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Why is it impossible

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

to find a regular fwb?

I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "

Ouch.

Mediocrity here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too!

Ouch.

Mediocrity here!"

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs, one of who I met through here a few years back.

It is possible. They are out there. Don't give up hope or settle for less than what makes you happy

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Sorry, I just fell off my chair laughing. I’m pretty sure nobody here is daft enough to fall madly in love with me …

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By *ilkstressWoman over a year ago

Drasnia

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

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By *evonrobMan over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know…..

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

I’m being ghosted even before a meet but I do understand what you mean.

I found it virtually impossible too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough. "

I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya

OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)

You’ve got to get past the fantasists, lookers, chancers, those that are just looking for one offs and then those who don’t meet your requirements. It might take a while but I have no doubt you’ll find someone, someone would be mad not to want to methinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs,"

Now that's just greedy (or showing off!)

I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more.

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By *ilkstressWoman over a year ago

Drasnia

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in "

Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the same for guys I want to find just that one Fwb but it's never easy too find one x

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough. "

Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in

Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach. "

With real butter none of this margarine bollocks, i know how to keep my stalkers happy in their work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next

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By *ilkstressWoman over a year ago

Drasnia

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time?

Hourly rate plus VAT and expenses. And now also crumpets in the morning apparently.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs,

Now that's just greedy (or showing off!)

I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more."

Why is it greedy?

Everyone is on the same page. Everyone has other partners. It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya

OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)

Yeah I thought my profile was pretty clear. It’s soul destroying at times as my inbox is fairly busy but most get deleted without a reply as they don’t match what I want or are offering a quick meet as they’re passing by

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next "

Some people on here have a more cynical outlook then me - I am so shocked I may have to retire to bed.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I found it virtually impossible too."

If only we lived nearer each other, Dee.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know….."

Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time?

Hourly rate plus VAT and expenses. And now also crumpets in the morning apparently. "

Hourly rate plus VAT and expenses sounds reasonable. If you want your crumpets buttered you may as well just stay for tea and not bother fitting in the bushes, it’d hardly seem ‘proper’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it greedy?

... It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself."

How do we know you haven't got them locked up in the shed down the end of your garden?

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By *ilkstressWoman over a year ago

Drasnia

"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know…..

Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck

I have found this to be an issue too. I think a lot of people simply look at your pics and don't bother reading your profile. Just delete them and hang in there.

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya

OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)

This is going to sound stupid, but hey I’m not shy about saying silly things…

‘The best things come along when you aren’t necessarily looking for them’

So don’t be disheartened, you’ve stated what you’re looking for, you never know, someone close by might be reading this now. And if so they’ll definitely be thinking of sending a message

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs,

Now that's just greedy (or showing off!)

I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more.

Why is it greedy?

Everyone is on the same page. Everyone has other partners. It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself."

It’s not, we’re just all rather jealous of them is all

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya

OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)

This is going to sound stupid, but hey I’m not shy about saying silly things…

‘The best things come along when you aren’t necessarily looking for them’

So don’t be disheartened, you’ve stated what you’re looking for, you never know, someone close by might be reading this now. And if so they’ll definitely be thinking of sending a message

Thank you

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By *assyleigh92Couple over a year ago

Coventry

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "

My friend literally said the same the other day.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Why is it greedy?

... It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself.

How do we know you haven't got them locked up in the shed down the end of your garden?

The same way you know I'm not actually a 70 year old obese man here to get off on fantasy.

That is, you don't

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By *.L.0460.Woman over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know…..

Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck

That would imply that you're expecting them to actually read your profile!!

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

"I found it virtually impossible too.

If only we lived nearer each other, Dee."

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya

OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)

This is going to sound stupid, but hey I’m not shy about saying silly things…

‘The best things come along when you aren’t necessarily looking for them’

So don’t be disheartened, you’ve stated what you’re looking for, you never know, someone close by might be reading this now. And if so they’ll definitely be thinking of sending a message

Thank you

My pleasure. Chin up. Keep smiling. At least you’re sexy and don’t have your foot in a walking boot at the moment. You’re way ahead of me

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By *.L.0460.Woman over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"to find a regular fwb?

