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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
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Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
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Yeah.
We know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
Yeah.
We know"
Not everybody knows though  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
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What about in real life?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually men. Growing up in a fairly strict household, I'd always be too scared of being friendly with girls in case it was seen as flirting so I just never did. I've gotten better at it as I've gotten older, but still find it easier to start conversations and make friends with guys. |
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply"
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them."
Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?"
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?"
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I've always been able to get on better with women (some not all) than I have with men. That has become truer the older I've become.
I generally don't have friends as most people do. Mine are somewhere between acquaintances and friends. Most of which are women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
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Do women do that sort of stuff? 
I thought they would be too busy trying to trap you into a relationship! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
Do women do that sort of stuff?
I thought they would be too busy trying to trap you into a relationship!"
They can't right now... There's a hidden profile. But they are waiting....
Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
Do women do that sort of stuff?
I thought they would be too busy trying to trap you into a relationship!
They can't right now... There's a hidden profile. But they are waiting....
Lol"
Join the queue sweetcheeks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
Do women do that sort of stuff?
I thought they would be too busy trying to trap you into a relationship!
They can't right now... There's a hidden profile. But they are waiting....
Lol
Join the queue sweetcheeks"
I'd rather poke my eyes out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
Do women do that sort of stuff?
I thought they would be too busy trying to trap you into a relationship!"
They do that, when the guy is most likely paying for it all and they're just 'friends' |
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
Do women do that sort of stuff?
I thought they would be too busy trying to trap you into a relationship!"
Oh yeah...alas I somehow manage to evade their cunning traps ...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" They do that, when the guy is most likely paying for it all and they're just 'friends'"
I know you are trolling.
So why the heck am I finding you irritating today? I normally just laugh it off as shock jocking. But today this dead horse is feeling decidedly over flogged.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Hmmmm how did I know the exact repeated discussion this thread would go in dominating the majority of the thread, with the same back and forth from the same names involved, just from reading the title. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?"
I drink with, go to rugby with, build and race trucks with my male friends! Not sure I have many hobbies I do with my female friends tbf but am off shopping and having lunch today with my girlies,, not sure any of my male would enjoy this tbh  |
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
Do women do that sort of stuff?
I thought they would be too busy trying to trap you into a relationship! They do that, when the guy is most likely paying for it all and they're just 'friends'"
So for my birthday one year...one of my best friends...took me out into Newcastle..SHE paid for dinner cocktails etc..SHE took me to a lap dancing club...SHE paid for our dances...
So that would really be an elaborate ruse
Real friendship in my experience
isn't as exploitative as you think...and gender has nothing to do with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hmmmm how did I know the exact repeated discussion this thread would go in dominating the majority of the thread, with the same back and forth from the same names involved, just from reading the title. "
You must be psychic |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always had more male friends until my last break up where all of a sudden they wanted to be in my knickers, it's kinda put me off.
I'll stick with my 1 female friend 
Mrs "
Oooh so they weren't just platonic friends, they were friends because you were taken. Soon as you become available they were all over you like a tramp on chips. |
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"I have both. But it is easier to be friend with a woman on here than a man.
Due to heteronormativity probably "
Do you think it might also be due to the competition between males for the attention or the women.
Like many other forum women I’ve made some marvellous friends on here - mostly female but one or two males too.
However - whilst I know males who’ve made great female friends on here - I know of none who’ve made a network of good male friends - which is a shame.
In the real world I still have mostly female friends interspersed with a few male ones. As others have said - it can be good to get a balance of views and opinions. |
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"Hmmmm how did I know the exact repeated discussion this thread would go in dominating the majority of the thread, with the same back and forth from the same names involved, just from reading the title. "
Feeding times over lol |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm how did I know the exact repeated discussion this thread would go in dominating the majority of the thread, with the same back and forth from the same names involved, just from reading the title.
