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When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? |
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I chat to people for weeks or even months before meeting but I don't trust just anyone with personal details.
In saying that though, in the past I have shared some details with people I assumed were friends but they abused that friendship and used my info and that of others to feather their little fab nest.
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Just my bank details, mother's maiden name, first school I attended.
It’s ok they told me they’d only need a small deposit then the £26m in my, until now unknown, dead Nigerian uncle’s account would be mine. MINE I tells ya! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It varies .
I'm pretty open and honest regards my name I don't feel the need to give a fake one.
Some people you meet and just click with. When that happens I'm an open book x |
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"The where you live is a bit difficult to hide if you invite someone back to yours!
True! How long do you wait before you're willing to share that though or does it depend on the person? "
If I want to invite them round I will, I’m pretty open and haven’t had any bad experiences yet. |
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"The where you live is a bit difficult to hide if you invite someone back to yours!
True! How long do you wait before you're willing to share that though or does it depend on the person?
If I want to invite them round I will, I’m pretty open and haven’t had any bad experiences yet. "
At the risk of starting warfare (STAND DOWN SOLDIERS) do you think that’s because you’re a man? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
I’d be very wary giving any personal details until I knew them, I hear of some right nutters on here. I think it even took you three years to get to know my address  |
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
well if you can’t be honest with people then don’t message them..but on the other hand some discretion needs to be in place at first because some people on here are so dam weird!
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got?
I’d be very wary giving any personal details until I knew them, I hear of some right nutters on here. I think it even took you three years to get to know my address "
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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I never directly lie... But always keep things vague.
Far too many people know eachother, and have no idea what discretion is.
That said, I won't meet until I know who you are, where you work and where you live.
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? well if you can’t be honest with people then don’t message them..but on the other hand some discretion needs to be in place at first because some people on here are so dam weird! "
What do you mean "if you can't be honest with people, don't message them?" So if someone isn't willing to share their personal info they shouldn't be on here? |
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I have no problem giving people I chat to my real first name. I won't put it on a public forum though. I might give an idea of my job if the conversation turns that way, but only people I consider friends know what I actually do. |
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We try to tell as much truth as possible at the beginning as it saves tripping up later. Work isn’t really important but we have met a few people over the years who have become more regular and obviously as more trust conversation can flow better and can be more upfront |
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over a year ago
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I will give snippets of what I do.
Life wise they get my name and and random bits of information, nothing that is overly identifiable.
It’s tricky some on here have become good friends. Some I’ve dated so they know more. Others give off such huge creepy vibes that they don’t get passed a coffee! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I have whole fake personas I use on here.
No one know the real me  "
I’m assuming your joking ? 
I expect women to be discreet and cautious until they know me well enough , if they are not its a red flag, they could be risky and have trouble and drama follow them.
But if I suspect someone is lying or overthinking before answering ,fake personas etc it’s also a red flag, dishonesty and lies are even worse. There’s no need to lie just be discreet and sensible |
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"The where you live is a bit difficult to hide if you invite someone back to yours!
True! How long do you wait before you're willing to share that though or does it depend on the person?
If I want to invite them round I will, I’m pretty open and haven’t had any bad experiences yet.
At the risk of starting warfare (STAND DOWN SOLDIERS) do you think that’s because you’re a man? "
Oh, absolutely, the dynamics are very different if you are a women and completely understand that. I’m only speaking for myself here. |
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over a year ago
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"I have whole fake personas I use on here.
No one know the real me
I’m assuming your joking ?
I expect women to be discreet and cautious until they know me well enough , if they are not its a red flag, they could be risky and have trouble and drama follow them.
But if I suspect someone is lying or overthinking before answering ,fake personas etc it’s also a red flag, dishonesty and lies are even worse. There’s no need to lie just be discreet and sensible "
Nope.
I'm not here for relationships so why do you need to know everything?
My personality and my likes is me.
My name and details about my life is not.
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I'm a good judge of character despite my laid back persona ...
I've had a couple of first meets at my place , some at pubs , some at their place ..
Never had a complete disaster yet and a fair few know my name .
So yeah I guess I'm fairly open |
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
I prefer to keep my personal life to myself, unless I was seeing someone regularly then I would be more open. |
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over a year ago
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
My personal details are just that ...mine ...you could be chatting to someone and give them all your info and then they disappear...it's absolutely horrible but you don't discover that till they disappear..along with their profile..but they have your personal details. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll tell them my real name and what I do for work. I've spoken about my family and how many siblings I have and also sometimes my personal feelings. It'll always come up naturally though which I'm fine to discuss as I like to think I can judge a character well enough to meet them and therefore trust enough to speak openly to.
