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"Everyone is different. I've met people with no verifications. I've met people with 300. Some people it matters to more than others "yeah just trying to understand it. When it becomes a recurring theme you have to question it though. Don't want to polarise. Just trying to gauge a number, I think displaying about 20 might be a sweet spot. | |||
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"Everyone is different. I've met people with no verifications. I've met people with 300. Some people it matters to more than others yeah just trying to understand it.
When it becomes a recurring theme you have to question it though.
Don't want to polarise.
Just trying to gauge a number, I think displaying about 20 might be a sweet spot."For some 20 will be too many. | |||
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"It depends what the verifications are for. " Play verifications, only give and want them really. Display a few from party hosts though too. | |||
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"Three. No man hos" Seriously? See if we called a woman a ho we would be considered judgmental but you get away with it or are you joking? | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? " We goto a lot of socials! You can gather 20 in one night, I fail to see the issue with any amount of veris so long as they’re genuine! | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either " Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? We goto a lot of socials! You can gather 20 in one night, I fail to see the issue with any amount of veris so long as they’re genuine!" Tell that to some single women who can be rude about it. | |||
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"Three. No man hos Seriously? See if we called a woman a ho we would be considered judgmental but you get away with it or are you joking?" That was a pretty obvious joke. | |||
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"Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. " Because I'm not a cum dump. I'm looking to meeting interesting people for regular/semi regular fun, I have zero interest in the 'fuck now?' brigade. | |||
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"Stupid now anyone can ask anyone for a veri wouldn't even need to meet " Anyone who asked me to do that would get told where to go. I also completely ignore cam veris, only in person veris count for what I'm looking for. | |||
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"Stupid now anyone can ask anyone for a veri wouldn't even need to meet " Verifying someone that you haven't met is a serious breach of site etiquette. Can get both parties a permanent ban. | |||
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"Three. No man hos Seriously? See if we called a woman a ho we would be considered judgmental but you get away with it or are you joking? That was a pretty obvious joke." The fact that I have to specify "man" when being pejorative about promiscuity is slightly telling | |||
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"Three. No man hos Seriously? See if we called a woman a ho we would be considered judgmental but you get away with it or are you joking? That was a pretty obvious joke." There wasn't a emoji or anything after it to suggest that so it can be taken literally without more clarity if it being a joke. | |||
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"Stupid now anyone can ask anyone for a veri wouldn't even need to meet " Anyone can report that and get the person permanently chucked off the site | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. " Not everyone is. Not everyone is a swinger. I think being a bit dickish about it is rude. Also rather naive because people quite happily meet without leaving veris. Have sex from people outside of fab. Shocking, I know. But I also think it's fine to be put off by it. It's saying you're not compatible and that's absolutely fine. We all want to have sex with people we feel that compatibility with, if lots of fucking with different people puts someone off, fair enough. | |||
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"Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. Because I'm not a cum dump. I'm looking to meeting interesting people for regular/semi regular fun, I have zero interest in the 'fuck now?' brigade." So it's more about the potential of regular fun. Women see a guy with quite a few and are worried that might just get 1 timed? | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. Not everyone is. Not everyone is a swinger. I think being a bit dickish about it is rude. Also rather naive because people quite happily meet without leaving veris. Have sex from people outside of fab. Shocking, I know. But I also think it's fine to be put off by it. It's saying you're not compatible and that's absolutely fine. We all want to have sex with people we feel that compatibility with, if lots of fucking with different people puts someone off, fair enough." I have been gutted when I met a nice couple, had a great time, then they said they don't do verifications. I think that's what makes this site better, the verification system. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself " Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. | |||
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"I’ve had a lady look at my veris and then say there is no way she is going to meet me because one of my veris has lots of veris and blue hair! I mean wtf! I don’t put up all my veris. Just a few. I’ve been on fab many years so having 8-10 veris should not be a problem - but it is. Some women definitely judge you on your veris. I’m am older guy so if a lady is incredibly popular with lots of frequent veris I don’t bother messaging because I probably would not stand a chance of even getting a reply. Nothing more than that. But isn’t the whole point if fab is to have fun " People will judge for any and all reasons. Run your profile as you see fit | |||
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"Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. Because I'm not a cum dump. I'm looking to meeting interesting people for regular/semi regular fun, I have zero interest in the 'fuck now?' brigade. So it's more about the potential of regular fun. Women see a guy with quite a few and are worried that might just get 1 timed?" I'm not worried, it means they're not what I'm looking for, so actually makes it easier for me to find what I am after as I just delete the dross. | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. " Context is key. Lots of socials or meets over a long period of time is fine. Multiple meets in a very short space of time isn't for me. I recently got called a hypocrite as I have a lot of veris - but I am unbelievably choosy about who I meet and even more so who I fuck. I don't like the 'any hole's a goal' mentality and if you have been shagging all week then you probably won't have enough in the tank to keep me happy. That said - forum posts can be far more illuminating than veris in telling me who to steer clear of! | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. Not everyone is. Not everyone is a swinger. I think being a bit dickish about it is rude. Also rather naive because people quite happily meet without leaving veris. Have sex from people outside of fab. Shocking, I know. But I also think it's fine to be put off by it. It's saying you're not compatible and that's absolutely fine. We all want to have sex with people we feel that compatibility with, if lots of fucking with different people puts someone off, fair enough. I have been gutted when I met a nice couple, had a great time, then they said they don't do verifications. I think that's what makes this site better, the verification system. " Depends what you’re looking for though. If you’re looking to meet lots of people then I suppose it is. I don’t show or leave sexual veris. As for the amount, it depends on the content. I’ve got about 70 but they’re all social except 3. | |||
