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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"When my both of my parents passed away.
I lost my hero and lost my safety net.
Sorry to drag the thread down.x ,, your not dragging the thread down, my dad was my hero,, and still his"
My dad will always be my hero and he’s with me everyday. I believe he’s always on my shoulder |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When my both of my parents passed away.
I lost my hero and lost my safety net.
Sorry to drag the thread down.x "
Don't be sorry. It's good to talk and share. Sadly life isn't always rainbows and butterflies. |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
cheshire |
"When my both of my parents passed away.
I lost my hero and lost my safety net.
Sorry to drag the thread down.x
Don't be sorry. It's good to talk and share. Sadly life isn't always rainbows and butterflies."
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"When my both of my parents passed away.
I lost my hero and lost my safety net.
Sorry to drag the thread down.x
Don't be sorry. It's good to talk and share. Sadly life isn't always rainbows and butterflies."
Ive been without my parents for 15 and 10 yrs respectively. Miss them every day but have learn to live with it but never get over it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When my both of my parents passed away.
I lost my hero and lost my safety net.
Sorry to drag the thread down.x
Don't be sorry. It's good to talk and share. Sadly life isn't always rainbows and butterflies.
Ive been without my parents for 15 and 10 yrs respectively. Miss them every day but have learn to live with it but never get over it. "
Yes I completely understand. I miss my parents too. I've been through so much loss and it changes you. All we can do is cherish the memories and remember them for as long as we live. Sending a virtual hug.  |
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The birth and death of our first child together we still think about her every single moment of every day and we are very thankful for the time we did get to spend with them and possibly also the birth of our twins and the joy of them arriving safely |
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"When my both of my parents passed away.
I lost my hero and lost my safety net.
Sorry to drag the thread down.x
Don't be sorry. It's good to talk and share. Sadly life isn't always rainbows and butterflies.
Ive been without my parents for 15 and 10 yrs respectively. Miss them every day but have learn to live with it but never get over it.
Yes I completely understand. I miss my parents too. I've been through so much loss and it changes you. All we can do is cherish the memories and remember them for as long as we live. Sending a virtual hug. "
Virtual hug greatfully accepted and returned with gratitude x |
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"The birth of my grandson very prematurely then his death just over three weeks later "
No words xx Sending hugs.
Seeing a small casket being taken to its rest is a sight that can never be forgotten. Sorry for your loss xx |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
cheshire |
i was a young promising footballer, club scouts visiting my mum and dad,, man utd coventry and local to me crewe alex, then through accident was blinded in my left eye, i was heart broken it was all i ever wanted to do,, long time ago life goes on, |
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"The birth and death of our first child together we still think about her every single moment of every day and we are very thankful for the time we did get to spend with them and possibly also the birth of our twins and the joy of them arriving safely "
Sorry for your loss and rejoicing of the safe arrivals of your precious twins x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was aged 10 & our youngest sibling died, born prematurely halfway through the pregnancy.
Life as I knew it ended forever.
Saw my father cry for the first time.
My mother was just gone, just like that, lost to the grief.
And a hundred other nightmares that grew from it. |
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"The birth and death of our first child together we still think about her every single moment of every day and we are very thankful for the time we did get to spend with them and possibly also the birth of our twins and the joy of them arriving safely
Sorry for your loss and rejoicing of the safe arrivals of your precious twins x "
Thanks you having to carry that small white coffin is something that noone should ever have to suffer the pain of doing I would quite gladly swap places so they were still here |
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"The birth and death of our first child together we still think about her every single moment of every day and we are very thankful for the time we did get to spend with them and possibly also the birth of our twins and the joy of them arriving safely
Sorry for your loss and rejoicing of the safe arrivals of your precious twins x
Thanks you having to carry that small white coffin is something that noone should ever have to suffer the pain of doing I would quite gladly swap places so they were still here "
Ive experienced it once as me niece lost her child during childbirth. Its something etched on my brain. Hugs xx |
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"When I was aged 10 & our youngest sibling died, born prematurely halfway through the pregnancy.
Life as I knew it ended forever.
Saw my father cry for the first time.
My mother was just gone, just like that, lost to the grief.
And a hundred other nightmares that grew from it."
I cant imagine the grief and everlasting effect that must have had. Does it still impact your life ? |
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Going to the launderette at university to find it was broken. Went to one further away and stayed there to save walking back. Made a friend. Through him made other friends. Through them I met my husband. There's no way I would have met him otherwise.
Being too lazy to walk back from that other launderette certainly changed my life  |
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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago
Blyth |
Walking away from a job that I probably would have had for life for the chance of earning silly money.
Initially it was only short term with no guarantees so was a big gamble. However, the initial period got extended and then the project grew arms and legs so I ended up being there for years and made a lot of money.
Set me and my wife up with a decent retirement and also gave my kids a big help on to the property ladder.
That spur of the moment decision didn't just change my life but changed my kid's, and my grandkid's too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was aged 10 & our youngest sibling died, born prematurely halfway through the pregnancy.
Life as I knew it ended forever.
Saw my father cry for the first time.
My mother was just gone, just like that, lost to the grief.
