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"I'm feeling good at the moment also Arty. Had a lovely day with my daughter yesterday. I've got this week off work and I've planned a little solo road trip which I'm quite proud of myself for doing Glad you are feeling better and giving the booze a rest is a great idea x" good for you getting out on a rd trip x | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults!" not looking for a clinical assessment or prognosis its just a weekly post that people check in as they say its good to talk | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults!" I think that's quite disrespectful and lacking in empathy and knowledge. Those of us who have struggled for years often have an excellent understanding of our mental health and know when we are doing okay and when we are struggling | |||
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"Fucked as always. Just the way I like it. The mr " Ditto | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults! I think that's quite disrespectful and lacking in empathy and knowledge. Those of us who have struggled for years often have an excellent understanding of our mental health and know when we are doing okay and when we are struggling " | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults!" Are you not aware of your own thoughts and feelings and how they are affecting you and whether you need to do something to look after yourself? | |||
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"Has been on and off. But I've had lot going on. Hopefully there is a bright future ahead. I can sense it x" Soon be spring warmer lighter evenings | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults! Are you not aware of your own thoughts and feelings and how they are affecting you and whether you need to do something to look after yourself? " AKA - paralysis by analysis? | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults! Are you not aware of your own thoughts and feelings and how they are affecting you and whether you need to do something to look after yourself? AKA - paralysis by analysis?" Nothing to do with knowing your triggers and coping strategies and when to practice some self care what you have misquoted is below Analysis paralysis is when the fear of either making an error or forgoing a superior solution outweighs the realistic expectation or potential value of success . | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. I have always been self reliant, so perhaps I am not best placed to appreciate neediness but my perception is that we, in this country, are turning ourselves into a nation of dependents incapable of running our own lioves without the Government paying for all manner of benefits. Good job we don't live in Ukraine, Turkey or Syria - how would we cope as a nation?" I don't thibk you could be more wrong. Attitudes like this literally cost people's lives. I'm glad you are so string and self resilient, many of us aren't though and it's good to talk and share and empathise. People shouldn’t shut these conversations down | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. I have always been self reliant, so perhaps I am not best placed to appreciate neediness but my perception is that we, in this country, are turning ourselves into a nation of dependents incapable of running our own lioves without the Government paying for all manner of benefits. Good job we don't live in Ukraine, Turkey or Syria - how would we cope as a nation?" My God!!! You have absolutely no clue, understanding or empathy in the slightest! Jesus wept! | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. I have always been self reliant, so perhaps I am not best placed to appreciate neediness but my perception is that we, in this country, are turning ourselves into a nation of dependents incapable of running our own lioves without the Government paying for all manner of benefits. Good job we don't live in Ukraine, Turkey or Syria - how would we cope as a nation?" So you are saying that mental health issues don't exist and are just made up, that really is some statement to make. | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. I have always been self reliant, so perhaps I am not best placed to appreciate neediness but my perception is that we, in this country, are turning ourselves into a nation of dependents incapable of running our own lioves without the Government paying for all manner of benefits. Good job we don't live in Ukraine, Turkey or Syria - how would we cope as a nation?" I am extremely self reliant and extremely strong. Comes from various traumas in my life and having to deal with them on my own in the main. Seeking help and fighting to overcome your demons is not needy it shows strength. Open your mind before you comment on a thread that is intended to support people | |||
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"You all have the right to express your views, as do I to disagree all of your broadly incorrect assumptions. Good job we ain't being invaded innit!" never assume anything makes an ass of you and me, you have no idea of anyones story to as you say assume they are incorrect. And if we were invaded what would you do | |||
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"You all have the right to express your views, as do I to disagree all of your broadly incorrect assumptions. Good job we ain't being invaded innit!" I'm genuinely lost by where war comes in to it? | |||
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" And if we were invaded what would you do " Like evryone else I have no idea, but whingeing about every mishap will not help. Try to survive and don't expect any help from anyone else anytime soon I guess? How about you. | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults!" I actually think people are more honest on here. It's pretty much anonymous if you want it to be. | |||
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"Mine is currently a roller coaster, I'm not enjoying it." I've been there too and I wish you all the best for the future. | |||
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" And if we were invaded what would you do Like evryone else I have no idea, but whingeing about every mishap will not help. Try to survive and don't expect any help from anyone else anytime soon I guess? How about you." Did yiu just equate mental health with "whinging about every mishap"? | |||
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" And if we were invaded what would you do Like evryone else I have no idea, but whingeing about every mishap will not help. Try to survive and don't expect any help from anyone else anytime soon I guess? How about you. Did yiu just equate mental health with "whinging about every mishap"? " I think he did you know…. Very erudite. | |||