Would be a bit of a boring conversation if you only spoke about the weather |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like to give my real name till I'm actually at a social with someone.
Enough nutjobs out there and puts me off saying much about myself incase it gets used in some real batshit crazy stuff. I've seen first hand what can happen here.
The closer I get to someone the more they know.
Trust is earned isn't it? |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't give out a lot of information until I get to know someone well.I learnt early on even little snippets can lead to people trying to use info against you.
So now no I don't give out much info. There is only a small handful that know my real first name and even less know my full name.Only one person on here knows where I live.
I have had people on here share some of my personal info with others and it disgusts me that they think that is okay. And it's why I'm very wary now of who I talk to and what info I give and I also have no interest in people who try to tell me other people's personal information either.If they try and tell you others info under the guise of friendship,at some point they will share what you tell them as well so I avoid those people now . |
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I’m ok to be open after a while. I haven’t had a problem with trust being abused, but I don’t allow many to get close and as a bloke, the risks are very different.
Trust your spidey-sense and be as cagey as you think is appropriate. |
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"Yep, pretty much an open book. Not sure what anyone would do with the information I tell them anyway? "
I'm with you...open book
I would prefer to get someone ìnto the open through chat. Such a joy to get to know people because I treat all fab connects as a possible lover and friend. |
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"I have whole fake personas I use on here.
No one know the real me
I’m assuming your joking ?
I expect women to be discreet and cautious until they know me well enough , if they are not its a red flag, they could be risky and have trouble and drama follow them.
But if I suspect someone is lying or overthinking before answering ,fake personas etc it’s also a red flag, dishonesty and lies are even worse. There’s no need to lie just be discreet and sensible "
Quite an assumption about women. I'm open if I'm meeting someone I like a chat, naturally personal things come out if not you'll have a very staid conversation. The most recent person I met was a polo player. I loved being told that. I don't exactly move in those circles so had loads of questions. For me that's a much as what this is about. Not sure what I can do with that information or him mine. We had sex??? If that's about it then I really don't think I have much to worry about there. |
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over a year ago
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I tell people my name and what I do for work if it comes up in a conversation but I don’t think I’ve had many conversations where I’ve felt the need to discuss overly personal things that I wouldn’t normally tell anyone anyway. |
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform  being naive might comeback to bite your arse"
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?... |
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
I don't spend a lot of time chatting on Fab with people because I'm more interested in real life socialising and playing.
When I meet them in person I use my real name. Not many have my exact address or where exactly that I work. I've been stalked before and I'm a DV/DA survivor. I live behind 2 entry doors in a block of flats and no one comes to my home as it's my sanctuary.
I don't really have anything to hide and I have a support network that safeguards me so that puts most predators/users/abusers off.
I usually get to know people bit by bit at clubs and socials. It's neutral ground and the club does keep tabs on people.
Personally, I now lean towards "safety in numbers" and am wary of anyone who tries to single me out away from the group. |
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"I chat to people for weeks or even months before meeting but I don't trust just anyone with personal details.
In saying that though, in the past I have shared some details with people I assumed were friends but they abused that friendship and used my info and that of others to feather their little fab nest.
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I don't make friends easily and I have to live a fairly structured life. Due to previous abusive situations, I now have peer and professional support network to safeguard me from predators.
Don't know much about Fab nests...I'd rather not beholden anyone to be my fab friend forever and ever. Life and people and situations change too frequently for that so I hold onto things and people less tightly. |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?..."
This applies many at the beginning when 1st getting to know someone I meant. Things like
- where you work & your job role ( eg instead of im a nurse at Queen E hosp in London) would just say work in healthcare
- don’t give out real name (that’s why we have profile names) if do then just 1st name. Too many stalkers about
- when arranging meet just give postcode & say top or bottom of street (when they arrive peep through window if they look like they portray & u happy) then go meet them outside & can bring them in 
All these are for our own safety really, in my opinion |
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
This applies many at the beginning when 1st getting to know someone I meant. Things like
- where you work & your job role ( eg instead of im a nurse at Queen E hosp in London) would just say work in healthcare
- don’t give out real name (that’s why we have profile names) if do then just 1st name. Too many stalkers about
- when arranging meet just give postcode & say top or bottom of street (when they arrive peep through window if they look like they portray & u happy) then go meet them outside & can bring them in
All these are for our own safety really, in my opinion "
Ok yes, I give a general "i work in this sector".
I live in a gated compound. I'd never go out to meet someone though as I'd be in underwear and don't want the neighbours talking |
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got?