You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So in my experience chasing that elusive FWB, takes a lot of shifting the sugar from the shit. But the your sugar is out there. Sometimes it's about letting the universe, God, nature, Kismet whatever bring it to you. The more you look the more you won't see

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By *.L.0460.Woman over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"So in my experience chasing that elusive FWB, takes a lot of shifting the sugar from the shit. But the your sugar is out there. Sometimes it's about letting the universe, God, nature, Kismet whatever bring it to you. The more you look the more you won't see "

True

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

Am sorry to hear that. Exactly the same as OP you are stunning, I’d find it crazy that someone local to you isn’t looking at your profile and trying to find the words to make for a great introductory message

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By *.L.0460.Woman over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

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By *r_PinkMan over a year ago

london stratford

Keep on trying. Thats what I am looking for and I still live in hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd love to be in a position to be ghosted after a meet. I'm stuck at 1 every 10 months (and counting). I can't even get a coffee haha

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

"...to find a regular fwb?

I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards... ..."

•

What constitutes "standards" in your book?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!"

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

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By *.L.0460.Woman over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??"

Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious

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By *ldFashionedGentMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

That’s genuinely shocking. Either I’m very reserved or most are shockingly forward then. I like a social to get to know sometime. Never expect a thing but if lucky to get a kiss it’s quite nice walking away and next time and it might go further

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By *ilkstressWoman over a year ago

Drasnia

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards. "

Some blokes just ain't worth any kinda investment in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

Having thought about it and some of the stories I hear from people on here I don’t actually find it all that surprising! It’s a shame as I actually find getting to know a person and hearing all about them a big part of the fun of this site as there’s lots of interesting people here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards. "

Oh wow!! I suppose it saved you a lot of time though to not meet him

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I don’t think anyone should ever lower their standards. Finding a FWB is hard for men as well and a lot of the comments on here work both ways too. I don’t know what the secret formula is but, if someone discovers it, please let me know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're not doing anything wrong, it's just a roll of the dice. It's rare to find someone you connect with on every level and who you want to see on a regular basis. I used to think it didn't exist but I now have someone who ticks all those boxes. Don't seek it, when it's the right person you will know.

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By *haron StonerTV/TS over a year ago

Haywards Heath

It's the way they were brought up with namby parents, lack of guidance and not instilling a sense of responsibility.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"to find a regular fwb?

Are there any commonalities between them all?

Do they tend to ghost after certain conversation topics, activities, sexual acts

Not everyone wants the same thing, but plenty will lie enough to get sex - especially when it comes to either wanting a relationship or not!

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By *ustamanMan over a year ago

weymouth

"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next "

Not all are addicted to the chase, I hate it (probably because I'm crap at it) much prefer familiarity that builds with a long term lover. Allows time to explore properly

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

Stick with the guys who are willing to invest time in building the friendship when you meet before adding the benefits

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

In my experience the biggest issue is that one person is more interested in the F than the B and the other more interested in the B than the F.

Just because two people claim to be genuinely looking for a FWB doesn't mean they will be compatible.

Both parties have to be willing to put as much effort into being friends as they are into having sex and that means being completely open and honest from the start.

Will either have other fuck buddies or FWBs or are you going to be exclusive? No point complaining down the line that you don't like the answers if you haven't asked the questions.

Anything else is doomed to failure.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Lol really all those twists and turns . Not dizzy yet??

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan over a year ago

Bourne lincs

I ve had plenty of couples talk about it on here and looking a pic but that's all seems to be on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

"
.some may have this hidden fantasy. Not all of us.

Iam sure many put in the legwork to,are polite with sensible opening lines of intro.

Yet the numbers are far from weak.

There deff is more gping on beyomd the surface.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"to find a regular fwb?

Single men are often advised to make sure they're profiles are clear and specific about what they seek bothe in the text but also in rhe visuals.

If you're expecting them to be interested then you need to make sure they can make a decision based on what they see, given that men generally are more 'visual' beings than women.

If they have little to no idea what you look like then how are they meant to come to a decision? Expecting them to show potential interest that may vanish the second they see more isn't the best way to boost your chances of success.

So I'll give the same advice I would to any guy looking for the same - make sure any potential contact knows what younlook like. I'm not talking above the neck, but restricting the only visuals available to one specific body part is no different to the approach many men use and then struggle with.

