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This is not a pity post.
I'm lonely. There. Let's be honest.
I've been on a works night out, a rare one at that, and I feel a bit shit.
So, to all the lonely people here (I know you exist), yeah, keep going. It's a battle, but just keep getting out of bed.  |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
london stratford |
"This is not a pity post.
I'm lonely. There. Let's be honest.
I've been on a works night out, a rare one at that, and I feel a bit shit.
So, to all the lonely people here (I know you exist), yeah, keep going. It's a battle, but just keep getting out of bed. "
Lots of platonic man love being sent your way man.
It is hard at times I know, But trust me, its better then being with someone who you no longer love or even hate!
and I have met ya. your a smooth talking Scottish Barstool!!!!!! I bed you got a little black book as well!!!! |
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"This is not a pity post.
I'm lonely. There. Let's be honest.
I've been on a works night out, a rare one at that, and I feel a bit shit.
So, to all the lonely people here (I know you exist), yeah, keep going. It's a battle, but just keep getting out of bed. "
Very true and relatable.
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
Lonely guy here I always find it amazing that in a family gathering or the occasional work night out for a birthday or leaving drink just how alone I feel.I hate to say it but even my occasional night out to my local adult club at times I feel very alone like I don’t belong or fit in any more but I keep on going because that’s what I do. |
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By *otdave75Man
over a year ago
Chandlers Ford |
Think the problem is expectation. Everyone is looking for that perfect Hollywood relationship. It rarely exists. I’m alone despite living with my kids and ex, don’t really remember what it’s like to be loved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I didn't have my cat i would feel incredibly lonely and alone. This place is my five min fun place that does up my mood. That feeling that I'm completely without people doesn't creep in as much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was widowed 3 years ago and I miss my "hubby" dreadfully, but I'm not lonely. I just miss him. My tolerance and need for other people around me since I lost him is really quite limited. But I am good at operating in my own "bubble" as I say. It's a funny old world. Some people never find "it" so they're lonely or feel like they're missing out, whereas I am the "other side of the coin". My best advice to anyone is to be as happy in your own company as you can be, whatever led to that situation. Unfortunately, if you're waiting for the world to save you, you'll die waiting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’re lonely because you rely on other people to much. Rely on yourself and you’ll never be lonely again.
The mr "
Oh that’s so easy to say, but so hard to get to a place where you can enjoy yourself.
I hate being alone because I realise and remember how much I hated myself before.
I’m lonely and weekends land very hard.
Op, there are others that will feel like you, this is nothing like the life I had promised myself. |
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"You’re lonely because you rely on other people to much. Rely on yourself and you’ll never be lonely again.
The mr
Oh that’s so easy to say, but so hard to get to a place where you can enjoy yourself.
I hate being alone because I realise and remember how much I hated myself before.
I’m lonely and weekends land very hard.
Op, there are others that will feel like you, this is nothing like the life I had promised myself. "
it is easy it can be done with simple steps. Once upon a time I used to wake up on a weekend a think “ what’s everyone upto today “ to then ring around to find out everyone’s busy and I’m spending the day alone. Then I stopped and woke up thinking “ what am I doing today” ring nobody go about my business made it my decision to spend time with people or not and in all honesty it’s been bliss ever since.
The mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a huge difference between being lonely and being alone ...
You're more likely to feel lonely with people or in a crowd to be honest
As said above you'll stop feeling lonely when you can embrace yourself and change your reliance on other people!
Difficult but doable ... |
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Morning all. Thanks for the love!
Logging into fab wasn't a good idea last night. Empty nest, plus seeing a woman I like getting treat like dirt by her boyfriend, just me feel a bit worthless.
Anyway, rice krispies and cleaning. Sunday rocks! |
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Op get out and about if weather good. Take in the nature and scenery. Good place to be is fab for forum/cam room chat if you want a natter with someone. Join a few clubs related to hobbies and interests. Good luck! |
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By *oanne ETV/TS
over a year ago
Near Warrington |
"This is not a pity post.
I'm lonely. There. Let's be honest.
I've been on a works night out, a rare one at that, and I feel a bit shit.
So, to all the lonely people here (I know you exist), yeah, keep going. It's a battle, but just keep getting out of bed. "
I've been there lovely, just start to like yourself a bit more, it's not easy I know. I've been on my own for 8 years now and whilst I do on occasion think what am I doing here, I now enjoy being me.
And if I'm in Dunfermline at any stage I'll give you a BJ to remember xx
Chin up, there's lots of lovely people on this site to talk with xxx |
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"Morning all. Thanks for the love!
Logging into fab wasn't a good idea last night. Empty nest, plus seeing a woman I like getting treat like dirt by her boyfriend, just me feel a bit worthless.
Anyway, rice krispies and cleaning. Sunday rocks! "
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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago
Kettering |
Sometimes it's hard to get up knowing you will spend most of your day alone. I do security so I do meet people but not for conversation it can such a lonely existence. But keep you chin up and carry on |
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"This is not a pity post.
