FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > How often do you travel for a meet
How often do you travel for a meet
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We don’t invite anyone back to ours anymore so we usually travel to them or meet somewhere in the middle at a hotel. We don’t mind, whatever is easier for everyone. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I used to travel a lot, but I don't accommodate unless I know someone well, so it made sense.
The last few people I've met have travelled to me though... between 250 and 500 miles!
They must be a bit mental |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
Hello. I have a car  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Been a while since I’ve been on a train. Why not live a little and fly to a sunny destination "
Have you seen the cost of a tram fair and the chances of it cancled or a strike!!!
Sod that, I’ll drive.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes?
I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet.
But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
It's you. If someone is worth meeting do it
Even if it means in the middle somewhere |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Well, usually for social meets we both travel. Then except for three lovers, where I have travelled to them (30, 80 and 110 miles), because I accommodate, they tend to come to me (though there have been three hotel meets) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don't mind traveling.
I would feel bad if someone travelled far to see me incase I'm not what they expect!
I once went to London on a whim though "
I heard Manchester is easy to travel to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
I would quite happily travel if it was easier for the other person |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don't mind traveling.
I would feel bad if someone travelled far to see me incase I'm not what they expect!
I once went to London on a whim though "
That was brave. I have to make sure that I have my passport if I go south of the river. Whilst last time I went north of the border I had to get medicines to protect me from dengy, malaria, Japanese B encephalitis cos you can never get enough protection from those midges (not midgets).  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
Will.always, travel, sadly no longer accommodate due to family illness, and living arrangements but always used to accommodate before and will do in the future |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *jonesMan
over a year ago
london |
I wouldn't travel far and wouldn't expect anyone else to either ...
Tho I did meet a lady for a camping weekend on Dartmoor , she travelled from Swindon and me from West Cornwall..we had chatted for a long time .... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I would travel for a regular person I’ve met before yes. Never for a first meet.
I’ve had people travel to meet me from a few hours away but regularly get people offering to come from the other end of the country? Which is a huge compliment of course but I don’t entertain as I’m not here for one off meets and too busy to sustain that long term |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit.
I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes?
I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet.
But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good."
Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread.
Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting  but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I do either but mostly travel.
Have no probs coming over to England or Scotland for meets if there's a real attraction, sure it's like a big adventure then.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
It’s not you it’s the town
(Joke)
I think when you get to a certain age as a single guy with your place it’s just nicer and easier to have women come to stay with you or get away for a weekend in a nice hotel |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Furthest I've gone is an hour and a half.
But they are well worth the drive. Plus I love long drive anyway as like to get out of my town and actually feel like I escaped before I indulge in the escapism. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I honestly like to travel and see different parts of London and beyond to places I never been before.
But of course that depends on and how we get along, and if there is any kind of connection and great laughter
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just think it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort. "
Personally quite surprised that they will not travel to you - seems quite lazy.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
Well they don't know where you live its a mystery but yes i always travel its the gentlemanly thing to do  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit.
It’s not you it’s the town
(Joke)
I think when you get to a certain age as a single guy with your place it’s just nicer and easier to have women come to stay with you or get away for a weekend in a nice hotel "
Oi don't slag this town off its OK you know.
(she's says while trying to move out of town )
Do you ever think it might give off an expectation that they come to you? Almost like a 'if you want me you have to come to me'
And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit.
I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes?
I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet.
But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good.
Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread.
Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort. "
So in humble opinion, life is all about reciprocation, if I was feeling like I'm not worth the effort, then it's up to me to xhamge things, so that I do feel like I'm worth the effort....I only have power over the things that I do... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just think it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort.
Personally quite surprised that they will not travel to you - seems quite lazy. "
I had one guy I travelled to several times. He came here once. Then when I invited him again he blew me out saying it was too far and said I could go to him. I axed that playmate because of it.
Can't people take it in turns and play fair |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be. "
Well it can't be his place in Nottingham, so i assume they like to go to Dubai for the shopping  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit.
I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes?
I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet.
But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good.
Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread.
Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort.
So in humble opinion, life is all about reciprocation, if I was feeling like I'm not worth the effort, then it's up to me to xhamge things, so that I do feel like I'm worth the effort....I only have power over the things that I do..."
Change it how? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be.
Well it can't be his place in Nottingham, so i assume they like to go to Dubai for the shopping "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I had one guy I travelled to several times. He came here once. Then when I invited him again he blew me out saying it was too far and said I could go to him. I axed that playmate because of it.
Can't people take it in turns and play fair "
Well done on the axing (having watched Grace last night, wondering where you disposed of the body?)
I was more than happy to go to my playmates, after all they were playing with me - and as one of my former colleagues said "you're never going to find two women who would be stupid enough to sleep with you" (slightly harsh, but...) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"And why is your place nicer? I'm curious why theirs wouldn't be.
Well it can't be his place in Nottingham, so i assume they like to go to Dubai for the shopping "
Dubai Huh  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit.
I’ve felt that before - that I’m always the one doing all the travelling. Maybe it’s all in the eye of the beholder and it’s not a gender thing after all? Maybe we all end up feeling a little bit put upon sometimes?
