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Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
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"I’m male and have never and won’t drop my standards on here or in life generally. Maybe you have OP but let’s not tar every male with the same brush shall we Marc" I might have to varying degrees, not my usual types once or twice in a club or on a night out when there was a lack of options. Is that really dropping standards if I was still attracted to them though just not as much as others. I didn't say everyone, that's why I'm asking. | |||
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"I’m not looking for money and relationships on here. I don’t really get the standards thing. If I like someone and click with them then that’s it. I rarely do though and I’m a fussy bitch but I know what I want and won’t settle for less. Is that standards?" I think what the OP is asking is have you ever had sex with someone you didn’t fancy just to have sex because apparently males do  
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"Are you saying most women only have sex if there’s a prospect of money or a relationship?
Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter "I'm saying women might only drop their standards for money or help in some kind of way, like career advancing etc. If it was just for some pleasure I don't think women would. | |||
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"Are you saying most women only have sex if there’s a prospect of money or a relationship?
Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter I'm saying women might only drop their standards for money or help in some kind of way, like career advancing etc.
If it was just for some pleasure I don't think women would. "I don’t think anyone decent drops their standards for any reason. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me" I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. | |||
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"I’m not looking for money and relationships on here. I don’t really get the standards thing. If I like someone and click with them then that’s it. I rarely do though and I’m a fussy bitch but I know what I want and won’t settle for less. Is that standards? I think what the OP is asking is have you ever had sex with someone you didn’t fancy just to have sex because apparently males do
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. " Op are you struggling to get women to drop their standards to meet you? You seem like someone’s touched a nerve this morning | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. Op are you struggling to get women to drop their standards to meet you? You seem like someone’s touched a nerve this morning " Not at all, just curious to hear some insight. Want to see if I what I believe is showing signs that it's true. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. Op are you struggling to get women to drop their standards to meet you? You seem like someone’s touched a nerve this morning Not at all, just curious to hear some insight. Want to see if I what I believe is showing signs that it's true. " If you already believe something then you’re looking for things to back up your beliefs you’re entertaining confirmation bias and not looking at it from a fair and neutral perspective | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. " I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?  
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. Op are you struggling to get women to drop their standards to meet you? You seem like someone’s touched a nerve this morning Not at all, just curious to hear some insight. Want to see if I what I believe is showing signs that it's true. If you already believe something then you’re looking for things to back up your beliefs you’re entertaining confirmation bias and not looking at it from a fair and neutral perspective " It's hard to be truly objective on anything unless you have to be. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. Op are you struggling to get women to drop their standards to meet you? You seem like someone’s touched a nerve this morning Not at all, just curious to hear some insight. Want to see if I what I believe is showing signs that it's true. If you already believe something then you’re looking for things to back up your beliefs you’re entertaining confirmation bias and not looking at it from a fair and neutral perspective It's hard to be truly objective on anything unless you have to be. " Of course it’s not | |||
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"Last week, whilst reenacting Henry V at Monmouth Castle, and walking through the portcullis towards the drawbridge, I dropped my Standard. Gutted." For shame, Nero. For shame. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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"I’m not looking for money and relationships on here. I don’t really get the standards thing. If I like someone and click with them then that’s it. I rarely do though and I’m a fussy bitch but I know what I want and won’t settle for less. Is that standards? I think what the OP is asking is have you ever had sex with someone you didn’t fancy just to have sex because apparently males do
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? No Is it just a male thing? No. It’s not “even” a male thing. Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? No Please discuss... No thanks " Just avoiding yet another grenade | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A You would argue with me if I said it's light outside in England at the moment.
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"Are you saying most women only have sex if there’s a prospect of money or a relationship?
Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter I'm saying women might only drop their standards for money or help in some kind of way, like career advancing etc.
If it was just for some pleasure I don't think women would. "I think that happens much less in the UK and in 2023. I’d be surprised it happens on here at all , women are generally looking for sex , friendship or both rather than upward mobility. If they are looking for that in a guy , I’d be very surprised they would look here. That’s the kind of thing people think about when looking for permanent partners , it’s not popular opinion , but generally accepted women marry up , guys marry down, in majority of cases, in some cultures much more than others | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? No Is it just a male thing? No. It’s not “even” a male thing. Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? No Please discuss... No thanks Just avoiding yet another grenade "Are you saying I'm putting out fires with gasoline? | |||
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"Are you saying most women only have sex if there’s a prospect of money or a relationship?
Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter I'm saying women might only drop their standards for money or help in some kind of way, like career advancing etc.
If it was just for some pleasure I don't think women would.
I think that happens much less in the UK and in 2023. I’d be surprised it happens on here at all , women are generally looking for sex , friendship or both rather than upward mobility.
If they are looking for that in a guy , I’d be very surprised they would look here.
That’s the kind of thing people think about when looking for permanent partners , it’s not popular opinion , but generally accepted women marry up , guys marry down, in majority of cases, in some cultures much more than others
"'Guys marry down' interesting. I've seen a few couples where I think how did he get her. Not many where I think why is he with her. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A You would argue with me if I said it's light outside in England at the moment.
No more than I'd argue, debate or discuss anything with someone else expressing the same views.
The profile behind a comment has never concerned me. Just the comment or opinion itself.