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" I don't like the 'any hole's a goal' mentality and if you have been shagging all week then you probably won't have enough in the tank to keep me happy. That said - forum posts can be far more illuminating than veris in telling me who to steer clear of! " Completely agree with this. | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. Context is key. Lots of socials or meets over a long period of time is fine. Multiple meets in a very short space of time isn't for me. I recently got called a hypocrite as I have a lot of veris - but I am unbelievably choosy about who I meet and even more so who I fuck. I don't like the 'any hole's a goal' mentality and if you have been shagging all week then you probably won't have enough in the tank to keep me happy. That said - forum posts can be far more illuminating than veris in telling me who to steer clear of! " I'm in agreement. | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. Not everyone is. Not everyone is a swinger. I think being a bit dickish about it is rude. Also rather naive because people quite happily meet without leaving veris. Have sex from people outside of fab. Shocking, I know. But I also think it's fine to be put off by it. It's saying you're not compatible and that's absolutely fine. We all want to have sex with people we feel that compatibility with, if lots of fucking with different people puts someone off, fair enough. I have been gutted when I met a nice couple, had a great time, then they said they don't do verifications. I think that's what makes this site better, the verification system. " I'm really not sure it does. I love receiving veris. Even have a few on display. It's very rare I display one from someone I'm seeing/have had sex with. I get why people don't leave them. I've stopped leaving them myself recently. Veris can be positive or negative. | |||
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"It's perhaps not so much about the number of verifications but rather the frequency. If someone had a veri every few days some people might find that off putting. But as said above, veris can be a mix of social and play. I personally don't care how many someone has, but I also wouldn't want to be a notch on a bedpost either Why is being a 'notch' so bad on a swinging site? Where a lot are looking for NSA. Not everyone is. Not everyone is a swinger. I think being a bit dickish about it is rude. Also rather naive because people quite happily meet without leaving veris. Have sex from people outside of fab. Shocking, I know. But I also think it's fine to be put off by it. It's saying you're not compatible and that's absolutely fine. We all want to have sex with people we feel that compatibility with, if lots of fucking with different people puts someone off, fair enough. I have been gutted when I met a nice couple, had a great time, then they said they don't do verifications. I think that's what makes this site better, the verification system. I'm really not sure it does. I love receiving veris. Even have a few on display. It's very rare I display one from someone I'm seeing/have had sex with. I get why people don't leave them. I've stopped leaving them myself recently. Veris can be positive or negative. " There is no better validation than a good veri you can show off in my opinion. Something about that little green notification, addictive in itself. | |||
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"It's the content of the veri(s) and whether they then seem genuine ... plus they can be used as a gauge for someone just into hit'n'runs or a sociable bunny ...depending on what's a match with what you want out of Fab "'hit and run' Yeah definitely a theme of not wanting to just be 1 timed going on. So it's more about the possible lack of commitment. | |||
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"It's the content of the veri(s) and whether they then seem genuine ... plus they can be used as a gauge for someone just into hit'n'runs or a sociable bunny ...depending on what's a match with what you want out of Fab 'hit and run'
Yeah definitely a theme of not wanting to just be 1 timed going on.
So it's more about the possible lack of commitment. "If someone isn't into a one and done, then having too many veris for them saves you both wasting each others time if that's all you want. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. " Everyone looks at it differently though. I don't trust any woman who has so little thought for her own safety that she would invite me as a complete stranger into her home. I've refused a few offers on here over the years because of that. In regard to numbers I'm only interested in women who are on a similar journey to mine and therefore similar numbers to my own. | |||
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"It's the content of the veri(s) and whether they then seem genuine ... plus they can be used as a gauge for someone just into hit'n'runs or a sociable bunny ...depending on what's a match with what you want out of Fab 'hit and run'
Yeah definitely a theme of not wanting to just be 1 timed going on.
So it's more about the possible lack of commitment.
If someone isn't into a one and done, then having too many veris for them saves you both wasting each others time if that's all you want."Yeah I know but it might not be just a one and done. Are they just assuming the worst? Some experiences I've had have been good, but once I have slept with them unless it was truly memorable I haven't been that bothered in meeting them again. | |||
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"Yeah I know but it might not be just a one and done. Are they just assuming the worst? Some experiences I've had have been good, but once I have slept with them unless it was truly memorable I haven't been that bothered in meeting them again. " If someone is having a lot of one and dones, that indicates that they're either looking for something different to what I enjoy, or they have poor judgement in play partners. That does make them less appealing to me. Its not a write off based purely on that, but it's a factor in the final decision. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Everyone looks at it differently though. I don't trust any woman who has so little thought for her own safety that she would invite me as a complete stranger into her home. I've refused a few offers on here over the years because of that. In regard to numbers I'm only interested in women who are on a similar journey to mine and therefore similar numbers to my own. " See I don't think that is dangerous to meet a well verified guy. They are having too much fun to want to be hurting anybody. | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? " Tells me a lot about the person and their lifestyle so for me it's an absolute no no!! Just because it's a sex site doesn't mean you should loose morals and your dignity. | |||
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"For me it is about a function of frequency in a given time. 20 "play" meets in a couple of months would be a bit off-putting - whereas 20 meets over a couple of years or more feels a bit more selective. That's just me - others might disagree. " For once I do agree with you  | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? Tells me a lot about the person and their lifestyle so for me it's an absolute no no!! Just because it's a sex site doesn't mean you should loose morals and your dignity. " Why don't you tell me what you really think 
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"For me it is about a function of frequency in a given time. 20 "play" meets in a couple of months would be a bit off-putting - whereas 20 meets over a couple of years or more feels a bit more selective. That's just me - others might disagree. " What if it is just a quantity of quality? | |||
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"For me it is about a function of frequency in a given time. 20 "play" meets in a couple of months would be a bit off-putting - whereas 20 meets over a couple of years or more feels a bit more selective. That's just me - others might disagree. What if it is just a quantity of quality? " Of course, that is perfectly possible. For me it is also about a dynamic risk assessment, which means I am probably more selective than I should or need to be. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
"Not a swinger but on a swinging site? Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then? Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship? | |||
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"i literally don't think it matters in the slightest Px"
Yep. If anyone thinks the number of veris someone has correlates in any way to the number of people they've slept with in the lives.....
