would never change. And if I made that change to the past, who knows what would be different now |
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"I regret not getting the authorities involved with my mother. I also wish she'd been allowed to fail so that we could have been brought up by my grandparents full time. But, if we'd not been living around this sort of area, I'd never have met Mr KC etc. Regret can be a double edged sword. "
Absolutely this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Biggest regret I’ll ever have is the actions thst lead up to the breakdown of my family, long story short I never got over her cheating then leaving me for someone else back in 2014 then realising she made a mistake and coming back, fast forward to 2021 and she had turned cold again (she did off and on entire relationship) and while working away got chatting to a lass who i thought never in a million years would be interested in me but turned out she was I declined but went home and let it go to my head thinking I’d made a big mistake and turned down my chance at happiness and it showed a few months later she moved out now I live with the regret every day waking up in empty bed, not being able to wake my daughter up or put her to bed, coming to empty house (may as well be I have custody of my son but he only comes down from the loft to eat haha) it’s miserable and dream every day still having my family here "
Mate, this really touched me, and felt the emotion as I read it, incredibly difficult thing to have to bear and comes to terms with....hugs man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Regrets? Maybe. Missed opportunities? Definitely. But there are some things now that would be different and some of them are what make my life worthwhile.
As a wise man said to me recently, it's just a life's journey is all
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To be fair he sounds like a dick  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After a conversation earlier, about lifes choices, decisions, and mistakes. And I've made some bad choices, and some really bad decisions. That lead me down some dark dark roads. But I don't regret them, and would do it all over again. As I've learnt from them. I regret nothing.
So my question to you wonderful people, do you have regrets, is there decisions you'd reverse given the chance?..
I'll leave it on this which a wise man instilled in me " the only mistake I really need to worry about is the one I don't learn from, the first time it's a mistake, second and third it's a choice". "
to make mistakes it means you're on the right path, no one is perfect, mistakes have to be made to learn and grow. Regret is something you hold onto when you haven't made peace with it. Everything happens for a reason |
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"Regrets? Maybe. Missed opportunities? Definitely. But there are some things now that would be different and some of them are what make my life worthwhile.
As a wise man said to me recently, it's just a life's journey is all
To be fair he sounds like a dick "
Takes one to know one |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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"Biggest regret I’ll ever have is the actions thst lead up to the breakdown of my family, long story short I never got over her cheating then leaving me for someone else back in 2014 then realising she made a mistake and coming back, fast forward to 2021 and she had turned cold again (she did off and on entire relationship) and while working away got chatting to a lass who i thought never in a million years would be interested in me but turned out she was I declined but went home and let it go to my head thinking I’d made a big mistake and turned down my chance at happiness and it showed a few months later she moved out now I live with the regret every day waking up in empty bed, not being able to wake my daughter up or put her to bed, coming to empty house (may as well be I have custody of my son but he only comes down from the loft to eat haha) it’s miserable and dream every day still having my family here
Mate, this really touched me, and felt the emotion as I read it, incredibly difficult thing to have to bear and comes to terms with....hugs man "
Thank you mate, I just try and tell self that this surely can’t be it things must get better at some point it helps a bit sone days are better than others |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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"Biggest regret I’ll ever have is the actions thst lead up to the breakdown of my family, long story short I never got over her cheating then leaving me for someone else back in 2014 then realising she made a mistake and coming back, fast forward to 2021 and she had turned cold again (she did off and on entire relationship) and while working away got chatting to a lass who i thought never in a million years would be interested in me but turned out she was I declined but went home and let it go to my head thinking I’d made a big mistake and turned down my chance at happiness and it showed a few months later she moved out now I live with the regret every day waking up in empty bed, not being able to wake my daughter up or put her to bed, coming to empty house (may as well be I have custody of my son but he only comes down from the loft to eat haha) it’s miserable and dream every day still having my family here
Shit dude. Sending you a virtual hug, I desperately miss seeing my kids every day, it sucks. Keep your chin up fella! "
Thank you mate, sorry that you have to go through same feeling mate |
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I've made some awful choices in the past, do I regret them no?
Every choice and decision has brought me to where I am, no matter how difficult the past was, I have an amazing man and family, I don't regret anything.
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"I don't believe in thinking of things as regrets as it means the past always has a hold of you. I believe things happen, I make a choice and then live with that choice good or bad. I learn (hopefully) and move on and grow. Hindsight is always a friend "
Genuine life lesson for me there. |
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Biggest one i ever said is that I didn't want my dig anymore as it was destroying my property but second I said it i knew I couldn't take it back it eventually lead to breakdown of my relationship as she want just a dog but more a symbol of something the dog represented and still to day that one sentence , I shouldn't have said but did and must deal with the consequences everyday for rest of my life |
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