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Really couldn't care less - put in a skip?
Wanted to give it to medical science but thats not as easy as I thought. They might reject it for lots of reasons or only use bits of you so someone will still have to deal with the rest anyway. |
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"The cheapest way possible. I’ll be dead, I’m not going to know either way. "
I think leaving your body to science is the cheapest method, don't know if I would fancy it for my children though, don't know how they would react to that. |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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"Really couldn't care less - put in a skip?
Wanted to give it to medical science but thats not as easy as I thought. They might reject it for lots of reasons or only use bits of you so someone will still have to deal with the rest anyway. "
I looked into that as well. The science lot are really fussy about what they will accept.
You'd think they would be grateful for what they can get.  |
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
your wildest dreams, |
I want my family to choose what helps them best.
If I had to choose they do know my wishes.
A natural woodland burial, but if they choose to have me cremated, I’d like my ashes treating so that I can be used to plant a tree afterwards |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
I don't care.
Whatever the people that care, whom I leave behind want to do with me.
It is those that will know what they want and need for the closure of the grieving process,
Funerals are for the living, not the dead. |
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"I couldn't care less. Through me in the canal. I've told my daughter it's entirely up to her what she wants to. Does that sound unfair?"
I think if you told her what you wanted, it would be easier for her when she has to sort things out. |
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"Really couldn't care less - put in a skip?
Wanted to give it to medical science but thats not as easy as I thought. They might reject it for lots of reasons or only use bits of you so someone will still have to deal with the rest anyway.
I looked into that as well. The science lot are really fussy about what they will accept.
You'd think they would be grateful for what they can get. "
Ha, I know they should be grateful for mine 
Maybe they get inundated i dont know? Put me off though. I don't like that it's conditional. |
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"I couldn't care less. Through me in the canal. I've told my daughter it's entirely up to her what she wants to. Does that sound unfair?
I think if you told her what you wanted, it would be easier for her when she has to sort things out."
That's what I thought when typing it. |
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It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not fussed.. Once I'm gone, I'm gone. But I know my mum is slowly dying of kidney failure (her choice to not get treated). I'd like to have her ashes go into a gem my daughter can take. They've been so close for years |
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"I'm not fussed.. Once I'm gone, I'm gone. But I know my mum is slowly dying of kidney failure (her choice to not get treated). I'd like to have her ashes go into a gem my daughter can take. They've been so close for years "
That's a beautiful Idea.  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
" buried
I'm surprised nobody has said cremated remains placed into a hetcher sketch
Uhmmmm that's not ash is it ?"
Do you actually get everything as you don't get the entire amount I'm guessing |
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Cremated, then the ashes burnt again in a wooden boat on the ocean to finally rest with the fishes.
Ideally it would have been a viking boat burial but apparently that's not allowed unless in international waters. |
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"Really couldn't care less - put in a skip?
Wanted to give it to medical science but thats not as easy as I thought. They might reject it for lots of reasons or only use bits of you so someone will still have to deal with the rest anyway.
I looked into that as well. The science lot are really fussy about what they will accept.
You'd think they would be grateful for what they can get.
Ha, I know they should be grateful for mine
Maybe they get inundated i dont know? Put me off though. I don't like that it's conditional."
They have to be able to teach with it (so needs to have various key features to permit that, no good if you're missing bits, for example) and it has to be safe, so no bloodborne diseases and various other things.
Medical students generally use the same body for a series of dissections over many weeks, looking at the different organ systems, so they need their corpse to have all of those systems pretty much intact. |
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My mum called me from hospital the week before she died to tell me how she wanted her funeral. She'd told me quite regularly for years anyway.
My dad has given me the practical details such as where his will is etc. He's left the actual funeral to me which is fine. I know he wants one and I'll just do what I think is right after consultation with my brothers. I already have a rough plan |
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
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Well I’ll raise a glass of Guinness when you’re gone Granny.
Aaaah, that doesn’t sound so good reading it back but you know what I mean.  |
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" buried
I'm surprised nobody has said cremated remains placed into a hetcher sketch
Uhmmmm that's not ash is it ?
Do you actually get everything as you don't get the entire amount I'm guessing "
I don't know if you get it all but it isn't a lot. |
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"My mum called me from hospital the week before she died to tell me how she wanted her funeral. She'd told me quite regularly for years anyway.
