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I think a lot of people have unrealistic expectations, so many posts moaning they can't get meets when they put zero effort.
Then there's the self entitelled people who think because your here they somehow have the right to fuck you and become offended when you don't want to.
There are definitely huge amounts of unrealistic expectations here.
I mean I expect my inbox to be full of boobs daily, I can hope 
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"I think most experienced Fabbers would settle for somebody who just turned up to a meet."
We expect them to be able to string a sentence together.... too much? |
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over a year ago
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off."
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then  |
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over a year ago
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"I think a fair few men join with huge expectations then get a bit bitter when they realise they have to actually put effort in"
The ratios are massively in women's favours. Men have to accept it and try their best. The vast majority or messages to women will not get replies let alone rejected. I was on a couples profile for years and you can't reply to all unless you want fab to be a part time job. |
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"I think a lot of people have unrealistic expectations, so many posts moaning they can't get meets when they put zero effort.
Then there's the self entitelled people who think because your here they somehow have the right to fuck you and become offended when you don't want to.
There are definitely huge amounts of unrealistic expectations here.
I mean I expect my inbox to be full of boobs daily, I can hope
Mrs "
Lol I usually find mine full of dicks saying meet me now |
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I think on the top of what has already been said, people have unrealistic expectations of how they imagine you to be, as a person. They most often expect you to turn up for a social meet in a local coffee shop wearing stockings and heels! And are quite disappointed you didn’t. That’s at least from my experience. |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then "
I have to protect my curtains. |
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"I think a fair few men join with huge expectations then get a bit bitter when they realise they have to actually put effort in
The ratios are massively in women's favours. Men have to accept it and try their best. The vast majority or messages to women will not get replies let alone rejected. I was on a couples profile for years and you can't reply to all unless you want fab to be a part time job. "
Yep Im fully aware of that ?? it's bigcock123 and heretogetsucked321 that need it explaining to |
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"I think a lot of people have unrealistic expectations, so many posts moaning they can't get meets when they put zero effort.
Then there's the self entitelled people who think because your here they somehow have the right to fuck you and become offended when you don't want to.
There are definitely huge amounts of unrealistic expectations here.
I mean I expect my inbox to be full of boobs daily, I can hope
Mrs
Lol I usually find mine full of dicks saying meet me now "
Yep ours is the same despite not meeting men 
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I expected honesty for some ridiculous reason. I just thought here of all places, people would be honest. It makes perfect logical sense to me.
Sadly not. Billy Bullshit & his crew are alive and kicking in these parts.
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"I expected honesty for some ridiculous reason. I just thought here of all places, people would be honest. It makes perfect logical sense to me.
Sadly not. Billy Bullshit & his crew are alive and kicking in these parts.
Mrs "
Tbf that's what I used to think x |
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex ""
It's a fantasy world full of lots of fantasists playing games a bit like dungeons and dragons |
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over a year ago
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It's a fuck site with sex reviews detailing porn style amazing fucks. Pics of wet dripping cocks and pussy. Tits out. Tick boxes of the sex acts that people offer.
What should they expect? |
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"It's a fuck site with sex reviews detailing porn style amazing fucks. Pics of wet dripping cocks and pussy. Tits out. Tick boxes of the sex acts that people offer.
What should they expect?"
Coffee and cake- please x |
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over a year ago
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"If can’t be honest here where can u be honest
I don’t know people here and not gonna hide something
After all may get what looking for if honest "
Says the profile with no pictures... |
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Define expectations.
Most people have expectations on here, some realistic and some not so.
My experience has been that many people expect others to dance to their tune and start whinging when they don't.
Expecting men to have no self respect and to jump when told is a big thing on here.
Expecting quality messages and effort from male profiles while offering none in return is another bone of contention.
Expecting a certain type of behaviour from everyone else while acting like a thundercunt doesn't look good on your fab CV.
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then
I have to protect my curtains."
Describe your curtains, in detail…………….  |
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"Define expectations.