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" Anyone with a chemical imbalance in their brain should be shot and thrown on the scrap heap. Get an education before you post on topics you either know nothing about or have a complete prejudice regarding. " Chemical imbalance is actually a myth... | |||
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"You all have the right to express your views, as do I to disagree all of your broadly incorrect assumptions. Good job we ain't being invaded innit!" It isn't a post asking for people's views on mental health. It's a post asking how is your mental health. If you don't want to share then don't coment | |||
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" Did yiu just equate mental health with "whinging about every mishap"? " No I did not - you made that 2 + 2 = 5 | |||
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" And if we were invaded what would you do Like evryone else I have no idea, but whingeing about every mishap will not help. Try to survive and don't expect any help from anyone else anytime soon I guess? How about you." Me well theoretically I am still wishing the age to be called back to my regiment that I served in for 12 years from 89 to 2001 in various places, so who knows maybe looking after you, that would be with the other veterans suffering mental health issues that are made up. | |||
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" Did yiu just equate mental health with "whinging about every mishap"? No I did not - you made that 2 + 2 = 5" Well i based ot on your words. So when yiu said "whinging about every mishap won't help" what did you mean? | |||
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" Anyone with a chemical imbalance in their brain should be shot and thrown on the scrap heap. Get an education before you post on topics you either know nothing about or have a complete prejudice regarding. Chemical imbalance is actually a myth... " Nessie is a myth. Chemical imbalance is simply a hypothesis that has yet to be definitively proved or unproved. Until that proof arrives one way or another I’m open to that explanation for causing my various issues. | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. I have always been self reliant, so perhaps I am not best placed to appreciate neediness but my perception is that we, in this country, are turning ourselves into a nation of dependents incapable of running our own lioves without the Government paying for all manner of benefits. Good job we don't live in Ukraine, Turkey or Syria - how would we cope as a nation?" You are conflating two different things - everyone has mental health, just like everyone has physical health. Not everyone has mental health issues/problems. The media has done a good job in highlighting the importance of being curious about, and interested in our feelings about things, as a possible way of preventing it leading to mental health problems. Have you ever been interesed in your own feelings? Might self-reliance be a defence against fears of asking others for help? What is so frightening for you about being dependant on others? Don't you have needs just like any other person? The pejorative use of "neediness" is unhelpful and is not the same as the importance of people being encouraged to 'check in' with themselves and others. | |||
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" Anyone with a chemical imbalance in their brain should be shot and thrown on the scrap heap. Get an education before you post on topics you either know nothing about or have a complete prejudice regarding. Chemical imbalance is actually a myth... Nessie is a myth. Chemical imbalance is simply a hypothesis that has yet to be definitively proved or unproved. Until that proof arrives one way or another I’m open to that explanation for causing my various issues. " There's no tests for it, so people shouldn't be diagnosed using that phrase. I was told that when I had severe post natal depression, it was actually vitamin deficiency, but they didn't bother to do blood tests. | |||
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" Anyone with a chemical imbalance in their brain should be shot and thrown on the scrap heap. Get an education before you post on topics you either know nothing about or have a complete prejudice regarding. Chemical imbalance is actually a myth... Nessie is a myth. Chemical imbalance is simply a hypothesis that has yet to be definitively proved or unproved. Until that proof arrives one way or another I’m open to that explanation for causing my various issues. There's no tests for it, so people shouldn't be diagnosed using that phrase. I was told that when I had severe post natal depression, it was actually vitamin deficiency, but they didn't bother to do blood tests. " Exactly. There’s no tests to prove or disprove it. Therefore I’m open to that hypothesis and interpretation. It’s a working theory that many credible scientists have leant their weight too. To say it’s a Myth is a tad dismissive when there’s no proof for it either way. | |||
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" I was told that when I had severe post natal depression, it was actually vitamin deficiency, but they didn't bother to do blood tests. " PND IS real - very real - my first wife went though it and it was awful for her and I do sympathise. Eventually it went away without any obvious reason so there is hope, but it took a while and a lot of support. | |||
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" I was told that when I had severe post natal depression, it was actually vitamin deficiency, but they didn't bother to do blood tests. PND IS real - very real - my first wife went though it and it was awful for her and I do sympathise. Eventually it went away without any obvious reason so there is hope, but it took a while and a lot of support. " so some is real not made up by the press etc | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. " So mental health is all down to the media and PC brigade But also because you've personally experienced PND that is real. So which mental health conditions aren't real? | |||
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"Mines always the same. Self doubt Negativity No confidence Anxiety A mental block that stops me speaking to people yet il walk home a talk bollocks put loud to myself. I'm a barrel of laughs " talking to yourself is sometimes the best conversation lol | |||
