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Professional - does it matter?
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By *ereTP OP Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
When I wrote my profile, I stated I was a professional. Some other profiles state the same - for either gender - others don’t. But does it make a blind bit of difference to anyone who reads it? |
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By *egoMan
over a year ago
Preston |
"It helps those people looking for professionals to meet up with.
I expect a high level of decency and respect from someone stating they are a professional. "
Agree, it can help elude to the type of people they are. Good or bad it’s down to your choice.
Sometimes I like professional/sophisticated others I want Chavy for example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't impress me.
It's explained as meaning many things to many people.
Those who take great pride in achievement. Those seeking a fellow University grad. Some think it shows they have a lifestyle to guard the privacy of more than others might do discretion is more guaranteed.
It all screams ego to me. I don't post my qualifications on here. They don't make me more or less fuckable or dateable.
To see your job as your identity or that it might indicate any particular positive personality traits is unreliable imho.
Beware folk in suits as much as any other on here. It's still just a horny man in the suit looking an easy shag.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It helps those people looking for professionals to meet up with.
I expect a high level of decency and respect from someone stating they are a professional. "
As long as you're aware that lorry drivers are professional drivers |
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We never understood what "professional" actually means..... a builder can be professional, a sparkie, a chef, a lawyer, a doctor - what next mensa scores & a credit check before a meet?
We have good careers, high pressure for results and know how to behave in certain situations, but equally love to act like children & laugh at fart jokes.
It's just snobbery pure & simple.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We never understood what "professional" actually means..... a builder can be professional, a sparkie, a chef, a lawyer, a doctor - what next mensa scores & a credit check before a meet?
We have good careers, high pressure for results and know how to behave in certain situations, but equally love to act like children & laugh at fart jokes.
It's just snobbery pure & simple.
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This X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We never understood what "professional" actually means..... a builder can be professional, a sparkie, a chef, a lawyer, a doctor - what next mensa scores & a credit check before a meet?
We have good careers, high pressure for results and know how to behave in certain situations, but equally love to act like children & laugh at fart jokes.
It's just snobbery pure & simple.
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Decent credit would help in the hopes to find significant other and sign papers if I can’t  . I don’t know I’m just a single guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never really understood what professional on here means  .
I take it to mean someone who is ashamed of what they do here and needs discretion.
Hence why I tend to avoid it  "
Do it. Own it.
That's my thinking.
If you can't be proud of your choices then perhaps you ought to rethink them.
Privacy is desired and expected when it comes to personal business and/or sex but feeling ashamed is a different thing. |
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"When I wrote my profile, I stated I was a professional. Some other profiles state the same - for either gender - others don’t. But does it make a blind bit of difference to anyone who reads it?"
Yes it triggers a lot of people.
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I can think of two potential things that professional might mean that I can see being plus sides.
Intelligent - the word "professional" doesn't mean that, but it might be a snobby reference to that. You can show you're intelligent, self praise is no recommendation.
Financially solvent (and thus less likely to have drama* around that). I kind of assume that that's taken for granted and you shouldn't say it.
* Side note: "drama free" on a profile is a red flag to me. People doth protest too much! (Ditto easygoing etc - self praise is zero recommendation) |
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"When I wrote my profile, I stated I was a professional. Some other profiles state the same - for either gender - others don’t. But does it make a blind bit of difference to anyone who reads it?"
Doesn’t make a difference to me. Plenty things put me off profiles, I don’t think that would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I wrote my profile, I stated I was a professional. Some other profiles state the same - for either gender - others don’t. But does it make a blind bit of difference to anyone who reads it?"
A professional what? |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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Each to their own.
At least people who think it important can find eachother.
When I think professional I think Teacher, police officer, lawyer, where discretion is absolutely essential as they could lose their career.
Others use it as a measure of intelligence, or that they are people that move in similar social circles.
I'm not a professional myself,
I don't see urinal backdrops as professional  |
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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago
Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work) |
Some people say they’re seeking “chav, scally, lad types” so I don’t see what the problem is to say you are, or are looking for, professionals. At the same time what does professional actually mean.