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By *hirdTimesACharmCouple over a year ago

northamptonshire

Calling someone mediocre when you’re mediocre yourself is laughable

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By *ellhungvweMan over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP: having read your profile I think you are very clear about what you want but, for me, having the expectation of meeting every week and possibly more is too much - even for an fwb.

I like regular meets but swinging is an adjunct to my life and that would start to feel like a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in

Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach. "

Find them,feed,them,put them down gentlty,walk away slowly in the sunset.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time?

Hifh level M15. Spy

006.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next "
..yes very common factor, numbers like in sales.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs,

Now that's just greedy (or showing off!)

I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more."
..some greedy! Some insatiable appetite! All good horses for courses.

Like any other field on the intranet, you get all aorts dropping in.

The rotten fruits will drop off in time.

The real will still be here coz their intentions were so from the get go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Greedy is fine in measure.

Many are far from on the same page,thats were it goes wonky!

And that cant be fixed.

I paid my membership in full the other day to support!

To many loose ones bobbing about i think.

" with no real intentions "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next "

I think this is very true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know…..

Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck

Common issue pics collecting and window shop admirers. Tons dont read the profile fully. .

Some stake not for them coz so n so. Yet have nothing on the table for leverage!

So so shallow.

Anybody can hide on the internet.

I post on my status meet me in the flesh. Talk and looks wise i got nothing to hide!

I have found this to be an issue too. I think a lot of people simply look at your pics and don't bother reading your profile. Just delete them and hang in there. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

Of all placss central londoner, cant get some out for coffee,food,laughs.

Oh and deff not been hit with an ugly stick, if i may say so myself!!

There deff is a massive divide and gap, its a crack getting bigger and wider through behaviour issues.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's game playing, but I've found if you show you couldn't care less if you never hear from them again they'll be messaging you all the time! It works 90% of the time.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Not easy but not impossible

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Spot on fabber collegue!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the opposite is true, if you act keen on them they'll back off...weird.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"It's game playing, but I've found if you show you couldn't care less if you never hear from them again they'll be messaging you all the time! It works 90% of the time. "

Isn't that game playing too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!"

True. Iam in london coffee and meets. I dont intend with intentions meet to get noshed off!

Seeking to build connections from that stems many good things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll be your sugar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "

Ego, wishful thinking

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By *heSilverFox1701Man over a year ago

Near Sleaford

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "

In fairness it does happen - has happened to me three times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's extremely difficult, but we just have to keep persevering.

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By *heSilverFox1701Man over a year ago

Near Sleaford

"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next "

Hmm not sure about this - but also wanted to say that’s probably the best profile pic I’ve personally ever seen on Fab if there was an award you’d win it.

Might start a new thread on “classy” profile pics!

Anyway back to the discussion…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...to find a regular fwb?

I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards... ...

•

What constitutes "standards" in your book?"

Similar to Success!

The word standarda is so vast, from the lens of oneself outwards its and Ocean!

Too complex

I keep saying beyond the lòoks of people even on here that we see first on pics and profiles. .

When you get to dig deeper people are complex and buried with layers of assumed assuptions of others and themselves. Ill taught beliefs,takes too much time to break that wall down!

Many come with predjudices. I get it all day long! Heh ho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Try being a single man on here trying to find a fwb then you will know what it’s like lol but I feel your pain

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's game playing, but I've found if you show you couldn't care less if you never hear from them again they'll be messaging you all the time! It works 90% of the time.

Isn't that game playing too?"

Yeah I said it's game playing...?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards.

Some blokes just ain't worth any kinda investment in "

Some people are of not worthy of it!

Men and women numbers are balanceing out now.

Read many of the status's.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t think anyone should ever lower their standards. Finding a FWB is hard for men as well and a lot of the comments on here work both ways too. I don’t know what the secret formula is but, if someone discovers it, please let me know."
ask to meet face to face in public to chat.

If No' theres the dead answer!

But many have many hangups about themselves and project onto others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...to find a regular fwb?

I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards... ...

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What constitutes "standards" in your book?"