I’d be very wary giving any personal details until I knew them, I hear of some right nutters on here. I think it even took you three years to get to know my address "
As an official nutter, I don't let other nutters know where I live. Then they get upset that I would invite them around for a nutter afternoon tea/orgy.
No no. Nutters should not congregate without proper supervision and risk assessment....in my experience. 
I always need an escape plan...I can't very well escape from my own home now can I? Housing in London is not that easy to come by!! Even if you are a nutter escaping another nutter. |
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
This applies many at the beginning when 1st getting to know someone I meant. Things like
- where you work & your job role ( eg instead of im a nurse at Queen E hosp in London) would just say work in healthcare
- don’t give out real name (that’s why we have profile names) if do then just 1st name. Too many stalkers about
- when arranging meet just give postcode & say top or bottom of street (when they arrive peep through window if they look like they portray & u happy) then go meet them outside & can bring them in
All these are for our own safety really, in my opinion
Ok yes, I give a general "i work in this sector".
I live in a gated compound. I'd never go out to meet someone though as I'd be in underwear and don't want the neighbours talking "
Lol! My neighbours are always talking...I live next door to two pubs. Lol!
Just went in one earlier to say hello to the landlord and the landlady. If I have any trouble....they will soon sort them out...yeah it's that kind of pub...where they can't leave the birthday cake-cutting knives out. Lol! One summer day I sat up in my chaise lounge to see two women rolling on the ground in the pub garden.
We talked about it and then moved on to something else just as scandalous. Lol!
I could never live in a gated community. |
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? well if you can’t be honest with people then don’t message them..but on the other hand some discretion needs to be in place at first because some people on here are so dam weird! "
I mean I do tell people I'm weird on my profile upfront....They just have to decide if they can handle my level of weirdness.....or not. That's their prerogative. |
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
This applies many at the beginning when 1st getting to know someone I meant. Things like
- where you work & your job role ( eg instead of im a nurse at Queen E hosp in London) would just say work in healthcare
- don’t give out real name (that’s why we have profile names) if do then just 1st name. Too many stalkers about
- when arranging meet just give postcode & say top or bottom of street (when they arrive peep through window if they look like they portray & u happy) then go meet them outside & can bring them in
All these are for our own safety really, in my opinion "
I work for a large national/international company with many locations all over the UK.
I give people my real first name upon meeting face to face.
Yeah no one comes in my home...except my mother and professionals with ID cards. Lol! |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
This applies many at the beginning when 1st getting to know someone I meant. Things like
- where you work & your job role ( eg instead of im a nurse at Queen E hosp in London) would just say work in healthcare
- don’t give out real name (that’s why we have profile names) if do then just 1st name. Too many stalkers about
- when arranging meet just give postcode & say top or bottom of street (when they arrive peep through window if they look like they portray & u happy) then go meet them outside & can bring them in
All these are for our own safety really, in my opinion
Ok yes, I give a general "i work in this sector".
I live in a gated compound. I'd never go out to meet someone though as I'd be in underwear and don't want the neighbours talking "
That last part made me giggle like a piglet hahaha
Wait a minute  do piglets giggle? Will have to google that haha |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
This applies many at the beginning when 1st getting to know someone I meant. Things like
- where you work & your job role ( eg instead of im a nurse at Queen E hosp in London) would just say work in healthcare
- don’t give out real name (that’s why we have profile names) if do then just 1st name. Too many stalkers about
- when arranging meet just give postcode & say top or bottom of street (when they arrive peep through window if they look like they portray & u happy) then go meet them outside & can bring them in
All these are for our own safety really, in my opinion
I work for a large national/international company with many locations all over the UK.
I give people my real first name upon meeting face to face.
Yeah no one comes in my home...except my mother and professionals with ID cards. Lol!"
Can just picture an ID card with ‘Professional Swinger’ in bold capitals hahaha |
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
This applies many at the beginning when 1st getting to know someone I meant. Things like
- where you work & your job role ( eg instead of im a nurse at Queen E hosp in London) would just say work in healthcare
- don’t give out real name (that’s why we have profile names) if do then just 1st name. Too many stalkers about
- when arranging meet just give postcode & say top or bottom of street (when they arrive peep through window if they look like they portray & u happy) then go meet them outside & can bring them in
All these are for our own safety really, in my opinion
I work for a large national/international company with many locations all over the UK.
I give people my real first name upon meeting face to face.
Yeah no one comes in my home...except my mother and professionals with ID cards. Lol!
Can just picture an ID card with ‘Professional Swinger’ in bold capitals hahaha "
There are people with name badges at the swinger socials and clubs. Lol! |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?..."