You must be psychic "
Observation and powers of deduction. I'm like a really shit Sherlock Holmes. |
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"I've always had more male friends until my last break up where all of a sudden they wanted to be in my knickers, it's kinda put me off.
I'll stick with my 1 female friend
Mrs Oooh so they weren't just platonic friends, they were friends because you were taken. Soon as you become available they were all over you like a tramp on chips. "
Seems that way, it pissed me off to be honest.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hmmmm how did I know the exact repeated discussion this thread would go in dominating the majority of the thread, with the same back and forth from the same names involved, just from reading the title. "
Fancy a game of ping pong?
Ping |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm how did I know the exact repeated discussion this thread would go in dominating the majority of the thread, with the same back and forth from the same names involved, just from reading the title.
Fancy a game of ping pong?
Ping "
Pong |
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I have a mixture of both, but I've always found it easier to get on with men...in general they're less, erm, complicated, for want of a better word. Plus I'm really not into stereotypically "girly" pursuits, a spa or shopping day sound like some kind of torture to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always had more male friends until my last break up where all of a sudden they wanted to be in my knickers, it's kinda put me off.
I'll stick with my 1 female friend
Mrs Oooh so they weren't just platonic friends, they were friends because you were taken. Soon as you become available they were all over you like a tramp on chips.
Seems that way, it pissed me off to be honest.
Mrs "
Yeah I can understand, your sentiments.
They should of been more honest about their intentions. |
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
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Don't forget talking them into selling goth piss  |
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
What about in real life?
Same rules apply
I would say your missing out... But reality is I'm relieved for them. Really, what fun things do you do with your platonic female friends?
Get your nails done together?
Yeah nails ...all that shit.
But ya know ...also go out get pissed, go to gigs...go out for meals...you know ...pretty much the same stuff I do with my male friends.
Don't forget talking them into selling goth piss "
One of the better ideas  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you find yourself making more of? Do you have more female or male friends?
And also, is it healthy just having contributing opinions of just one sex?
Have zero female friends on here. I don't join sex / swinging sites to make platonic friends.
It kind of defeats the point in my opinion.
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A lot of men think the same, they just don't openly admit to it. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm how did I know the exact repeated discussion this thread would go in dominating the majority of the thread, with the same back and forth from the same names involved, just from reading the title.
You must be psychic
Observation and powers of deduction. I'm like a really shit Sherlock Holmes. "
I thought the same tbh.
But I'm in too good a mood to react today. Fuck it.
To answer the original question I'd say I have more female friends these days, largely due to what I do for work and the environments I find myself in both for work (where I make a lot of friends) and when I'm not working.
It used to be the opposite, largely for similar reasons but as I was in a different profession then I came more into contact with men.
On here? Probably 50/50. I don't decide to be friends with people just because I want to fuck them or not.
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"I've mostly got women friends these days, the lads all got married and the wives don't approve
That’s a shame.  You have a gorgeous figure btw - hope you’re having a wonderful time on here. "
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So pleased to see the mood hoover is back to delight us all with his ‘insight’.
But, to answer the OP’s question, I probably have a fairly even split of both genders. And I say that acknowledging I don’t (yet) have any friends who don’t identify as neither male or female.
My oldest friends are mostly men and are from school/college. That’s probably because, at that age, I was painfully shy and couldn’t talk to women.
These days I make friends with people based on whether they are nice, friendly, funny, interesting and add value to my life. I was out last night with a female friend from work. We had dinner, lots of laughs chatting, split the bill and went our separate ways with no expectations or agenda.
Gender has absolutely no bearing for me. That being said, it’s not unheard of for a fling or relationship to develop into something more. But that is an organic process, not by design.
On fab I have more female friends (whether single or in a couple) but I interact with both in the lounge. I think the lack of ‘official’ male friends comes down purely to messaging filters - I’ve blocked all guys (you know, because they’re all raging perverts). But there are some legends on here I love to chat with.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've mostly got women friends these days, the lads all got married and the wives don't approve "
So women feel the same too, they don't like their male spouses having female friends.