I’m not complaining. I love to travel. To take a wee road trip or jump on a plane. And I’m lucky (lucky, lucky, lucky) that I find people who want to meet.
But recently one amazing woman has made the trip to meet me. And is offering to do so again. And while it shouldn’t matter, at all, I was actually quite touched. It felt good.
Maybe not a gender thing. Interesting to find out on this thread.
Just sometimes irks me as feel like I'm driving over to go jump on his cock and he's just sitting there waiting but often find they won't do it back.
Now if a man doesn't drive and it's quite far fair enough. I'm cool with that. But when they have a car I just thing it's nice if its 50/50.
I haven't always encountered this but it's been common.
Can leave you feeling like you're not worth the effort.
So in humble opinion, life is all about reciprocation, if I was feeling like I'm not worth the effort, then it's up to me to xhamge things, so that I do feel like I'm worth the effort....I only have power over the things that I do...
Change it how? "
So this is only for me remember... so if I was feeling like I wasn't like I wasn't worth the effort, through meets or any area of my life...I'd have to look at why is that, what am I doing to facilitate how I'm feeling, am I put all thr effort in, am I jumping at there word etc...all that stuff...
as what I've come to learn over the years, it's not actually what others do. It's the meaning I attach to what they do...so if I'm feeling a certain way, it's uo to me to accept thr responsibility of my feelings and put a diffrent course of action in so that I don't feel the same.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue?"
The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable.
But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek.
I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after.
I'm just curious I guess as to why others wouldn't do it back.
Like going Dutch on socials. Meeting halfway etc. When it progresses to a stage where you continue to meet up surely sharing travel is a thing? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue?
The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable.
But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek.
I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after.
….."
Can I copy this to my profile? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue?
The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable.
But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek.
I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after.
…..
Can I copy this to my profile? "
Of course. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"We always travel because we would never have anyone back to our place."
I do at first but after establishing a good level of trust they'll get an invite to mine.
Maybe by doing it at first I set an expectation without realising it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My last meet was my first venture out beyond the City into the Northern hinterland. However, through experience I find most are keen come down to London as they wish to incorporate other leisurely agendas.
I have no issues with travelling or meeting half way. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't mind traveling.
I would feel bad if someone travelled far to see me incase I'm not what they expect!
I once went to London on a whim though "
•
That would explain the amount of orphaned whims languishing in London.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue?
The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable.
But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek.
I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after.
I'm just curious I guess as to why others wouldn't do it back.
Like going Dutch on socials. Meeting halfway etc. When it progresses to a stage where you continue to meet up surely sharing travel is a thing? "
I wouldn't expect any kind of progression if the guy was a distance away.
I guess for lots of people, distance and regularity are not easily managed bedfellows due to the other demands of life |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Meet guys who aren't so far away so it's less of an issue?
The age old thing of fab is the ones that match tend to be the other end of the country and just not doable.
But even so, when you have preferences and kinks it's about who rather than where isnt it. I guess it depends on what you seek.
I'll travel for the right person that matches what I'm after.
I'm just curious I guess as to why others wouldn't do it back.
Like going Dutch on socials. Meeting halfway etc. When it progresses to a stage where you continue to meet up surely sharing travel is a thing?
I wouldn't expect any kind of progression if the guy was a distance away.
I guess for lots of people, distance and regularity are not easily managed bedfellows due to the other demands of life "
Guess it also depends on how we all define progression.
It could be someone you see every so many weeks or months and know it's that and only that. Yet you'll still meet up, hang out and end up naked and discover more about each other each time. Even if it's been weeks in between.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
I’m always happy to travel and like to make a bit of a weekend of it and equally there are a few who I’d be happy to have in my home and stay over
The last person I met came local to me and booked a lovely hotel and it was just a short train journey for myself
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
After a very traumatic experience in which police were involved, no-one is ever invited to mine.
I would never put myself in that position ever again.
I was more than happy to drive when meeting and pay for a hotel if the distance was too far x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I can't/won't accommodate at my home but if they wanted to travel to me, then I wouldn't mind booking a hotel. But the accommodation is the reason I'd prefer to travel.
I didn't think I would do long distances but recently found that I definitely would for the right person  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don't mind traveling.
...
I once went to London on a whim though
•
That would explain the amount of orphaned whims languishing in London. "
I think travelling on a whim is often cheaper than on a train, but then it is the question of when you get to the big smoke, where do you leave it, and how do you know it will still be there when you get back.
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eliWoman
over a year ago
. |
I've been thinking about this...
(For about three seconds but it still counts) and I've realised I do tend to do most of the travelling. Most of the organising actually. I don't know why that is. I'd not really considered it until now.
I do love travelling, always have done but now I'm thinking about it, it would be great if there was more effort in times of distance/time on the male half.
Maybe I'm just far more keen then they are. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't mind traveling.
...
I once went to London on a whim though
•
That would explain the amount of orphaned whims languishing in London.
I think travelling on a whim is often cheaper than on a train, but then it is the question of when you get to the big smoke, where do you leave it, and how do you know it will still be there when you get back.
