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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok.. I was talking to this girl a while ago and getting really close and was thinking about having a relationship.. Went to meet her and she was a time waster.. Come a month ago i started talking to this other girl.. Which turns out its the first girls best friend. Going tosee her on the 20th jan.. Am i playing a dangerous game because im really falling for this girl.. Shes amazing.. Like we think about eachother alot.. Always on the phone for like 5 hours plus.. Send like 150s per day..
Best part about it is shes bi.. And doesnt mind me watching her with another girl  .. |
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Your on the phone 5 hours aday and still managed to send 150 texts aday.
Wasnt you going to travel half way around the world to see someone? Know youve fallen for another two girls. I think you need to stop letting your emotions run away with you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok.. I was talking to this girl a while ago and getting really close and was thinking about having a relationship.. Went to meet her and she was a time waster.. Come a month ago i started talking to this other girl.. Which turns out its the first girls best friend. Going tosee her on the 20th jan.. Am i playing a dangerous game because im really falling for this girl.. Shes amazing.. Like we think about eachother alot.. Always on the phone for like 5 hours plus.. Send like 150s per day..
Best part about it is shes bi.. And doesnt mind me watching her with another girl .. "
Reality check please !
You know nothing about this girl, other than she likes reading SMS and spending lots of time on her phone 
In this writers candid opinion you're on the wrong site ! I suggest you try e-harmony  Or I wonder if the fascination is fuelled bythe potential girl/girl stageshow you've been promised  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your on the phone 5 hours aday and still managed to send 150 texts aday.
Wasnt you going to travel half way around the world to see someone? Know youve fallen for another two girls. I think you need to stop letting your emotions run away with you"
I only talk to girls who can hold an intelegent conversation.. With me brains beat broad.. Plus i was going to travel the world on a jouney of self discovery. The last girl i was speaking to was in november. I went to see her but she didnt show.. We planned it for about a month but i ended up staying in a trainstation.. Started talk to this girl nowa month ago but only as friends.. Over the past 2 weeks we have become close.. She is a career, also studies Egyptology, loves travelling, camping, the outdoors.. And most of all like me for who i am dispite my autism, ADHD, ADD and OCD.. My emotions have nothing to do with it.. And yes we talk all the time.. Quite litterally.. |
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It's the new girl who should be worrying about her friend not you, you owe either of them nothing, don't worry, but maybe cut down on calls and txts and meet for real otherwise you might be wasting more of your life falling in love with a no show or waster. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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from your previous posts, my advice is 'think long and hard before starting a relationship over the internet/texts', they can work but you do not have the best track record in relationships in the past so YOU need to be more mindful of the connection.
now before I am pounced on for referring to previous threads but you yourself asked for advice on travelling the world, seeing your 3 children by 3 ladies, homelessness and a variety of other life changing situations.
Grasp life but be careful.
all the best |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"from your previous posts, my advice is 'think long and hard before starting a relationship over the internet/texts', they can work but you do not have the best track record in relationships in the past so YOU need to be more mindful of the connection.
now before I am pounced on for referring to previous threads but you yourself asked for advice on travelling the world, seeing your 3 children by 3 ladies, homelessness and a variety of other life changing situations.
Grasp life but be careful.
all the best"
Good advice.. Ive sorted it out with one of my kids mums.. I seen him over new year .. |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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Imarabbit, I'm just going to recap here a moment as I'm not sure I have got it right. You are currently homeless and living in a train station. You have three children by three different women, none of which will allow you access. You suffer with ADHD, ADD and OCD. Not so long ago you planned to hitch around the world, but decided to walk to Devon first (which you managed to do in record time) as you wanted to woo a girl off of here under a tree with a picnic.
This girl turned out to be a time waster, so you walked a couple of hundred miles to Warrington.
You have now fallen in love with the friend of this time waster !
If I have summarised this correctly, judging on your previous luck I would give it a wide berth. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Imarabbit, I'm just going to recap here a moment as I'm not sure I have got it right. You are currently homeless and living in a train station. You have three children by three different women, none of which will allow you access. You suffer with ADHD, ADD and OCD. Not so long ago you planned to hitch around the world, but decided to walk to Devon first (which you managed to do in record time) as you wanted to woo a girl off of here under a tree with a picnic.
