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You are too good for here ??

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I've seen public comments like that directed at women on the forums.

Usually from people who think they are being magnanimous and gentlemanly but who come across as scyhophants.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

It means they have a very low opinion of women that use this site. Their nothing but misogynists

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

“Aren’t swingers just people who couldn’t get a shag in real life. …”

“Bunch of weirdos…”

^ Just 2 recent quotes I remember when talking about swinging outside of fab. So when people say, you’re too good for here….I’m not sure what they are saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a reflection upon them, how they really view sexually liberated Women.

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By *ris GrayMan over a year ago

Dorchester

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

"
sex in the form its displayed on here is still seen as tarty by some so hence his or hers comment

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I think it's just one of those throwaway compliments - you know the really successful ones where not only do you decide comparative is the way to make someone feel good, you also slate the person/group of the aforementioned.

It's such an ego boost, really flattering when people seem to think I'm an Athena amongst the real life Shameless cast.

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

Someone else will probably say it better than me, but it's the double standard/ misogyny/stereotyping that's always been a thing.

Too good to be on here, too pretty to be single blah blah blah.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Yes get this! I ask what they mean and what's wrong with this site then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think its a way to dress up the fact some men are intimidated by a woman who knows what she wants (and isn't afraid to have it )sexually .

Curious though, do women think this about men too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It means they're trying to get in your knickers by playing the "nice" guy.

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By *r_PinkMan over a year ago

london stratford

By all accounts, from what I have been told,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I am not good enough to be here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"“Aren’t swingers just people who couldn’t get a shag in real life. …”

“Bunch of weirdos…”

^ Just 2 recent quotes I remember when talking about swinging outside of fab. So when people say, you’re too good for here….I’m not sure what they are saying. "

They're basically saying "you must have some issue that makes you sexually undesirable in real life, such that you'd rather seek hookups and sex with strangers online as opposed to pulling someone in real life."

More often than not it comes from a state of envy/jealousy, that they genuinely feel whoever they're directing these comments to are physically attractive, but they have to dose themselves with copium by saying stuff to make the point about looks not being everything in one's attractive powers.

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By *eorge1949Man over a year ago

BroadwayWR11

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

I too think that I understand your thought process, but may I ask if maybe you are taking what may have well been well intentioned as a complement out of context?

It is so easy to misunderstand, or see a hidden unintended meaning, in the featureless and faceless written word as opposed to face to face where humour, irony, sincerity, or it's lack, are more easy to read into the face of the speaker?

I have met some wonderful people on here whose only 'crime' is their openly honest liking of lots of sex and for that I admire them all.

Please don't take it seriously just get on and enjoy those who appreciate you.

Good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

It's a common attitude. Some of the remarks made to the woman upset by something said to her when dogging show me that there's a level of sexual activity that people find unacceptable for women. It's an attitude I find odd on here but...

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By *eorge1949Man over a year ago

BroadwayWR11

Maybe it relates to an age old philosophy - still prevalent in may countries - that man is superior to woman.

I do not shre that view, on the contrary, as a bloke, I consider that we are all equal and - if anything - women are superior to men in many ways in how they conduct their lives and juggle careers, taking care of a family, running a home, childcare - the list goes on.

I love women so much I had a lovely one as my mother and I even married another lovley one, many, many years ago!

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"By all accounts, from what I have been told,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I am not good enough to be here!"

With you there brother

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

I prefer ladies who say what they want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

1 of the reasons why there isn't many single women on here

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"I think its a way to dress up the fact some men are intimidated by a woman who knows what she wants (and isn't afraid to have it )sexually .

Curious though, do women think this about men too?"

I'm sure it's rarer, but yes, I've had versions of it. The 'surprised to find someone like you here' CAN be amazing if it's said by someone you know well and care about. But said by a stranger it does feel weird. I mean...what does that say about them, if they essentially see the place we 'meet' as a dump full of the worst people?

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By *yder RavishMan over a year ago

Ware Hertfordshire

I feel the same way about people I may know who are on here. If we’re both on here there is no space for judgement so hopefully it’s a real compliment.