And a hundred other nightmares that grew from it.
I cant imagine the grief and everlasting effect that must have had. Does it still impact your life ? "
Yep.
Some awful ways and some good.
I sought help and found ways to process and resolve it all after I myself became a parent and had a new perspective.
But the damage was done.
Parentification and other things that happened over a period of 20 years changed me.
I had to learn to believe the words of those who I decided to trust and take counsel from. To learn to understand what was reasonable and acceptable and reassign responsibility and ownership of things that I had wrongly shouldered.
I had to start to learn to grieve.
For that sibling and others who died in the years after.
For the version of myself who died that day.
For the person I might have become and the future that I might have lived.
And I had to make peace with never having others accept their part in it all.
It's done, resolved as far as it will ever be. That which was lost will stay lost. Have to look forward to better things and better times. |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago
Where the flamboyance of flamingos live |
The birth of my daughter was a turning point in my life for sure. She arrived 12 weeks wristlet weighing only 2lb 4oz. She is now 31 years old and the strongest person I know and my best friend.
The second was putting down on paper letters to my both my step father who sexually abused me as a child and my own father who I had an estranged relationship with. I wrote to them both posthumously and it was the most cathartic thing I have ever done x |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
"The birth of my daughter was a turning point in my life for sure. She arrived 12 weeks wristlet weighing only 2lb 4oz. She is now 31 years old and the strongest person I know and my best friend.
The second was putting down on paper letters to my both my step father who sexually abused me as a child and my own father who I had an estranged relationship with. I wrote to them both posthumously and it was the most cathartic thing I have ever done x"
I've replied privately xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The day my Mum walked out on us. Literally walked out. Went to School and she was there, came home and a note left on the table saying she had gone and not coming back. Certainly I had to mature, and quickly....
My Son being born, wow, overwhelmed with this little person completely dependent on me!
My Parents dying. Losing them knocked the stuffing out of me |
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
"When I was aged 10 & our youngest sibling died, born prematurely halfway through the pregnancy.
Life as I knew it ended forever.
Saw my father cry for the first time.
My mother was just gone, just like that, lost to the grief.
And a hundred other nightmares that grew from it.
I cant imagine the grief and everlasting effect that must have had. Does it still impact your life ?
Yep.
Some awful ways and some good.
I sought help and found ways to process and resolve it all after I myself became a parent and had a new perspective.
But the damage was done.
Parentification and other things that happened over a period of 20 years changed me.
I had to learn to believe the words of those who I decided to trust and take counsel from. To learn to understand what was reasonable and acceptable and reassign responsibility and ownership of things that I had wrongly shouldered.
I had to start to learn to grieve.
For that sibling and others who died in the years after.
For the version of myself who died that day.
For the person I might have become and the future that I might have lived.
And I had to make peace with never having others accept their part in it all.
It's done, resolved as far as it will ever be. That which was lost will stay lost. Have to look forward to better things and better times. "
Bless you and wish you nothing but the best for the future and prey your demons stay sleeping within the past only to emerge and realise they have part in your future xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bless you and wish you nothing but the best for the future and prey your demons stay sleeping within the past only to emerge and realise they have part in your future xx "
Thank you xx
We all carry scars, no?
Some you see, some you don't.
Standing on the other side of it all I can say there has been a positive takeaway from it. I'm definitely stronger for it all. Because I have hit my absolute rock bottom. I have stared in to my own personal, hopeless, black hole and I let it swallow me for a time.
But I climbed out and there is one thing that I will never ever do and that is let it swallow me ever again.
That is a hard no.
Nothing is worth that level of despair.
Nothing will best me.
Lessons learned, limits hard-coded.
I'll bend but never break.
There is always a better day to wait for. Today's stress & strife is tomorrow's life lesson and a level up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh crikey, Fab bringing tears to my eyes. There are some heart wrenching posts on this thread. Many of you are very brave and battling through with heartache. I hope you can all go on with some happiness in your hearts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got into the wrong crowd at college - drinking, various drugs, and ended up getting arrested for possession when I was 18.
Scared the shit out of me. I haven't touched a single illegal drug since that night |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When my both of my parents passed away.
I lost my hero and lost my safety net.
Sorry to drag the thread down.x "
Can very deeply relate on many many levels!
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By *empusMan
over a year ago
Poole |
Quit my office based career, got dreads to celebrate that and started a new career in outdoor ed. Best thing I’ve ever done but worst timing imaginable...
Quit my secure, well paid job in Jan 2020!!
That was fun
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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago
East Yorkie |
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Bless you and wish you nothing but the best for the future and prey your demons stay sleeping within the past only to emerge and realise they have part in your future xx
Thank you xx
We all carry scars, no?
Some you see, some you don't.
Standing on the other side of it all I can say there has been a positive takeaway from it. I'm definitely stronger for it all. Because I have hit my absolute rock bottom. I have stared in to my own personal, hopeless, black hole and I let it swallow me for a time.
But I climbed out and there is one thing that I will never ever do and that is let it swallow me ever again.
That is a hard no.
Nothing is worth that level of despair.
Nothing will best me.
Lessons learned, limits hard-coded.
I'll bend but never break.
