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A question for the ladies or cpl’s
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My question is, what would say was the best way to get noticed?
So far I have been very respectful and polite, as I always am in life.
Is this where I am going wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes, it’s simply the luck of the draw. Whenever we appear online, new messages come in but we aren’t looking for any at the time.
This is why we’ve hidden our profile for the time being so as to avoid appearing online to those who might message otherwise. I feel rude not replying.
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You're not going wrong by being respectful and polite, do you think rude disrespectful men have better luck?
Men outnumber women by a long way on here so you probably need to ensure you have a good profile and a picture people can see clearly (don't need to show your face).
Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes, it’s simply the luck of the draw. Whenever we appear online, new messages come in but we aren’t looking for any at the time.
This is why we’ve hidden our profile for the time being so as to avoid appearing online to those who might message otherwise. I feel rude not replying.
M"
Luck of the draw, the luck I’m having if I fell into a bucket of tits I’d come out sucking my thumb  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You're not going wrong by being respectful and polite, do you think rude disrespectful men have better luck?
Men outnumber women by a long way on here so you probably need to ensure you have a good profile and a picture people can see clearly (don't need to show your face).
Good luck "
That’s great advice, thank you, didn’t think of posting pic without face tbh, need to keep face hidden as I work for large’ish sized company in senior management role, therefore need to be discreet  |
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By *he LsCouple
over a year ago
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"I have considered a club a number of times, but the thought of the club being full to the seams with single men has put me off on each occasion."
Clubs aren't full of single men, clubs operate a ratio to keep it well balanced. It's the best place , along with socials to get out there and meet people. |
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"You're not going wrong by being respectful and polite, do you think rude disrespectful men have better luck?
Men outnumber women by a long way on here so you probably need to ensure you have a good profile and a picture people can see clearly (don't need to show your face).
Good luck
That’s great advice, thank you, didn’t think of posting pic without face tbh, need to keep face hidden as I work for large’ish sized company in senior management role, therefore need to be discreet "
Best hope nobody has a magnifying glass then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Browse the meets section and look for an organised social on your area, this is by far the best way to meet people, it may not lead to anything more than a drink and chat but at least you have your foot in the door and may lead to other socials etc x |
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"I have considered a club a number of times, but the thought of the club being full to the seams with single men has put me off on each occasion."
A hell of a lot less single men to contend with in a club than there is on fab, so your chances would improve substantially |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Browse the meets section and look for an organised social on your area, this is by far the best way to meet people, it may not lead to anything more than a drink and chat but at least you have your foot in the door and may lead to other socials etc x"
Thank you, I will certainly give that a go x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have considered a club a number of times, but the thought of the club being full to the seams with single men has put me off on each occasion.
A hell of a lot less single men to contend with in a club than there is on fab, so your chances would improve substantially "
Thank you, gives me something to consider, although I imagine it can be quite a nerve racking experience attending alone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This will sound harsh and it's not meant to be.
For those men who aren't the most striking, photogenic, or blessed razor sharp wit in messages or the forum, this will be a difficult place to get noticed and stay noticed.
Your best option is to get along to a social or club and let people judge you in person. |
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"You're not going wrong by being respectful and polite, do you think rude disrespectful men have better luck?
Men outnumber women by a long way on here so you probably need to ensure you have a good profile and a picture people can see clearly (don't need to show your face).
Good luck
That’s great advice, thank you, didn’t think of posting pic without face tbh, need to keep face hidden as I work for large’ish sized company in senior management role, therefore need to be discreet "
OP, you know people can see your profile pic, right??? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This will sound harsh and it's not meant to be.
For those men who aren't the most striking, photogenic, or blessed razor sharp wit in messages or the forum, this will be a difficult place to get noticed and stay noticed.
Your best option is to get along to a social or club and let people judge you in person."
Not harsh at all, good advice, I do feel sorry for the ugly fellas though, I mean if me and Brad Pitt struggle what chance have they got  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You're not going wrong by being respectful and polite, do you think rude disrespectful men have better luck?
Men outnumber women by a long way on here so you probably need to ensure you have a good profile and a picture people can see clearly (don't need to show your face).
Good luck
That’s great advice, thank you, didn’t think of posting pic without face tbh, need to keep face hidden as I work for large’ish sized company in senior management role, therefore need to be discreet
OP, you know people can see your profile pic, right???"
No, whoops, gonna change that now, thank you |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
Fairytale Wood |
Getting noticed is different for different people. I noticed my partner because he was different and didn't stand out. Was little things, details like if someone made a comment about something, he would ask them how it went or did you enjoy. Could have been something simple like going to see a film or just. It showed a kind heart and in interest beyond the usual, that's what got him noticed for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This will sound harsh and it's not meant to be.
For those men who aren't the most striking, photogenic, or blessed razor sharp wit in messages or the forum, this will be a difficult place to get noticed and stay noticed.
Your best option is to get along to a social or club and let people judge you in person.
Not harsh at all, good advice, I do feel sorry for the ugly fellas though, I mean if me and Brad Pitt struggle what chance have they got "
Good attitude! Get out and mingling with folk. A lot of the same folk who come across well in messages struggle face to face so it's just finding what works for you. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
OP, you might also get a lot of good advice from men too, but for some reason you only want advice from people you might fuck.