I'm lonely. There. Let's be honest.
I've been on a works night out, a rare one at that, and I feel a bit shit.
So, to all the lonely people here (I know you exist), yeah, keep going. It's a battle, but just keep getting out of bed. "
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"You’re lonely because you rely on other people to much. Rely on yourself and you’ll never be lonely again.
The mr "
Respectfully, I disagree.
I have been single and lived alone for most of my life. I’m very independent and quite content in my own company for much of the time. In fact, my social battery drains fairly quickly.
But - one thing I have learned over the last year, in which I literally spent 365 days on my own, I need people in my life. I have some great friends and I missed them.
I agree that waking up one morning and relying on someone being available with no notice is unlikely to work, but that’s why it’s nice to make plans with people to which one can look forward.
I’m all for a healthy split and nourishing human relationships of any kind. |
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"This is not a pity post.
I'm lonely. There. Let's be honest.
I've been on a works night out, a rare one at that, and I feel a bit shit.
So, to all the lonely people here (I know you exist), yeah, keep going. It's a battle, but just keep getting out of bed. "
You’re lonely? Honestly try a life coach. They are brilliant and will give you solutions. |
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"There's a huge difference between being lonely and being alone ...
You're more likely to feel lonely with people or in a crowd to be honest
As said above you'll stop feeling lonely when you can embrace yourself and change your reliance on other people!
Difficult but doable ... "
What a ridiculous thing to say. The differences are minor at best. Honestly get a life coach that’s what they are for and don’t listen to rubbish like this fella. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’re lonely because you rely on other people to much. Rely on yourself and you’ll never be lonely again.
The mr
Oh that’s so easy to say, but so hard to get to a place where you can enjoy yourself.
I hate being alone because I realise and remember how much I hated myself before.
I’m lonely and weekends land very hard.
Op, there are others that will feel like you, this is nothing like the life I had promised myself.
it is easy it can be done with simple steps. Once upon a time I used to wake up on a weekend a think “ what’s everyone upto today “ to then ring around to find out everyone’s busy and I’m spending the day alone. Then I stopped and woke up thinking “ what am I doing today” ring nobody go about my business made it my decision to spend time with people or not and in all honesty it’s been bliss ever since.
The mr "
Again, I just read words, because what works for you and how you handle it read like a perfect instruction book. 
Here’s me. Today, I will go and enjoy my own company playing golf. Because I enjoy that, it’s something I love to do alone. I don’t feel lonely there, I don’t actually feel lonely alone in my room as I sit waiting to go to sleep.
I feel loneliest when I want to do something know I would to share with someone, and there’s a wide world out there to be explored, and I want to share it.
Even a party or get together (fab socials too). I go alone. Does this make sense? It’s a horrible feeling.
Maybe some people are meant to have someone beside them in life, maybe some don’t need that support and can be more independent, but I sympathise with anyone who feels lonely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always been abit of a lone wolf and majority of times I love it, but every now and again (like the start of this year) it can feel quite lonely at times and lead to you acting very out of character and chasing things that just arent there. It's all about balance and having the right connections with people so that the feeling doesn't absorb you.
When you get that balance it's brilliant, but when you lose it can be a horrible place to be and quite hard to get out of. |
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"You’re lonely because you rely on other people to much. Rely on yourself and you’ll never be lonely again.
The mr
Oh that’s so easy to say, but so hard to get to a place where you can enjoy yourself.
I hate being alone because I realise and remember how much I hated myself before.
I’m lonely and weekends land very hard.
Op, there are others that will feel like you, this is nothing like the life I had promised myself.
it is easy it can be done with simple steps. Once upon a time I used to wake up on a weekend a think “ what’s everyone upto today “ to then ring around to find out everyone’s busy and I’m spending the day alone. Then I stopped and woke up thinking “ what am I doing today” ring nobody go about my business made it my decision to spend time with people or not and in all honesty it’s been bliss ever since.
The mr
Again, I just read words, because what works for you and how you handle it read like a perfect instruction book.
Here’s me. Today, I will go and enjoy my own company playing golf. Because I enjoy that, it’s something I love to do alone. I don’t feel lonely there, I don’t actually feel lonely alone in my room as I sit waiting to go to sleep.
I feel loneliest when I want to do something know I would to share with someone, and there’s a wide world out there to be explored, and I want to share it.
Even a party or get together (fab socials too). I go alone. Does this make sense? It’s a horrible feeling.
Maybe some people are meant to have someone beside them in life, maybe some don’t need that support and can be more independent, but I sympathise with anyone who feels lonely. "
100% with you on this, Woody.
I do long distance running and many would assume I’d want to do this with someone. I don’t.
And I’m usually quite happy reading at bedtime and going to sleep on my own (although I do enjoy waking up with someone hot haha).