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"There is no better validation than a good veri you can show off in my opinion. Something about that little green notification, addictive in itself. " I don't know, veris are great. Of course they are, the adorable little green ticks they are. I think the better validation would surely be someone wanting to meet you again because you're truly that good at kissing/fucking/licking/sucking/biting etc and they find being with you addictive. Tad more validating for me but hey, maybe some ShagAdvisor reviews are. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
I kind of get where you are coming from. "Same. I'm proudly not a swinger and shock horror I'll keep using the site. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
Not a swinger but on a swinging site?
Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then?
Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship? "If you looked around you'd find plenty of people on here who aren't swingers. I am only here to tease men with my tits and then have a child with one who is a good man sworn to Jesus and Mary and I have to be important too but I don't want us to have sex monthly only every 18 weeks it can not be important.
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"i literally don't think it matters in the slightest Px
Yep. If anyone thinks the number of veris someone has correlates in any way to the number of people they've slept with in the lives.....
I have some magic beans to sell you.
A"Exactly there is just not a counter on other apps etc. It's like what they don't know can't hurt them though. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
I kind of get where you are coming from.
Same. I'm proudly not a swinger and shock horror I'll keep using the site. "Same here - I do not see myself as a swinger either. | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? " 7 | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
I kind of get where you are coming from.
Same. I'm proudly not a swinger and shock horror I'll keep using the site. "*shakes head* You disappoint me Meli. Did you know the first rule of swinging club is that you must be a swinger and recieve 69 veris per month? | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
Not a swinger but on a swinging site?
Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then?
Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship?
If you looked around you'd find plenty of people on here who aren't swingers.
I am only here to tease men with my tits and then have a child with one who is a good man sworn to Jesus and Mary and I have to be important too but I don't want us to have sex monthly only every 18 weeks it can not be important.
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
Not a swinger but on a swinging site?
Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then?
Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship?
If you looked around you'd find plenty of people on here who aren't swingers.
I am only here to tease men with my tits and then have a child with one who is a good man sworn to Jesus and Mary and I have to be important too but I don't want us to have sex monthly only every 18 weeks it can not be important.
Yes, I am saying the majority of them tend to be single women.
Must be like Christmas for single women on here. "I think if it were a bit like Christmas, people like myself might actually consider being swingers. Trust me, it is not like CHristmas....  | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
I kind of get where you are coming from.
Same. I'm proudly not a swinger and shock horror I'll keep using the site.
*shakes head*
You disappoint me Meli.
Did you know the first rule of swinging club is that you must be a swinger and recieve 69 veris per month?"Alright, alright, I'm sorry okay? I thought that getting spunked up my vagina and gagging on cock 69 times would be enough but clearly if it's not got the green tick, it's a phantom cock. So ashamed of myself. UNLOS incoming. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
Not a swinger but on a swinging site?
Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then?
Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship?
If you looked around you'd find plenty of people on here who aren't swingers.
I am only here to tease men with my tits and then have a child with one who is a good man sworn to Jesus and Mary and I have to be important too but I don't want us to have sex monthly only every 18 weeks it can not be important.
Yes, I am saying the majority of them tend to be single women.
Must be like Christmas for single women on here.
I think if it were a bit like Christmas, people like myself might actually consider being swingers.
Trust me, it is not like CHristmas.... "I don't go to DFS to buy my weekly food shopping, is it maybe you are in the wrong place then? | |||
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"The amount of veries doesn't usually put me off ,but the content can. Ie if theyre all really over the top graphic veries ,we probably won't be well suited . I have to admit to have been put off in the past by people who've left the verie though." Exactly this. | |||
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"When me and the wife first started out with a couples profile we always used to steer clear of others with lots of verifications afraid that we weren't experienced enough, but wish we had looked at it differently, we probably would have had some better first encounters then what we did." It's like trust trader. I'd pick the 1 with lots of good reviews if I wanted a job doing properly. | |||
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"It depends what the verifications are for. Play verifications, only give and want them really. Display a few from party hosts though too. " For me it then comes down to the tone and content of the verification and who they've met rather than the number although that does have some significance for me. If the persons verifications are all from women or couples under 40 or contained descriptions of things that I couldn't do or wouldn't want I wouldn't want to meet. Mostly because I doubt they'd be genuinely interested in us even if they said they were. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested "This thread is flushing a few non swingers out. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger?"I think OP has his own view & that appears to be the only one that counts. And that's absolutely his prerogative  | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
"This is me also. And if I find the people they have met undesirable either by looks or behaviours or attitude or standards.... well I lose all attraction for them. I judge their standards and judgement as I need to respect a person to give them any intimacy or access to me. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. " Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger?
I think OP has his own view & that appears to be the only one that counts.
And that's absolutely his prerogative "Of course, we're all looking for people that we're compatible with. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger?"Is that rhetorical question? I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad. People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc. If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
This is me also.
And if I find the people they have met undesirable either by looks or behaviours or attitude or standards.... well I lose all attraction for them. I judge their standards and judgement as I need to respect a person to give them any intimacy or access to me."Hear, hear! X | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman." 'Still wet from his last woman' interesting that you have to add that negative context. | |||
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"This thread is flushing a few non swingers out. What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question? I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad. People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc. If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger. " I don't think of myself as a swinger, I just like group sex sometimes | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? " Most of the single women I’ve met don’t want, or leave verifications, because it draws (largely) unwanted attention to their profiles. Actual numbers of verifications aren’t massively important, at the end of the day, they’re there to prove a profile is genuine | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman. 'Still wet from his last woman' interesting that you have to add that negative context. " More interesting that you picked it out. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman. 'Still wet from his last woman' interesting that you have to add that negative context. More interesting that you picked it out." Fruedian Slip I suspect. | |||
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I only value what is offered freely and indeed sought out.
A lady likes to be pursued and woo'd by the right guy 
Definitely not here to be a cum-dump, party favor, fuck&go girlie.