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"Asking anyone to assess their own mental health is a bit like asking a dodgy car salesman if the cars he sells have any known faults!" What absolute rubbish. Knowing oneself and being in touch with one's mental health is a highly personal thing. Medical diagnosis and how you are currently feeling are two very different things. I suggest you retract your comment and try to have a better understanding and a broader view. | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. I have always been self reliant, so perhaps I am not best placed to appreciate neediness but my perception is that we, in this country, are turning ourselves into a nation of dependents incapable of running our own lioves without the Government paying for all manner of benefits. Good job we don't live in Ukraine, Turkey or Syria - how would we cope as a nation?" You have got to be joking surely ? It’s attitudes like yours that cost lives , especially so of men . | |||
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"I was also curious for those who do, if it’s highly visible through black tights , does than mean it’s new and would you go out with a friend and expect them to ask or comment or more likely avoid going out with them ,? " Personally, if it was a friend that I knew had a history of self harming, I'd bring it up. If it was a friend who I knew had mental health issues I'd ask how they were but not mention the self harming unless they did | |||
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"Good morning lounge dwellers, weekly check in to see how we are all feeling. Mine was up and down last week but I had a good weekend and I have decided to take a break from the booze, I been kicking the arse out of it lately and I know it only temporarily masks the issue, but the reality is it just compounds the issue. So new week new opportunities, weather permitting I shall be back in the river this week for my cold water stuff, being among nature in my happy space. Hope you are all as well as can be and remember ITS OK TO NOT BE OK My ears always here Take care and have a great week Much love to you all xx " Are you a CPN or a psychologist? | |||
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"Wouldn't normally say anything on here but it's been very hard lately. Not for me but for him. Watching him and looking after him, is heartbreaking at times x" hope things get better even if its a slow progress it's a improvement | |||
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"Has been on and off. But I've had lot going on. Hopefully there is a bright future ahead. I can sense it x Soon be spring warmer lighter evenings " I do struggle from SAD. I'd love travel away for the winter months but I love Christmas in London too much x | |||
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"My perception is that before the media and the PC brigade got hold of it nobody thought they had a mental health issue but now many have talked themselves into believing that they do and they need special help. I have always been self reliant, so perhaps I am not best placed to appreciate neediness but my perception is that we, in this country, are turning ourselves into a nation of dependents incapable of running our own lioves without the Government paying for all manner of benefits. Good job we don't live in Ukraine, Turkey or Syria - how would we cope as a nation?" well was gonna post here but with an attitude like yours wont bother admin can ban me but u are an arsehole with no empathy feelings or understanding of mental health we all suffer its just in the past it was all hid away in mental hospitals asylums and the likes nowadays we have the internet to talk about it and try get it out of our systems as for some people sometimes a simple chat on the likes of here could save a life if u cant see that ur a sad operson and really REALLY need help | |||
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"Mind my language But it’s well and truly fucked I wish I wasn’t in this world anymore " I KNOW Exactly what you mean, what a selfish ignorant world but its magical when you come across the opposite of that. Keeps us going through each day and week and month and year | |||
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"Mind my language But it’s well and truly fucked I wish I wasn’t in this world anymore I KNOW Exactly what you mean, what a selfish ignorant world but its magical when you come across the opposite of that. Keeps us going through each day and week and month and year" if thats ment for me yea sorry about the tone i took but say it as i see it its just sad some people dont aknowledge mental health issues no wonder alot of people hide it and end up doing the unthinkable | |||
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"Mind my language But it’s well and truly fucked I wish I wasn’t in this world anymore I KNOW Exactly what you mean, what a selfish ignorant world but its magical when you come across the opposite of that. Keeps us going through each day and week and month and year" Oh my days thank you for understanding | |||
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"Refreshing post to see! Mental health is a serious issue! Iv personally been at the very lowest point and fought my way back to the top! #itsoktotalk" Agreed | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. " Not for everyone, sadly. | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly." If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression " I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness " Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness " Depression and anxiety are both classified as mental illnesses. In their own right or as symptoms of other illnesses. | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill" No I don't need educating .. other people need educating on how the brain works .. it's a powerful thing.. your attitude is implying if you have depression you can't get out of it .. I'm saying you can if you set your mind to it.. your not born depressed it's normally a traumatic event .. and you can get past that | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Depression and anxiety are both classified as mental illnesses. In their own right or as symptoms of other illnesses." Of course they will be.. get you on the never ending never fixing pharmaceutical drugs | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill No I don't need educating .. other people need educating on how the brain works .. it's a powerful thing.. your attitude is implying if you have depression you can't get out of it .. I'm saying you can if you set your mind to it.. your not born depressed it's normally a traumatic event .. and you can get past that " OK. You can just decide not to have, for example, PTSD can you? That is massively exciting news. | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill No I don't need educating .. other people need educating on how the brain works .. it's a powerful thing.. your attitude is