There is always a better day to wait for. Today's stress & strife is tomorrow's life lesson and a level up."
A fighter all the way xx Respect to ya |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
I've never had kids and my parents are still very much alive.
The biggest thing to happen to me to change my life is being unexpectedly made redundant. I was so upset and didn't know what to do, so I started my own business.
Almost 30 years later I'm still at it and have had some amazing experiences, met lots of people and also had bad down times. None of which wouldn't have happened otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose it would be the moment I met my wife. We were both 15 she was my first proper girlfriend as I was a very self conscious shy guy. We are still together after 40 plus years. She gave me self confidence and two great daughters so can def say she changed my life. |
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"I think the first thing I'm conscious of changing my life is the birth of my brother when I was two. "
Mines a pain too. But in a very good way. And the nieces and nephews have been a joy so it turns out he wasn’t bad after all
And the beauty is, at the end of the day, I get to give the kids back  |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
Negative; in my early 20s being disowned from my entire family & 'friends' group for going against the religion I'd had pushed on me since childhood
Positive; having the most amazing son, who is almost the age I was when the above happened & I feel very proud for giving him a much happier life than I had |
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"I think the first thing I'm conscious of changing my life is the birth of my brother when I was two.
Mines a pain too. But in a very good way. And the nieces and nephews have been a joy so it turns out he wasn’t bad after all
And the beauty is, at the end of the day, I get to give the kids back "
This is what happens when you comment on a forum without reading through fully, tell a silly joke, and then read through some of the posts which just take your breath away.
A great many of you are incredibly strong for having been able to deal with some of those events. And thanks for sharing |
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The decision to go to a house party back in Feb 2004 - Mr KC and I got together and haven't been apart since.
The birth of my son, because I was 16.
The birth of our daughter - bittersweet because I couldn't walk.
The realisation that the walking issue is probably permanent and that I should get used to disability. I'm still processing that over 6yrs later. |
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When my (mr) grandad died and we suffered a misscarridge on the same weekend, bottled up feelings didn't work anymore and it broke me. Led to depression then down the lines anxiety and panic attacks to the point that I couldn't work anymore, quit my job and got help for my mental health.
For the better the day my life changed was when I met Mrs. Not only did I hit the jackpot by hooking up with the exact looking woman I would fantises over but she's also a genuinely amazing and kind human being. |
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When a turkish gentleman messaged me on my first night of joining fab.
I was stunned he was just as good looking on camera as in his photos, he got me an uber to his, we had a chat first before play his big dick shocked me too and we met up again few weeks after where again he got me a cab and money to get the train
I miss him and can't remember his name his number has to be in my old old phone  need a charger for it or that he finds me on fab. I was away for a year unexpectedly so my fingers are crossed
I have a new number so here is where we should reconnect again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s hard to think of just one. I’ve had a difficult couple of years, to the point where last year a friend in work kept saying “I don’t know how you’re still here”
I’m on the other side of it now, but a different person |
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
Kingsbridge |
Thinking back my dad dying when I was 16 had a profound effect on me. My mum didn’t react well and as the oldest of 3 boys I picked up the reins. In hindsight I should have had counselling. My schoolwork really suffered at a crucial time. Have to say I came through it all and have had a fantastic life, still am! Wish my dad had been around a bit longer to see it though…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s hard to think of just one. I’ve had a difficult couple of years, to the point where last year a friend in work kept saying “I don’t know how you’re still here”
I’m on the other side of it now, but a different person"
We most take the piss out of this life and out of others!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a turkish gentleman messaged me on my first night of joining fab.
I was stunned he was just as good looking on camera as in his photos, he got me an uber to his, we had a chat first before play his big dick shocked me too and we met up again few weeks after where again he got me a cab and money to get the train
I miss him and can't remember his name his number has to be in my old old phone need a charger for it or that he finds me on fab. I was away for a year unexpectedly so my fingers are crossed
I have a new number so here is where we should reconnect again "
Dm. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I remember scouring a job board as a student thinking I need to make some money but everything was hourly paid and rubbish when I needed to make 2-3 grand fast I had a kid on the way, 2 mortgages and no income.
Then I spotted this advert for a local car company wanting an application building to manage car sales. I didn’t have a clue how to do it but went to see them and offered to do it and a year later was running my own software company whilst at uni |
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Prob when I was 19 me an older lady got to hers met her husband thought I was going to fuck her infront of him. But I had it all wrong. Next thing I knew I was on my knees with his cock sliding in my mouth |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I remember scouring a job board as a student thinking I need to make some money but everything was hourly paid and rubbish when I needed to make 2-3 grand fast I had a kid on the way, 2 mortgages and no income.
Then I spotted this advert for a local car company wanting an application building to manage car sales. I didn’t have a clue how to do it but went to see them and offered to do it and a year later was running my own software company whilst at uni "
Real Gains fella!! Only some step up, 1/10 on here if lucky lol |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
Actually three major points that changed my life drastically:
- my first son born
- moved to another country, no friends, no relatives, started life from scratch.
- got divorced. Rediscovering my sexuality, learning what freedom means, learning myself new…. Still ongoing |
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