Well one example would be that I don’t reply to anyone who just sends a message saying ‘hi’ or has nothing on their profile. If they can’t put effort into their profile it’s not a good sign

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"...to find a regular fwb?

I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards... ...

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What constitutes "standards" in your book?

Well one example would be that I don’t reply to anyone who just sends a message saying ‘hi’ or has nothing on their profile. If they can’t put effort into their profile it’s not a good sign "

Whaaat... They are discounted even if their social skills can't get passed 2 letters?! Harsh....

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By *urious4Woman over a year ago

bristol

Nail on the head

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By *urious4Woman over a year ago

bristol

It’s not you!!!! Most agendas are jump and leave.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If you haven’t realised already, there may be a lot of men on here but not very many are available or decent. You’re just facing what we all face - a quality issue

Goof people are there but take effort to find them and then even more effort to catch them. Happy hunting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not you!!!! Most agendas are jump and leave."
. Intentions all to do with intentions.

On one of my forum posts label,

Just sex, or deeper.

Many ,women,men,couples posted they dont care about feelings and connections ,they only want SEX.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there are guys who just like to have their ego stroked by getting someone interested in them. I'm quite sure there is a guy or guys who you will connect with in the way you want. I'm a bit newer on here but have had similar experiences to you and other posters. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

You mean this isn't true

Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.

I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in

Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach. "
via the mind portal,shareing food builds more connections.

Society is barking up many wrong tree's.

A fine mess you got me into Olly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...to find a regular fwb?

I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards... ...

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What constitutes "standards" in your book?

Totally with you on this.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

So men bad women good?

Of course no woman has ever acted like a crazed stalker falling head over heels?

But it is getting harder to find regular people as stated further up in thread for lot's particularly guy's the thrill is in the chase particularly if it's married women.

The thrill of bedding another man's wife seems to be part of it for many guys so maybe a single woman doesn't hold the same level of excitement??

Plenty of one bang wonder's on here tho regardless of gender.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

‘ I have lowered my standards’

way to go.

Maybe that’s why you can’t get a regular, if you are talking about ppl you have met that way, I can understand why they ghost you after a few meets.

‘There weren’t good enough for my liking but I gave them a try’

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

Have you tried giving up looking online and go to a social/munch or a club event. Anyone can write anything on a profile whereas meeting in person in a safe environment shows real people. Of course nothing is full proof but it's harder to hide who you are in real life....Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you tried giving up looking online and go to a social/munch or a club event. Anyone can write anything on a profile whereas meeting in person in a safe environment shows real people. Of course nothing is full proof but it's harder to hide who you are in real life....Good luck"

I go to social events and clubs, and still find it difficult to find a FWB. Yes I can find people to meet and have fun but to find the ongoing FWB situation is very much a different story.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

I go to social events and clubs, and still find it difficult to find a FWB. Yes I can find people to meet and have fun but to find the ongoing FWB situation is very much a different story."

Completely agree, it's a mine field

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes the words written on profiles or in messages only give you a general idea. There is no substitute for face to face to contact to see if it is someone you can connect with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee

I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!

Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??

I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards. "

Chancers do approach. Decline and move on. .. heh ho. Tireing to say the least.

My search has found far beyond all this!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes the words written on profiles or in messages only give you a general idea. There is no substitute for face to face to contact to see if it is someone you can connect with. "
this is fully where! The tyre is not meeting the road,so to speak.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

The truth is there is no way of knowing anyone's intentions until you get to know them. If you are looking for an ongoing situation then it's a better idea to take your time and look for someone who suits you rather than you trying to fit them. All relationships are a two way street

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In my experience the biggest issue is that one person is more interested in the F than the B and the other more interested in the B than the F.

Just because two people claim to be genuinely looking for a FWB doesn't mean they will be compatible.

Both parties have to be willing to put as much effort into being friends as they are into having sex and that means being completely open and honest from the start.

Will either have other fuck buddies or FWBs or are you going to be exclusive? No point complaining down the line that you don't like the answers if you haven't asked the questions.

Anything else is doomed to failure.

Intentions,honesty,transparencie, ask questions. Many just relie upon attraction,its only surface deep. And some dont work on thier innerself and personalitys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to say OP but you come across as very aloof.

So maybe it’s not them but you that is the issue ?