I've had someone turn up at my previous place of work 
So going forward I definitely won't tell anyone where I work.
Other people have had people look them up on Facebook and message their family, so definitely don't advise giving your full name. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
I've had someone turn up at my previous place of work
So going forward I definitely won't tell anyone where I work.
Other people have had people look them up on Facebook and message their family, so definitely don't advise giving your full name. "
This is exactly why we don't give out personal info. |
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To be honest I try not to chat to people on here about anything other than sex, as that is all I am interested in.
I don't see why knowing what a person does for a job would relate to how good they are at fucking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
If we're meeting someone then we'll give out our first names but other than that we keep our personal lives completely private, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'll give out name m, as in nickname. I'll specify job role if its an in depth convo as niche.. I've been burnt on here previously. So far less likely to tell a randomer my wold  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest I try not to chat to people on here about anything other than sex, as that is all I am interested in.
I don't see why knowing what a person does for a job would relate to how good they are at fucking. "
To be fair I'm nosey as fuck! And ask? I think what someone does for a living may often speak volumes for their personality?... If someone turned out to be an irritating, eyedropper, bunny, supervisor... Would you still want to go there? |
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
At the start, I’d give them small snippets. But as time progresses, and you start to build a connection with someone. I think it’s only natural, you let them know more about you as a person. |
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Don't usually bother with my name. Everyone calls me Morphia anyway. People probably know what industry I work in, (something with antisocial hours). Probably mentioned a few things in chat or on forums, but not enough to track me down. |
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I’ve had some amazing detailed chats…. I have my postcode incase they wanted to visit…even told them how long I’d been there so they knew I was settled. I found it a bit strange when they asked about my first pets name but I suppose we were talking about so much. It was such a coincidence that our mothers maiden names were the same ..but if it’s written in the stars those kind of things are the signs, right |
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"I’ve had some amazing detailed chats…. I have my postcode incase they wanted to visit…even told them how long I’d been there so they knew I was settled. I found it a bit strange when they asked about my first pets name but I suppose we were talking about so much. It was such a coincidence that our mothers maiden names were the same ..but if it’s written in the stars those kind of things are the signs, right "
We should talk... |
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Always truthful but the bare minimum at first. One hotel meet, went to the bathroom, came out unexpectedly and found her going through my trouser pockets. Looking for her keys, apparently! Any trust -gone. |
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I don’t share personal details. I even have a fake real name . A small few know my real name. Nobody knows what I do for work or where I live. I think 2 know my surname but I don’t even think of those people as “fab people” anymore as they’re real life friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely like REAL PEOPLE. so when I only get superficial and have to imagine everting from somebodies profile, I’m not going to want to meet them or get to know them much more than I already know.
Real people have depth and if they want to share much more than a hello, fancy a shag? Then that’s going to kill me into a great friend zone, where that goes is up to time and conversation.
For anyone who hides things from me to protect their privacy… sure, I won’t tell you anything about me too, and you won’t get to know the REAL me.
People are weird. |
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over a year ago
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"I genuinely like REAL PEOPLE. so when I only get superficial and have to imagine everting from somebodies profile, I’m not going to want to meet them or get to know them much more than I already know.
Real people have depth and if they want to share much more than a hello, fancy a shag? Then that’s going to kill me into a great friend zone, where that goes is up to time and conversation.
For anyone who hides things from me to protect their privacy… sure, I won’t tell you anything about me too, and you won’t get to know the REAL me.
People are weird. "
Why is it weird to want to protect your privacy, keep your family out of this lifestyle, avoid someone turning up at work or being stalked? |
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over a year ago
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"I ….
For anyone who hides things from me to protect their privacy… sure, I won’t tell you anything about me too, and you won’t get to know the REAL me.
People are weird.
Why is it weird to want to protect your privacy, keep your family out of this lifestyle, avoid someone turning up at work or being stalked? "
If I want to meet someone for sex and that’s it, I might as well arrange a person in a certain line of work for me, *just my opinion.
I’m more complicated (and probably weird myself), but if anyone messaged me with a ‘fuck now?’ Message on here, I’d probably ignore it. |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
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Very cautious of any details. But the ones i do are always true.
There is no point hiding the truth with lies. Sooner or later the truth will out. Why so many here get ghosted, because they are about to be found out.
I have had "messages" or "people you may know" from other social media sites. Our lives are open to the world,  |
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Never Ever share any personal details on here. A general answer should be enough for anyone. Ie, we were asked in a club at the weekend where we'd traveled from.
Answer.
Not to far really.
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"To be honest I try not to chat to people on here about anything other than sex, as that is all I am interested in.
