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A dip after a social/meet
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We've well and truly had a sudden dip in libido since our social/meet/club visit. (After an unbelievable increase straight afterwards too). It's definitely not helped by the fact I've been in a foul arse mood due to work deadlines and my period graced my presence early.
Tonight we seem to be coming towards the end and will hopefully find our mojo and libido somewhere during the weekend.
I guess it's not us that feels this way afterwards?
Also - cake or crisps? I'm being good so not having both 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The pre-meet buildup... flirts, flattery, focus... all combine to make the meet electric.
But the dead air after it brings you down to earth with a thump as you remember and reflect on how it was all just smoke and mirrors for sexcapade flirts and you are nothing more than a body to them and a handy dandy receptacle for their cock... no matter all the flowery prose and promises |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I definitely get 'the drop' after a meet.
All that adrenaline and excitement, the great sex,the buzz, then a week later I can feel really 'uuuurgh and meh'. It's very normal.
The best thing is to remember that it passes, make more plans, either vanilla or Fab related, and you'll have your mojo back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The pre-meet buildup... flirts, flattery, focus... all combine to make the meet electric.
But the dead air after it brings you down to earth with a thump as you remember and reflect on how it was all just smoke and mirrors for sexcapade flirts and you are nothing more than a body to them and a handy dandy receptacle for their cock... no matter all the flowery prose and promises"
I actually think you're right about this. After the meet, you can exchange pleasantries and talk about how great it was but keeping that up for a potential second meet can be difficult, especially if they have other suitors as well or they plan ahead without you in mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The pre-meet buildup... flirts, flattery, focus... all combine to make the meet electric.
But the dead air after it brings you down to earth with a thump as you remember and reflect on how it was all just smoke and mirrors for sexcapade flirts and you are nothing more than a body to them and a handy dandy receptacle for their cock... no matter all the flowery prose and promises
I actually think you're right about this. After the meet, you can exchange pleasantries and talk about how great it was but keeping that up for a potential second meet can be difficult, especially if they have other suitors as well or they plan ahead without you in mind "
Or don't plan at all.
Or not with any sense of urgency.
The thing is for me, if I'm at the point of meeting, it's no longer faux flirting. I'm gifting intimacy and with it is vulnerability and cracking the door to the real me.
So there is a certain necessary self-delusion/convincing required to get myself past my dislike of superficial casual sex in order to meet casually.
Some with regards to how much or little I care for them. Some for how much or little I know deep down they think of me.
So yeah.
Reality bursts through the door during the post-coital journey home. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Oh it's absolutely normal.
I've found over the years that I always get something of a drop. It might be a minor one caused by the rapid usage and depletion of endorphins and adrenaline, the sort of thing a hug with the fiancé and a PSL can solve. You know where you're mainly buzzing and high on life but still feel a bit flat.
It might be a more intense one because there's a pesky emotional connection and the sex is possibly too good and it makes you think, "why on earth am I so attracted to this person, they're a bit of a dick".
I've had the slightly satisfying but kind of sad joy of watching someone looking truly emotionally, mentally and physically drained and dropping trying to work. It can happen to anyone.
I think future things to look forward to always help. But also - accepting that you're having a low phase. I'm very much a high/ low person - that means if I have the intense highs I do, I'll also drop at some point and that's fine. Dial up the self care to 13, sit with it and know it won't last.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks all
The meet etc was great and we talk often in hopes of finding time to meet again so nothing was wrong in that aspect 
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You'll get the mojo back you hottie! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh it's absolutely normal.
I've found over the years that I always get something of a drop. It might be a minor one caused by the rapid usage and depletion of endorphins and adrenaline, the sort of thing a hug with the fiancé and a PSL can solve. You know where you're mainly buzzing and high on life but still feel a bit flat.
It might be a more intense one because there's a pesky emotional connection and the sex is possibly too good and it makes you think, "why on earth am I so attracted to this person, they're a bit of a dick".
I've had the slightly satisfying but kind of sad joy of watching someone looking truly emotionally, mentally and physically drained and dropping trying to work. It can happen to anyone.
I think future things to look forward to always help. But also - accepting that you're having a low phase. I'm very much a high/ low person - that means if I have the intense highs I do, I'll also drop at some point and that's fine. Dial up the self care to 13, sit with it and know it won't last.
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What is a PSL? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"the sort of thing a hug with the fiancé and a PSL can solve.
You're absolutely shameless for sneaking that in there  "
Aherm I'm an absolute legend of a shameless twunt.
It was seamless wasn't it? So proud of myself.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"What is a PSL?"
A Pumpkin Spice Latte - a delightful, perfectly sweet and spiced caffeine based drink found in the hands of the discerning, freethinking coffee drinker between September and October. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It might be a more intense one because there's a pesky emotional connection and the sex is possibly too good and it makes you think, "why on earth am I so attracted to this person, they're a bit of a dick".
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This is my regular issue.
Having to find and foster a connection to make sex possible, I then have to unwire it but have the uncomfortable phase of what you described above.
Things I know in my head.
Things I understand make them completely wrong for me.
But the sexual connection muddying the waters
Total pita to wait out the death of it all as I repeat to myself all the reasons they aren't good for me. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
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Sounds about right.. The anticipation, planning, build up etc, then it's done..
Post holiday, wedding or party blues we'd say.
Hormones, health and 'back to reality' all contribute of course  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the sort of thing a hug with the fiancé and a PSL can solve.
You're absolutely shameless for sneaking that in there
Aherm I'm an absolute legend of a shameless twunt.
It was seamless wasn't it? So proud of myself.
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I was very impressed, I almost skimmed over it to read the rest of the post |
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This is why you feel bad. Not because of the meet. 