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By *itstwoo OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle-upon-Tyne |
Do people realise the damage they can do by calling others? Not me a friend on here, has put up with bullying most of her life and for some low life to inbox. Just finished a phone call to calm the person down, told them to block and report. I know it's only like a drop in the ocean, but it hurts to have a friend be so upset. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t they do realise. I learnt early on to grow a thicker skin. Tell your friend its about the bullies own issues that make them be a dick, nothing to do with your friend  |
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"I don’t they do realise. I learnt early on to grow a thicker skin. Tell your friend its about the bullies own issues that make them be a dick, nothing to do with your friend "
They don't think about other people's feelings at all, often |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of the key things about using a site like this, is having a very thick skin.
You WILL experience a LOT of rejection, and a lot of toxicity surrounding said rejection.
That sucks your friend has had a tough time - sadly its an all too often told tale on here. |
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By *itstwoo OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle-upon-Tyne |
I've a thick skin and report, block and move on. But when a person has already been worn down and is on that climb back to being OK with themselves it doesn't take much to hurt them. Thanks everyone  |
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You do have to get a thicker skin! Bullies are often weak and insecure people who project it onto others. Best thing you can do is block and ignore, it kills them as they crave an reaction and attention. |
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Having mental health issues myself I am always careful how I word what I say and prefer to offer kind words above any others. To use the old phrase "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything" |
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"Do people realise the damage they can do by calling others? Not me a friend on here, has put up with bullying most of her life and for some low life to inbox. Just finished a phone call to calm the person down, told them to block and report. I know it's only like a drop in the ocean, but it hurts to have a friend be so upset. "
This site is full of a holes who take a no as an ego knock. Not all men can accept a no and its sad |
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By *itstwoo OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle-upon-Tyne |
"Do people realise the damage they can do by calling others? Not me a friend on here, has put up with bullying most of her life and for some low life to inbox. Just finished a phone call to calm the person down, told them to block and report. I know it's only like a drop in the ocean, but it hurts to have a friend be so upset.
This site is full of a holes who take a no as an ego knock. Not all men can accept a no and its sad"
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By *itstwoo OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle-upon-Tyne |
"Having mental health issues myself I am always careful how I word what I say and prefer to offer kind words above any others. To use the old phrase "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything""
just happy she speaks to me, I always have a listening ear |
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By *itstwoo OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle-upon-Tyne |
"You do have to get a thicker skin! Bullies are often weak and insecure people who project it onto others. Best thing you can do is block and ignore, it kills them as they crave an reaction and attention. "
I always ignore, sometimes it's so satisfying not to reply |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Do people realise the damage they can do by calling others? Not me a friend on here, has put up with bullying most of her life and for some low life to inbox. Just finished a phone call to calm the person down, told them to block and report. I know it's only like a drop in the ocean, but it hurts to have a friend be so upset. "
I think most of us have had a horrible message or two on here. Please tell your friend to try not to dwell on it. Whoever the culprit was, they're not worth wasting precious headspace on x |
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There are always unsavory assholes who feel the need to run others into the ground just cause they feel inadequate or they woke up wrong or they cant get laid! Tell your friend, its not their fault, its the scumbags!
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
southeast , midlands, southern France |
As a kid at school, I was bullied on a daily basis for being fat. It affected me for many years and to this day I still think I'm fat and not attractive, even though people say I'm not. |
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"As a kid at school, I was bullied on a daily basis for being fat. It affected me for many years and to this day I still think I'm fat and not attractive, even though people say I'm not. "
They do affect you to an extent! From experience myself but learning to have a thicker skin helps too. It was their own issues! Hope you know you are enough. |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"As a kid at school, I was bullied on a daily basis for being fat. It affected me for many years and to this day I still think I'm fat and not attractive, even though people say I'm not. "
You're definitely not fat!! You look great in your pics.
I WAS fat- 130lbs heavier & I'm still a big girl in my head...it's hard to undo years of inner dialogue & conditioning  |
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There are low lives on here, there has been for years. Unfortunately some people thrive on putting others down. I receive my fair share of insults. Most of the time I can laugh it off, but words can seriously hurt and can't be unheard (unread). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never been bullied on here. I have a friend who was badly bullied till it affected his mental health and he left. It was forum people doing the bullying in pms"
Not the first time I've heard of this happening. It's the offsite chat groups which are dangerous |
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
southeast , midlands, southern France |
"As a kid at school, I was bullied on a daily basis for being fat. It affected me for many years and to this day I still think I'm fat and not attractive, even though people say I'm not.
You're definitely not fat!! You look great in your pics.
I WAS fat- 130lbs heavier & I'm still a big girl in my head...it's hard to undo years of inner dialogue & conditioning "
Thank you JL 0464.
Look look amazing x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"This may seem controversial but in my experience on here,
Woman are some of the worst bullys on here. "
I think they are just as capable as any gender, less likely to do it openly , will also use wanky men on here to do it for them. Broken people everywhere hurting each other  |
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
southeast , midlands, southern France |
"As a kid at school, I was bullied on a daily basis for being fat. It affected me for many years and to this day I still think I'm fat and not attractive, even though people say I'm not. They do affect you to an extent! From experience myself but learning to have a thicker skin helps too. It was their own issues! Hope you know you are enough. "
Thank you for you kind words Magic Mouth x |
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It's the bullies that are the sad people and that is their only way to be noticed. They only deserve the block button (and report l, if appropriate) and not another thought from then on, whatever their vitriol |
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There used to be someone who started using the forums a couple of years ago claiming he was only here to out all the people who were bullying a friend of his.
He then proceeded over a couple of months to post some of the nastiest most misogynistic crap I've seen on the forums and attacked anyone who challenged him.
Then as quickly as he arrived he announced he had shown fab who the true forum bullies were and flounced out again.
There are 3 sides to most stories on fab. |
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"As a kid at school, I was bullied on a daily basis for being fat. It affected me for many years and to this day I still think I'm fat and not attractive, even though people say I'm not. They do affect you to an extent! From experience myself but learning to have a thicker skin helps too. It was their own issues! Hope you know you are enough.
Thank you for you kind words Magic Mouth x"
Aww you are welcome! X |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"As a kid at school, I was bullied on a daily basis for being fat. It affected me for many years and to this day I still think I'm fat and not attractive, even though people say I'm not.
You're definitely not fat!! You look great in your pics.
I WAS fat- 130lbs heavier & I'm still a big girl in my head...it's hard to undo years of inner dialogue & conditioning
Thank you JL 0464.
Look look amazing x"
You're welcome and thank you x |
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