This girl turned out to be a time waster, so you walked a couple of hundred miles to Warrington.
You have now fallen in love with the friend of this time waster !
If I have summarised this correctly, judging on your previous luck I would give it a wide berth. "
Hahaha.. Thats about right.. Im younge, i have no regard for my own safety, i make mistake, my shit stinks, i learn.. Happy days .. I havent "fallen in love" just fell for her.. Meaning i really really like her.. Some might say its isnt the right site to talk about it.. But if i remember correctly only one person has actually answer my question..
Am i playing a dangerous game by talking to this girl who is the best mate of the other girl.. -.- |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is it taking you so long to meet her? Your investing far too much time in hours of chat and text resulting in you falling for someone that you haven't even met. Don't invest any more time. Meet her pronto see if you really click physically and if you do ask us the question again lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why is it taking you so long to meet her? Your investing far too much time in hours of chat and text resulting in you falling for someone that you haven't even met. Don't invest any more time. Meet her pronto see if you really click physically and if you do ask us the question again lol x"
Tickets booked.. Going on the 20th Jan.. Plus sorting out a home in Peterborough plus i have a job now.. So things are looking up.. Just in warrington at the min at my Mums house only untill the 28th.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ps in answer to your question. No your not playing a dangerous game. The first girl no showed and wasted your time. Her loss. Her friend knows you were planning On meeting her friend previously. Her gain perhaps. Just one question. Do you fall so easily for every girl you chat too ? If so come say hi lol x good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well good luck. Keep us informed. I for one am eagerly waiting the next chapter.
Will this friend be reading the thread? "
Nope.. They dont know about fab lol.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So you happened to come across a single female, that knows (Is best friends with, no less!) the last single female you were intending to meet with, however wasted your time by not showing up; that is bisexual and does not mind you watching her with another woman, yet she is not a swinger.
On top of, and as mentioned above, other posts,
well Im out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My only advice and no doesn't perhaps answer your question, but, stop spending money on phone calls and texts, find a place to live.
Sort yourself out first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My only advice and no doesn't perhaps answer your question, but, stop spending money on phone calls and texts, find a place to live.
Sort yourself out first."
Have to agree with Julie on this.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How did you get chatting to this girl, seems odd that a girl who didn't meet you has passed your details in to her best friend. That alone would ring alarm bells to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it taking you so long to meet her? Your investing far too much time in hours of chat and text resulting in you falling for someone that you haven't even met. Don't invest any more time. Meet her pronto see if you really click physically and if you do ask us the question again lol x"
I was thinking this if you are spending that much time communicating why wait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My advice would be to sort your personal situations out before even considering a relationship , i think you fall for girls far to easy . You will do whatever you desire despite what we all say. Best of luck with it . |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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Seriously think you should take a step back and have a long hard look at yourself and what u want out of life....you fall for someone you have never met ....the Friend of someone you fell for having never met get out in the real world and meet real people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your playing a dangerous game being on fab till stop mate. Not the best site to use for someone with autism and the associated social vulnerabilities. It's difficult to make sense of 'normal' relationships never mind no strings attached sex. Your different way of thinking puts you at risk of misunderstanding relationships and I know many young men who have ended up running into trouble with the law after falling in 'love' whith someone who was after a casual encounter and the female did not reciprocate their feelings but that went over their heads, some even ending up on the sex offenders register, sites like this are a mine field! Perhaps you could do better to get out in the real world and build your friends base locally. R xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"from your previous posts, my advice is 'think long and hard before starting a relationship over the internet/texts', they can work but you do not have the best track record in relationships in the past so YOU need to be more mindful of the connection.
now before I am pounced on for referring to previous threads but you yourself asked for advice on travelling the world, seeing your 3 children by 3 ladies, homelessness and a variety of other life changing situations.