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... " As a man on fab I've never dropped my standards, My flag flys at full mast.. Find it quite disrespectful that you make a generalised assumption that all males drop there standards. Or is this a case of your interlised standard dropping, having a external representation towards others. Do love a bit of interpretive analysis | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... " Not at all. I can think of three occasions I was invited to the homes of various Fab ladies, and when I got there sex was on a plate if I’d wanted it, but they just weren’t for me. Similarly, most of my clubs visits there wasn’t anyone I clicked with, but I also declined offers whilst there. A wise person once said to me; “Better no sex in a club, than regretting fucking a minger”  | |||
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"Not a chance I'd drop my standards. Hence why I've said no more times than I've said yes in six years here. Never understood the mentality of sex just for the sake of it. " Agreed 100%. Would rather have a wank | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... Not at all. I can think of three occasions I was invited to the homes of various Fab ladies, and when I got there sex was on a plate if I’d wanted it, but they just weren’t for me. Similarly, most of my clubs visits there wasn’t anyone I clicked with, but I also declined offers whilst there. A wise person once said to me; “Better no sex in a club, than regretting fucking a minger” "Now that I’m putting on my tombstone
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... Not at all. I can think of three occasions I was invited to the homes of various Fab ladies, and when I got there sex was on a plate if I’d wanted it, but they just weren’t for me. Similarly, most of my clubs visits there wasn’t anyone I clicked with, but I also declined offers whilst there. A wise person once said to me; “Better no sex in a club, than regretting fucking a minger” "That must of hurt them. I bet they weren't used to that. Did they pursue you again after the ladies who invited you their houses? | |||
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"Oh all the time. A cock is a stunt dildo, nothing more. Why bother having standards when I can get my holes filled? " Good, good... Let the horn flow through you  | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status" Yeah sounds familiar | |||
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But as I've grown I value my time now, got more self respect & am not desperate for sex/attention. Everyone should have standards, just keep them realistic & don't go out your way to meet their standards if they can't meet yours
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A You would argue with me if I said it's light outside in England at the moment.
No more than I'd argue, debate or discuss anything with someone else expressing the same views.
The profile behind a comment has never concerned me. Just the comment or opinion itself.
A Seem to follow me around on here and challenge anything I say.
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"Oh all the time. A cock is a stunt dildo, nothing more. Why bother having standards when I can get my holes filled? Good, good... Let the horn flow through you " I'm entering my Bad Decision Era, just ignore me. | |||
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"When I was younger I did drop my standards being "young, dumb & ready to nut" haha
But as I've grown I value my time now, got more self respect & am not desperate for sex/attention. Everyone should have standards, just keep them realistic & don't go out your way to meet their standards if they can't meet yours
"That's very good self reflection. Not everyone is looking for that connection that others are and it's just as important to not judge and respect the choices of people that do just want a quick fuck just as we do those who want to let things build first  | |||
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"Oh all the time. A cock is a stunt dildo, nothing more. Why bother having standards when I can get my holes filled? Good, good... Let the horn flow through you
I'm entering my Bad Decision Era, just ignore me. "Can I be one of them?  | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... " so much shade in one post, get some sunshine quick!! | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Yeah sounds familiar " But it's true though, I'm not saying I seen every single womens profile on here, that's impossible but the one's that I've come across so far say 80% (and that's just me being generous) of them want a guy that's 6ft plus, hung and muscular in some cases | |||
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"Oh all the time. A cock is a stunt dildo, nothing more. Why bother having standards when I can get my holes filled? Good, good... Let the horn flow through you
I'm entering my Bad Decision Era, just ignore me.
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... so much shade in one post, get some sunshine quick!! "You like the shade... | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... Not at all. I can think of three occasions I was invited to the homes of various Fab ladies, and when I got there sex was on a plate if I’d wanted it, but they just weren’t for me. Similarly, most of my clubs visits there wasn’t anyone I clicked with, but I also declined offers whilst there. A wise person once said to me; “Better no sex in a club, than regretting fucking a minger” " | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... so much shade in one post, get some sunshine quick!! You like the shade... " | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Yeah sounds familiar But it's true though, I'm not saying I seen every single womens profile on here, that's impossible but the one's that I've come across so far say 80% (and that's just me being generous) of them want a guy that's 6ft plus, hung and muscular in some cases" You'll always find what you are looking for. I've never seen a profile in six years here asking for any of that. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A You would argue with me if I said it's light outside in England at the moment.
No more than I'd argue, debate or discuss anything with someone else expressing the same views.
The profile behind a comment has never concerned me. Just the comment or opinion itself.
A Seem to follow me around on here and challenge anything I say.
Strange behaviour. "Op, you leave yourself to be challenged, from my outside perspective some of your threads views need to be challenged. It's peoples right to challenge, things they don't agree with. The assumption of your following me around is bit of an ego driven statement I'm sure people have better things to do with their time than wait for you to drop a comment, to be challenged | |||
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"Oh all the time. A cock is a stunt dildo, nothing more. Why bother having standards when I can get my holes filled? Good, good... Let the horn flow through you
I'm entering my Bad Decision Era, just ignore me.
Can I be one of them?
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I'll seriously consider it. "I'll bring the runny honey | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A You would argue with me if I said it's light outside in England at the moment.
No more than I'd argue, debate or discuss anything with someone else expressing the same views.
The profile behind a comment has never concerned me. Just the comment or opinion itself.
A Seem to follow me around on here and challenge anything I say.
Strange behaviour.
Op, you leave yourself to be challenged, from my outside perspective some of your threads views need to be challenged. It's peoples right to challenge, things they don't agree with.
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... " Standards? what's that?I shag everyone that moves
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"Oh all the time. A cock is a stunt dildo, nothing more. Why bother having standards when I can get my holes filled? Good, good... Let the horn flow through you
I'm entering my Bad Decision Era, just ignore me.