implying if you have depression you can't get out of it .. I'm saying you can if you set your mind to it.. your not born depressed it's normally a traumatic event .. and you can get past that " Of course you can recover from depression! I'm back to my normal self.. I needed a little help with meds but now I don't take anything! It does take a strong mind and will power but also having help around you is key! | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill No I don't need educating .. other people need educating on how the brain works .. it's a powerful thing.. your attitude is implying if you have depression you can't get out of it .. I'm saying you can if you set your mind to it.. your not born depressed it's normally a traumatic event .. and you can get past that Of course you can recover from depression! I'm back to my normal self.. I needed a little help with meds but now I don't take anything! It does take a strong mind and will power but also having help around you is key!" I was also in a very bad place my family tried to get me to take meds luckily my doctor said I'm too strong minded I just need time to heal and sleep properly .. I was in a very bad place 6-7 years ago I'll never let myself be like that again .. I don't accept these thoughts or feelings.. I started kick boxing which was a great help .. you can sit and feel sorry and accept the negativity and fall in a hole or you can say fuck you watch this and push on | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill No I don't need educating .. other people need educating on how the brain works .. it's a powerful thing.. your attitude is implying if you have depression you can't get out of it .. I'm saying you can if you set your mind to it.. your not born depressed it's normally a traumatic event .. and you can get past that Of course you can recover from depression! I'm back to my normal self.. I needed a little help with meds but now I don't take anything! It does take a strong mind and will power but also having help around you is key! I was also in a very bad place my family tried to get me to take meds luckily my doctor said I'm too strong minded I just need time to heal and sleep properly .. I was in a very bad place 6-7 years ago I'll never let myself be like that again .. I don't accept these thoughts or feelings.. I started kick boxing which was a great help .. you can sit and feel sorry and accept the negativity and fall in a hole or you can say fuck you watch this and push on " You know what, you are clearly an expert. The rest of us just need to be "strong minded" and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill No I don't need educating .. other people need educating on how the brain works .. it's a powerful thing.. your attitude is implying if you have depression you can't get out of it .. I'm saying you can if you set your mind to it.. your not born depressed it's normally a traumatic event .. and you can get past that Of course you can recover from depression! I'm back to my normal self.. I needed a little help with meds but now I don't take anything! It does take a strong mind and will power but also having help around you is key! I was also in a very bad place my family tried to get me to take meds luckily my doctor said I'm too strong minded I just need time to heal and sleep properly .. I was in a very bad place 6-7 years ago I'll never let myself be like that again .. I don't accept these thoughts or feelings.. I started kick boxing which was a great help .. you can sit and feel sorry and accept the negativity and fall in a hole or you can say fuck you watch this and push on " Not everyone is as strong minded as you say you are. All I'm saying is some people need help to recover from mental illness! To everyone and anyone here! My inbox is always open if you need a chat! I will always reply if your subject is HELP | |||
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".. mind set and mental health is the one thing we have control over in this world .. Not for everyone, sadly. If we had control over it there wouldn't be as many suicides from people with depression I knew when I commented No one else would understand .. once you accept something it takes control of you .. parents doctors label you medicate you your fucked .. I accept people can feel depressed. I refuse to accept it's an illness Then you need educating a little bro! Coming from experience I know I wasn't myself when I was ill No I don't need educating .. other people need educating on how the brain works .. it's a powerful thing.. your attitude is implying if you have depression you can't get out of it .. I'm saying you can if you set your mind to it.. your not born depressed it's normally a traumatic event .. and you can get past that Of course you can recover from depression! I'm back to my normal self.. I needed a little help with meds but now I don't take anything! It does take a strong mind and will power but also having help around you is key! I was also in a very bad place my family tried to get me to take meds luckily my doctor said I'm too strong minded I just need time to heal and sleep properly .. I was in a very bad place 6-7 years ago I'll never let myself be like that again .. I don't accept these thoughts or feelings.. I started kick boxing which was a great help .. you can sit and feel sorry and accept the negativity and fall in a hole or you can say fuck you watch this and push on Not everyone is as strong minded as you say you are. All I'm saying is some people need help to recover from mental illness! To everyone and anyone here! My inbox is always open if you need a chat! I will always reply if your subject is HELP" I hear you bro | |||
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"I haven’t been well for a long time but life says u have to keep going You dont have yo do it alone x" Touché | |||
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"I haven’t been well for a long time but life says u have to keep going " You do have to keep going mate FairPlay for acknowledging that !! Keep up that mentality never surrender | |||
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" I was told that when I had severe post natal depression, it was actually vitamin deficiency, but they didn't bother to do blood tests. PND IS real - very real - my first wife went though it and it was awful for her and I do sympathise. Eventually it went away without any obvious reason so there is hope, but it took a while and a lot of support. so some is real not made up by the press etc " I think you may find that he is agreeing with one persons post and being dismissive with everyone elses ….. I wonder if there could be a reason ? But back to the OP question - not too good but I’m aware of the black dog and keeping my eye on him | |||