I find it very liberating to be in a space where woman know what they want and happy to express it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would take it as they really didn't understand this place at all and the people that are here. And that's on them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

1 of the reasons why there isn't many single women on here"

Lucky me then. Less competition

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

I am too good for here. That's why I don't get messages, I'm just too good for them and they are intimidated by it. But I refuse to leave just because I don't fit in.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Anyone who tries to compliment by tearing other people down is an asshole

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think its a way to dress up the fact some men are intimidated by a woman who knows what she wants (and isn't afraid to have it )sexually .

Curious though, do women think this about men too?"

No, they don't think that or are intimidated.

They just think you are low value if you're on here.

I've tried introducing vanilla women, who are even bisexual as it says on their profile and I have judged terribly as a single guy for doing this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

1 of the reasons why there isn't many single women on here

Lucky me then. Less competition

Women can be the worst for slut shaming etc though aswell.

How many single women on here tell their female vanilla friends?

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By *ate_BMan over a year ago

London

It’s an awkward compliment, some might say innocent too, but it does carry a feeling of judgement being passed subconsciously .

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It means I don't think women on here are worthwhile and I want to butter myself up to you.

Fortunately grown women who feel "I'm not like other girls" are a dying breed. It's a very juvenile attitude

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"Anyone who tries to compliment by tearing other people down is an asshole

Absolutely this. Lesson for life, not just Fab.

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

Sounds like they're judgy of a lot of people and they're trying to get in your knickers

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By *anasGodMan over a year ago

everywhere

What this mean?Because you like vanilla?or because you like orgys?or you have some kinks?or you just want to share the love?

To be here you looking for something…

Desire,satisfaction,sex,adrenaline…lust…and more and more and….maybe love?

Be free I can say from tags.well after all even this site it’s all judgemental with the “verifications” (like good mouth skills)(we did this and that)

Isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get this one "how are you still single? "

Erm by choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them. "

Some women on here would love that, just saying.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My thoughts are this .....

What do you think ?

When you KNOW what you think , that's what you live by.

Why be offended unless his words aligned with your reality ?

What do you really think about you being on here ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them.

Some women on here would love that, just saying.

Yes it was your bullshit I was citing

well recognised

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a swingers site right????? So why would someone not be good enough to be on here....I do think sometimes people lose fact of what they site is fundamentally about....and should respect the people on here and what they want...not tell them what they think and want them to hear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them.

Some women on here would love that, just saying.

Yes it was your bullshit I was citing

well recognised "

You are a swinger though.

What else are the non swinger women on here for then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My thoughts are this .....

What do you think ?

When you KNOW what you think , that's what you live by.

Why be offended unless his words aligned with your reality ?

What do you really think about you being on here ?"

I've been on and off here so long I'm perfectly comfortable with who I am and the choices I make . It's taken a long time for that to be the case and of course we all have the occasional wobbles.

I just think it sad these kind of attitudes still exist.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

" You are a swinger though.

What else are the non swinger women on here for then?

Sex. Casual relationships. To see what's on at the clubs. To get some exhibitionism out. To see what it's all about.

There's many reasons people can be on here.

No need to keep a narrow view when it's a broad spectrum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure he probably means it in a nice way like you are too nice for this place or that he wants you to himself and is a bit jealous

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them.

Some women on here would love that, just saying.

Yes it was your bullshit I was citing

well recognised

You are a swinger though.

What else are the non swinger women on here for then?

I'm not a swinger. Nor am I looking for happy ever after. That's the beauty of this site,you can use it for whatever you wish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get this one "how are you still single? "

Erm by choice "

How are you not in my bed!

Please don’t answer that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" You are a swinger though.

What else are the non swinger women on here for then?

Sex. Casual relationships. To see what's on at the clubs. To get some exhibitionism out. To see what it's all about.

There's many reasons people can be on here.

No need to keep a narrow view when it's a broad spectrum."

You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He sounds like a bore

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them.

Some women on here would love that, just saying.

Yes it was your bullshit I was citing

well recognised

You are a swinger though.

What else are the non swinger women on here for then?

I'm not a swinger. Nor am I looking for happy ever after. That's the beauty of this site,you can use it for whatever you wish"

What is your end goal then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them.

Some women on here would love that, just saying.

Yes it was your bullshit I was citing

well recognised

You are a swinger though.

What else are the non swinger women on here for then?