Alternatively maybe it’s just you picking the wrong guys. I can testify there are many genuine men that are looking for exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Single men are often advised to make sure they're profiles are clear and specific about what they seek bothe in the text but also in rhe visuals.

If you're expecting them to be interested then you need to make sure they can make a decision based on what they see, given that men generally are more 'visual' beings than women.

Nice authentic write up, fellow fabber coleague.

How many will apply this!

Any profile is a petential put out there!

Let the seekers engage. Its murky when body and sex are at risk!!

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By *dventurous biMan over a year ago

tesside

In my experience finding an FWB is usually a matter of serendipity.

It’s likely that the man you are looking for isn’t aware that he’s FWB material, nor that he wants such a relationship. The guys who read your profile will see a chance to get lucky by selling you on the idea of an ‘audition’ shag (or two).

Just roll with the flow and be ready to grab the chance when it arrives.

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By *reasyMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next "

I kind of agree there are a lot that are addicted to the chase, but I also think there are quite a few men and Couples who want to develop a long-term friendship, me I’m not a fan of the fuck and go mentality that leaves me cold. It’s good to have a friend that you share social stuff with friend stuff and sexy stuff with where you’re not interested in playing with hundreds of others you’re quite happy in each other’s company but you don’t want to be committed to that person as you’re both happy as singles but you still respect the other person you don’t treat them badly don’t treat them poorly maybe that’s because I’m an older guy I don’t know, but that’s been my goal for quite a long time and I’ve not made it yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In my experience finding an FWB is usually a matter of serendipity.

Just roll with the flow and be ready to grab the chance when it arrives."

Lifes a journey, live it daily.

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for.

That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

'lowered standards'. Probably the meets can sense this and are put off. I'd want to sense they think I'm the best.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for.

Nicely worded and shareing, fellow fabber.

Put best foot forwards and let the rest flow. Many wish to see of you what they percieve of you.

Nothing will ever been of anything if not attained in the flesh in the present!

The journey of life continies.

Happy fabbing all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sums it up well. There's an element of needing to be proactive and being on here is one approach. But you've still got to put in the hard yards and get a bit of luck to find the type of relationship you want.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.

I had several FWB's during my early years on here. But none were sought out, I didn't advertise that I was looking for one and they all became FWB's naturally following what could potentially have been one off meets. They were people I clicked more with who wanted infrequent repeat meets. Not scheduled. No expectancy of anything further or any additional commitment and either side was free to do whatever they wished with whoever they wanted whenever they chose.

Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.

Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.

If that approach isn't working then why not just see what happens naturally through meets arranged without any mention of becoming FWB's ? "Try before you buy" if you will. It may produce completely different results.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. Lots of hard hard graft!

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Which is why I've never understood the thinking behind those threads that attempt to put people who are looking for a FWB together.

It's impossible to determine compatibility through a forum thread.

It's similar to people telling each other they are amazing or stunningly beautiful based on a couple of 2D pics and a few random words on a forum.

It's never going to work on a shallow foundation.

If both parties aren't prepared to do the groundwork and put the effort in while discussing the journey it's only a matter of time before they are back on the hunt again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.

Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.

Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.

Any angle is appliable.

Yet i sit by real face to face connnectiins and approaches are the real way.

Too many hoops to jump through on the internet.

On the street, they see like/ or not, go ahead or delete the whole thing and move on.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.

Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.

Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.

I've known my FWB more than 3 years but it's only in the last year that we decided to stick a label on it.

There is no timetable or expectation on either side.

We didn't seek it out or actively attempt to create it. It happened organically over time.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Op there are people I meet and don’t want to have sex with. Not because I don't like them or get horny but because I know they aren’t my type for a friend and so it would be a one off to unload and I’d feel crap after not meeting them again and they would feel used and hurt.

I know other guys who do and then say things like that one was a psycho and am not going there again , or she keeps messaging and I dint know what to say.

My advice , if you want a FWB go on 3-4 dates before fucking. Make sure you get the F before giving up the B

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

Because they all* want the benefits without the friendship.

*not all, but close.

I believe it's because they are busy and join websites to find easy sex, for when they are horny.

Anything more takes too much effort for a fuck, for them.