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"This thread is flushing a few non swingers out. What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question? I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad. People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc. If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger. I don't think of myself as a swinger, I just like group sex sometimes "You are then, there is no grey area, it's black and white. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman. 'Still wet from his last woman' interesting that you have to add that negative context. More interesting that you picked it out." More interesting you choose not to display your verifications… | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman. 'Still wet from his last woman' interesting that you have to add that negative context. More interesting that you picked it out. Fruedian Slip I suspect. " Or an inability to just accept not everyone plays by their own rules? | |||
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"I like to see a guy with lots of verifications, shows that he has a lot going for him, not just the sexual part. It's not easy for single guys on here, so a guy with quite a few definitely isn't to be missed in my view. "I think that's a great outlook to have. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman. 'Still wet from his last woman' interesting that you have to add that negative context. More interesting that you picked it out. Fruedian Slip I suspect. Or an inability to just accept not everyone plays by their own rules?" I said fair enough people have their own preferences. Just trying to understand it so I can find a balance for different people. | |||
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"I don't think of myself as a swinger, I just like group sex sometimes You are then, there is no grey area, it's black and white.
Ah. Well, apparently classing as a swinger doesn't mean I suddenly have to drop my standards or adjust my preferences for the sort of people I like to play with. So it's all good "Nobody said you have too. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
Not a swinger but on a swinging site?
Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then?
Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship?
If you looked around you'd find plenty of people on here who aren't swingers.
I am only here to tease men with my tits and then have a child with one who is a good man sworn to Jesus and Mary and I have to be important too but I don't want us to have sex monthly only every 18 weeks it can not be important.
Yes, I am saying the majority of them tend to be single women.
Must be like Christmas for single women on here.
I think if it were a bit like Christmas, people like myself might actually consider being swingers.
Trust me, it is not like CHristmas.... I don't go to DFS to buy my weekly food shopping, is it maybe you are in the wrong place then?"I don't think either of us, or in fact anybody contributing to this thread are in the wrong place here. We may be looking for different things but that does not mean the things we individually seek are not here. Your choices, views and the way you use the site are as legitimate as mine. I merely referred to the comment about it being like Christmas for single women. It is not. | |||
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"It doesn't bother me how many people I don't meet people privately though it would be a good indication of safe players although not foolproof. Me personally I don't care if someone has 200 veris none is too much but each to their own. I like to play with regular friends myself Yeah, the fact people have lots of Veris off here, is a good indication that a woman would be safe, as other apps etc don't have a review system. Several women have said that, that they are able to trust a stranger to come to their house because of the veris so it can work in that favour too. Anyone basing trusting a stranger on what's basically another stranger happens to write....I think not. Just accept that some aren't bothered about how active a man may be while others aren't interested in a man who's still wet from his last woman. 'Still wet from his last woman' interesting that you have to add that negative context. More interesting that you picked it out. Fruedian Slip I suspect. Or an inability to just accept not everyone plays by their own rules? I said fair enough people have their own preferences. Just trying to understand it so I can find a balance for different people. " Yes but you're quite dismissive of anyone who doesn't fall into your way of thinking, that's all. | |||
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"I don't think of myself as a swinger, I just like group sex sometimes You are then, there is no grey area, it's black and white.
Ah. Well, apparently classing as a swinger doesn't mean I suddenly have to drop my standards or adjust my preferences for the sort of people I like to play with. So it's all good Nobody said you have too. "Cool. So post whatever verifications make you happy, and let people make informed choices based on what you actually enjoy rather than trying to fit a certain mould to maximise the potential pussy on offer | |||
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"I don't think of myself as a swinger, I just like group sex sometimes You are then, there is no grey area, it's black and white.
Ah. Well, apparently classing as a swinger doesn't mean I suddenly have to drop my standards or adjust my preferences for the sort of people I like to play with. So it's all good Nobody said you have too.
Cool.
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"…. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. ….. " You said it all right there mate!! | |||
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"I don't think of myself as a swinger, I just like group sex sometimes You are then, there is no grey area, it's black and white.
Ah. Well, apparently classing as a swinger doesn't mean I suddenly have to drop my standards or adjust my preferences for the sort of people I like to play with. So it's all good Nobody said you have too.
Cool.
So post whatever verifications make you happy, and let people make informed choices based on what you actually enjoy rather than trying to fit a certain mould to maximise the potential pussy on offer "That would surely increase your chances of success though. To appeal to as many as possible. I don't see that as a bad thing. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? " Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. | |||
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"That would surely increase your chances of success though. To appeal to as many as possible. I don't see that as a bad thing. " Changing how you present yourself to appeal to people you're not actually compatible with seems counterproductive. Be honest. Be you. There'll be people who are into the same things you are and the meets you do have will be a lot more worthwhile for everyone involved than tricking people who aren't interested in what you actually offer. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. " How so? Surely a guy only wishes to attract those he finds attractive? | |||
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"I've managed to pick up 30 veris from one social party. It's very easy to get into the hundreds without ever dropping your knickers..." • Ah, call me a Walter Mitty fantasist but what I wouldn't give to drop your knickers behind the bike sheds, Pølly. Rest assured it would be a classy bike shed full of Ducati, Bimota, Norton, Royal Enfield, BSA, etc. None of this Harley-Davidson, Kawasaki cobblers. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. How so? Surely a guy only wishes to attract those he finds attractive? " Because of the heavily distorted ratios on the site. Some women can just pick and choose. They don't have to offer anything special just the fact they are a woman, people will be interested. The guys have to sell themselves to stand out and get possible meets. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. " No it's not. There's not a lot of point in appealing to women who don't appeal to me. | |||