Can I be one of them?
Joe!
I'll seriously consider it.
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"Oh all the time. A cock is a stunt dildo, nothing more. Why bother having standards when I can get my holes filled? Good, good... Let the horn flow through you
I'm entering my Bad Decision Era, just ignore me.
Can I be one of them?
Joe!
I'll seriously consider it.
I'll bring the runny honey
You remember the honey! Yes, please. Let's do it. "It's lived rent free inside my head the second you said it | |||
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"OP, I'm inferring that you mean standards based purely on aesthetics. Attraction is a lot more nuanced that just looks for the majority of people, but we'll stick to purely physical appearance. Now I don't believe in this "there are no leagues" train of thought - there is an, albeit societally defined, spectrum of physical attractiveness (absurd example, Queen Victoria and Marilyn Monroe - I can't think of anyone I know that would say, based purely on appearance, that they thought Queen Vic was more attractive than Marilyn). And we all know roughly where we sit on that spectrum. I think that you're referring to people having sex with others that YOU perceive to be on a different level in that spectrum. But they may have a completely different view of themselves than you have of them, and place themselves in a different place on the spectrum. Of course, on here in particular, a lot of other factors come into play such as personality traits, location, availability etc. That was a very waffly way of saying that just because you think people may be having sex with people that you deem to be below their standards, it doesn't mean that they believe they are. But it's Monday morning and I might be speaking a load of codswallop. " Yeah I believe some people are universally attractive. Yeah just physical appearance for sex. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A You would argue with me if I said it's light outside in England at the moment.
No more than I'd argue, debate or discuss anything with someone else expressing the same views.
The profile behind a comment has never concerned me. Just the comment or opinion itself.
A Seem to follow me around on here and challenge anything I say.
Strange behaviour.
Op, you leave yourself to be challenged, from my outside perspective some of your threads views need to be challenged. It's peoples right to challenge, things they don't agree with.
The assumption of your following me around is bit of an ego driven statement I'm sure people have better things to do with their time than wait for you to drop a comment, to be challenged "Sorry for the delay OP - had to answer a couple of important work emails.
I came back to say just the above!
I've been on Fab since 2008 and for most of that time have spent a great deal of it in the forums. I don't follow anyone. Nor do I target specific threads. If something interests me I'll comment. If I have an opinion I'll share it.
And if I see thoughts or statements I find worrying I'll challenge them - regardless of who types them.
It's not relevant to me who says something. I don't know you, or many other forum users from Adam and never will, so I'm challenging the view, not the person behind it.
Sometimes because as has been apparent over the last 15 years there are people who deliberately post certain views to get a reaction, start arguments and create division. Hand grenade threads aren't a new thing. Unlike many of those you at least stick around to continue discussions rather than start a thread and watch from the sidelines so fair play to you for that.
But as above. I'm not hanging around following your every sentence. I have a life and things to do off site, so I'll just dip in and out as and when I fancy.
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Utter rubbish I don't know what your type is but most women in here (not all) want a guy that is taller then them, usually over 6ft" This very true, there are a lot of heightist women on here and in the real world. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A You would argue with me if I said it's light outside in England at the moment.
No more than I'd argue, debate or discuss anything with someone else expressing the same views.
The profile behind a comment has never concerned me. Just the comment or opinion itself.
A Seem to follow me around on here and challenge anything I say.
Strange behaviour.
Op, you leave yourself to be challenged, from my outside perspective some of your threads views need to be challenged. It's peoples right to challenge, things they don't agree with.
The assumption of your following me around is bit of an ego driven statement I'm sure people have better things to do with their time than wait for you to drop a comment, to be challenged It's true, he's all over me like a cheap suit.
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... Women don't need to they have the pick of the crop, so guys lump it or leave it, much better success made in person "Hard to disagree with that. The evidence seems corroborate that too. | |||
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"Are you saying most women only have sex if there’s a prospect of money or a relationship?
Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter "Unfortunately I have found on here that genuine ladies like yourself are be owing increasingly rare these days and a lot of messages I get are indeed women wanting money. | |||
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Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter
Unfortunately I have found on here that genuine ladies like yourself are be owing increasingly rare these days and a lot of messages I get are indeed women wanting money. "Any women asking you for money, report them. This site is not for them. | |||
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though "I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ? | |||
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
Surely that's just a preference. Last I checked we're still allowed to have those.
Do you find women of every conceivable size, shape, hair colour etc. attractive? "Yeah of course people are entitled to preferences just trying to understand why with that 1? What are valid reasons for that? | |||
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"Are you saying most women only have sex if there’s a prospect of money or a relationship?
Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter
Unfortunately I have found on here that genuine ladies like yourself are be owing increasingly rare these days and a lot of messages I get are indeed women wanting money. "Again, never had a single message or conversation in all my time here about money or favours. I doubt very much that has anything to do with luck. | |||
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
Surely that's just a preference. Last I checked we're still allowed to have those.
Do you find women of every conceivable size, shape, hair colour etc. attractive? Yeah of course people are entitled to preferences just trying to understand why with that 1?
What are valid reasons for that?