My dad has given me the practical details such as where his will is etc. He's left the actual funeral to me which is fine. I know he wants one and I'll just do what I think is right after consultation with my brothers. I already have a rough plan "
My Grandad left a handwritten set of funeral instructions in an envelope, along with some leaflets for suggested catering 
Unfortunately we couldn't fulfill all his wishes, as he had to have a COVID era 20min service with a small number of people and no wake. |
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"My mum called me from hospital the week before she died to tell me how she wanted her funeral. She'd told me quite regularly for years anyway.
My dad has given me the practical details such as where his will is etc. He's left the actual funeral to me which is fine. I know he wants one and I'll just do what I think is right after consultation with my brothers. I already have a rough plan
My Grandad left a handwritten set of funeral instructions in an envelope, along with some leaflets for suggested catering
Unfortunately we couldn't fulfill all his wishes, as he had to have a COVID era 20min service with a small number of people and no wake. "
We had to do a little creative thinking for one of my mum's very specific wishes regarding the wake. We got round it quite nattily |
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
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Yes, being left outside like they do in Nepal etc and let the vultures have at you. Apart from lack of vultures here, not so easy.... |
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
Yes, being left outside like they do in Nepal etc and let the vultures have at you. Apart from lack of vultures here, not so easy...."
We do have birds and animals that will eat carrion but I guess there's always the risk of a fox running down the High Street with Grandma's hip bone  |
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
Yes, being left outside like they do in Nepal etc and let the vultures have at you. Apart from lack of vultures here, not so easy....
We do have birds and animals that will eat carrion but I guess there's always the risk of a fox running down the High Street with Grandma's hip bone "
Quite, what I meant was it's difficult here and expensive to organise.
That being said grandma might appreciate that. For mine, think she might have fancied the chance to run anywhere since it had been years, even if it was in a fox's mouth! She didn't care for shopping though, so that'd be a downer! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
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It's fairly easy to leave your body to medical science (they also pay for what's not used to be buried). I signed the paperwork for my exes mum as a non family member years ago
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
Morden |
"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
Yes, being left outside like they do in Nepal etc and let the vultures have at you. Apart from lack of vultures here, not so easy...."
We have vultures, the sort without feathers.
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
It's fairly easy to leave your body to medical science (they also pay for what's not used to be buried). I signed the paperwork for my exes mum as a non family member years ago
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Oh really? When I looked it said they give bits not used back to family. Guess it must depend where you are? Perhaps I should look into it again.
I may request going to a plastic surgeon and students. Might be quite nice to have a facelift and look better dead than alive |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I'll be cremated.
I'll find out if my ashes can be buried with my mum, dad and twin sister. I think we just scattered them into a hole in the ground under a tree at the crematorium.
If not, my children can do what they want with them.
I don't want a gravestone that people feel obliged to visit.
We have plaques on a bench in my siblings garden for my parents and sister.
Mine can go next to hers if it's still around when I go.
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
Yes, being left outside like they do in Nepal etc and let the vultures have at you. Apart from lack of vultures here, not so easy...."
I mean if you lived in some rough awful housing estate the feral teenagers would probably pick at you |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
" buried
I'm surprised nobody has said cremated remains placed into a hetcher sketch
Uhmmmm that's not ash is it ?
Do you actually get everything as you don't get the entire amount I'm guessing
I don't know if you get it all but it isn't a lot. "
It's a mixture of everything it's supposed to be filtered but as you say isn't much my ex's dad used to work in the cremation service and their perks was the scrap metal from bone implants and the odd gold tooth/teeth |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
newcastle |
Assuming my best mate still alive I want to die fat as fuck then have bricks and broken concrete put in my coffin and then that cunt have to carry it by himself. After that I don’t care |
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"Really couldn't care less - put in a skip?
Wanted to give it to medical science but thats not as easy as I thought. They might reject it for lots of reasons or only use bits of you so someone will still have to deal with the rest anyway.
I looked into that as well. The science lot are really fussy about what they will accept.
You'd think they would be grateful for what they can get. "
No not at all there a few criteria eg severe cachexia and ascities due to organ destruction and necrosis for teaching and research purposes! They actually do like to have abnormal structure to tissue and organs ... great teaching tool |
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"It's great that people have thought about this part of the human life cycle so much.
It's one thing we can be sure that will happen to us and that's why we should live in the moment as much as we can.
I did want to be left to medical science ( only to avoid funeral costs ) but it's not as easy as people think
Then I thought I'll get left out in a mountain top forest to decay naturally but that's pretty expensive too.
So ..... I paid a cremation firm already. I'm being cremated with NO service.