Most people have expectations on here, some realistic and some not so.
My experience has been that many people expect others to dance to their tune and start whinging when they don't.
As in expecting hr n hrs of hard raw fuckin and I reality its more like half hr and done lmao
Expecting men to have no self respect and to jump when told is a big thing on here.
Expecting quality messages and effort from male profiles while offering none in return is another bone of contention.
Expecting a certain type of behaviour from everyone else while acting like a thundercunt doesn't look good on your fab CV.
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"If can’t be honest here where can u be honest
I don’t know people here and not gonna hide something
After all may get what looking for if honest
Says the profile with no pictures..."
Neither does the op |
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This is the place to fulfil fantasy though. I think some people definitely don't want to do the grafting, to find their compatible sexual partners. They want them to fall out of the first message and onto their laps |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then
I have to protect my curtains.
Describe your curtains, in detail……………. "
Beefy, a little hairy and always open. |
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"Definitely people have expectations. We are on a sex site, right? So we should fuck anyone who aks, right?
FAF? 
Since you asked so nicely, go on then "
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"Define expectations.
Most people have expectations on here, some realistic and some not so.
My experience has been that many people expect others to dance to their tune and start whinging when they don't.
As in expecting hr n hrs of hard raw fuckin and I reality its more like half hr and done lmao
Expecting men to have no self respect and to jump when told is a big thing on here.
Expecting quality messages and effort from male profiles while offering none in return is another bone of contention.
Expecting a certain type of behaviour from everyone else while acting like a thundercunt doesn't look good on your fab CV.
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Surely it takes two to tango?
Very few people expect hours and hours of anything on here. That would be monotonous rather than mind-blowing. |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then
I have to protect my curtains.
Describe your curtains, in detail…………….
Beefy, a little hairy and always open."
70’s style , bold patterns? How’s the hem holding up? Any loose bits? |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off."
What??? You never gave me a box of tissues.
You told me to use a sock. |
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I think there is an expectation that the people you meet here will be really confident in the bedroom and good at sex
I dunno if I meet the wrong people but people are just as mediocre at it here as they are elsewhere |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
What??? You never gave me a box of tissues.
You told me to use a sock. "
Apologies guess I missedthatbit. |
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"I think there is an expectation that the people you meet here will be really confident in the bedroom and good at sex
I dunno if I meet the wrong people but people are just as mediocre at it here as they are elsewhere "
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then
I have to protect my curtains.
Describe your curtains, in detail…………….
Beefy, a little hairy and always open."
Omg, I'm picturing that in a 6ft drop   |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then "
Wait.. Three whole minutes in one go  |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then
Wait.. Three whole minutes in one go "
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex ""
I was seeing someone that liked sticking her tongue in my ear, she came pretty close too blowing my mind. |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then
I have to protect my curtains.
Describe your curtains, in detail…………….
Beefy, a little hairy and always open.
Omg, I'm picturing that in a 6ft drop "
Like a trou de loup |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I strive to a be disappointment so passionately that I am looking for those ppl with very high expectations as a way of introducing reality into their minds
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"I think there is an expectation that the people you meet here will be really confident in the bedroom and good at sex
I dunno if I meet the wrong people but people are just as mediocre at it here as they are elsewhere
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This is the reality. Doing average things often just makes you great at being average.
It's the chemistry and matching your likes really carefully and getting comfortable enough with a partner to truly relax and let go that makes sex epic for me.
I had it with one because we were friends only for months. The familiarity and trust were there. The chemistry was off the charts. The likes were matched.
Obviously the 2nd meeting was better than the first and the third better than the 2nd.
People meeting as a one off can't expect that level of enjoyment imho. It takes time and effort and commitment and trust. |
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
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I’ll be honest, I still want to become an astronaut, so what do you think.
Have you applied? "
I’ll do it tomorrow. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I think most experienced Fabbers would settle for somebody who just turned up to a meet.
This is spot on!"
Absolutely not !