Not just men then. |
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"I've mostly got women friends these days, the lads all got married and the wives don't approve So women feel the same too, they don't like their male spouses having female friends.
Not just men then. "
Obviously I can't comment on that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Question within a question -
Do we talk different to our same sex friends than we do to the opposite sex?
As a male I always thought I could have a deeper more softer conversations that I need, rather than getting a matter of fact exchange with males. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mostly women. I think most feel sorry for me in some form or another. I'm just not interested in a lot of 'Guy' things tbh. I rarely drink and I don't support a team so that's about 40%of conversations out of the window. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Question within a question -
Do we talk different to our same sex friends than we do to the opposite sex?
As a male I always thought I could have a deeper more softer conversations that I need, rather than getting a matter of fact exchange with males. "
Erm. I'm not sure if it's gender based - some of my conversations with my female friends are definitely not softer. One I almost cried at with the harsh but fairness of it.
I think I might have more male friends. Yes, I know I do. It's not because of some daft "oh women never understand me, I'm not like other women" stupid, stupid trope. It's more a case of who I naturally talk to and develop friendships with more easily. |
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"Question within a question -
Do we talk different to our same sex friends than we do to the opposite sex?
As a male I always thought I could have a deeper more softer conversations that I need, rather than getting a matter of fact exchange with males. "
I think it always depends if you just want someone to listen, advice or a solution. I tend to talk the same to both though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In school i had equal male and female pals. My first job it was all female environment and we were friendly but bitchy too, after that I had more male buddies that just treated me as one of the lads. Now it's just me. When the shit gets real you know who your friends are, I found out I invested more into them than they did.
So no friends lol |
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Almost all my friends on here and in real life are women. The ones that are men are generally of the type of calm, reasoning and compassionate nature that I tend to think of them as honourary women. |
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I definitely have more male friends. I think they want to shag me about as much as I do my female ones (some I do, some I don’t)…
I like advice from a broad spectrum based on experience & perspective. There is an argument that, that could be gender dependent I suppose. I don’t really give a fig though. Friendships have different reasons & needs, whether to do with gender or not. I don’t think it needs complicating. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Both but slightly more are women than men. Why ? Most guys are quite boring and just wanna sit in a pub drinking pints, gym or plat video games. Girls like shopping, lunch , hanging out , cooking etc |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I've more male friends than female, and more of those male friends are married or in a relationship than not. So their partners either don't feel threatened by me, or they just trust their menfolk, or they trust me, or a combination.
And I talk to my friends pretty much the same regardless of their sex. Which the guys are delighted by during discussions of gynae stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... men are way more pliable...
Such truth.
False
 I might post comments like these from now on and chuckle at the responses.
Me and you  "
Speak away, speech is free |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Males friends on a sex site when I'm a straight guy ... Why ?? This isn't Facebook. I have zero desire to chat to men on here. It might happen occasionally if the male half of a couple answers my messages for example but I'm here for the ladies as I'm straight and not one of these new age 'metrosexuals'. I have loads of friends of both sexes outside of fab as anybody else would have. |
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"Males friends on a sex site when I'm a straight guy ... Why ?? This isn't Facebook. I have zero desire to chat to men on here. It might happen occasionally if the male half of a couple answers my messages for example but I'm here for the ladies as I'm straight and not one of these new age 'metrosexuals'. I have loads of friends of both sexes outside of fab as anybody else would have. "
I met my best male friend through fab and we are both straight.
I've never had a close male friend before. Plenty of colleagues but not someone I could confide in.
We met through a fab walking group and immediately hit it off with so many things in common and have been friends for 5 years now.
Friendship on fab isn't all about sex.
I have a number of female friends from that same walking group who are no longer on the site for various reasons and we keep in regular touch but have never had sex. |
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