"Well everyone will have their own personal reasons, but for me I've always preferred taller men for a few reasons : - when I wear heels I can be approaching 6 foot, and it hurts my neck to bend down for a kiss (constant neck pain is real when you have big boobs, bending makes it worse) - I'm not exactly a petite, waif-like creature, and shorter men tend to be smaller in stature...I don't want to cause them any injuries if things get lively in the bedroom - some of my favourite sexual positions aren't easily doable with shorter men They're valid enough for me...although I don't really feel any need to justify my preferences to anyone, but you seem to be a bit butt hurt so I thought I'd give you some examples of practical reasons. | |||
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
Surely that's just a preference. Last I checked we're still allowed to have those.
Do you find women of every conceivable size, shape, hair colour etc. attractive? Yeah of course people are entitled to preferences just trying to understand why with that 1?
What are valid reasons for that?
Well everyone will have their own personal reasons, but for me I've always preferred taller men for a few reasons :
- when I wear heels I can be approaching 6 foot, and it hurts my neck to bend down for a kiss (constant neck pain is real when you have big boobs, bending makes it worse)
- I'm not exactly a petite, waif-like creature, and shorter men tend to be smaller in stature...I don't want to cause them any injuries if things get lively in the bedroom
- some of my favourite sexual positions aren't easily doable with shorter men
They're valid enough for me...although I don't really feel any need to justify my preferences to anyone, but you seem to be a bit butt hurt so I thought I'd give you some examples of practical reasons. "interesting. Not at all I'm 5 foot 11. Never really affected me. I prefer women who are no taller than 5 foot 6 or 7 as I find it masculine when they are abnormally tall for a woman. | |||
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"Are you saying most women only have sex if there’s a prospect of money or a relationship?
Standards to me include hygiene, manners and a decent moral compass.
These forums really are a great filter
Unfortunately I have found on here that genuine ladies like yourself are be owing increasingly rare these days and a lot of messages I get are indeed women wanting money. "Did you approach these women first? | |||
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
She obviously likes guys over 6ft.
Do you not have specific preferences?
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
Surely that's just a preference. Last I checked we're still allowed to have those.
Do you find women of every conceivable size, shape, hair colour etc. attractive? Yeah of course people are entitled to preferences just trying to understand why with that 1?
What are valid reasons for that?
Well everyone will have their own personal reasons, but for me I've always preferred taller men for a few reasons :
- when I wear heels I can be approaching 6 foot, and it hurts my neck to bend down for a kiss (constant neck pain is real when you have big boobs, bending makes it worse)
- I'm not exactly a petite, waif-like creature, and shorter men tend to be smaller in stature...I don't want to cause them any injuries if things get lively in the bedroom
- some of my favourite sexual positions aren't easily doable with shorter men
They're valid enough for me...although I don't really feel any need to justify my preferences to anyone, but you seem to be a bit butt hurt so I thought I'd give you some examples of practical reasons. interesting.
Not at all I'm 5 foot 11. Never really affected me.
I prefer women who are no taller than 5 foot 6 or 7 as I find it masculine when they are abnormally tall for a woman. "So you're heightist too! | |||
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"I have a ‘default’ type, with both men and women- but many people have given me the scorching hot horn, over the years, who don’t fit that type - looks wise and personality wise. The only time I’d consider I’ve dropped my standards is when someone has later revealed themselves to be a total douche canoe, post sex, usually by lying about something." Interesting, so there was just 'something about them' you'd say. | |||
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
Surely that's just a preference. Last I checked we're still allowed to have those.
Do you find women of every conceivable size, shape, hair colour etc. attractive? Yeah of course people are entitled to preferences just trying to understand why with that 1?
What are valid reasons for that?
Well everyone will have their own personal reasons, but for me I've always preferred taller men for a few reasons :
- when I wear heels I can be approaching 6 foot, and it hurts my neck to bend down for a kiss (constant neck pain is real when you have big boobs, bending makes it worse)
- I'm not exactly a petite, waif-like creature, and shorter men tend to be smaller in stature...I don't want to cause them any injuries if things get lively in the bedroom
- some of my favourite sexual positions aren't easily doable with shorter men
They're valid enough for me...although I don't really feel any need to justify my preferences to anyone, but you seem to be a bit butt hurt so I thought I'd give you some examples of practical reasons. interesting.
Not at all I'm 5 foot 11. Never really affected me.
I prefer women who are no taller than 5 foot 6 or 7 as I find it masculine when they are abnormally tall for a woman.
So you're heightist too! "I would still sleep with a woman who was over 6 foot if I was attracted to her though and the feeling was mutual. It wouldn't be a deal-breaker. | |||
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"I have a ‘default’ type, with both men and women- but many people have given me the scorching hot horn, over the years, who don’t fit that type - looks wise and personality wise. The only time I’d consider I’ve dropped my standards is when someone has later revealed themselves to be a total douche canoe, post sex, usually by lying about something. Interesting, so there was just 'something about them' you'd say. " Which are you referring to, the first or second part of my comment? | |||
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" 'Guys marry down' interesting. I've seen a few couples where I think how did he get her. Not many where I think why is he with her. " Maybe it's because she finds him attractive physically but also he has other attractive traits such as a personality, kindness, humour, a similar outlook on life, he treats her as an equal and maybe it's something that can't be explained but it just works. Judging everything by appearance isn't the full picture. | |||
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"I have never dropped my standards. I can make myself cum harder than any Man, so have no reason to. "Exactly this. While it is much nicer to be with another person to enjoy sex and sensuality - I would never consider dropping my standard when I can perfectly happily achieve a good result. And I don't have to compliment my toys for being the best ever...(tongue in cheek, guys - not dismissing you! ) | |||
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"Heightist
I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
Surely that's just a preference. Last I checked we're still allowed to have those.