I don't see why knowing what a person does for a job would relate to how good they are at fucking.
To be fair I'm nosey as fuck! And ask? I think what someone does for a living may often speak volumes for their personality?... If someone turned out to be an irritating, eyedropper, bunny, supervisor... Would you still want to go there? "
On the flip side there could be an animal rights activist but crap in bed, should I just put up with bad sex because of their job ??
A job is just a job a way of paying the bills. |
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"I’ve had some amazing detailed chats…. I have my postcode incase they wanted to visit…even told them how long I’d been there so they knew I was settled. I found it a bit strange when they asked about my first pets name but I suppose we were talking about so much. It was such a coincidence that our mothers maiden names were the same ..but if it’s written in the stars those kind of things are the signs, right
We should talk..."
You know where I am |
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"Gotta be careful what you share on here or any social media platform being naive might comeback to bite your arse
Genuinely curious as to what kind of things you think shouldn't be shared? I get very inflammatory opinions (if someone were to have any). But I'm not talking about giving out bank details etc here?...
I've had someone turn up at my previous place of work
So going forward I definitely won't tell anyone where I work.
Other people have had people look them up on Facebook and message their family, so definitely don't advise giving your full name. "
OMG but I don't use my real name on facebook and I'm not searchable either. But my family know I'm weird so.....and my job too so.... I'm child-free but if I did have children ...they'd probably know I'm weird too. Lol!
But I understand that non-weird people do not want to appear weird and worry about difficult psychological effects on their family and friends from finding out that they are swingers.
I was prepared for the sibling's head to explode...it didn't and they then asked me for the results of my last sexual health test. Lol! My turn for head exploding for my baby sibling. |
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"To be honest I try not to chat to people on here about anything other than sex, as that is all I am interested in.
I don't see why knowing what a person does for a job would relate to how good they are at fucking.
To be fair I'm nosey as fuck! And ask? I think what someone does for a living may often speak volumes for their personality?... If someone turned out to be an irritating, eyedropper, bunny, supervisor... Would you still want to go there?
On the flip side there could be an animal rights activist but crap in bed, should I just put up with bad sex because of their job ??
A job is just a job a way of paying the bills. "
I've met a few vegans....they do keep that bit quiet..... |
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"When chatting to someone on here how much info about your personal life do you share? Real name? Where you live? Your job? Do you give them general answers or just tell them everything? Does it depend how far in to the conversation you've got? "
I think it all depends on how the convo is going and what you both want out of it, trust is what’s needed with names and locations. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No. I think two people know my address? In my almost a decade here. One being my fiancé. Full name, about five people? Yeah, five. I don't lie, just say I don't feel comfortable discussing that.
When I have that level of trust with someone, it's natural and easy for me to be open. I'm more than happy to, it's building that relationship and that's something I enjoy taking the time to do. Organically, fluid.
I'd say I'm sensibly cautious before then. |
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"No. I think two people know my address? In my almost a decade here. One being my fiancé. Full name, about five people?…"
Melificent Tripplehorn Spunkington the 3rd? |
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Its goes a bit Silence of the Lambs for me, Quid pro quo. Until we are both naked and wallowing in each others difficult childhoods
Not with just everyone who messages obviously, but sometimes you just connect and in a bit of a whirlwind you do suddenly realise you have just got someones whole life history
I am pretty trustworthy though, which is a good job. There is only once I was a bit worried that someone knew a bit too much about me, but it was and is all ok.
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I treat each person on a case by case basis. I'm garrulous in my messaging but keep my cards close to my chest until there's sufficient maturity in the conversation, empathy and trust. That often takes weeks or months. |
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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago
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"Its goes a bit Silence of the Lambs for me, Quid pro quo. Until we are both naked and wallowing in each others difficult childhoods
Not with just everyone who messages obviously, but sometimes you just connect and in a bit of a whirlwind you do suddenly realise you have just got someones whole life history
I am pretty trustworthy though, which is a good job. There is only once I was a bit worried that someone knew a bit too much about me, but it was and is all ok.
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This, just about. It all depends how we connect…..and there are many levels of honesty and trust! |
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"too late. I'm a loon."
Honestly? When we met my first thought was that you have *zero* boundaries. You were up for talking about anything. Absolutely anything. And that’s a good thing!
I get that that doesn’t need to include personal information. That’s different. |
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I'll go into more or less detail depending on my gut feeling about the person, but I'll never give out enough information to identify myself until we've reached a trusting stage (maybe by video chat or phone). The site is free, so although there are some great people here, there are loads of not-so-great people who I wouldn't want to know anything useful. |
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