But I don’t go for dinner, days out or on holiday on my own, despite them being my favourite things to do.
For me, they are infinitely more enjoyable when I can share the experience and memories.
I will keep plugging away at the online dating scene until I find someone who fancies me as much as I fancy her, but also wants what I want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’re lonely because you rely on other people to much. Rely on yourself and you’ll never be lonely again.
The mr
Oh that’s so easy to say, but so hard to get to a place where you can enjoy yourself.
I hate being alone because I realise and remember how much I hated myself before.
I’m lonely and weekends land very hard.
Op, there are others that will feel like you, this is nothing like the life I had promised myself.
it is easy it can be done with simple steps. Once upon a time I used to wake up on a weekend a think “ what’s everyone upto today “ to then ring around to find out everyone’s busy and I’m spending the day alone. Then I stopped and woke up thinking “ what am I doing today” ring nobody go about my business made it my decision to spend time with people or not and in all honesty it’s been bliss ever since.
The mr
Again, I just read words, because what works for you and how you handle it read like a perfect instruction book.
Here’s me. Today, I will go and enjoy my own company playing golf. Because I enjoy that, it’s something I love to do alone. I don’t feel lonely there, I don’t actually feel lonely alone in my room as I sit waiting to go to sleep.
I feel loneliest when I want to do something know I would to share with someone, and there’s a wide world out there to be explored, and I want to share it.
Even a party or get together (fab socials too). I go alone. Does this make sense? It’s a horrible feeling.
Maybe some people are meant to have someone beside them in life, maybe some don’t need that support and can be more independent, but I sympathise with anyone who feels lonely. "
This is very well put, being alone in all manner of situations I'm fine, dinner out alone, at home, shopping, walks. Then on the flip side things like days out to interesting places where it would be good to have someone to share thoughts and opinions with or during an engaging film or a going to the theatre. For me these things are always best when shared with someone you mentally connect with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’re lonely because you rely on other people to much. Rely on yourself and you’ll never be lonely again.
The mr
Oh that’s so easy to say, but so hard to get to a place where you can enjoy yourself.
I hate being alone because I realise and remember how much I hated myself before.
I’m lonely and weekends land very hard.
Op, there are others that will feel like you, this is nothing like the life I had promised myself.
it is easy it can be done with simple steps. Once upon a time I used to wake up on a weekend a think “ what’s everyone upto today “ to then ring around to find out everyone’s busy and I’m spending the day alone. Then I stopped and woke up thinking “ what am I doing today” ring nobody go about my business made it my decision to spend time with people or not and in all honesty it’s been bliss ever since.
The mr
Again, I just read words, because what works for you and how you handle it read like a perfect instruction book.
Here’s me. Today, I will go and enjoy my own company playing golf. Because I enjoy that, it’s something I love to do alone. I don’t feel lonely there, I don’t actually feel lonely alone in my room as I sit waiting to go to sleep.
I feel loneliest when I want to do something know I would to share with someone, and there’s a wide world out there to be explored, and I want to share it.
Even a party or get together (fab socials too). I go alone. Does this make sense? It’s a horrible feeling.
Maybe some people are meant to have someone beside them in life, maybe some don’t need that support and can be more independent, but I sympathise with anyone who fee ls lonely. "
You're very deep and come across as extremely self-aware Woody  No sore head after all that red wine last night hopefully |
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I think this is the double edged sword of Fab life/ swinging scene. Once you realise what is potentially out there, you won’t just “settle”.
You can be lonely, but not alone, just as you can be alone but not not lonely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is very well put, being alone in all manner of situations I'm fine, dinner out alone, at home, shopping, walks. Then on the flip side things like days out to interesting places where it would be good to have someone to share thoughts and opinions with or during an engaging film or a going to the theatre. For me these things are always best when shared with someone you mentally connect with"
Can't you do all those things with friends though?
I can do everything on my own but this year I am going to the theater etc more instead of missing things that I want to see! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is very well put, being alone in all manner of situations I'm fine, dinner out alone, at home, shopping, walks. Then on the flip side things like days out to interesting places where it would be good to have someone to share thoughts and opinions with or during an engaging film or a going to the theatre. For me these things are always best when shared with someone you mentally connect with
Can't you do all those things with friends though?
I can do everything on my own but this year I am going to the theater etc more instead of missing things that I want to see! "
There are loads of things I do with friends and I'm lucky to have a brilliant friendship group, but I know some of the interests I have just aren't their cup of tea so there wouldn't be much point dragging then along. |
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It's why I generally avoid parties, I have to put a work networking hat on and I find that hard work so I have to be in the right frame of mind to do it. When I do though things always seem to look up  |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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There are times when I wish I had someone to share experiences or moments in time with but I have never felt as alone as I did than with my emotionally abusive ex. Whenever I have those loneliness pangs I take comfort in knowing that I will never have to experience that again.
Sending love and hugs to those of you who are lonely or sad |
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