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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
topic!
I have been there myself, going off at a tangent on somebody else's thread. Not necessarily deliberately, just sometimes an idea pops into my head which strictly speaking does not belong into that particular thread.
Are you guilty of doing so? And why do we do it? Do we not read the question properly? (That happens to me as I am neurodivergent and as such I am prone to sometimes miss detail)
Should we stick to the topic or is it ok to hijack for example with humour?  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Threads are like conversations, sometimes the subject changes, sometimes they go off on tangents.
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True!
I guess it feels different because we have the record of the conversation rather than relying on the memory of what was said before.
Perhaps it is a slightly different etiquette - in a conversation we would possibly state something like "just changing the subject for a moment" or something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's like heading out on a walk you've not done before. You might meander round a bit, get a few surprises but you find out all kinds of interesting stuff on the way..x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Erm...
I don't know. See, I think it's fine most of the time - conversations naturally have multiple tangents, I like the interactive element of that. If it goes on for several posts, it's best to take it private.
Sometimes I think it's rather silly and a tad unfair to the OP - in particular if a poster is new and more often than not a single man, a jokey tangent post as the first reply sets the tone. And then the thread becomes a pisstake. Which sometimes can be very funny, like a few threads I've read recently or unfair - the Op clearly gets a bit upset.
Also, neurospicy? Brilliant. The best people are.  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"topic!
I have been there myself, going off at a tangent on somebody else's thread. Not necessarily deliberately, just sometimes an idea pops into my head which strictly speaking does not belong into that particular thread.
Are you guilty of doing so? And why do we do it? Do we not read the question properly? (That happens to me as I am neurodivergent and as such I am prone to sometimes miss detail)
Should we stick to the topic or is it ok to hijack for example with humour? "
yes humour wins  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"It's like heading out on a walk you've not done before. You might meander round a bit, get a few surprises but you find out all kinds of interesting stuff on the way..x"
So really picking up on cues other people give within that conversation.
That makes a conversation really interesting and diverse - one the other hand things may not get resolved.  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Erm...
I don't know. See, I think it's fine most of the time - conversations naturally have multiple tangents, I like the interactive element of that. If it goes on for several posts, it's best to take it private.
Sometimes I think it's rather silly and a tad unfair to the OP - in particular if a poster is new and more often than not a single man, a jokey tangent post as the first reply sets the tone. And then the thread becomes a pisstake. Which sometimes can be very funny, like a few threads I've read recently or unfair - the Op clearly gets a bit upset.
Also, neurospicy? Brilliant. The best people are. "
That is how I feel sometimes that somebody asks a question and gets slaughtered even though it is in good humour most of the time.
Neuospicy is a good one, not heard that one before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's like heading out on a walk you've not done before. You might meander round a bit, get a few surprises but you find out all kinds of interesting stuff on the way..xSo really picking up on cues other people give within that conversation.
That makes a conversation really interesting and diverse - one the other hand things may not get resolved. "
Sticking to my analogy you might take little detours to see something or do something... but you will ultimately get to your final destination. Obviously on here there isn't necessarily a final destination but the journey is usually fun |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I could be wrong but isn’t one of the forum rules you need to stay on topic ?
I may have got that wrong. "
I actually do not know. Maybe somebody could confirm? But asking this I ll probably be offered pizza! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"It's like heading out on a walk you've not done before. You might meander round a bit, get a few surprises but you find out all kinds of interesting stuff on the way..xSo really picking up on cues other people give within that conversation.
That makes a conversation really interesting and diverse - one the other hand things may not get resolved.
Sticking to my analogy you might take little detours to see something or do something... but you will ultimately get to your final destination. Obviously on here there isn't necessarily a final destination but the journey is usually fun "
Actually I like journeys... |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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I go where I want, post what I want.
As long as it’s within forum rules, people have a choice to ignore or pass over your comments as they see fit.
Some topics deserve to be railroaded because the post or poster is delusional!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's like heading out on a walk you've not done before. You might meander round a bit, get a few surprises but you find out all kinds of interesting stuff on the way..xSo really picking up on cues other people give within that conversation.
That makes a conversation really interesting and diverse - one the other hand things may not get resolved.
Sticking to my analogy you might take little detours to see something or do something... but you will ultimately get to your final destination. Obviously on here there isn't necessarily a final destination but the journey is usually fun Actually I like journeys... "
Me too get your backpack and let's go  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"It's like heading out on a walk you've not done before. You might meander round a bit, get a few surprises but you find out all kinds of interesting stuff on the way..xSo really picking up on cues other people give within that conversation.