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" I was told that when I had severe post natal depression, it was actually vitamin deficiency, but they didn't bother to do blood tests. PND IS real - very real - my first wife went though it and it was awful for her and I do sympathise. Eventually it went away without any obvious reason so there is hope, but it took a while and a lot of support. so some is real not made up by the press etc I think you may find that he is agreeing with one persons post and being dismissive with everyone elses ….. I wonder if there could be a reason ? But back to the OP question - not too good but I’m aware of the black dog and keeping my eye on him " Aware is good. With a bit if luck he'll get bored and piss off | |||
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"I’m bothered by a few posts in this thread. Firstly, if you’re of the mindset that mental health is a recent phenomenon that is made up by attention seekers and people need to grow some balls and get over it then it’s probably best your opinions are kept within your own head. Secondly, there is no ‘one size fits all’ cure for mental health issues, more a spectrum of different things that will help some but not others and vice versa. Thirdly, it is almost impossible to explain your mental health problems in a post on the internet and I would strongly advise anyone who isn’t feeling right to go and see their gp or contact one of the many helplines out there. Fourthly, there should be no shame in asking for help and anyone who does make that step should be applauded for taking back control of their own life and headspace. Fifthly, there are so many different types of talking therapies out there that even if one or another doesn’t work for you personally, keep going until you find one that works. Sixthly, every one of us random strangers on a sex site that have said ‘my inbox is always open for those who need help’ does mean it and would much prefer to listen and offer advice than to find out you’ve made a permanent decision that can’t be undone. Finally, we all deserve to be here and we all deserve to have a decent quality of life regardless of what our inner demons may tell us " Perfectly written | |||
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"I’m bothered by a few posts in this thread. Firstly, if you’re of the mindset that mental health is a recent phenomenon that is made up by attention seekers and people need to grow some balls and get over it then it’s probably best your opinions are kept within your own head. Secondly, there is no ‘one size fits all’ cure for mental health issues, more a spectrum of different things that will help some but not others and vice versa. Thirdly, it is almost impossible to explain your mental health problems in a post on the internet and I would strongly advise anyone who isn’t feeling right to go and see their gp or contact one of the many helplines out there. Fourthly, there should be no shame in asking for help and anyone who does make that step should be applauded for taking back control of their own life and headspace. Fifthly, there are so many different types of talking therapies out there that even if one or another doesn’t work for you personally, keep going until you find one that works. Sixthly, every one of us random strangers on a sex site that have said ‘my inbox is always open for those who need help’ does mean it and would much prefer to listen and offer advice than to find out you’ve made a permanent decision that can’t be undone. Finally, we all deserve to be here and we all deserve to have a decent quality of life regardless of what our inner demons may tell us " Your right on every point. I don’t think people can really understand until they have suffered or seem someone they are close to suffer. When you’ve spent a few nights in A&E, when you’ve found the hidden blades, seen the scars, watched someone slipping away you do understand, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. It’s not for everyone , it’s more useful for healthy people like me actually to maintain mental well-being , if you are Ill you need actual help not books, but the Somatic Toolbox, 125 Worksheets , it’s an invaluable tool. | |||
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"I’m bothered by a few posts in this thread. Firstly, if you’re of the mindset that mental health is a recent phenomenon that is made up by attention seekers and people need to grow some balls and get over it then it’s probably best your opinions are kept within your own head. Secondly, there is no ‘one size fits all’ cure for mental health issues, more a spectrum of different things that will help some but not others and vice versa. Thirdly, it is almost impossible to explain your mental health problems in a post on the internet and I would strongly advise anyone who isn’t feeling right to go and see their gp or contact one of the many helplines out there. Fourthly, there should be no shame in asking for help and anyone who does make that step should be applauded for taking back control of their own life and headspace. Fifthly, there are so many different types of talking therapies out there that even if one or another doesn’t work for you personally, keep going until you find one that works. Sixthly, every one of us random strangers on a sex site that have said ‘my inbox is always open for those who need help’ does mean it and would much prefer to listen and offer advice than to find out you’ve made a permanent decision that can’t be undone. Finally, we all deserve to be here and we all deserve to have a decent quality of life regardless of what our inner demons may tell us " This. So much this. While, of course, a thread about mental health should include positives as well as people struggling, I've always considered this type of thread a supportive and emphatic space. No one is looking for a diagnosis or medical help just a few words of support. Because sometimes that is all we need. Even when that support is coming from strangers on a swinging site. And to me, these threads have been about reducing the stigma around mental health, because that is the one thing that sharing and being open does. It's saddened me to see some of the responses that seem to pander to the worst negative stereotypes of mental health abd that 'manning up' is all we need | |||
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" It's saddened me to see some of the responses that seem to pander to the worst negative stereotypes of mental health abd that 'manning up' is all we need " Do you really believe that your private message, followed by blocking to prevent a reply, is in any way constructive - but if it's helpful to you then that is OK I guess. | |||