I’ve been here 7 years and always had very high expectations, if that means I sometimes don’t meet anyone for a month or two that’s absolutely fine. |
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"I think most experienced Fabbers would settle for somebody who just turned up to a meet.
This is spot on!
Absolutely not !
I’ve been here 7 years and always had very high expectations, if that means I sometimes don’t meet anyone for a month or two that’s absolutely fine."
This for me too. If I ever get the impression that it’s just about instant gratification then I’m out. I’m only here for bloody amazing sex and company - and thankfully I usually get both. |
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
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I’ll be honest, I still want to become an astronaut, so what do you think.
Have you applied?
I’ll do it tomorrow. "
Ground control to major woody |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"I think on the top of what has already been said, people have unrealistic expectations of how they imagine you to be, as a person. They most often expect you to turn up for a social meet in a local coffee shop wearing stockings and heels! And are quite disappointed you didn’t. That’s at least from my experience."
I actually much prefer ladies In their normal everyday clothes as they can look great without even trying to look sexy. If you understand what I mean. |
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women also think they need to put no effor in. Either into messages because they have so many options or into actual meets, taking lie back and think of england a bit too litrally. |
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex ""
Can I ask op wouldnt you like mind blowing sex . its a service I offer but sadly only on few occasions have I received it myself .but women have a greater capacity for sexual enjoyment and multiple orgasams which is pleasure to give and a joy to behold . |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Maybe it's not that unrealistic - it might just be an ideal and they're stating what they're looking for and won't settle for "less" as such.
I'm quite content not having sex with someone - when I do it's generally fantastic and in the mean time I'm happy to go on dates/socials and do things my own way.
Sure, you get people who assume that you're raring to go, waxed and down to fuck/be fucked in every hole.
But the majority of those I interact with/who message me (I'd say at least 90%) don't have that notion. Maybe I've been rather lucky? Who knows. I've not had a fancy a fuck message in at least a month. |
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"I think a fair few men join with huge expectations then get a bit bitter when they realise they have to actually put effort in"
Yep, absolutely agree with that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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". I've not had a fancy a fuck message in at least a month.
Read between the lines guys ! Hit those keyboards ! "
Ha! You scamp. No. I'm happy to not; my inbox is a lovely, sacred place that I'm nurturing carefully. |
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"I think there is an expectation that the people you meet here will be really confident in the bedroom and good at sex
I dunno if I meet the wrong people but people are just as mediocre at it here as they are elsewhere
This is the reality. Doing average things often just makes you great at being average.
It's the chemistry and matching your likes really carefully and getting comfortable enough with a partner to truly relax and let go that makes sex epic for me.
I had it with one because we were friends only for months. The familiarity and trust were there. The chemistry was off the charts. The likes were matched.
Obviously the 2nd meeting was better than the first and the third better than the 2nd.
People meeting as a one off can't expect that level of enjoyment imho. It takes time and effort and commitment and trust."
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"women also think they need to put no effor in. Either into messages because they have so many options or into actual meets, taking lie back and think of england a bit too litrally."
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Yep I do.
Many think they'll get sex on tap with a profile that has no pics and one line of text .
These sort of profiles are always moaning in my updates that nobody replies etc and don't seem to realise they need to put a bit of effort in .
I think some watch far too much porn and think fab will be just like that . |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex ""
I'm looking for a wife / partner am i in the wrong place |
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex "I'm looking for a wife / partner am i in the wrong place "
I am looking for selling my car. So you know  |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off."
Well that made me smile |
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"I think on the top of what has already been said, people have unrealistic expectations of how they imagine you to be, as a person. They most often expect you to turn up for a social meet in a local coffee shop wearing stockings and heels! And are quite disappointed you didn’t. That’s at least from my experience."