Grasp life but be careful.
all the best"
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Add to that, don't forget to use contraception!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your playing a dangerous game being on fab till stop mate. Not the best site to use for someone with autism and the associated social vulnerabilities. It's difficult to make sense of 'normal' relationships never mind no strings attached sex. Your different way of thinking puts you at risk of misunderstanding relationships and I know many young men who have ended up running into trouble with the law after falling in 'love' whith someone who was after a casual encounter and the female did not reciprocate their feelings but that went over their heads, some even ending up on the sex offenders register, sites like this are a mine field! Perhaps you could do better to get out in the real world and build your friends base locally. R xx"
I may have a mild case of autisum but i sure as hell know what NSA is.. Just because of a disability it dont make me stupid.. Im proberly more intelegent than you.. Apart from my spelling.. If you look on my profile i am only here for chat.. Not interested in meeting.. I do have loads if local "friends" if thats whatyou call them.. I call them lying back stabbing peices of shit.. But thats just me.. Ive lived in 4 different countys and have a great circle of real friends who i visit on a regular basis.. I know you proverly mean no harm in what you say but personally my disability and what i do has got fuck all to do with you or anyone else.
All i asked is a question and only a handful of people have actually answered it..
Ok rant over.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your playing a dangerous game being on fab till stop mate. Not the best site to use for someone with autism and the associated social vulnerabilities. It's difficult to make sense of 'normal' relationships never mind no strings attached sex. Your different way of thinking puts you at risk of misunderstanding relationships and I know many young men who have ended up running into trouble with the law after falling in 'love' whith someone who was after a casual encounter and the female did not reciprocate their feelings but that went over their heads, some even ending up on the sex offenders register, sites like this are a mine field! Perhaps you could do better to get out in the real world and build your friends base locally. R xx
I may have a mild case of autisum but i sure as hell know what NSA is.. Just because of a disability it dont make me stupid.. Im proberly more intelegent than you.. Apart from my spelling.. If you look on my profile i am only here for chat.. Not interested in meeting.. I do have loads if local "friends" if thats whatyou call them.. I call them lying back stabbing peices of shit.. But thats just me.. Ive lived in 4 different countys and have a great circle of real friends who i visit on a regular basis.. I know you proverly mean no harm in what you say but personally my disability and what i do has got fuck all to do with you or anyone else.
All i asked is a question and only a handful of people have actually answered it..
Ok rant over.. "
What an obnoxious reply to someone who was obviously trying to give some friendly advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was not in anyway incinuating you were of low IQ in a educational sense. There is a world of difference between that and social and emotional IQ. To get a diagnosis of Autism or perhaps Aspergers you have to have these vulnerabilities. You used your disability in earlier posts to justify your infatuation with a girl who is not far from a virtual friend. Males with Autism/Aspergers have great difficulties in working out the unwritten social rules which is evident in your posts on this thread. I don't often engage in forum threads but did so on this occasion out of concern not malice. I have first hand experience in these areas and you need to wise up quick. Developing an infatuation with a girl you've not yet met is not healthy for you or her. Knowing what NSA is having read about it is very different to grasping the concept and putting it into use in the real world in your personal life. As for my IQ being inferior to yours is a possibility without having your scores to compare we never will know (mines in the top 11% of the population). Females with Aspergers are known for having a better working knowledge and higher social and emotional IQ than you males. As for your original question in the real world getting involved with the best friend or a previous date is a big no no, however in tge swinging world its survival of the fittest each for their own so not a issue. with the original girl who stood you up being best friends with your latest girl in all likelihood they have picked up on your social vulnerabilities and are humoring you for light entertainment chances are you will be stood up again. Hope not for your sake but its a cruel world out there. From one aspie to another, guess your gona learn the hard way x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps you could do well to use that IQ of yours to research the no of males
with autism and Aspergers syndrome who have ended up on sex offenders register and or jailed due to misunderstandings and being socially nieve rather than setting out to break the laws and do harm. Your posts ring alarm bells in my head to be infatuated at this stage perhaps next stage stalker! |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Perhaps you could do well to use that IQ of yours to research the no of males
with autism and Aspergers syndrome who have ended up on sex offenders register and or jailed due to misunderstandings and being socially nieve rather than setting out to break the laws and do harm. Your posts ring alarm bells in my head to be infatuated at this stage perhaps next stage stalker!"