"
•
Pilferers, squanderers and vagabonds exist wherever you go. A whim will find its sanctuary.
Apologies OP, I didn't mean to de-rail your thread. Sometimes I get carried away on my own private Whimsical Express. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Some of my Fab trips are quite a long way away and it would be wallet-straining to it too often. So I’ll maybe do one of those every two or three months. Last time I timed it so that as well as meeting up with someone special there was a big social to go to the same weekend. That worked well.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I used to travel but not any more for various reasons.
Most people will have experienced how traveling and distance can equate to expectation but it's usually in regard to the traveler having those expectations.
My experience has been the reverse.
I've driven 3½ hours each way to a meet only to be told afterwards that as I'd done it once there was nothing stopping me from doing it on a weekly basis.
An attitude like that was one of the main barriers to repeating the trip.
I'm not currently meeting and haven't met anyone new in 3 years but my policy is that anything more than an hour is an immediate no unless they are prepared to meet halfway.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
If I was in a situation where we was to meet, I would always suggest a mutual distance depending on distance of course. Or I don’t mind travelling |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
"I would happily travel if anyone actually asked me to meet 
I can hop onto a tram…
Oh don't tease a girl 
Teasing is something that I’d rather do in person "
I'd much rather you did it in person too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I used to travel but not any more for various reasons.
Most people will have experienced how traveling and distance can equate to expectation but it's usually in regard to the traveler having those expectations.
My experience has been the reverse.
I've driven 3½ hours each way to a meet only to be told afterwards that as I'd done it once there was nothing stopping me from doing it on a weekly basis.
An attitude like that was one of the main barriers to repeating the trip.
I'm not currently meeting and haven't met anyone new in 3 years but my policy is that anything more than an hour is an immediate no unless they are prepared to meet halfway.
"
Wow, being told that would have me axe them. And just stick with the better attitudes. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I used to travel but not any more for various reasons.
Most people will have experienced how traveling and distance can equate to expectation but it's usually in regard to the traveler having those expectations.
My experience has been the reverse.
I've driven 3½ hours each way to a meet only to be told afterwards that as I'd done it once there was nothing stopping me from doing it on a weekly basis.
An attitude like that was one of the main barriers to repeating the trip.
I'm not currently meeting and haven't met anyone new in 3 years but my policy is that anything more than an hour is an immediate no unless they are prepared to meet halfway.
Wow, being told that would have me axe them. And just stick with the better attitudes. "
I have no aversion to a little travel. Broadens the mind |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I find it the other way round, they offer to drive silly distances. Makes me feel a little uncomfortable, I know people like to get out and about, but there must be others closer?
I don't drive, so I don't go very far at all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
The thing is also, for people (I’m one of them) who only meet for a social first time it can be uncomfortable when people offer to drive to see you. I usually try and put them off as I think its a bit unfair in a way. I travel around the country quite a bit so I do meet different people for a drink if I’m in their area but as a special trip it’s a bit much. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I don't travel but I had soneone come from North Wales to meet me by public transport too for an hour and included a hotel stay.
Wasn't a fan of that, was A LOT of pressure 
I hope at least he did something fun in London the next day! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't travel but I had soneone come from North Wales to meet me by public transport too for an hour and included a hotel stay.
Wasn't a fan of that, was A LOT of pressure
I hope at least he did something fun in London the next day!"
Exactly this... So much pressure, especially just for a social! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
I guess I have quite a traditional approach to this, insofar as I will always offer to do the bulk of travelling. If it’s a social, I find people are most receptive to somewhere neutral and equidistant, but that depends on where we both live, whether they drive or have trains/buses available etc.
Being single, I can always accommodate so meets often end up being at my place. But I will always offer to travel because I want whoever I’m meeting to have the choice. I’d definitely feel guilty if I was never travelling, especially if it was a long way. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
95% of the time I travel for a meet, but it doesn't help that there aren't many swingers for miles around where I live.
Occasionally people have travelled to a hotel near me, which has always been fabulous.
I really don't mind travelling though, and having a night away in a hotel, a few drinks, great company and hot sex, what's not to love  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't travel but I had soneone come from North Wales to meet me by public transport too for an hour and included a hotel stay.
Wasn't a fan of that, was A LOT of pressure
I hope at least he did something fun in London the next day!
Exactly this... So much pressure, especially just for a social! "
Constantly surprised by distances people are prepared to go though. I travelled 40 mins once that was enough! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
Fairytale Wood |
We travel a lot and enjoy but not specifically for a meet. Usually weekends etc and if can tie in a meet with persons that tick all the boxes, bonus. As others have said, never invite anyone to ours unless we have long ongoing friendship, had serious problems in the past, unfortunately if we say we cannot accommodate it can also cause problems and accusations. But plus side is acts as another filter |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Vs a meet travelling to you?
I seem to find guys on here will invite to theirs and hardly ever even contemplate coming to you.
Why is that?
It irks me a bit. "
Maybe they just want to show you their extensive collection of human skin lampshades.
And by "show you" I mean add you.
Do you have tattoos? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