I've got men who message when they find themselves free for a change; and I'm the easiest option.

They don't chat, unless they are horny and want a wank, and send a WhatsApp gif on Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas Day and New Year.

If I feel like sex I'll accept their offer. If I don't, then I'm busy, sorry.

Friendship is too much for some people.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.

Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.

Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.

I've known my FWB more than 3 years but it's only in the last year that we decided to stick a label on it.

There is no timetable or expectation on either side.

We didn't seek it out or actively attempt to create it. It happened organically over time. "

May I ask what kind of things you do away from the bedroom?

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.

Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.

Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.

I've known my FWB more than 3 years but it's only in the last year that we decided to stick a label on it.

There is no timetable or expectation on either side.

We didn't seek it out or actively attempt to create it. It happened organically over time.

May I ask what kind of things you do away from the bedroom?"

We have been camping, kayaking, hillwalking but also go out for a meal every now and again or just meet for a coffee.

We aren't meeting individually or on our couples profile at the moment due to health and other issues which also mean that we have spent very little time in the bedroom in the last 6 months or so but that has no impact on our friendship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because they all* want the benefits without the friendship.

*not all, but close.

I believe it's because they are busy and join websites to find easy sex, for when they are horny.

Anything more takes too much effort for a fuck, for them.

I've got men who message when they find themselves free for a change; and I'm the easiest option.

They don't chat, unless they are horny and want a wank, and send a WhatsApp gif on Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas Day and New Year.

If I feel like sex I'll accept their offer. If I don't, then I'm busy, sorry.

Friendship is too much for some people. "

Connections of the mind,body ,soul plus more for me.

Some are sacred of intimacy,deeper levels etc.

Nobody is bound by anything or anybody. But the walls you build around yourself mentally!"

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man over a year ago

Wirral

"to find a regular fwb?

Such a shame you live so far away

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By *ormorantMan over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’ve found the impossible….

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Because you haven't found the right one yet. I make a good real life friend who I want to have sexual intimacy with, maybe once a year. Everyone else is a social friend/fb. Good friendship is hard to come by and even harder to keep. But it's all worth it. Keep plodding away, you'll get there eventually

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"to find a regular fwb?

I hope you didn’t tell anyone that you had lowered your standards for them

It sounds like you are looking too hard. This could be off putting for many men as they feel they will end up getting tied down and not in a kinky way.

If you are looking for something specific then you need to state that and not deviate from it. You also have to remember that you need to attract that person. Understand what they want and have something to offer in return and not just regular sex.

In terms of percentages on fab you are looking for a minority. This minority also has a choice to make of who they meet. They won’t be the ones with lots a veris and sleeping around.

Just my opinion though.

Beard

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By *ornyTrouble69Woman over a year ago

somewhere

"to find a regular fwb?

If you ever find the answer please let me know x

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By *ed LipstickWoman over a year ago

Fucksville

"to find a regular fwb?

Yes this is exactly what I've found on here, especially the ones that don't mind travelling an hr to meet you x

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By *enrythe8thMan over a year ago

worthing

Hiya to all the sexy hot minxs...

I’ve read all the posts and can’t believe you are not getting devoured with lust and passion!!??

You after a fwb??

Look no further

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

I hope you didn’t tell anyone that you had lowered your standards for them

It sounds like you are looking too hard. This could be off putting for many men as they feel they will end up getting tied down and not in a kinky way.

In terms of percentages on fab you are looking for a minority. This minority also has a choice to make of who they meet. They won’t be the ones with lots a veris and sleeping around.

Just my opinion though.

Beard"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s not some people have multiple fwbs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs "
.

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think both men and women are guilty of enjoying the thrill of the chase too much!

Also I think there are very few men 100% single that can meet regularly.

I’d jump at the chance to to be a fwb for a hot local woman

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs .

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. "

But why with the game playing? It's so... fucking childish and unhealthy.

Look OP, the fact you consider some to be a lowering of your standards? Yeah, even the most horny man can pick up on that. Why would they want to meet someone again when that's the attitude?

I've never found it difficult to find a friend with benefits. Never really looked for one because I don't think it's something that you can plan as such. Things work out, they don't go to plan but if you're open to it, well that's a good place to start. I think too much pressure can be offputting, why not enjoy meeting someone for the adventure it is?