Do you find women of every conceivable size, shape, hair colour etc. attractive? Yeah of course people are entitled to preferences just trying to understand why with that 1?
What are valid reasons for that?
Well everyone will have their own personal reasons, but for me I've always preferred taller men for a few reasons :
- when I wear heels I can be approaching 6 foot, and it hurts my neck to bend down for a kiss (constant neck pain is real when you have big boobs, bending makes it worse)
- I'm not exactly a petite, waif-like creature, and shorter men tend to be smaller in stature...I don't want to cause them any injuries if things get lively in the bedroom
- some of my favourite sexual positions aren't easily doable with shorter men
They're valid enough for me...although I don't really feel any need to justify my preferences to anyone, but you seem to be a bit butt hurt so I thought I'd give you some examples of practical reasons. interesting.
Not at all I'm 5 foot 11. Never really affected me.
I prefer women who are no taller than 5 foot 6 or 7 as I find it masculine when they are abnormally tall for a woman.
So you're heightist too! I would still sleep with a woman who was over 6 foot if I was attracted to her though and the feeling was mutual.
It wouldn't be a deal-breaker. "As I'm pretty sure it isn't a deal breaker for the vast majority of women who have a preference for taller men. How do you think I came to the above conclusions if I haven't had any sexual interactions with shorter men? | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... " We just got some really shitty messages from some guy who demanded we drop our standards and how we don't deserve to be fussy as this is a sex site. He gave off some seriously warped messages and I would worry about him around others. We won't drop our standards and nonody else should have to. This is a community after all. C | |||
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" 'Guys marry down' interesting. I've seen a few couples where I think how did he get her. Not many where I think why is he with her. Maybe it's because she finds him attractive physically but also he has other attractive traits such as a personality, kindness, humour, a similar outlook on life, he treats her as an equal and maybe it's something that can't be explained but it just works. Judging everything by appearance isn't the full picture. " Definitely more common though to be surprised by who a woman is with. That just doesn't support the theory that women marry down. Women are naturally hypergamaos so they may not marry a physically attractive man but the man will be powerful or have status in some way. | |||
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"Given some of the people that seem to want me, I'd say they definitely lower their standards. I also truly believe that there's a big difference between here and say the dating world. Sadly I think I fall in to the great to hook up with but not to date category. So now I just hook up on my terms only " Yeah I don't think fab is like reality. Being aware of this can save pain though. | |||
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I'd say I'd drop all of my preferences just so that I can't be accused of having any isms....but I'm not meeting because I found someone who's tall, hung, affluent, good looking and charming. Obviously dropping my standards with him though I can understand when women don't want a guy shorter than them but what about a petite 5 foot 0 woman who states a guy must be 6 foot + ?
Surely that's just a preference. Last I checked we're still allowed to have those.
Do you find women of every conceivable size, shape, hair colour etc. attractive? Yeah of course people are entitled to preferences just trying to understand why with that 1?
What are valid reasons for that?
Well everyone will have their own personal reasons, but for me I've always preferred taller men for a few reasons :
- when I wear heels I can be approaching 6 foot, and it hurts my neck to bend down for a kiss (constant neck pain is real when you have big boobs, bending makes it worse)
- I'm not exactly a petite, waif-like creature, and shorter men tend to be smaller in stature...I don't want to cause them any injuries if things get lively in the bedroom
- some of my favourite sexual positions aren't easily doable with shorter men
They're valid enough for me...although I don't really feel any need to justify my preferences to anyone, but you seem to be a bit butt hurt so I thought I'd give you some examples of practical reasons. interesting.
Not at all I'm 5 foot 11. Never really affected me.
I prefer women who are no taller than 5 foot 6 or 7 as I find it masculine when they are abnormally tall for a woman.
So you're heightist too! I would still sleep with a woman who was over 6 foot if I was attracted to her though and the feeling was mutual.
It wouldn't be a deal-breaker.
As I'm pretty sure it isn't a deal breaker for the vast majority of women who have a preference for taller men. How do you think I came to the above conclusions if I haven't had any sexual interactions with shorter men? "Sometimes they do explicitly state do not bother if not over 6 foot. Maybe there are exceptions at times. | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Utter rubbish I don't know what your type is but most women in here (not all) want a guy that is taller then them, usually over 6ft Even if they do, what is wrong with that? If someone states on their profile they want young athletic blonde I respect their preference and the fact I’m not what they are looking for." I never said there was anything wrong with that, people like what they like, I respect their decision but it's when someone says they DO lower their standards when they clearly DON'T thats the issue | |||
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" 'Guys marry down' interesting. I've seen a few couples where I think how did he get her. Not many where I think why is he with her. Maybe it's because she finds him attractive physically but also he has other attractive traits such as a personality, kindness, humour, a similar outlook on life, he treats her as an equal and maybe it's something that can't be explained but it just works. Judging everything by appearance isn't the full picture. Definitely more common though to be surprised by who a woman is with. That just doesn't support the theory that women marry down. Women are naturally hypergamaos so they may not marry a physically attractive man but the man will be powerful or have status in some way. " ...or maybe not be powerful or have status but may possess some of the other traits I mentioned which are far more important. | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Utter rubbish I don't know what your type is but most women in here (not all) want a guy that is taller then them, usually over 6ft Even if they do, what is wrong with that? If someone states on their profile they want young athletic blonde I respect their preference and the fact I’m not what they are looking for. I never said there was anything wrong with that, people like what they like, I respect their decision but it's when someone says they DO lower their standards when they clearly DON'T thats the issue" True, especially a women on here, their standards are like bullet proof glass. | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Utter rubbish I don't know what your type is but most women in here (not all) want a guy that is taller then them, usually over 6ft Even if they do, what is wrong with that? If someone states on their profile they want young athletic blonde I respect their preference and the fact I’m not what they are looking for. I never said there was anything wrong with that, people like what they like, I respect their decision but it's when someone says they DO lower their standards when they clearly DON'T thats the issue True, especially a women on here, their standards are like bullet proof glass. " Or maybe just maybe even if they do (which in all likelihood is not a drop in standards but a mere alteration to what they normally look for) you still don't fall into that criteria. You seriously seem to have a massive chip on your shoulder about women on here, or at least one of you does who knows you don't say who's typing.... Build a bridge and get over it! Tinder x | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Utter rubbish I don't know what your type is but most women in here (not all) want a guy that is taller then them, usually over 6ft Even if they do, what is wrong with that? If someone states on their profile they want young athletic blonde I respect their preference and the fact I’m not what they are looking for. I never said there was anything wrong with that, people like what they like, I respect their decision but it's when someone says they DO lower their standards when they clearly DON'T thats the issue True, especially a women on here, their standards are like bullet proof glass. " You seem to have a few issues with women? The way you come across is that you don’t like them? | |||
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... Not at all. I can think of three occasions I was invited to the homes of various Fab ladies, and when I got there sex was on a plate if I’d wanted it, but they just weren’t for me. Similarly, most of my clubs visits there wasn’t anyone I clicked with, but I also declined offers whilst there. A wise person once said to me; “Better no sex in a club, than regretting fucking a minger” That must of hurt them.