Whatever the fuck they want everyone has the right to be here , it would be a nicer space if the bullshit wasn't. Each to their own

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit. "

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

Anyone looking for their Prince Charming anywhere is going to have a hard time of it. But it's ridiculous to assume that just because someone doesn't want to fuck you that they're looking for Prince Charming.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"My thoughts are this .....

What do you think ?

When you KNOW what you think , that's what you live by.

Why be offended unless his words aligned with your reality ?

What do you really think about you being on here ?

I've been on and off here so long I'm perfectly comfortable with who I am and the choices I make . It's taken a long time for that to be the case and of course we all have the occasional wobbles.

I just think it sad these kind of attitudes still exist. "

Me too. Almost as if women should only have sex within a permanent relationship.

A woman's gotta do what a woman's gotta do and I am not marrying into servitude to get it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

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By *izandpaulCouple over a year ago

merseyside

I'm very comfortable with who I am and my life as a whole.

If I enjoy something, I do it.

Not really concerned with others opinion.

Wouldn't dream of forcing others to enter an area that would upset or not enjoy.

To be fair, this site does attract some strange ones, its a great hunting ground for the spiteful and nasty targeted at all us woman who enjoy sexual adventure, how dare we.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful. "

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

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By *ycanNightsMan over a year ago

Workington

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

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By *estarossa.Woman over a year ago

Flagrante

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

I would rather be celibate.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be. "

If you define it entirely by occasionally participating in group sex then sure. Though that leaves me wondering if the cuckholds and cuckqueens should be here if they only sleep with their partner and watch them with others. Or the people that only do separate room swapping with other couples.

Assuming nothing. I have an asexual friend who sometimes comes to the clubs with me because she likes to watch and enjoy the energy, but has no interest in having sex with anything. Another friend just likes to show off his (absurdly attractive) wife and fuck on stage but doesn't want anyone else to be involved physically.

I wouldn't worry, I doubt you're too too overrun with offers from those pesky non swingers. Or swingers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am I s non swinger during the time I’m not having sex? Im confused now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

When you've had a personality change you might do better

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By *estarossa.Woman over a year ago

Flagrante

"Am I s non swinger during the time I’m not having sex? Im confused now. "

There, there Woody, come and have a booby hug

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Wait. I stand by all of those statements. I thought you said I was a swinger

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

You know what this thread really needs? A discussion about swingers vs non-swingers. Especially as it's nothing to do with whether people choose to identify themselves as swinger or not. I'm surprised none of you thought to start this discussion earlier.

There are lots more threads that are not about this either. Let's change the subject on those too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

When you've had a personality change you might do better "

You didn't answer my question,

You're obviously open to Mr right popping in your messages and being swept off your feet like it was mentioned.

Obviously a gambling woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Misconceived, Misconceived ideas based on lack of education, and bo experienced, so it's always going to be a biased frame of reference. With nothing but hearsay to base them up on...

Don't allow yourself to make any meaning to what they have to say, give it no power, as comments like that carry no weight. And question the agenda and motive behind such sentiments..

It all depends how you view it, and feel about yourself being involved in this way of life.

Just on thr basis that swinging kink I'd still classed as psychologically abnormal. That tells you everything. So what chance do those outside if the lifestyle have of understanding it..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Wait. I stand by all of those statements. I thought you said I was a swinger

You are the anomaly %1 then that's all

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am I s non swinger during the time I’m not having sex? Im confused now.

There, there Woody, come and have a booby hug

I’ve forgot what I even asked now

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By *ycanNightsMan over a year ago

Workington

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

So you think all female swingers aren't looking for a connection...I call bullshit on that one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I am

No one gets me or appreciates me

I might as well go eat worms.

Bite off their heads, suck out the juice then throw their skins away

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what? "

To the terrible truth.

Are you ready?

Sitting down?

I fear you and the BULLS may not HIT it off.

No patter of little Minotaur hooves will be heard in the Fabyrinth.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

To the terrible truth.

Are you ready?

Sitting down?

I fear you and the BULLS may not HIT it off.

No patter of little Minotaur hooves will be heard in the Fabyrinth.

Have to say ….. gutted

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Yes I am

No one gets me or appreciates me

I might as well go eat worms.

