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Advice on how to get over nerves please?
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By *eeds89 OP Man
over a year ago
Batley |
So I'm pretty good looking straight guy and straight acting with a GF but I crave more! I enjoy talking to other men and thoughts of doing stuff makes me solid! But when it comes down to actually meeting I always get super nervous. Its like I have a panic attack almost. I think it's because I have a GF and have alot to lose so I keep myself as discreet as possible so don't really send photos which makes it even harder.
Any help and advice people please |
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I'm a bit confused. What's your issue here? You struggle to get meets because you can't send photos or because you're too nervous?
Now I don't care what you do, your moral compass isn't going to be the same as mine. However could the nerves be due to you knowing that it's against your principles to go behind your girlfriends back?
Only you can decide on the way forward but do you want to keep a secret or live a lie for the rest of your life? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd talk to her. Be honest with youself and her..you may be suprised with her reaction. Often its positive.
You may even feel you no longer have the need to actually do anything when its not a secret.
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I think you have two different situations here:
You have a girlfriend - maybe sort that one out first. I would suggest you talk to her and let her know what you need
You need more- once you know where she stands, you can start focusing on this one |
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"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you "
Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though! "
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party |
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"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party "
Relationships mean a lot to couples who play with others? |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party Relationships mean a lot to couples who play with others? "
Still a huge gamble but is it worth it is it fair |
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"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party Relationships mean a lot to couples who play with others?
Still a huge gamble but is it worth it is it fair "
Couples play with others so how does that mean they ain't enough? You are on this site. Lol  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party Relationships mean a lot to couples who play with others?
Still a huge gamble but is it worth it is it fair Couples play with others so how does that mean they ain't enough? You are on this site. Lol "
Because they are aware so no guilt and are happy in doing so.... I'm on this site but also single and wouldn't meet someone who is going behind their partners without them knowing I have standard's my ex cheated and know how it feels  |
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"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party Relationships mean a lot to couples who play with others?
Still a huge gamble but is it worth it is it fair Couples play with others so how does that mean they ain't enough? You are on this site. Lol
Because they are aware so no guilt and are happy in doing so.... I'm on this site but also single and wouldn't meet someone who is going behind their partners without them knowing I have standard's my ex cheated and know how it feels "
That's not what i said? Couples who play with others mean a lot to eachother. Yet you are calling the OP for exploring his sexuality! I've been cheated on too? Lots of us have standards. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party Relationships mean a lot to couples who play with others?
Still a huge gamble but is it worth it is it fair Couples play with others so how does that mean they ain't enough? You are on this site. Lol
Because they are aware so no guilt and are happy in doing so.... I'm on this site but also single and wouldn't meet someone who is going behind their partners without them knowing I have standard's my ex cheated and know how it feels That's not what i said? Couples who play with others mean a lot to eachother. Yet you are calling the OP for exploring his sexuality! I've been cheated on too? Lots of us have standards. "
Yes and they do it because they are comfortable in doing so and still have the love for each other as they are exploring together which means a lot and still keeps relationship values |
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"Hi op
Best way talk to your gf so she can understand how you feel as you can't say you love her if she isn't enough for you Snidey! Does that apply to couples who play with others too? He is maybe exploring his sexuality. OP you do need to talk to your girlfriend though!
It would be a sensible approach especially if you still want to cling on to the relationship that apparently means a lot. Is it fair on the other party Relationships mean a lot to couples who play with others?
Still a huge gamble but is it worth it is it fair Couples play with others so how does that mean they ain't enough? You are on this site. Lol
Because they are aware so no guilt and are happy in doing so.... I'm on this site but also single and wouldn't meet someone who is going behind their partners without them knowing I have standard's my ex cheated and know how it feels That's not what i said? Couples who play with others mean a lot to eachother. Yet you are calling the OP for exploring his sexuality! I've been cheated on too? Lots of us have standards.
Yes and they do it because they are comfortable in doing so and still have the love for each other as they are exploring together which means a lot and still keeps relationship values "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk to your gf and accept that she may not be up for the idea of her man shagging a guy.
Fuck about behind her back and lose her when she finds out or be racked with guilt for cheating on her.
Those are your options. |
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