So have been in this life style for a while and have met a new girl I like a lot but not sure she would be in to the swinging life style
Don’t want to come straight out with it as I wouldn’t want her to think I’m weird as the run of the mill would any suggestions people |
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I can't advise on the how, you need to choose that since you know her.
But as far as the 'when' goes?
You need to do it asap.
If it's a need and a must for you then I'd consider it your sexuality, in the same way some are poly or ENM or even being bi or bi-curious or whatever.
It's unfair and unkind to let a person invest time and feelings in the potential of you both together if your needs differ. |
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"I can't advise on the how, you need to choose that since you know her.
But as far as the 'when' goes?
You need to do it asap.
If it's a need and a must for you then I'd consider it your sexuality, in the same way some are poly or ENM or even being bi or bi-curious or whatever.
It's unfair and unkind to let a person invest time and feelings in the potential of you both together if your needs differ. "
This! If swinging is something you want to continue doing then you need to be upfront with her so she has the choice to continue or not
Tinder |
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"I can't advise on the how, you need to choose that since you know her.
But as far as the 'when' goes?
You need to do it asap.
If it's a need and a must for you then I'd consider it your sexuality, in the same way some are poly or ENM or even being bi or bi-curious or whatever.
It's unfair and unkind to let a person invest time and feelings in the potential of you both together if your needs differ.
This! If swinging is something you want to continue doing then you need to be upfront with her so she has the choice to continue or not
Tinder "
Another vote for exactly this. It’s completely unfair and disrespectful to carry on regardless, not only the emotional side but the health risks too especially if playing bb and bi as well.
It is hard but be open and honest about it all, secrets and lies will eventually kill a relationship no matter how careful you think you are |
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When me and Penny got together I was honest as I not only wanted a life partner but a partner in crime.
I was prepared to step away from the lifestyle for the right person though.
I raised it between date one and two so she had the option to end it but thankfully she has discussed the lifestyle before and it was something she wanted to try. |
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