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"Because of the heavily distorted ratios on the site. Some women can just pick and choose. They don't have to offer anything special just the fact they are a woman, people will be interested. The guys have to sell themselves to stand out and get possible meets." But what is the point in meeting someone that doesn't want the same things you do? | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? " This is the thing wrong with the lifestyle. No verifications is suspect. Too many is suspect no one is satisfied by anything anymore. So what's the pointbif trying? | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. How so? Surely a guy only wishes to attract those he finds attractive? Because of the heavily distorted ratios on the site. Some women can just pick and choose. They don't have to offer anything special just the fact they are a woman, people will be interested. The guys have to sell themselves to stand out and get possible meets." Well that says more about the standards of the picker tbh. Having sex with a person just because they have the right anatomy? Not because they are your type and you're attracted to them? Nah. No thank you. Human dildos are not my thing. If you think females and all others on fab don't need to work at it and present themselves in their best light and make an effort you're dreaming. This 'it's a numbers game' argument for having no luck or a lack of connections on fab is not the main reason why guys don't get a meet. | |||
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"Because of the heavily distorted ratios on the site. Some women can just pick and choose. They don't have to offer anything special just the fact they are a woman, people will be interested. The guys have to sell themselves to stand out and get possible meets. But what is the point in meeting someone that doesn't want the same things you do?" I'm not trying to meet them. If a woman says she is after a relationship off here I wouldn't meet her. I'm trying to find a balance. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. How so? Surely a guy only wishes to attract those he finds attractive? Because of the heavily distorted ratios on the site. Some women can just pick and choose. They don't have to offer anything special just the fact they are a woman, people will be interested. The guys have to sell themselves to stand out and get possible meets. Well that says more about the standards of the picker tbh. Having sex with a person just because they have the right anatomy? Not because they are your type and you're attracted to them? Nah. No thank you. Human dildos are not my thing. If you think females and all others on fab don't need to work at it and present themselves in their best light and make an effort you're dreaming. This 'it's a numbers game' argument for having no luck or a lack of connections on fab is not the main reason why guys don't get a meet." Not saying I do, it is just a simple fact. Some women just join, list body type as thin with no pictures and get hundred of messages. It is a fact, most people meet the same 5-10% of guys from what I've seen. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
"No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is. You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing | |||
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"I'm not trying to meet them. If a woman says she is after a relationship off here I wouldn't meet her. I'm trying to find a balance. " If you're not trying to meet those types, why are you trying to tailor your profile and presentation to appeal to them in the first place? | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing "Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine? | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
Not a swinger but on a swinging site?
Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then?
Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship? "Another thread where your views of women make me sad. I feel something horrible must've happened for you to have so little faith in women. I don't class us as swingers either. We updated our profile today to say as much. We just like an occasional hedonistic adventure. The people who make up the forums are a very small percentage of Fab as far as I can tell. Whether the forum it's are representative of the whole of Fab I'm not sure. I'm not really sure what point I'm trying to make but I think it's make your profile yours, don't change it according to what you think what people want to see or you'll just waste each other's time. J | |||
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"I'm not trying to meet them. If a woman says she is after a relationship off here I wouldn't meet her. I'm trying to find a balance. If you're not trying to meet those types, why are you trying to tailor your profile and presentation to appeal to them in the first place?" I didn't say to appeal to them. Just appeal to more. Not all single women on here are looking for relationships surely... | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine?"No I don't think it is. I take a very broad and inclusive view of swinging. I think that if you want to be sexual with someone in any way then swinging is for you. What I also think is that people ought to be 100% transparent in what they're looking for so that others can tell if they either match of would like to give it a go. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. How so? Surely a guy only wishes to attract those he finds attractive? Because of the heavily distorted ratios on the site. Some women can just pick and choose. They don't have to offer anything special just the fact they are a woman, people will be interested. The guys have to sell themselves to stand out and get possible meets. Well that says more about the standards of the picker tbh. Having sex with a person just because they have the right anatomy? Not because they are your type and you're attracted to them? Nah. No thank you. Human dildos are not my thing. If you think females and all others on fab don't need to work at it and present themselves in their best light and make an effort you're dreaming. This 'it's a numbers game' argument for having no luck or a lack of connections on fab is not the main reason why guys don't get a meet. Not saying I do, it is just a simple fact. Some women just join, list body type as thin with no pictures and get hundred of messages. It is a fact, most people meet the same 5-10% of guys from what I've seen. " I wouldn't believe those numbers. The majority who use fab fly under the radar, not on forums, no statuses, no multitude of veris. You'll never know figures of who does what. These urban legends of how hard or easy it is and reasons for same are not based on anything more than frustration and disillusionment. | |||
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"I've been put off people over verifications. I'm not a swinger, I don't do casual sex and for me it's a turn off to see someone I'm interested in getting it on with multiple people. I wouldn't ever make them feel bad about it, or tell them what they can and can not do. I'm just not compatible with someone like that. Absolutely nothing wrong with them doing what they want, but it is not what I seek and I am entitled to find it a turn off. I do think veris can give you a good idea about a person too. What they are saying vs what (or who) they are doing, and also if they meet with someone I dislike etc because of views they hold that can make me do a runner.
Not a swinger but on a swinging site?
Do you use this site as you can meet men you not be able to meet off other sites then?
Take advantage of the ratios, try to snare 1 into a relationship?
Another thread where your views of women make me sad. I feel something horrible must've happened for you to have so little faith in women.
I don't class us as swingers either. We updated our profile today to say as much. We just like an occasional hedonistic adventure.
The people who make up the forums are a very small percentage of Fab as far as I can tell. Whether the forum it's are representative of the whole of Fab I'm not sure. I'm not really sure what point I'm trying to make but I think it's make your profile yours, don't change it according to what you think what people want to see or you'll just waste each other's time.
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
"OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there? | |||
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" When people say they aren't a swinger but they're on a notorious swinging site. I find that puzzling. Maybe it's just me but it doesn't add up. " It probably started as a swingers site but it's mentioned as a place to find one-on-one hookups in glossy magazines. We've only been on the site a couple of months but I've seen people use it in many different ways that work for them. I don't doubt there are lots singers doing their swinging thing. We use it to chat on the forums and I like showing off my lingerie collection | |||
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"I didn't say to appeal to them. Just appeal to more. Not all single women on here are looking for relationships surely..." But that's what you're doing. You're asking how to appeal to people who don't want the same things you do. If who you actually are doesn't appeal to people, don't try to mask it. Either find ways to actually improve yourself in their eyes or find people who do want what you want. I'm single and not looking for a relationship. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine?