I have never turned up at a meet in stockings and heels - tights and thigh high boots only! |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex "I'm looking for a wife / partner am i in the wrong place
I am looking for selling my car. So you know "
not a fiat pansy!!! |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex "I'm looking for a wife / partner am i in the wrong place
I am looking for selling my car. So you know not a fiat pansy!!! "
I typed panda ffs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Men on here have huge expectations, our profile is here with my husband, most messages literally go straight for me , READ the profile and actually see what we are about , this would help them out !! |
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"I think on the top of what has already been said, people have unrealistic expectations of how they imagine you to be, as a person. They most often expect you to turn up for a social meet in a local coffee shop wearing stockings and heels! And are quite disappointed you didn’t. That’s at least from my experience."
^ this has been my experience over the years. I vottoned in to this quickly. The moment arrangements are in place for a social, the questions on whether I will be fully dressed in stockings etc start (this isbwhwre thwie fabtasy starts), when I inform them that I won't be, the conversation takes a huge dip and contact ceases hence my comment regard "where fantasy starts".
One time I did turn up for a meet, i was all dresses casual/smart with stockings, the guy turned up in a washed out okd tee shirt, csrgo shorts and sliders. Immediate turn off for me and needkess to say he didn't appreciate me telling him that he waa alao required to make an effort! He was gobsmacked! |
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"Do you think ppl av unrealistic ideas on here ?
As in what they think gonna happen to what they'll actually get lol
I've just seen one profile and said " looking for mind blowing sex "I'm looking for a wife / partner am i in the wrong place
I am looking for selling my car. So you know not a fiat pansy!!! I typed panda ffs "
Autocorrect  |
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"this has been my experience over the years. I vottoned in to this quickly. The moment arrangements are in place for a social, the questions on whether I will be fully dressed in stockings etc start (this isbwhwre thwie fabtasy starts), when I inform them that I won't be, the conversation takes a huge dip and contact ceases hence my comment regard "where fantasy starts".
One time I did turn up for a meet, i was all dresses casual/smart with stockings, the guy turned up in a washed out okd tee shirt, csrgo shorts and sliders. Immediate turn off for me and needkess to say he didn't appreciate me telling him that he waa alao required to make an effort! He was gobsmacked! "
Bloody hell - I actually had the words typed properly there and the phone has a mind of its own and turns some of it into mush! |
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Yes, I think some (not all) men, expect some sort of experience/performance to be put on for them... Like another lady said, us turning up to a social in stockings and a sexy dress etc. And seducing them or something.
I'm sure there are some women who enjoy that aspect of the whole scene, but I think most of us are quite normal |
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I think we all have expectations naturally. They're built into us growing up. We learn what is expected of us and we learn whether or not we were right about our expectations then we learn from that. It's all a process.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Those expectations might just be anticipations.
A great many (I'd say most) women's/couples profiles have no consideration of the 3rd person. It's a fantasy/wish fulfilment thing, which is fair enough.
Most people here are hunting their own specific unicorn, but most don't acknowledge that. |
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"People assume I will give them the night of their lives when in reality they get a 3 minute tug and a box of tissues to finish theirselves off.
You provide tissues? Wow guess we need to up our game then
I have to protect my curtains.
Describe your curtains, in detail…………….
Beefy, a little hairy and always open."
Lol ??..best answer yet |
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"I think on the top of what has already been said, people have unrealistic expectations of how they imagine you to be, as a person. They most often expect you to turn up for a social meet in a local coffee shop wearing stockings and heels! And are quite disappointed you didn’t. That’s at least from my experience.
^ this has been my experience over the years. I vottoned in to this quickly. The moment arrangements are in place for a social, the questions on whether I will be fully dressed in stockings etc start (this isbwhwre thwie fabtasy starts), when I inform them that I won't be, the conversation takes a huge dip and contact ceases hence my comment regard "where fantasy starts".
One time I did turn up for a meet, i was all dresses casual/smart with stockings, the guy turned up in a washed out okd tee shirt, csrgo shorts and sliders. Immediate turn off for me and needkess to say he didn't appreciate me telling him that he waa alao required to make an effort! He was gobsmacked! "
As soon as they start wittering about stockings etc I cancel the social. |
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