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"Had a massive panic attack today whilst on driving lesson. Now got it into my head I'll never be able to drive. Getting very pissed off with my brain." There’s a very good book called At Last A Life by Paul David that I found very helpful when I used to have panic attacks. The main takeaway is that accepting the panic attack and allowing it to happen takes the power away from it and it goes away a lot quicker. Deffo worth getting a copy off Amazon | |||
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"Good morning lounge dwellers, weekly check in to see how we are all feeling. Mine was up and down last week but I had a good weekend and I have decided to take a break from the booze, I been kicking the arse out of it lately and I know it only temporarily masks the issue, but the reality is it just compounds the issue. So new week new opportunities, weather permitting I shall be back in the river this week for my cold water stuff, being among nature in my happy space. Hope you are all as well as can be and remember ITS OK TO NOT BE OK My ears always here Take care and have a great week Much love to you all xx " Mine has been awful this week. Dad in hospital all week, best mates funeral, and a few other bits to worry about too. But getting better | |||
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"Good morning lounge dwellers, weekly check in to see how we are all feeling. Mine was up and down last week but I had a good weekend and I have decided to take a break from the booze, I been kicking the arse out of it lately and I know it only temporarily masks the issue, but the reality is it just compounds the issue. So new week new opportunities, weather permitting I shall be back in the river this week for my cold water stuff, being among nature in my happy space. Hope you are all as well as can be and remember ITS OK TO NOT BE OK My ears always here Take care and have a great week Much love to you all xx Mine has been awful this week. Dad in hospital all week, best mates funeral, and a few other bits to worry about too. But getting better " One day at a time fella, it gets better | |||
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"Good morning lounge dwellers, weekly check in to see how we are all feeling. Mine was up and down last week but I had a good weekend and I have decided to take a break from the booze, I been kicking the arse out of it lately and I know it only temporarily masks the issue, but the reality is it just compounds the issue. So new week new opportunities, weather permitting I shall be back in the river this week for my cold water stuff, being among nature in my happy space. Hope you are all as well as can be and remember ITS OK TO NOT BE OK My ears always here Take care and have a great week Much love to you all xx Mine has been awful this week. Dad in hospital all week, best mates funeral, and a few other bits to worry about too. But getting better One day at a time fella, it gets better " Thank you! It does and have been working on it over the last year or so but just has just been a particularly tough week. | |||
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"So many men on this " Has always been harder for men to be heard and treated for mental health issues in society. So not surprised more men on here than women. | |||
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"So many men on this Has always been harder for men to be heard and treated for mental health issues in society. So not surprised more men on here than women. " Not that its harder its just men find it harder to talk and bottle things up | |||
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"As the kids say these days, not far off a full on menty b. So drinking at home alone tonight to forget my worries for a few hours. To anyone else struggling, try and stay strong. " yea same drinking at home alone it can be a bitch trying to stay strong especially when others dont no the story of ur past and having an ex belittle ya | |||
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"As the kids say these days, not far off a full on menty b. So drinking at home alone tonight to forget my worries for a few hours. To anyone else struggling, try and stay strong. yea same drinking at home alone it can be a bitch trying to stay strong especially when others dont no the story of ur past and having an ex belittle ya " Going out is so expensive and as you get older it's like the sad old guy on his own in the corner don't know what is worse. | |||
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"As the kids say these days, not far off a full on menty b. So drinking at home alone tonight to forget my worries for a few hours. To anyone else struggling, try and stay strong. yea same drinking at home alone it can be a bitch trying to stay strong especially when others dont no the story of ur past and having an ex belittle ya Going out is so expensive and as you get older it's like the sad old guy on his own in the corner don't know what is worse. " so true price of drink is stupid and drinking alone aint fun and being in company for buying rounds is too expensive a no win situation | |||
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"Finally back at work after 6 months of after someone tried to commit suicide using a mode of transport I was driving. Work were great and have a comprehensive trauma support for such incidents. However what I hadn't bargained for was the amount of unrelated trauma the incident dredged up so I have spent the last months facing a lot of childhood trauma which has been pretty hard to acknowledge and admit and also link them to who I am today. In a better place than I was but today was pretty rough for no apparent reason. TOMORROW WILL BE BETTER " While that is a shit situation to be in right now, in the long run you’ll be a lot better than you were before without even realising it. The trauma support you’ve got is obviously working as it’s helping you deal with everything not just the incident. Keep going, there’s always bad days but they don’t mean the good days have stopped | |||
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"Generally in the toilet mental health wise , there is always tomorrow, but the fucking toilet is still there ! " The toilet will always be there. Eventually it’ll be so insignificant you won’t even notice it. Have you been to see your gp? You got this | |||
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"Was bad for a while but that was my fault. Working, running a business and then financially helping a friend with there's took it out of me. Was getting little or no sleep until things settled down. Sometimes it's difficult to stop when you have too" Time to put yourself first. You’re the most important person in your life and that needs to be your focus above everything else | |||