I bet they weren't used to that.
Did they pursue you again after the ladies who invited you their houses?
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"I’m not looking for money and relationships on here. I don’t really get the standards thing. If I like someone and click with them then that’s it. I rarely do though and I’m a fussy bitch but I know what I want and won’t settle for less. Is that standards?" This. I couldn't bring myself to do anything if I'm not feeling it. Great sex experiences or no thanks. Sex for the sake of is the biggest turn off. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
A"Couldnt agree more, A. It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum. I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without. So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. | |||
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"Most women in here want a guy thats 6ft plus and hung, I see it in most of the profile and status Utter rubbish I don't know what your type is but most women in here (not all) want a guy that is taller then them, usually over 6ft Even if they do, what is wrong with that? If someone states on their profile they want young athletic blonde I respect their preference and the fact I’m not what they are looking for. I never said there was anything wrong with that, people like what they like, I respect their decision but it's when someone says they DO lower their standards when they clearly DON'T thats the issue True, especially a women on here, their standards are like bullet proof glass. You seem to have a few issues with women? The way you come across is that you don’t like them? " That's an absurd notion. I adore women. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'."Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times? Is it a case of no smoke without fire though? | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
"Are you seriously implying what I think you are!!! Wow what a dick comment! Tinder | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
"Yes. My standards are entirely realistic. Because I might be fat, old and look like the back end of a bus but my partner is sexy as fuck and apparently there are even some of the very sexy men on here who would rather like to get their hands on me. I'm now wondering if an implied put down is better or worse than an overt one | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
Are you seriously implying what I think you are!!!
Wow what a dick comment!
Tinder "Just asking a question, do women's standards raise when they join a site like this? | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
Are you seriously implying what I think you are!!!
Wow what a dick comment!
Tinder Just asking a question, do women's standards raise when they join a site like this?"That question was not in the comment you made to me. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
Are you seriously implying what I think you are!!!
Wow what a dick comment!
Tinder Just asking a question, do women's standards raise when they join a site like this?"No it wasnt a question, you implied that because people have said she shouldn't have expectations and standards of the people she wants to meet and that she should meet anyone based on what they have said Tinder | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
Are you seriously implying what I think you are!!!
Wow what a dick comment!
Tinder Just asking a question, do women's standards raise when they join a site like this?
That question was not in the comment you made to me."It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. | |||
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
Are you seriously implying what I think you are!!!
Wow what a dick comment!
Tinder Just asking a question, do women's standards raise when they join a site like this?