I very much agree with what Lily White posted earlier - you need to alter your profile, how you interact. There's a marked difference/improvement in messages I've had since editing my profile. I think it's because it's a more honest reflection of where I am. What I'm looking for.

I really dislike the idea of game playing. Especially on a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs .

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. "

If I wanted to play games I’d turn on my Xbox

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs .

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. "

I won’t play at all. Ever

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs .

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all.

I won’t play at all. Ever "

Depends what you mean by play? And wont play ever?

Many things mean many things from different view points and angles.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs .

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all.

I won’t play at all. Ever

Depends what you mean by play? And wont play ever?

Many things mean many things from different view points and angles. "

On here. Being messed about. Being played. Playing games. One sniff and I’m gone

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.

Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.

Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.

I've known my FWB more than 3 years but it's only in the last year that we decided to stick a label on it.

There is no timetable or expectation on either side.

We didn't seek it out or actively attempt to create it. It happened organically over time.

May I ask what kind of things you do away from the bedroom?

We have been camping, kayaking, hillwalking but also go out for a meal every now and again or just meet for a coffee.

That sounds lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs .

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all.

I won’t play at all. Ever

Depends what you mean by play? And wont play ever?

Many things mean many things from different view points and angles.

On here. Being messed about. Being played. Playing games. One sniff and I’m gone "

Agreed whole heartdly! Ditto same mindset and sentiments, we share. Maybe we from a whole diff time,and cut off diff cloth?

I still believe its to so withv" Deeper intentions and mimdsets"

They have control and drive over your own actions then free will.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs .

Numbers game. Like sales.

Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all.

I won’t play at all. Ever

Depends what you mean by play? And wont play ever?

Many things mean many things from different view points and angles.

On here. Being messed about. Being played. Playing games. One sniff and I’m gone "

Pmd. Pls read.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So much energies,emotions and forces floating about,colideing,criss crossing eachother.

Hot air. No real actions..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because they all* want the benefits without the friendship.

*not all, but close.

I believe it's because they are busy and join websites to find easy sex, for when they are horny.

Anything more takes too much effort for a fuck, for them.

I've got men who message when they find themselves free for a change; and I'm the easiest option.

They don't chat, unless they are horny and want a wank, and send a WhatsApp gif on Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas Day and New Year.

If I feel like sex I'll accept their offer. If I don't, then I'm busy, sorry.

Friendship is too much for some people. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs "

I do but I didn't meet them on Fab. They were all friends first.

I wouldn't look on Fab.

I always have a first social meet. When they start suggesting sex stuff will happen on the social I don't meet them at all. We are simply not compatible.

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By *oofy321Man over a year ago

moon base zero

"to find a regular fwb?

Lower them standards to the bottom...hi lol x

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By *elvet RopeMan over a year ago

by the big field

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

TBF, I’ve pretty much had that happen 3 times! I know swing world is a bit of a magnet for the crazies and fairly broken, but far too many from both sexes on here seem to forget it’s supposed to be casual, NSA fun round here. No fuss, no drama, no baggage- just shaggage…then head off to your own lives until you want to do it again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs

I do but I didn't meet them on Fab. They were all friends first.

I wouldn't look on Fab.

I always have a first social meet. When they start suggesting sex stuff will happen on the social I don't meet them at all. We are simply not compatible. "

Agreed!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

if only some allowed it to be that simple. And on tap.

It will never be!

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By *uzySuzyCouple over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

Some guys like the thrill of the chase a good man is hard to find

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know…..

Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck

Same here! X

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By *xpert Pleasure providerMan over a year ago

near Edenbridge

I’ve met some great fwb on here. Maybe I’m not normal but I prefer long term fwb - the sex gets better the more times you meet

As a guy it’s really hard to meet a lady who wants a long term fwb. I’m 55 year old white guy so I’m way down the list of men women want.

My advice is to be choosy. Develop a friendship online first then progress to phone fun. Then if the guy after a few weeks is keen to meet then meet up socially first. Build up slowly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve met some great fwb on here. Maybe I’m not normal but I prefer long term fwb - the sex gets better the more times you meet

As a guy it’s really hard to meet a lady who wants a long term fwb. I’m 55 year old white guy so I’m way down the list of men women want.