Bite off their heads, suck out the juice then throw their skins away"

Like urban frubing but considerably less vile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what? "

That's a Bingo,

Non swinger like you admit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I am

No one gets me or appreciates me

I might as well go eat worms.

Bite off their heads, suck out the juice then throw their skins away

Like urban frubing but considerably less vile?"

No idea what that is so can't comment

And I'm not googling

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

It's an unnecessary and obsequious form of flattery of little substance, which cruelly makes people think twice about their presence and worth on here.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

That's a Bingo,

Non swinger like you admit"

Yay. Do I get to choose a prize?

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By *ycanNightsMan over a year ago

Workington

"Yes I am

No one gets me or appreciates me

I might as well go eat worms.

Bite off their heads, suck out the juice then throw their skins away

Like urban frubing but considerably less vile?

No idea what that is so can't comment

And I'm not googling"

Don't...it really is vile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

That's a Bingo,

Non swinger like you admit

Yay. Do I get to choose a prize?

The prize is you just proved me right.

That is a great prize. An honour to bestow.

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"It's that bullshit that men think we actually don't want to be on here. We are just pretending to be swingers we actually want to be rescued by a man, delete our account and marry them.

Some women on here would love that, just saying.

Yes it was your bullshit I was citing

well recognised

You are a swinger though.

What else are the non swinger women on here for then?

I'm not a swinger. Nor am I looking for happy ever after. That's the beauty of this site,you can use it for whatever you wish"

I'm glad you're all here. Saves me talking to myself

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By *ycanNightsMan over a year ago

Workington

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

That's a Bingo,

Non swinger like you admit

Yay. Do I get to choose a prize?

The prize is you just proved me right.

That is a great prize. An honour to bestow."

But it just confirms earlier points...not every woman ...in fact probably most on here don't consider themselves swingers.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

That's a Bingo,

Non swinger like you admit

Yay. Do I get to choose a prize?

The prize is you just proved me right.

That is a great prize. An honour to bestow."

I don’t get the point though. Do you mean non swingers are saying they are swingers but those things are a dead giveaway that you think they’re not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder how many men have had this said to them?

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By *ycanNightsMan over a year ago

Workington

"I wonder how many men have had this said to them? "

Gonna go out on a leg here and say.... probably none!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

That's a Bingo,

Non swinger like you admit

Yay. Do I get to choose a prize?

The prize is you just proved me right.

That is a great prize. An honour to bestow.

I don’t get the point though. Do you mean non swingers are saying they are swingers but those things are a dead giveaway that you think they’re not? "

Keep up Nora.

I was saying those are what non swinger profiles usually have on them.

And I can spot them by seeing information like that. So I avoid them.

You just cemented my point beautifully by accident though I think, but I will take it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

Personally l don't give a fuck what other people think,a lot of the time they can be scared of a person knowing what they want ,would you rather be with someone that controls or domineers you or would you rather be free ?

Obviously this person knows your here as he said you were too good for it ?? Some people think those here can't get laid in the real world but what he doesn't seem to understand that people are here because of people in the real world ..as you say are people are good enough have fun but nothing else ?? .. I know loads of women that guys will fuck but the guys won't be seen out with them, they'll fuck them ok but then... nothing..to me , unless the woman wants that , that scenario isn't the thing ..is it ? If a woman is good enough to fuck then a guy shouldn't be put out if he's seen out with her.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You participate in group sex, you are a swinger.

Non swinger women are not likely going to clubs.

Be some good Disney film that meeting Prince Charming off here.

I'd watch that shit.

I still don't consider myself a swinger, just happily non monogamous.

I know people who go to clubs just for the voyeur or exhibitionist side of things, they don't have to be swingers to be welcome and a part of things.

You are a swinger end of.

I highly doubt it.

You are assuming that.

I have no intention of meeting non swingers on here.

Headache that would be.

I think you'll find a hell of a lot of women on this site that don't consider themselves swingers...

And well...I think I can hear the sighs of relief

I can spot them a mile off though.

Things like

*Looking for a connection

*Social is a must

*I like to get to know you first before we meet

*If you have too many Veris you're not for me

*If you have pics of you hanging out the back of someone you're not for me

Etc etc.

These are all dead giveaways 99% of the time.