No I don't think it is. I take a very broad and inclusive view of swinging. I think that if you want to be sexual with someone in any way then swinging is for you. What I also think is that people ought to be 100% transparent in what they're looking for so that others can tell if they either match of would like to give it a go. "Literal definition of a swinger 'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners'. People represent themselves in the best possible way online etc. If you expect 100% transparency you might not meet anyone. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there?"if you are in a couple of course. But two single people meeting for sex are not swingers. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine?
No I don't think it is. I take a very broad and inclusive view of swinging. I think that if you want to be sexual with someone in any way then swinging is for you. What I also think is that people ought to be 100% transparent in what they're looking for so that others can tell if they either match of would like to give it a go.
Literal definition of a swinger
'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners'.
People represent themselves in the best possible way online etc.
If you expect 100% transparency you might not meet anyone. "I don't expect 100% transparency my god do you imagine I reached 66 years of age and maintained that level of naivety ! Swinging however you want to define it would be so much easier and more pleasant if we could expect it but there's far too much judgement and sychophancy coupled with manipulation of truth for that to ever happen. For what its worth I think you are quite open about what you want from this even in the face of disagreement, this means that you'll probably get exactly what you're after. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there? if you are in a couple of course.
But two single people meeting for sex are not swingers.
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"I've managed to pick up 30 veris from one social party. It's very easy to get into the hundreds without ever dropping your knickers... • Ah, call me a Walter Mitty fantasist but what I wouldn't give to drop your knickers behind the bike sheds, Pølly. Rest assured it would be a classy bike shed full of Ducati, Bimota, Norton, Royal Enfield, BSA, etc. None of this Harley-Davidson, Kawasaki cobblers. "Very coincidentally, the washing line is behind the shed where I keep my bicycle. A little help with the housekeeping work would be good, and I would not be adverse to you bringing in the washing from the line. We all know that accidents happen occasionally, however I will be displeased if you drop my best royal blue silk knickers in the dirt. Especially if they land in the rose bushes, you'll have to get on your knees to extricate them, woe betide if you snag the material on the thorns... | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there? if you are in a couple of course.
But two single people meeting for sex are not swingers.
What are you and your pal?"Ah now, there's the rub! | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine?
No I don't think it is. I take a very broad and inclusive view of swinging. I think that if you want to be sexual with someone in any way then swinging is for you. What I also think is that people ought to be 100% transparent in what they're looking for so that others can tell if they either match of would like to give it a go.
Literal definition of a swinger
'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners'.
People represent themselves in the best possible way online etc.
If you expect 100% transparency you might not meet anyone.
I don't expect 100% transparency my god do you imagine I reached 66 years of age and maintained that level of naivety ! Swinging however you want to define it would be so much easier and more pleasant if we could expect it but there's far too much judgement and sychophancy coupled with manipulation of truth for that to ever happen. For what its worth I think you are quite open about what you want from this even in the face of disagreement, this means that you'll probably get exactly what you're after. "Just think words can lose their meanings with broad definitions etc. Thanks, I might be a little brutally honest sometimes though I know. I just don't want to be judged, but I could maybe stick to couples or women who are well known swingers instead. | |||
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"I think on our couples profile we have just over 100, which seems like a lot but 5 of them are only play verifications, the rest are all social x" Why is that a lot ?? Im just coming up to 100 from the last 9 years of being on the site, Ive met guys couples and some stunning cd/tv at clubs parties, gang bangs, private and visit's to my favourite adult cinema. I don't understand why people are judging others. Im here for a shag | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there? if you are in a couple of course.
But two single people meeting for sex are not swingers.
What are you and your pal?"We engage in group sex with couples, single ladies etc. So by definition we are swingers. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine?
No I don't think it is. I take a very broad and inclusive view of swinging. I think that if you want to be sexual with someone in any way then swinging is for you. What I also think is that people ought to be 100% transparent in what they're looking for so that others can tell if they either match of would like to give it a go.
Literal definition of a swinger
'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners'.
People represent themselves in the best possible way online etc.
If you expect 100% transparency you might not meet anyone.
I don't expect 100% transparency my god do you imagine I reached 66 years of age and maintained that level of naivety ! Swinging however you want to define it would be so much easier and more pleasant if we could expect it but there's far too much judgement and sychophancy coupled with manipulation of truth for that to ever happen. For what its worth I think you are quite open about what you want from this even in the face of disagreement, this means that you'll probably get exactly what you're after. Just think words can lose their meanings with broad definitions etc.
Thanks, I might be a little brutally honest sometimes though I know.
I just don't want to be judged, but I could maybe stick to couples or women who are well known swingers instead.
"In the spirit of honesty if you don't want to be judged a) you're in the wrong place and b) you need to be a little less judgemental yourself. Stick to people who understand what you want and want the same thing themselves. Attempting to make everyone conform to your definition will never work | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. " No. It isn't. Men can be as choosy and fussy as anyone else, even women. Some just choose not to be so they get their dicks wet. A | |||
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" In the spirit of honesty if you don't want to be judged a) you're in the wrong place and b) you need to be a little less judgemental yourself. Stick to people who understand what you want and want the same thing themselves. Attempting to make everyone conform to your definition will never work" This sums it up nicely for me - I would rather meet just one person a year who is exactly what they say on their profile so I an decide if that matches what I am looking for and vice verse , of course. I personally find it off-putting if I get the sense somebody is adjusting their wish list according to what they assume I might want. It happens quite often, I must say. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine?
No I don't think it is. I take a very broad and inclusive view of swinging. I think that if you want to be sexual with someone in any way then swinging is for you. What I also think is that people ought to be 100% transparent in what they're looking for so that others can tell if they either match of would like to give it a go.
Literal definition of a swinger
'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners'.
People represent themselves in the best possible way online etc.
If you expect 100% transparency you might not meet anyone.