The people who say they’re professionals probably have an idea in their head of what it means to be a professional. A certain look, attitude, sophistication maybe? However that isn’t really true.
I recall someone saying they use professional to allude to more expensive social meets and therefore wouldn’t want to make other people uncomfortable. Not sure how much I agree with that either.
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I think it's best to just write what you want. The people who think the same way you do will understand and the people who don't... won't.
The word professional causes so much angst when people use it though that I sometimes wonder what are acceptable ways to describe oneself.
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"...Beware folk in suits as much as any other on here. It's still just a horny man in the suit looking an easy shag."
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... equally so, beware those women in any form of attire. It's still just a horny woman looking for unbridled sex.  |
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"We've both got professional qualifications, people often ask us what we do by message and at meets. What are we supposed to say if appearing to be professionals is so reprehensible? "
I don't think it's appearing professional that's the issue. It's stating so as a prelude to anything else.
I'm with the skeptics on this. It's not a dealbreaker, but it points the wrong direction. |
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I tend to assume it means white collar worker rather than blue collar worker. My only annoyance comes when they then go onto request discretion because they are a professional couple. Everyone deserves discretion no matter what job you do or even if you don't work. |
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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago
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Don't understand why people state it? It makes no difference to us. Professional could mean anything, they could be a professional plate spinner or a professional banker.....I mean what does it matter?
I am professional at my job but I don't need to tell everyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Beware folk in suits as much as any other on here. It's still just a horny man in the suit looking an easy shag.
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... equally so, beware those women in any form of attire. It's still just a horny woman looking for unbridled sex. "
Exactly 
Let's all just call a spade a spade.
It's my current hobby  |
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"We've both got professional qualifications, people often ask us what we do by message and at meets. What are we supposed to say if appearing to be professionals is so reprehensible?
I don't think it's appearing professional that's the issue. It's stating so as a prelude to anything else.
I'm with the skeptics on this. It's not a dealbreaker, but it points the wrong direction. "
I suppose that's the point of profiles, to include or exclude possible matches. |
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"We've both got professional qualifications, people often ask us what we do by message and at meets. What are we supposed to say if appearing to be professionals is so reprehensible?
I don't think it's appearing professional that's the issue. It's stating so as a prelude to anything else.
I'm with the skeptics on this. It's not a dealbreaker, but it points the wrong direction.
I suppose that's the point of profiles, to include or exclude possible matches. "
Kind of. Like people write badly with poor grammar so that people who like good writing know to ignore them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it's very important to me that I know you are a professional because it reminds me that you are above me because I am not a professional I am only an expert in baking freshly baked croissants and other sweet pastries but everywhere else in life I am not a professional and it is good to know that others are because I seek them out to shape my life and give me professional guidance because they are bigger and better than than me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes it's very important to me that I know you are a professional because it reminds me that you are above me because I am not a professional I am only an expert in baking freshly baked croissants and other sweet pastries but everywhere else in life I am not a professional and it is good to know that others are because I seek them out to shape my life and give me professional guidance because they are bigger and better than than me."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would generally avoid people who state themselves as professional. Somehow it seems those that state themselves as that, think they hold all the cards when wanting to meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would generally avoid people who state themselves as professional. Somehow it seems those that state themselves as that, think they hold all the cards when wanting to meet.
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In what way?"
Being 'professional' automatically puts you in a higher stead to other people. Either consciously of subconsciously which in turn makes the 'professional' person presume they have more of a say on meets etc. At least, that's how we/I have witnessed it. Not to say that's how it is for everyone.
Professional and discretion also flies around together. Aren't most people discreet anyway? Being professional doesn't make you in any more need of being discreet.
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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It it a phrase that probably spread and copied around as it's seen to cut out some kind of riff raff. The strange thing is, those with credentials don't usually shout about it but do what they like anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind either way, though I do know it can mean discretion when sharing info and photos. I am selective for the same reason but don't have professional on my profile"
I don't agree with this at all.
It's no judge of their character or how discretely they may or may not behave, it's literally just their employment.