I think you maybe reading too much into this. Try reading it through again but this time doing a Bernard Cribbins impersonation. Then see if you have the same opinion. |
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"Was not in anyway incinuating you were of low IQ in a educational sense. There is a world of difference between that and social and emotional IQ. To get a diagnosis of Autism or perhaps Aspergers you have to have these vulnerabilities. You used your disability in earlier posts to justify your infatuation with a girl who is not far from a virtual friend. Males with
Autism/Aspergers have great difficulties
in working out the unwritten social rules
which is evident in your posts on this
thread. I don't often engage in forum
threads but did so on this occasion out
of concern not malice. I have first hand
experience in these areas and you
need to wise up quick. Developing an
infatuation with a girl you've not yet met
is not healthy for you or her. Knowing
what NSA is having read about it is
very different to grasping the concept
and putting it into use in the real world
in your personal life. As for my IQ
being inferior to yours is a possibility
without having your scores to compare
we never will know (mines in the top
11% of the population). Females with
Aspergers are known for having a
better working knowledge and higher
social and emotional IQ than you
males. As for your original question in
the real world getting involved with the
best friend or a previous date is a big
no no, however in tge swinging world its
survival of the fittest each for their own
so not a issue. with the original girl who
stood you up being best friends with
your latest girl in all likelihood they have
picked up on your social vulnerabilities
and are humoring you for light
entertainment chances are you will be
stood up again. Hope not for your sake
but its a cruel world out there. From
one aspie to another, guess your gona
learn the hard way x"
Hey Rabbit, this guy is talking sense. We are not talking about intellect but emotional intelligence here. You must know by now about the unwritten and not obvious nonverbal signals neurotypical people use in social situations. People with ASC do not have a very highly developed sense regarding social interaction. You know the triad.... Just be aware all might not be as straightforward, literal and obvious as you might think it is. Not being horrid. I know about ASC. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My opinion won't change unless he wipes out his posts that lead me to draw this conclusion and rewrites them showing a good insight to social and emotional understanding. People with these kind of difficulties don't pick up on the social cues naturally which leads to all kinds of problems. I've seen too many males cock up then face the consequences which are often harsh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How did you get chatting to this girl, seems odd that a girl who didn't meet you has passed your details in to her best friend. That alone would ring alarm bells to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was not in anyway incinuating you were of low IQ in a educational sense. There is a world of difference between that and social and emotional IQ. To get a diagnosis of Autism or perhaps Aspergers you have to have these vulnerabilities. You used your disability in earlier posts to justify your infatuation with a girl who is not far from a virtual friend. Males with
Autism/Aspergers have great difficulties
in working out the unwritten social rules
which is evident in your posts on this
thread. I don't often engage in forum
threads but did so on this occasion out
of concern not malice. I have first hand
experience in these areas and you
need to wise up quick. Developing an
infatuation with a girl you've not yet met
is not healthy for you or her. Knowing
what NSA is having read about it is
very different to grasping the concept
and putting it into use in the real world
in your personal life. As for my IQ
being inferior to yours is a possibility
without having your scores to compare
we never will know (mines in the top
11% of the population). Females with
Aspergers are known for having a
better working knowledge and higher
social and emotional IQ than you
males. As for your original question in
the real world getting involved with the
best friend or a previous date is a big
no no, however in tge swinging world its
survival of the fittest each for their own
so not a issue. with the original girl who
stood you up being best friends with
your latest girl in all likelihood they have
picked up on your social vulnerabilities
and are humoring you for light
entertainment chances are you will be
stood up again. Hope not for your sake
but its a cruel world out there. From
one aspie to another, guess your gona
learn the hard way x
Hey Rabbit, this guy is talking sense. We are not talking about intellect but emotional intelligence here. You must know by now about the unwritten and not obvious nonverbal signals neurotypical people use in social situations. People with ASC do not have a very highly developed sense regarding social interaction. You know the triad.... Just be aware all might not be as straightforward, literal and obvious as you might think it is. Not being horrid. I know about ASC."
This is the f posting not the m lol. Im quite knowledgable too and been part of a team teaching Sex, relationships and emotional literacy to mainly males with ASC. I've seen it all before and it's not pretty when it all goes wrong. I also have a diagnosis myself but made sure to learn all that I can and gave some amazing friends who are international speakers in the field of autism and in particular sex lol. |
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