Perhaps talk to all sorts of people, even if you don't want bang them. Socialising is a good in to getting yourself noticed.
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"OP, you might also get a lot of good advice from men too, but for some reason you only want advice from people you might fuck.
Perhaps talk to all sorts of people, even if you don't want bang them. Socialising is a good in to getting yourself noticed.
Gbat "
I guess that his target audience could best advise on what works. However I find that at socials and on the forums I'm drawn to people who interact with everyone regardless of whether they find them attractive. |
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"OP, you might also get a lot of good advice from men too, but for some reason you only want advice from people you might fuck.
Perhaps talk to all sorts of people, even if you don't want bang them. Socialising is a good in to getting yourself noticed.
Gbat "
I’ve seen that loads of times - men asking women what they want etc but they don’t ask men or want men’s advice. Totally their prerogative, of course, but I think they’re missing out on good advice. After all, why are some men ‘successful’ on here and others are perceived to be less so being the question it would make more logical sense to me to ask the guys. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"I’ve seen that loads of times - men asking women what they want etc but they don’t ask men or want men’s advice. Totally their prerogative, of course, but I think they’re missing out on good advice. After all, why are some men ‘successful’ on here and others are perceived to be less so being the question it would make more logical sense to me to ask the guys. "
That was my point. Instead of asking the target audience, get yourself a successful mentor.
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Getting noticed for the right reasons is ideal. The opposite is a turnoff and wastes investment of effort.
People like things at their own pace. You're ready and they probably won't be. Getting noticed is the first part. You need to be interesting to them - their tastes and preferences dictate if so.
Message, after searching and filtering. Use the forum. Post meets. Go to socialsm pick clubs Create comfort and rapport with you
It means investing effort. And deciding on realistic expectations. |
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OP, there isn't much on your profile, maybe add some more info to your bio and pictures.
Are you sending nice messages to people who aren't looking for what you're offering?
Go to a social or a club.
Maybe go on cam?
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Do you really think that is "where you went wrong"?? It's all down to attraction...with the limited amount of women on here your chances are extremely slim. That goes for everyone but especially those seeking women, I'm afraid |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"My question is, what would say was the best way to get noticed?
So far I have been very respectful and polite, as I always am in life.
Is this where I am going wrong?"
You've done it you've got noticed by the forumites some of the best looking, sexiest, up to date, cool, sarcastic people on this site but I'd go to clubs if you are worthy someone will play  |
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"OP, you might also get a lot of good advice from men too, but for some reason you only want advice from people you might fuck.
Perhaps talk to all sorts of people, even if you don't want bang them. Socialising is a good in to getting yourself noticed.
Gbat
I’ve seen that loads of times - men asking women what they want etc but they don’t ask men or want men’s advice. Totally their prerogative, of course, but I think they’re missing out on good advice. After all, why are some men ‘successful’ on here and others are perceived to be less so being the question it would make more logical sense to me to ask the guys. "
To ask the men what women want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes, it’s simply the luck of the draw. Whenever we appear online, new messages come in but we aren’t looking for any at the time.
This is why we’ve hidden our profile for the time being so as to avoid appearing online to those who might message otherwise. I feel rude not replying.
M
Luck of the draw, the luck I’m having if I fell into a bucket of tits I’d come out sucking my thumb "
Stick around the Forum with humour like that and your luck will likely improve greatly. Best of luck to you.
M |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
there has to be a connection a attraction there's no free sex on this scene ..
guys have it super hard is the honest blunt truth but there are loads of guys who do get it right even with the silly % mismatch .... just be you op and let people decide if they are interested or not ..
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"To ask the men what women want?
No, to ask successful men why they think they are successful.
Gbat
I think a more rounded view might be obtained by asking both men and women "
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"To ask the men what women want?
No, to ask successful men why they think they are successful.
Gbat
I think a more rounded view might be obtained by asking both men and women "
So do I. This is my first post, duplicated above (which you didn't seem to agree with). I've added some emphasis by capitalising some words.
"OP, you might ALSO get a lot of good advice from men too, but for some reason you only want advice from people you might fuck.
PERHAPS TALK TO ALL SORTS OF PEOPLE, even if you don't want bang them. Socialising is a good in to getting yourself noticed.
Gbat"
Perhaps we were always saying the same thing?
Gbat |
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"To ask the men what women want?
No, to ask successful men why they think they are successful.
Gbat
I think a more rounded view might be obtained by asking both men and women
So do I. This is my first post, duplicated above (which you didn't seem to agree with). I've added some emphasis by capitalising some words.
"OP, you might ALSO get a lot of good advice from men too, but for some reason you only want advice from people you might fuck.
PERHAPS TALK TO ALL SORTS OF PEOPLE, even if you don't want bang them. Socialising is a good in to getting yourself noticed.
Gbat"
Perhaps we were always saying the same thing?
Gbat "
Probably |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"My question is, what would say was the best way to get noticed?
So far I have been very respectful and polite, as I always am in life.
Is this where I am going wrong?"
The best ways to get noticed are twofold.
Have good, visible public photos and a well written detailed profile, outlining who you are and what you're looking for.
The other is to attend vlubs and organised socials so people can meet and see the real you rather than the online persona.
Adopt those two practices and you'll see a huge improvement in interactions with others and most likely meets.
Simples.
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