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"So so. I've run out of meds AGAIN thanks to the stupid doctors surgery not putting my order in. No doubt I'll have another "episode" at some point " Have you used the nhs app? You can link it to your drs so every month you just log on and order from it, goes straight to your pharmacy. Also the pharmacy is allowed to give you an emergency short term prescription if it’s on repeat, even if it’s only a few days worth to get you through | |||
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"I’ve never really considered that question until now. I guess it’s the same as it’s always been. " And what is that? Are you happy with it or does it need some work? | |||
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"So many men on this Has always been harder for men to be heard and treated for mental health issues in society. So not surprised more men on here than women. " let’s change this | |||
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"Not so good today. Reached breaking point. " Can we help? Even if it’s just listening! | |||
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"I'm finding more inner peace and letting go of anger/ frustration recently. The example being my dad being not the best Dad and I've kept him at arms length for sometime. He's old now and unwell, its not forgiveness but acceptance from my part and it feels better, inhale hate, exhale love I guess. My mental health is pretty good, hope you are doing ok OP. " Acceptance is enough and credit to you for managing it! | |||
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"As the kids say these days, not far off a full on menty b. So drinking at home alone tonight to forget my worries for a few hours. To anyone else struggling, try and stay strong. " Drinking alone is not the answer, you know this. Get a notebook and start scribbling down everything that comes to mind, whether it makes sense or not then you can start seeing the problems a bit more clearly and working out if they’re within your control or not | |||
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"As the kids say these days, not far off a full on menty b. So drinking at home alone tonight to forget my worries for a few hours. To anyone else struggling, try and stay strong. yea same drinking at home alone it can be a bitch trying to stay strong especially when others dont no the story of ur past and having an ex belittle ya Going out is so expensive and as you get older it's like the sad old guy on his own in the corner don't know what is worse. " Do you need to go drinking? Can you go out and try other things to meet people? | |||
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"I’ll be suprised if I see 2024. Always struggled with my mental health, but getting worse and worse, despite pleading for help to drs etc just getting passed Around like pass the parcel " Keep going back. Try a different gp. Try the phone helplines. Ask for the mental health crisis team in your area | |||
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"and people wonder why others go through bad times ive just had a very abusive message from a male cause i turned him down he wanted me then when i said sorry im busy called me fat ugly and no one would fuck me and yea i no im fat and ugly at least to the him that had no pic mine is true to me " Other peoples opinions and actions are a reflection of them, not you. Don’t take things to heart from rude people on the internet, they don’t know you and you do | |||
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"My mum passed away on Xmas day losing her battle to cancer. Her final moments were quite traumatic for both of us. And whilst I feel I am dealing with her actual passing in a manageable manner, I now feel that I am struggling with filling the void. I've been on a couple of unsuccessful Tinder dates since which, although came with no expectations, being ghosted by both has knocked my confidence somewhat. I feel irritable around people familiar to me and sought refuge in the company of strangers and I guess it was refreshing to get to know people unfamiliar with my situation as a distraction. Being on Fab seemed to exasperate the feeling of alienation so I limited my use of it as much as possible. I'm loathe to admit it to anyone as it comes with stigma, but I actually feel lonely. And of course it can easily come across as being needy if carelessly conveyed which is not attractive so I kinda find it hard to know how to act right now even though I find myself mostly alone these days. " I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I remember you posting about you starting to care for her at about the same time my Grandad died. Lots of people on here are happy to listen but don't suffer alone. There are lots of charity type places offering support, like Andy's Man Club, and your GP can refer for grief counselling. We have a Bereavement Café session that happens monthly, near us, and you just turn up. Sending you all the best | |||
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"I have BPD ( borderline personality disorder) Luckily this can be helped by heavy going therapy, group and one on one sessions .we use ( currently) MBT metallisation based therapy . I’ve done group sessions before , but this is my second one and I started 3 weeks ago What I’m finding is how deep my ‘shyness’ is I struggle to speak go bright red and feel hot and sweaty .. and feel completely crushed . But … I won’t give up ! As much as I want to run away from this .luckily I’m discovering just how deep this ,inability to connect with others, goes how long and what I’ve lost due to it . I’ve managed to become a hermit type character by pushing people away or avoiding social interactions. What I know is that you have to become very ‘uncomfortable’ with the process of rebuilding but I’m finding it so bloody hard . First time I’ve seen this thread -it feels good to write down how I feel even if it only makes sense to me … " Well done for writing it down, keep using these threads for that purpose, if it helps you. And best wishes for your therapy sessions, I hope they are helpful and you are able to continue to benefit from them. | |||