Onto them

Yep all those are totally me. Dead giveaway to what?

That's a Bingo,

Non swinger like you admit

Yay. Do I get to choose a prize?

The prize is you just proved me right.

That is a great prize. An honour to bestow.

I don’t get the point though. Do you mean non swingers are saying they are swingers but those things are a dead giveaway that you think they’re not?

Keep up Nora.

I was saying those are what non swinger profiles usually have on them.

And I can spot them by seeing information like that. So I avoid them.

You just cemented my point beautifully by accident though I think, but I will take it. "

Ah ok. You’re welcome

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know loads of women that guys will fuck but the guys won't be seen out with them "

This is the litmus test!

If you women are unsure, see if he wants to go out for a drink. Then watch him stutter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?"

Ignore him, he only comes onto threads to spout the same thing every day no matter the subject originally intended

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By *urora1912Woman over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I've been told I'm too nice for this site.

I'm too innocent looking to be on here

Very annoying at times to get told these things by some men

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By *4bimMan over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

For what it's worth I see that you're a thoughtful woman, a good contributor and you should carry on as you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?"

It was some dark humour, I like Frankie Boyle and Jimmy Carr that kind of explains it.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?

It was some dark humour, I like Frankie Boyle and Jimmy Carr that kind of explains it. "

Yes. But they have charisma.

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?

It was some dark humour, I like Frankie Boyle and Jimmy Carr that kind of explains it. "

Except for the small point, that they are both intelligent and funny…

But yeah. Whatever hun. You do you.

(Which I imagine you will be doing more and more of)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm too innocent looking to be on here

Not true based only on the pictures I can see/fab

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I've been told this in messages in the past and most recently today by someone I know away from the site.

What does that actually mean?

Do people really still have such a negative opinion about people on here?

Personally, I was a bit offended by the comments , I think he likely meant well but it's still really irked me.

Is that why so many of us end up thinking that we are good enough for fun but not for more? Are we seen as someone less dateable because of our time here?

I know I need to woman up but now I'm dwelling on the words.

What are your thoughts?

I have had this said in the past OP. And other ridiculous statements from idiots whom I choose to ignore. I’m here because I want to be, as with anyone else on here. How they want to use this site is up to them as long as they understand that if they want to judge anyone else I hope they’ve got the “God” badge already. If not. They can go fuck themselves

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By *unfunfun xMan over a year ago

LONDON

I've only been to one swingers club and that was yrs ago and nothing happened bar chats and drinks so guess I'm a non swinger

I'm a free spirit as it stands.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?

It was some dark humour, I like Frankie Boyle and Jimmy Carr that kind of explains it.

Except for the small point, that they are both intelligent and funny…

But yeah. Whatever hun. You do you.

(Which I imagine you will be doing more and more of)"

Only Nora made a mistake of calling me dumb.

Several people have om to say they like my forum posts.

Believe it not

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?

It was some dark humour, I like Frankie Boyle and Jimmy Carr that kind of explains it.

Except for the small point, that they are both intelligent and funny…

But yeah. Whatever hun. You do you.

(Which I imagine you will be doing more and more of)

Only Nora made a mistake of calling me dumb.

Several people have om to say they like my forum posts.

Believe it not

I did. But I don’t like personal insults and it’s not like me so I apologised. I don’t like you though.

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

Only Nora made a mistake of calling me dumb.

Yes, silly Nora. Being dumb would mean you stopped talking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tell myself this everyday. None of you deserve me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It means they're trying to get in your knickers by playing the "nice" guy. "

My words exactly

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By *ycanNightsMan over a year ago

Workington

"It like the you're hot for a fat lass 'compliment'. They think they're being nice and complimentary but it sounds awful.

When you've had your gastric band fitted then we'll talk

What the actual f.(avoiding ban) is wrong with you?

It was some dark humour, I like Frankie Boyle and Jimmy Carr that kind of explains it.

Except for the small point, that they are both intelligent and funny…

But yeah. Whatever hun. You do you.

(Which I imagine you will be doing more and more of)

Only Nora made a mistake of calling me dumb.

Several people have om to say they like my forum posts.

Believe it not

If they did...wonder why they don't openly post this

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I tell myself this everyday. None of you deserve me."

Actually in your case Brucey. That’s very true

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