I don't expect 100% transparency my god do you imagine I reached 66 years of age and maintained that level of naivety ! Swinging however you want to define it would be so much easier and more pleasant if we could expect it but there's far too much judgement and sychophancy coupled with manipulation of truth for that to ever happen. For what its worth I think you are quite open about what you want from this even in the face of disagreement, this means that you'll probably get exactly what you're after. Just think words can lose their meanings with broad definitions etc.
Thanks, I might be a little brutally honest sometimes though I know.
I just don't want to be judged, but I could maybe stick to couples or women who are well known swingers instead.
In the spirit of honesty if you don't want to be judged a) you're in the wrong place and b) you need to be a little less judgemental yourself.
Stick to people who understand what you want and want the same thing themselves. Attempting to make everyone conform to your definition will never work"It has been enlightening yes. Makes me think it wasn't always me, I was just looking in the wrong place at times. A few of the new or inexperienced women do like experience though. I don't think I have judged anybody personally, more to clarify a definition. | |||
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" In the spirit of honesty if you don't want to be judged a) you're in the wrong place and b) you need to be a little less judgemental yourself. Stick to people who understand what you want and want the same thing themselves. Attempting to make everyone conform to your definition will never work This sums it up nicely for me - I would rather meet just one person a year who is exactly what they say on their profile so I an decide if that matches what I am looking for and vice verse , of course. I personally find it off-putting if I get the sense somebody is adjusting their wish list according to what they assume I might want. It happens quite often, I must say." Yep we often tell people who message asking to meet that we aren't what they're looking for. They often respond that they're willing to change their requirements...Why on earth would they do that!?. The op is very clear in what he wants and how he wants to do things which I think is a good thing. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. No. It isn't. Men can be as choosy and fussy as anyone else, even women. Some just choose not to be so they get their dicks wet. A" Yeah men can be fussy too obviously but this site is not equal, it's a woman's world on here. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. No. It isn't. Men can be as choosy and fussy as anyone else, even women. Some just choose not to be so they get their dicks wet. A Yeah men can be fussy too obviously but this site is not equal, it's a woman's world on here. " I understand where you are coming from, honestly I do. There is an imbalance between men and women on here, nobody would argue with you on that one. But I can assure you that is not as easy as you think for all women. Fine (and absolutely no judgment of anybody's life choice here) if somebody wants to meet for a quick fix, man, women LGBT Trans whatever....but if you have a list of criteria it is a bit like buying a holiday or a home. The more selective the more tricky to find what you are looking for as your personal filter allows fewer into the pot of potential meets. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
No it wasn't rhetorical. You're saying people aren't swingers, I wondered what you think a swinger is.
You appear to me to enjoy discussion, I'm discussing Yeah I like to debate, what is your interpretation of a swinger? Similar to mine?
No I don't think it is. I take a very broad and inclusive view of swinging. I think that if you want to be sexual with someone in any way then swinging is for you. What I also think is that people ought to be 100% transparent in what they're looking for so that others can tell if they either match of would like to give it a go.
Literal definition of a swinger
'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners'.
People represent themselves in the best possible way online etc.
If you expect 100% transparency you might not meet anyone.
I don't expect 100% transparency my god do you imagine I reached 66 years of age and maintained that level of naivety ! Swinging however you want to define it would be so much easier and more pleasant if we could expect it but there's far too much judgement and sychophancy coupled with manipulation of truth for that to ever happen. For what its worth I think you are quite open about what you want from this even in the face of disagreement, this means that you'll probably get exactly what you're after. Just think words can lose their meanings with broad definitions etc.
Thanks, I might be a little brutally honest sometimes though I know.
I just don't want to be judged, but I could maybe stick to couples or women who are well known swingers instead.
In the spirit of honesty if you don't want to be judged a) you're in the wrong place and b) you need to be a little less judgemental yourself.
Stick to people who understand what you want and want the same thing themselves. Attempting to make everyone conform to your definition will never work It has been enlightening yes.
Makes me think it wasn't always me, I was just looking in the wrong place at times.
A few of the new or inexperienced women do like experience though.
I don't think I have judged anybody personally, more to clarify a definition.
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. No. It isn't. Men can be as choosy and fussy as anyone else, even women. Some just choose not to be so they get their dicks wet. A Yeah men can be fussy too obviously but this site is not equal, it's a woman's world on here. I understand where you are coming from, honestly I do. There is an imbalance between men and women on here, nobody would argue with you on that one. But I can assure you that is not as easy as you think for all women. Fine (and absolutely no judgment of anybody's life choice here) if somebody wants to meet for a quick fix, man, women LGBT Trans whatever....but if you have a list of criteria it is a bit like buying a holiday or a home. The more selective the more tricky to find what you are looking for as your personal filter allows fewer into the pot of potential meets. " Somebody just did argue that point. Yeah there are no equal opportunities shaggers on here. Yeah I imagine it's harder if you're looking for something more meaningful too. | |||
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"So who is the more appealing individual? The person with 40 odd verifications, some sexual encounters, some social meets. Or the person who has pumped everyone and their Granny but chooses to show only 2 verifications. " Great question. Seems to be for single women that what they don't know can't hurt them so I choose option 2. | |||
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. No. It isn't. Men can be as choosy and fussy as anyone else, even women. Some just choose not to be so they get their dicks wet. A Yeah men can be fussy too obviously but this site is not equal, it's a woman's world on here. I understand where you are coming from, honestly I do. There is an imbalance between men and women on here, nobody would argue with you on that one. But I can assure you that is not as easy as you think for all women. Fine (and absolutely no judgment of anybody's life choice here) if somebody wants to meet for a quick fix, man, women LGBT Trans whatever....but if you have a list of criteria it is a bit like buying a holiday or a home. The more selective the more tricky to find what you are looking for as your personal filter allows fewer into the pot of potential meets. " I do feel for the ladies in here; having to filter through the hundreds of offers they receive, day in, day out…. 