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"My mum passed away on Xmas day losing her battle to cancer. Her final moments were quite traumatic for both of us. And whilst I feel I am dealing with her actual passing in a manageable manner, I now feel that I am struggling with filling the void. I've been on a couple of unsuccessful Tinder dates since which, although came with no expectations, being ghosted by both has knocked my confidence somewhat. I feel irritable around people familiar to me and sought refuge in the company of strangers and I guess it was refreshing to get to know people unfamiliar with my situation as a distraction. Being on Fab seemed to exasperate the feeling of alienation so I limited my use of it as much as possible. I'm loathe to admit it to anyone as it comes with stigma, but I actually feel lonely. And of course it can easily come across as being needy if carelessly conveyed which is not attractive so I kinda find it hard to know how to act right now even though I find myself mostly alone these days. " I’m sorry to hear about your mum. You seem really self aware which is great. Give yourself time to recover and don’t try to run before you can walk. Sometimes sitting with the down feelings can be helpful to your recovery and when the good ones come, embrace them | |||
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"I have BPD ( borderline personality disorder) Luckily this can be helped by heavy going therapy, group and one on one sessions .we use ( currently) MBT metallisation based therapy . I’ve done group sessions before , but this is my second one and I started 3 weeks ago What I’m finding is how deep my ‘shyness’ is I struggle to speak go bright red and feel hot and sweaty .. and feel completely crushed . But … I won’t give up ! As much as I want to run away from this .luckily I’m discovering just how deep this ,inability to connect with others, goes how long and what I’ve lost due to it . I’ve managed to become a hermit type character by pushing people away or avoiding social interactions. What I know is that you have to become very ‘uncomfortable’ with the process of rebuilding but I’m finding it so bloody hard . First time I’ve seen this thread -it feels good to write down how I feel even if it only makes sense to me … " Well done! The hardest step is always the first step. Once you’ve identified the problems and where they came from you can start fixing them and it sounds like you’re definitely on the right path | |||
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"Awwwwww chicken good for you being there for people, it's so easy to turn your back and concentrate on dik pics excuse poor humour but it's true, but what you're doing is great. just sometimes one message is enough so huge respect from me too " Thank you so much always here if anyone needs anything, tbh dick pics get boring after you’ve seen the first eleventy million | |||
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" I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I remember you posting about you starting to care for her at about the same time my Grandad died. Lots of people on here are happy to listen but don't suffer alone. There are lots of charity type places offering support, like Andy's Man Club, and your GP can refer for grief counselling. We have a Bereavement Café session that happens monthly, near us, and you just turn up. Sending you all the best " Ah wow... I posted that NYE 2020. I'm really amazed anybody would remember. Really amazing. | |||
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" I’m sorry to hear about your mum. You seem really self aware which is great. Give yourself time to recover and don’t try to run before you can walk. Sometimes sitting with the down feelings can be helpful to your recovery and when the good ones come, embrace them " I feel I've mourned and grieved her passing already. But now I'm left with a void and unable to connect with anyone which isn't problematic in itself right now and it has 'only' been 3 months. But 3 months could easily turn into half a year and then a year. It just feels depressingly lonely! I don't want sympathy which is what my friends and family would offer. I just want to feel different to what I have. Is this still part of grieving/bereavement? | |||
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" I’m sorry to hear about your mum. You seem really self aware which is great. Give yourself time to recover and don’t try to run before you can walk. Sometimes sitting with the down feelings can be helpful to your recovery and when the good ones come, embrace them I feel I've mourned and grieved her passing already. But now I'm left with a void and unable to connect with anyone which isn't problematic in itself right now and it has 'only' been 3 months. But 3 months could easily turn into half a year and then a year. It just feels depressingly lonely! I don't want sympathy which is what my friends and family would offer. I just want to feel different to what I have. Is this still part of grieving/bereavement? " Absolutely it is. Grieving looks different for each person, and wanting to feel different is a sign that you’re moving in the right direction. If you’re still feeling the same in six months or a year and you feel stuck then it would be helpful to seek some sort of talking therapy to get things moving again | |||
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"So so. I've run out of meds AGAIN thanks to the stupid doctors surgery not putting my order in. No doubt I'll have another "episode" at some point Have you used the nhs app? You can link it to your drs so every month you just log on and order from it, goes straight to your pharmacy. Also the pharmacy is allowed to give you an emergency short term prescription if it’s on repeat, even if it’s only a few days worth to get you through " I wasn't aware of this. Thanks. I'll check that out x | |||
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"So so. I've run out of meds AGAIN thanks to the stupid doctors surgery not putting my order in. No doubt I'll have another "episode" at some point Have you used the nhs app? You can link it to your drs so every month you just log on and order from it, goes straight to your pharmacy. Also the pharmacy is allowed to give you an emergency short term prescription if it’s on repeat, even if it’s only a few days worth to get you through I wasn't aware of this. Thanks. I'll check that out x" It’s got me out of a pickle twice now | |||
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" I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I remember you posting about you starting to care for her at about the same time my Grandad died. Lots of people on here are happy to listen but don't suffer alone. There are lots of charity type places offering support, like Andy's Man Club, and your GP can refer for grief counselling. We have a Bereavement Café session that happens monthly, near us, and you just turn up. Sending you all the best Ah wow... I posted that NYE 2020. I'm really amazed anybody would remember. Really amazing. " Grandad died on 24 Jan 2021, so yeah, similar kind of time. Elephants never forget Keep on keeping on. You'll get there, you will. | |||
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