No it wasnt a question, you implied that because people have said she shouldn't have expectations and standards of the people she wants to meet and that she should meet anyone based on what they have said
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"How many have dropped their standards on here? Is it just a male thing? Do women ever drop their standards for just sex without the prospect of money and relationships etc ? Please discuss... " I'm sure there lot of men and women have lowered their exspections due lax of sex over the covid period . I myself previously wouldnt dream of having sex with anyone without first knowing them for sometime and haveing a meeting of minds with regards bdsm interests. But as its been that long since I've had sex I'm open to haveing sex on a meet just to give my body the opportunity find out if it still works lol | |||
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" That question was not in the comment you made to me. It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. Weirdly the subconscious doesn't come across in text on a public forum. I don't recall saying at any point that I wasn't "having any joy". In fact, I stated the opposite. Your comment came across as rude." You did say go without though. If lot's of different people were telling me I'm doing something wrong, I would question it. Like these forums, I post things but they are considered controversial or misogynistic to some. I might have to change my approach or wording of things. | |||
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"You said no smoke without fire? To a comment about people telling her that she shouldn't have an expectation of who she wants to meet. To me that's implying that she shouldn't have those expectations and listen to them and therefore meet anyone who shows an interest Tinder I said is it a case. Read again. " And it should never be the case of that just because someone tells you that you should that you should do it, why the hell shouldn’t you an expectation of the people you want to meet, why should you lower them? As most have said they'd rather go without than meet just anyone for a roll in the hay. Tinder | |||
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"My standards are different based on them being a 'fwb' rather than a partner or just a friend. Some peoples views here are quite unsettling... "I find that some of the views are what I’d have expected. I’m Not sure if this is what people actually believe is going on, but it could be what they ‘see’ and can’t believe it. I relate it to a woman who ‘can’t believe the type of women I’d be attracted to!’ A sexy intelligent woman who is interested in me, shows me some attention with conversation ……….. need I go on? So when people are talking about lowering STANDARDS? Do they just mean physical looks? Because I don’t see the attraction in some super popular Hollywood stars, but others do. | |||
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"I definitely have standards. One of being I won’t touch anyone misogynistic with a ten foot pole…. Regardless of power, money, looks, magic powers…. And I think women that do are very few & far between. There does have to be an attraction - and that’s pure chemistry. Physically I have been attracted to 5ft 7 & 6 ft plus men. Ages ranges from late 20s to early 50s. But it really is true - personality will win out every time. I have lowered my standards somewhat replying to this thread, because in all honesty it’s quite distasteful." Love. This. | |||
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" That question was not in the comment you made to me. It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. Weirdly the subconscious doesn't come across in text on a public forum. I don't recall saying at any point that I wasn't "having any joy". In fact, I stated the opposite. Your comment came across as rude. You did say go without though. If lot's of different people were telling me I'm doing something wrong, I would question it. Like these forums, I post things but they are considered controversial or misogynistic to some. I might have to change my approach or wording of things. " You haven't changed your approach or wording though. That is your choice. Me saying I'd rather go without doesn't say or mean that I do go without. It means I would rather go without than have sex with someone I don't want to. The people who have told me I'm doing something wrong are people I've said no to for meeting. Oddly enough the people I've said yes to meeting, and people who have never asked me to meet them, have never told me I'm doing something wrong. As I said, there appeared to be an implied insult in the no smoke without fire comment. If I (and anyone else who read it thus) was wrong about that then I apologise for taking it thus but would suggest that perhaps your delivery was not the best. As I said, the comment came across as rude. | |||
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" That question was not in the comment you made to me. It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. Weirdly the subconscious doesn't come across in text on a public forum. I don't recall saying at any point that I wasn't "having any joy". In fact, I stated the opposite. Your comment came across as rude. You did say go without though. If lot's of different people were telling me I'm doing something wrong, I would question it. Like these forums, I post things but they are considered controversial or misogynistic to some. I might have to change my approach or wording of things. You haven't changed your approach or wording though. That is your choice. Me saying I'd rather go without doesn't say or mean that I do go without. It means I would rather go without than have sex with someone I don't want to. The people who have told me I'm doing something wrong are people I've said no to for meeting. Oddly enough the people I've said yes to meeting, and people who have never asked me to meet them, have never told me I'm doing something wrong. As I said, there appeared to be an implied insult in the no smoke without fire comment. If I (and anyone else who read it thus) was wrong about that then I apologise for taking it thus but would suggest that perhaps your delivery was not the best. As I said, the comment came across as rude." NSP. …. Just wanted to interrupt you. … Nice picture as your avatar.
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" That question was not in the comment you made to me. It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. Weirdly the subconscious doesn't come across in text on a public forum. I don't recall saying at any point that I wasn't "having any joy". In fact, I stated the opposite. Your comment came across as rude. You did say go without though. If lot's of different people were telling me I'm doing something wrong, I would question it. Like these forums, I post things but they are considered controversial or misogynistic to some. I might have to change my approach or wording of things. You haven't changed your approach or wording though. That is your choice. Me saying I'd rather go without doesn't say or mean that I do go without. It means I would rather go without than have sex with someone I don't want to. The people who have told me I'm doing something wrong are people I've said no to for meeting. Oddly enough the people I've said yes to meeting, and people who have never asked me to meet them, have never told me I'm doing something wrong. As I said, there appeared to be an implied insult in the no smoke without fire comment. If I (and anyone else who read it thus) was wrong about that then I apologise for taking it thus but would suggest that perhaps your delivery was not the best. As I said, the comment came across as rude. NSP. …. Just wanted to interrupt you. … Nice picture as your avatar.