My advice is to be choosy. Develop a friendship online first then progress to phone fun. Then if the guy after a few weeks is keen to meet then meet up socially first. Build up slowly "

Really! I beg to differ on the white? point.. i knw Blk is vogue atm!

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By *elvet RopeMan over a year ago

by the big field

"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them

if only some allowed it to be that simple. And on tap.

It will never be! "

It can be and it has several times. Usually ends when they end up meeting someone and settling down, but there are some rather lovely ladies out there who play by the rules of engagement and are most excellent company(although it seems to becoming a scarce commodity now

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

"‘ I have lowered my standards’

way to go.

Maybe that’s why you can’t get a regular, if you are talking about ppl you have met that way, I can understand why they ghost you after a few meets.

‘There weren’t good enough for my liking but I gave them a try’

This

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"I’ve met some great fwb on here. Maybe I’m not normal but I prefer long term fwb - the sex gets better the more times you meet

As a guy it’s really hard to meet a lady who wants a long term fwb. I’m 55 year old white guy so I’m way down the list of men women want.

My advice is to be choosy. Develop a friendship online first then progress to phone fun. Then if the guy after a few weeks is keen to meet then meet up socially first. Build up slowly "

I'm a 58 year old white man and in the 6 years I've been here I've never had any issues meeting people and I've found a FWB so it's far from impossible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve met some great fwb on here. Maybe I’m not normal but I prefer long term fwb - the sex gets better the more times you meet

As a guy it’s really hard to meet a lady who wants a long term fwb. I’m 55 year old white guy so I’m way down the list of men women want.

My advice is to be choosy. Develop a friendship online first then progress to phone fun. Then if the guy after a few weeks is keen to meet then meet up socially first. Build up slowly

I'm a 58 year old white man and in the 6 years I've been here I've never had any issues meeting people and I've found a FWB so it's far from impossible. "

Good hope. A nice result!

Enjoy young-man i say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lot of men/women are really horny in the moment so will be really forward with wanting to meet. After the horny comedown they decide they aren't that intersted, maybe they don't want to travel, maybe they're no longer as horny this is especially relevant as man ( If ykyk

) From my perspective if you're an attractive in shape women you should have an abundance of options really, although fab is very location dependent, my area is dead in terms of options.

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By *onnie 90Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"to find a regular fwb?

I've been trying for a while now to find a female FWB (shame you're not bi). No luck at all. You can borrow my boyfriend whenever you need some attention if you like lol.

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By *empest2KMan over a year ago

Derby

"to find a regular fwb?

I'd love to know who these men are that ghost you after one or two meets, OP. I'm lucky to get a message, let alone a meet, but surely it's not difficult for a guy to say ‘sorry, I'm just not feeling a connection’? Or is it???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's also impossible to lick your own elbow.

Just sayin

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By *hagTonightMan over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Patience is the key

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Not being a dick really helps too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not being a dick really helps too.

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dicks are out on profiles!!

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By *YDB75Man over a year ago

East Yorkie

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't think you can plan to meet a fwb. They just happen. You meet someone and you just have a connection. That could be the first person you meet or the 100th

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"to find a regular fwb?

Because you are fucking people who aren't looking for a relationship of any kind.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. You have not done anything wrong x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Because you are fucking people who aren't looking for a relationship of any kind. "

Not evem a hello atimes. Ive heard. Many wont kiss!

But the intercourse leaves many many deeper ,codes behind which have affects longterm.

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By *lutchieMan over a year ago

West Midlands

Fate.

I thought I'd found my ideal fwb completely compatible and not just the sex.

But she was playing around with others which I had no problems with. Untill she found someone who was closer and he didn't want to share.

I understand her decision to try to move that one on as he was more available being in the same village!

Although I still believe if I was closer I could have stood more firm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not impossible, just not an easy thing to find someone you like, that's close enough, that you wanna keep meeting after a few meets, that are available at times that are compatible with you.

There's a lot of moving factors that need to line up for a successful Fwb.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"to find a regular fwb?

Because you are fucking people who aren't looking for a relationship of any kind. "

Bit brutal.. not everyone is like that

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