I've told everyone that if they want a gathering they can order one or do some reflecting individually.
I'm pretty relaxed about it, now it's all done and dusted.
Yes, being left outside like they do in Nepal etc and let the vultures have at you. Apart from lack of vultures here, not so easy....
I mean if you lived in some rough awful housing estate the feral teenagers would probably pick at you "
I teach those sorts, think they'd rather I was alive before doing that   |
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over a year ago
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"Assuming my best mate still alive I want to die fat as fuck then have bricks and broken concrete put in my coffin and then that cunt have to carry it by himself. After that I don’t care "
That made me laugh
I don't envy the poor bugger who has to lug my mortal remains about tbf
I don't care what happens. One thing I know is I don't want a funeral, I don't want my kids to sit in a cold cream staring at a box holding what is left of me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you want to get buried, cremated or something else?
Have a great day all. "
Sky burial so I can go back to nature, but won't be able to have that wish in the good ole uk |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I would like to donate myself to medical science, or failing that I think I would probably make a fairly decent curry... so the nearest Indian can have me.
Cal"
And I'm sure they will take you but only for a fal  |
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By *addyAWoman
over a year ago
Beside the Seaside |
"The cheapest way possible. I’ll be dead, I’m not going to know either way.
This. Cal could bury me in the back garden for all I care, but suspect that would be illegal. "
It’s not. There’s no legal requirement to have a funeral, only that the body is disposed of appropriately. So, as long as Cal tells the authorities (and digs a deep enough hole), that’s you sorted |
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Throw me in the tip it won't matter! Lol on a serious note a wicker basket, Hopefully somewhere nice in nature.
It's funny my best friend was always against cremation! But he decided to have that the last few months before he died. He he had cancer for over 2 years i guess sometimes we don't always know! |
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"My body goes to science... already completed and signed the forms with the London anatomy office "
let's ope you don't die at Christmas or Easter then.
I recently perused their forms which a friend sent for and they seemed full of get out clauses. no guarantees for people like me who just want to cheat the funeral industry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few years ago
There was a big thing about your ashes being turned into a diamond
So I suggested to Katie that if I went before her
I’d like that to be done with my ashes
And then perhaps she could have it made into a clitty stud
That way I’d be in a very nice warm place!!!!
N xxx |
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"I'm just paying £500 for a cremation with no funeral, they just tell relatives when ashes are ready to collect "
I'd do that if I thought I could trust the blighters to still be around when the time comes, and I'm talking of years not decades. |
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"I'm just paying £500 for a cremation with no funeral, they just tell relatives when ashes are ready to collect
I'd do that if I thought I could trust the blighters to still be around when the time comes, and I'm talking of years not decades."
I'll be lucky to live another decade I reckon, live life while you can I say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When l die and they lay me to rest gonna go to the place that's best...great song that ..highly recommended...give it a listen if you have a few minutes |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I think it’s important to respect the living that are mourning loss so ill do something cheap but not disrespectful on the legal side, cardboard coffin they can all decorate and write on and cremation and organise and fund a great party |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"Is being left to rot in a corpse garden an option? Like for forensic science and all. "
There are actually body farms that study decomposition that would happily take your body for this! |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"My body goes to science... already completed and signed the forms with the London anatomy office
let's ope you don't die at Christmas or Easter then.
I recently perused their forms which a friend sent for and they seemed full of get out clauses. no guarantees for people like me who just want to cheat the funeral industry."
In all honesty they are swamped with donations, unless yiu are of interest they likely won't accept the body. Definitely needs a plan B |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
london stratford |
"Do you want to get buried, cremated or something else?
Have a great day all. "
In an ideal world, I would get cremated and have diamonds made from my ashes.
But I am skint and probably wouldn't have anyone who would want them.
So its cremation and throw away the ashes for me |
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"This thread reminded me to go and update my organ donor details. It’s been a while and the contact info was probably out of date.
So thanks guys and girls."
Your welcome and well done you for supporting a really worth while cause. |
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"I'm going to hell with a lot of good friends I think so I'll take myself there..... "
Freddie Mercury one said "No, I don't want to go to heaven. Hell is much better. Think of all the interesting people you're going to meet down there! |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
"Will add
On organ donation list
Told them only thing they can’t take anything to do with my eyes  "
I used to have donate everything except eyes aswell. Then I realised that giving someone the chance to carry on viewing the world through mine would be a beautiful gift as I can't imagine not being able to see |
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