That makes a conversation really interesting and diverse - one the other hand things may not get resolved.
Sticking to my analogy you might take little detours to see something or do something... but you will ultimately get to your final destination. Obviously on here there isn't necessarily a final destination but the journey is usually fun Actually I like journeys...
Me too get your backpack and let's go "
Deal!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I could be wrong but isn’t one of the forum rules you need to stay on topic ?
I may have got that wrong.
Nope!
https://m.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules"
I stand corrected.
‘Deliberate or malicious disruption of the forum’ is an interesting one !
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I go where I want, post what I want.
As long as it’s within forum rules, people have a choice to ignore or pass over your comments as they see fit.
Some topics deserve to be railroaded because the post or poster is delusional! "
Think I was delusional about getting straight answers from everybody! I agree with you though on posting comments and people are free to ignore or comment. |
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It depends on the topic.
The op could post about their particular experience with something but I may have been in a similar scenario with completely different experiences and I could describe those with the full intention of staying on point.
Someone else sees something they can relate to in my post rather than the op and they elaborate on their own personal experience and suddenly we are at 90 degrees to where we started. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"It's like heading out on a walk you've not done before. You might meander round a bit, get a few surprises but you find out all kinds of interesting stuff on the way..xSo really picking up on cues other people give within that conversation.
That makes a conversation really interesting and diverse - one the other hand things may not get resolved.
Sticking to my analogy you might take little detours to see something or do something... but you will ultimately get to your final destination. Obviously on here there isn't necessarily a final destination but the journey is usually fun Actually I like journeys... "
come to Torquay then its a lovely journey  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Things can slightly go off topic but still meaning to be on the topic if that makes any sense  with other thoughts or humour. What I don't understand are those who literally have their own conversation on a thread, take it to private messaging! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I do sometimes. I don’t think we owe any explanations , it’s kind of a free for all place with minimum rules about that kind of thing.
Sometimes people hijack a thread to flirt, or grab attention, make a joke, threads are started by ridiculously people about ridiculous things It’s all good |
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Things can slightly go off topic but still meaning to be on the topic if that makes any sense with other thoughts or humour. What I don't understand are those who literally have their own conversation on a thread, take it to private messaging! "
Ooooft |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Things can slightly go off topic but still meaning to be on the topic if that makes any sense with other thoughts or humour. What I don't understand are those who literally have their own conversation on a thread, take it to private messaging!
Ooooft "
Did you find out who gives the best massage? Or was that message... |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Things can slightly go off topic but still meaning to be on the topic if that makes any sense with other thoughts or humour. What I don't understand are those who literally have their own conversation on a thread, take it to private messaging! "
I agree it can sometimes go that way - personally I love threads that are inclusive of everyone. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I do sometimes. I don’t think we owe any explanations , it’s kind of a free for all place with minimum rules about that kind of thing.
Sometimes people hijack a thread to flirt, or grab attention, make a joke, threads are started by ridiculously people about ridiculous things It’s all good "
Absolutely and sometimes that is funny in its own right |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Threads are like conversations, sometimes the subject changes, sometimes they go off on tangents.
Pint
Invitation?
Available?Conditionally
Negotiabe?
Flexible?
willing "
in spirit?
Damn I am doing what I said I would not do... engage in personal and one-to-one chitchat on a thread...
Look what you made me do!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"topic!
I have been there myself, going off at a tangent on somebody else's thread. Not necessarily deliberately, just sometimes an idea pops into my head which strictly speaking does not belong into that particular thread.
Are you guilty of doing so? And why do we do it? Do we not read the question properly? (That happens to me as I am neurodivergent and as such I am prone to sometimes miss detail)
Should we stick to the topic or is it ok to hijack for example with humour? "
Depends on the thread topic. There have been serious topics such as about bereavement, where people were sharing very personal, heartbreaking stories. Some people took over the thread flirting with each other.
Yeah it's a sex site but fucking hell!!! |
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Threads are like conversations, sometimes the subject changes, sometimes they go off on tangents.
Pint
Invitation?
Available?Conditionally
Negotiabe?
Flexible?
willing
in spirit?
Damn I am doing what I said I would not do... engage in personal and one-to-one chitchat on a thread...
Look what you made me do!!! "
My work here is done! |
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