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" That question was not in the comment you made to me. It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. Weirdly the subconscious doesn't come across in text on a public forum. I don't recall saying at any point that I wasn't "having any joy". In fact, I stated the opposite. Your comment came across as rude. You did say go without though. If lot's of different people were telling me I'm doing something wrong, I would question it. Like these forums, I post things but they are considered controversial or misogynistic to some. I might have to change my approach or wording of things. You haven't changed your approach or wording though. That is your choice. Me saying I'd rather go without doesn't say or mean that I do go without. It means I would rather go without than have sex with someone I don't want to. The people who have told me I'm doing something wrong are people I've said no to for meeting. Oddly enough the people I've said yes to meeting, and people who have never asked me to meet them, have never told me I'm doing something wrong. As I said, there appeared to be an implied insult in the no smoke without fire comment. If I (and anyone else who read it thus) was wrong about that then I apologise for taking it thus but would suggest that perhaps your delivery was not the best. As I said, the comment came across as rude." Most women can normally always find somebody to to have sex with quite easily. If they are going without that is surprising to me. | |||
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" That question was not in the comment you made to me. It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. Weirdly the subconscious doesn't come across in text on a public forum. I don't recall saying at any point that I wasn't "having any joy". In fact, I stated the opposite. Your comment came across as rude. You did say go without though. If lot's of different people were telling me I'm doing something wrong, I would question it. Like these forums, I post things but they are considered controversial or misogynistic to some. I might have to change my approach or wording of things. You haven't changed your approach or wording though. That is your choice. Me saying I'd rather go without doesn't say or mean that I do go without. It means I would rather go without than have sex with someone I don't want to. The people who have told me I'm doing something wrong are people I've said no to for meeting. Oddly enough the people I've said yes to meeting, and people who have never asked me to meet them, have never told me I'm doing something wrong. As I said, there appeared to be an implied insult in the no smoke without fire comment. If I (and anyone else who read it thus) was wrong about that then I apologise for taking it thus but would suggest that perhaps your delivery was not the best. As I said, the comment came across as rude. Most women can normally always find somebody to to have sex with quite easily. If they are going without that is surprising to me. " Probably because they are choosing to rather than sleeping with just anyone? I'm getting serious deja vu here
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"What has money got to do with anything ? And pretty sure people are not looking for relationships in the traditional sense. Friendships with fucking maybe. Also what does dropping standards mean ? Does it mean fucking anyone? For me Absolutely not. Personally I do not categorize people into standards but I do look for compatability I will not settle or compromise on compatability I'd rather have 0 sex at all than vanilla I just cannot do it. So it means I have a very tiny pool to swim in and that's fine by me I'm saying that's the only time women will do it. Or some kind of relationship like a gold digger. Fucking people you wouldn't normally fuck. Say a slight attraction but not your usual type. I'm seriously starting to worry about some of the views expressed about women on the forums of late. It's as if some consider them a different species to men and that they can't possibly ever think and act in the same way that men do, or that they're only of value when they're providing men with some kind of service or benefit. On a site where people are generally trying to attract others it seems incredible to me that some people actually type these words and publicly post them. I guess it's fortunate that the site doesn't automatically put links to forum contributions on profiles. Maybe it would be better if Fab did?
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Couldnt agree more, A.
It really makes me wonder if this attitude is actually the real life views of the poster, or if it is purely to get a rise out of the forum.
I've been told many times that I'll never get anywhere on fab because I have standards and preferences and am not willing to open my legs for anyone who asks. Because looking like I do, I must be desperate. However, I won't shag someone I don't really want to just for the sake of sex, I'd rather go without.
So in answer to the OP, no, I won't 'drop my standards'. Are your standards realistic if people are telling you many times?
Is it a case of no smoke without fire though?
Are you seriously implying what I think you are!!!
Wow what a dick comment!
Tinder Just asking a question, do women's standards raise when they join a site like this?
No it wasnt a question, you implied that because people have said she shouldn't have expectations and standards of the people she wants to meet and that she should meet anyone based on what they have said
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" Most women can normally always find somebody to to have sex with quite easily. If they are going without that is surprising to me. " Most of us could probably “find” something to eat in a dumpster behind a restaurant, but wouldn’t. We’d choose (with our standards) to go and eat in the restaurant instead. | |||
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" That question was not in the comment you made to me. It was kind of subconsciously. I might aim for the moon sometimes but if I was having no joy. I would question myself and maybe set my sights a little lower. Weirdly the subconscious doesn't come across in text on a public forum. I don't recall saying at any point that I wasn't "having any joy". In fact, I stated the opposite. Your comment came across as rude. You did say go without though. If lot's of different people were telling me I'm doing something wrong, I would question it. Like these forums, I post things but they are considered controversial or misogynistic to some. I might have to change my approach or wording of things. You haven't changed your approach or wording though. That is your choice. Me saying I'd rather go without doesn't say or mean that I do go without. It means I would rather go without than have sex with someone I don't want to. The people who have told me I'm doing something wrong are people I've said no to for meeting. Oddly enough the people I've said yes to meeting, and people who have never asked me to meet them, have never told me I'm doing something wrong. As I said, there appeared to be an implied insult in the no smoke without fire comment. If I (and anyone else who read it thus) was wrong about that then I apologise for taking it thus but would suggest that perhaps your delivery was not the best. As I said, the comment came across as rude. Most women can normally always find somebody to to have sex with quite easily. If they are going without that is surprising to me. " Most men can too. Well, the ones that respect women and don't see them as having no worth unless they're meeting the needs of men. Often those going without have themselves, their attitudes, the persona they publicly display and their apparent low opinions of the opposite sex to blame. When they go without it's not surprising to me at all. A | |||
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" Most women can normally always find somebody to to have sex with quite easily. If they are going without that is surprising to me. Most of us could probably “find” something to eat in a dumpster behind a restaurant, but wouldn’t. We’d choose (with our standards) to go and eat in the restaurant instead." Yes. This | |||
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" Most women can normally always find somebody to to have sex with quite easily. If they are going without that is surprising to me. Most of us could probably “find” something to eat in a dumpster behind a restaurant, but wouldn’t. We’d choose (with our standards) to go and eat in the restaurant instead." Maybe not a Michelin star restaurant but not behind a dumpster either. Men they are attracted too aswell because that's how the world works in my view. | |||
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" Most women can normally always find somebody to to have sex with quite easily. If they are going without that is surprising to me. Most of us could probably “find” something to eat in a dumpster behind a restaurant, but wouldn’t. We’d choose (with our standards) to go and eat in the restaurant instead. Maybe not a Michelin star restaurant but not behind a dumpster either. Men they are attracted too aswell because that's how the world works in my view. " But that's the basis of people's standards. People they are attracted to. | |||
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