Arseholery infects all strata of society. Jeez just look at the royal family, politicans, etc. Professional disasters with no sense of dignity or decorum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I wrote my profile, I stated I was a professional. Some other profiles state the same - for either gender - others don’t. But does it make a blind bit of difference to anyone who reads it?"
Anyone that's get paid a wage is a professional, wether a high earning wage or not.. A wage is a wage ..once a person gets a wage they're professional. |
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"When I wrote my profile, I stated I was a professional. Some other profiles state the same - for either gender - others don’t. But does it make a blind bit of difference to anyone who reads it?
Anyone that's get paid a wage is a professional, wether a high earning wage or not.. A wage is a wage ..once a person gets a wage they're professional."
See ? Always the wrong definition. |
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"We would generally avoid people who state themselves as professional. Somehow it seems those that state themselves as that, think they hold all the cards when wanting to meet.
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In what way?
Being 'professional' automatically puts you in a higher stead to other people. Either consciously of subconsciously which in turn makes the 'professional' person presume they have more of a say on meets etc. At least, that's how we/I have witnessed it. Not to say that's how it is for everyone.
Professional and discretion also flies around together. Aren't most people discreet anyway? Being professional doesn't make you in any more need of being discreet.
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I see. I wouldn't assume a professional had the upper hand but I wouldn't let anyone have the upper hand at a meet whoever they were. If you've witnessed that it's not nice |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"When I wrote my profile, I stated I was a professional. Some other profiles state the same - for either gender - others don’t. But does it make a blind bit of difference to anyone who reads it?"
It does to other professionals who are looking for similar. If it’s puts some people off then you probably wouldn’t want to meet them anyway.
When I’m looking for guys to join for mmf etc I prefer professional men , might be biased but just feel safer |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"We would generally avoid people who state themselves as professional. Somehow it seems those that state themselves as that, think they hold all the cards when wanting to meet.
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In what way?
Being 'professional' automatically puts you in a higher stead to other people. Either consciously of subconsciously which in turn makes the 'professional' person presume they have more of a say on meets etc. At least, that's how we/I have witnessed it. Not to say that's how it is for everyone.
Professional and discretion also flies around together. Aren't most people discreet anyway? Being professional doesn't make you in any more need of being discreet.
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No they are not. I’ve heard stories of guys down the pub sharing photos of local married women they have met on here comparing stories etc.
I think professional people have much more to lose , professional reputation, career etc so are more discrete , careful and and less likely to do anything really dodgy on a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Professional and discretion also flies around together. Aren't most people discreet anyway? Being professional doesn't make you in any more need of being discreet.
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No they are not. I’ve heard stories of guys down the pub sharing photos of local married women they have met on here comparing stories etc.
I think professional people have much more to lose , professional reputation, career etc so are more discrete , careful and and less likely to do anything really dodgy on a meet "
But surely those who do want discretion won't just jump into a meet and will get a feel for the person first?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would take it quite literally as written, that you were professional at being male. So thats like knowing how to chop wood and wipe a dipstick and open jars whilst smelling of lynx and all those other professional man tasks.
In reality it might suggest to me you wear very white shirts and neat pressed trousers and would have a small heart attack if I asked you to sit in my car, so may pass you over for that reason. |
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"I would take it quite literally as written, that you were professional at being male. So thats like knowing how to chop wood and wipe a dipstick and open jars whilst smelling of lynx and all those other professional man tasks.
In reality it might suggest to me you wear very white shirts and neat pressed trousers and would have a small heart attack if I asked you to sit in my car, so may pass you over for that reason. "
Rubbish .... you never mentioned the Milk Tray |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would take it quite literally as written, that you were professional at being male. So thats like knowing how to chop wood and wipe a dipstick and open jars whilst smelling of lynx and all those other professional man tasks.
In reality it might suggest to me you wear very white shirts and neat pressed trousers and would have a small heart attack if I asked you to sit in my car, so may pass you over for that reason.
Rubbish .... you never mentioned the Milk Tray"
My back door would always be open for the milk tray man |
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i have seen a local guy on here who has professional on his profile and he pushes a dustbin cart round newcastle,, 
