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Do you fuck on first dates?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So do you? Does your strategy change depending on if you just find them sexy but wouldn't go on date two or if you fancy the pants off them and can see yourself forming a relationship?
Date one for us was coffee and cake, no naked, no beast with two backs but we were instantly smitten.
Date two we were naked in minutes and stayed that way for the rest of the week.
We both admitted that if we had found each other sexually attractive but not long term material we would have fucked on date one and gone our separate ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually did it before the date once. Had a one night stand many moons ago and I asked her out after texting back and forth. The date was a bit awkward though and we both decided not to see each other afterwards
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was genuinely interested in a person long term, I wouldn't give it all away so soon. Sexual attraction can be misconstrued for other things so I'd want to explore their mind before their body. |
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I don't go on many dates, but the few I have, I slept with them on the first date, aside from two dates that no attraction/connection was present.
With sexy meets, yeah I've always slept with them first time |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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This got me thinking... In the 4 years that I have been single, I have only ever been on three 'dates' in the conventional IRL sense 
All were a disaster and none of them make my knickers hit the floor |
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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago
kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent |
"If I was genuinely interested in a person long term, I wouldn't give it all away so soon. Sexual attraction can be misconstrued for other things so I'd want to explore their mind before their body."
now i know why it only takes me 5mins..they aint intrested in me at all   |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"So do you? Does your strategy change depending on if you just find them sexy but wouldn't go on date two or if you fancy the pants off them and can see yourself forming a relationship?
Date one for us was coffee and cake, no naked, no beast with two backs but we were instantly smitten.
Date two we were naked in minutes and stayed that way for the rest of the week.
We both admitted that if we had found each other sexually attractive but not long term material we would have fucked on date one and gone our separate ways."
well your example is more about an actual date and so yes I'd wait but if it were a sexual date then yes if all boxes are ticked why not have sex on that first date  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you mean through fab the answer is no. Always at least one social before deciding to get naked.
I've turned down socials when it was suggested anything more would happen afterwards.
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Same. If they start hinting at sex stuff before we've even met then the social is cancelled. |
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First dates ?
Or First meets....
I know you said dates so you must mean dates because if you didn't mean dates you wouldn't have said dates but you did so I guess you meant dates and not meets cos if you meant meets you would have said meets but you didn't say meets you said dates so I have to go with dates......
No. Yep if I feel like it.
i'll just leave meets out of it, cos you never said meets ... you said dates. |
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"First meeting is only ever promised as a social.
But it can become much more than that if the chemistry is there."
Just like dating, if I remember it right. (It’s been a long time since I was single.) |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Nope, seriously nope even if I fancy the pants off them.
The reason? I want to be sure that that is what I really want, they are are somebody I can trust with a degree of intimacy and getting a bit closer to my core.
And this will take a little bit of time. I won't be rushed either. Ever. |
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"Just like dating, if I remember it right. (It’s been a long time since I was single.)"
I suppose that was a long way of saying that yes, I sometimes used to fuck on first dates. If the chemistry was there. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No I don't. Well, not any more.
And I'm really happy not doing so - I like getting to know someone. Plus, the more relaxed I am, the more I enjoy sex. I'm not really meeting people for sex any more. It happens and is fantastic but I'm meeting for friendship etc, sex isn't the driving force. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"No I don't. Well, not any more.
And I'm really happy not doing so - I like getting to know someone. Plus, the more relaxed I am, the more I enjoy sex. I'm not really meeting people for sex any more. It happens and is fantastic but I'm meeting for friendship etc, sex isn't the driving force."
You said it better than me.  |
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I tend to talk and communicate an awful lot before I meet so I usually have made my mind up if I want to fuck before a physical meeting. However I appreciate that it’s very different for women as they need to feel safe and secure before taking that next step |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Nope, seriously nope even if I fancy the pants off them.
The reason? I want to be sure that that is what I really want, they are are somebody I can trust with a degree of intimacy and getting a bit closer to my core.
And this will take a little bit of time. I won't be rushed either. Ever."
Ah I liked your post a lot! It's very close to how I feel.
I don't think sex is a sacred thing, ascribe to it hangups that still exist. But I enjoy taking my time, removing sex and not feeling pressure to do something when I need that base level connection to be sexually attacted to someone. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Nope, seriously nope even if I fancy the pants off them.
The reason? I want to be sure that that is what I really want, they are are somebody I can trust with a degree of intimacy and getting a bit closer to my core.
And this will take a little bit of time. I won't be rushed either. Ever.
Ah I liked your post a lot! It's very close to how I feel.
I don't think sex is a sacred thing, ascribe to it hangups that still exist. But I enjoy taking my time, removing sex and not feeling pressure to do something when I need that base level connection to be sexually attacted to someone."
Exactly - I am not celibate - I just value my body, my mental health more than going with a person where I might have regrets. |
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‘Normal’ datey dates for dating dates. No. Absolutely not. Ever. There have been many where I was attracted enough to want to, but if I want that first date to turn into a relationship then it’s more about establishing a connection.
First dates for me are purely about seeing if I want a second date.
Fab meets - I don’t ever set out with that intention. But, because sex is so much more open on fab than IRL, it has happened. |
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Socials on here? No I don’t. 