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"What if you're not looking to be appealing to the masses and the many? Well you don't really need to as a woman. For a man though it's a different case. No. It isn't. Men can be as choosy and fussy as anyone else, even women. Some just choose not to be so they get their dicks wet. A Yeah men can be fussy too obviously but this site is not equal, it's a woman's world on here. I understand where you are coming from, honestly I do. There is an imbalance between men and women on here, nobody would argue with you on that one. But I can assure you that is not as easy as you think for all women. Fine (and absolutely no judgment of anybody's life choice here) if somebody wants to meet for a quick fix, man, women LGBT Trans whatever....but if you have a list of criteria it is a bit like buying a holiday or a home. The more selective the more tricky to find what you are looking for as your personal filter allows fewer into the pot of potential meets. I do feel for the ladies in here; having to filter through the hundreds of offers they receive, day in, day out….
We guys have it so much easier, when there’s only 2 or 3 ladies within your search area…… "Now that's what you call 1st world problems. Too many are only looking for sex though on a sex/swinging site. Who would of guessed that | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? " 4 max showing. I prefer none showing. | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? 4 max showing. I prefer none showing." Interesting, very low number. You don't want any idea of their body count then really. Ignorance is bliss? | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? 4 max showing. I prefer none showing. Interesting, very low number. You don't want any idea of their body count then really. Ignorance is bliss?" If you think that verifications are a genuine 100% accurate account of someone's 'body count', you are the ignorant one. | |||
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"Seems to be a lot of single women don't like it if you have 'too many' couples don't seem to mind as much. Even if you have been selective and played safe too. Surprising mindset on a site like this. Fair enough though everyone is entitled to their preferences. How many is too many though? 4 max showing. I prefer none showing. Interesting, very low number. You don't want any idea of their body count then really. Ignorance is bliss? If you think that verifications are a genuine 100% accurate account of someone's 'body count', you are the ignorant one." I don't believe that at all. If a woman told me approximately I would multiply that number by 3. If a man did I'd divide it by 3 | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there? if you are in a couple of course.
But two single people meeting for sex are not swingers.
What are you and your pal? We engage in group sex with couples, single ladies etc. So by definition we are swingers. "I guess its dependent on which definition is being used. Some would argue that Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So by that definition, you are not. Apologies if I've assumed and you are in a relationship with your friend in which case, yes, you would be swingers according to that definition. I think the point is there are varying definitions so why get caught up in it, just do your thing and let others do theirs | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there? if you are in a couple of course.
But two single people meeting for sex are not swingers.
What are you and your pal? We engage in group sex with couples, single ladies etc. So by definition we are swingers.
I guess its dependent on which definition is being used. Some would argue that Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So by that definition, you are not. Apologies if I've assumed and you are in a relationship with your friend in which case, yes, you would be swingers according to that definition. I think the point is there are varying definitions so why get caught up in it, just do your thing and let others do theirs "'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners' That is literally the only definition of a swinger. Maybe someone needs to speak to Oxford dictionary. | |||
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"I guess it all depends what you meaning you attach to a couple or person having many verifications. A veri is just a subjective experience for that person/persons. If you judge somebody on that, and not on the idiosyncratic interaction you have the person, and forming an opinion on what's written by somebody else. Do you not run the risk of missing out on a possible beautiful experience. For me a wealth of knowledge can come from veris, but its the interaction i have with them, that's the important bit " My sentiments exactly, but as seen on the thread, it is a red flag for some. | |||
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"Veris are pretty important to me (yes, I know they can be hidden, and I know not all folk leave them) but the ones that a potential meet publishes and, more importantly, leaves tells me a lot about the person. I've discounted many a person because of them. By the way, I'm not a swinger. I may well be looking for something regular but that does not mean I'm gonna "trick him" into a relationship. I'm open and honest in what I'm looking for & if a potential meet is so easily "fooled", he clearly doesn't have the level of intelligence to keep me interested This thread is flushing a few non swingers out.
What is a swinger? Is that rhetorical question?
I don't the definition is that broad or should become broad.
People who are interested in swapping partners or joining couples etc.
If you are solely looking for 1-1 meets, you are not a swinger.
OK so by that argument am I a swinger? We both have solo profiles as well as our couple one. I sometimes meet alone and G will get pics/videos sent to him so he can see what I've been up to. Am I only a swinger if I use my couples profile and he's there? if you are in a couple of course.
But two single people meeting for sex are not swingers.
What are you and your pal? We engage in group sex with couples, single ladies etc. So by definition we are swingers.
I guess its dependent on which definition is being used. Some would argue that Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners. So by that definition, you are not. Apologies if I've assumed and you are in a relationship with your friend in which case, yes, you would be swingers according to that definition. I think the point is there are varying definitions so why get caught up in it, just do your thing and let others do theirs 'A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners'
That is literally the only definition of a swinger.
Maybe someone needs to speak to Oxford dictionary."The thing is, I'm not trying to fit everyone into the same box so I'll continue in the belief that there are varying definitions but thanks for the pointer | |||
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"I guess it all depends what you meaning you attach to a couple or person having many verifications. A veri is just a subjective experience for that person/persons. If you judge somebody on that, and not on the idiosyncratic interaction you have the person, and forming an opinion on what's written by somebody else. Do you not run the risk of missing out on a possible beautiful experience. For me a wealth of knowledge can come from veris, but its the interaction i have with them, that's the important bit My sentiments exactly, but as seen on the thread, it is a red flag for some. " So what if its red flags for others, what business is it of yours? Not being funny but what does it matter how others see veris, or get from them. All we can do is stay in our own lane | |||
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"I guess it all depends what you meaning you attach to a couple or person having many verifications. A veri is just a subjective experience for that person/persons. If you judge somebody on that, and not on the idiosyncratic interaction you have the person, and forming an opinion on what's written by somebody else. Do you not run the risk of missing out on a possible beautiful experience. For me a wealth of knowledge can come from veris, but its the interaction i have with them, that's the important bit My sentiments exactly, but as seen on the thread, it is a red flag for some. " Lots of things can be red flags though. Verification content. Forum posts and attitudes displayed on threads. Photos. Status updates. Pretty much anything you see on Fab can be a red flag. A | |||
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