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To block or not to block after a no show?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show? "
Has it happened to you? It's very disrespectful and rude if someone simply fails to show up without telling you. |
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show? "
Give them a break they were stuck in traffic, he caught his nob in his flies, she couldn't get it out and they ran out of fuel oh and no signal couldn't ring or leave message on the site  |
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"Personally I wouldn't... But with some people on this site, you get blocked if you haven't yet replied to a message... Its no wonder some people are single haha  "
some people are block happy on here, I was blocked once by a woman near me after sending a very nice respectful message asking what she was looking for and if she'd be interested in checking my profile to see if we matched, but no answer no polite refusal just message deleted and blocked. |
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It would depend on the situation. Sometimes its for a genuine unavoidable reason and if that is the case then there's no reason to block them, but if it was just a can't be arsed to show up or at least be honest and message to cancel then they deserve to be blocked. |
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I'd be intrigued as to what reason they gave. And if no reason were given, well then there's no reason to block. They're probably not even going to notice whether or not you block. It's not as if a massive boxing glove springs out the computer and bops them on the nose.
I've never really understood this obsession with blocking. I'd only block if the person was messaging incessantly (which has never happened to me). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show? "
I would hope they would offer a reasonable explanation for their absence.. Possibly timmy fell down the well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show?
I would hope they would offer a reasonable explanation for their absence.. Possibly timmy fell down the well"
Timmy ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show?
I would hope they would offer a reasonable explanation for their absence.. Possibly timmy fell down the well"
Ding dong bell, pussy's in the well.. |
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Funny enough, we are just thinking about this now.
Arranged to meet a guy for a social last Saturday night.
He goes quiet, and I message him, asking if it was still on.
A few hours later, he comes back and apologises that he's short of cash, so can't make it.
We say fine, next Saturday ok?
He says yes as he will have been paid.
Check with him mid week, he says 100% still on.
Here nothing, so early Saturday afternoon, message him to check.
A day later, still no reply... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Funny enough, we are just thinking about this now.
Arranged to meet a guy for a social last Saturday night.
He goes quiet, and I message him, asking if it was still on.
A few hours later, he comes back and apologises that he's short of cash, so can't make it.
We say fine, next Saturday ok?
He says yes as he will have been paid.
Check with him mid week, he says 100% still on.
Here nothing, so early Saturday afternoon, message him to check.
A day later, still no reply..."
Red flags everywhere and warning lights flashing... |
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"Funny enough, we are just thinking about this now.
Arranged to meet a guy for a social last Saturday night.
He goes quiet, and I message him, asking if it was still on.
A few hours later, he comes back and apologises that he's short of cash, so can't make it.
We say fine, next Saturday ok?
He says yes as he will have been paid.
Check with him mid week, he says 100% still on.
Here nothing, so early Saturday afternoon, message him to check.
A day later, still no reply..."
Could he be short of cash, and embarrassed to bring it up again? Not sure how expensive a night it'll be, but you could offer to pay. Or just as likely, he's not worth it. |
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"Personally I wouldn't... But with some people on this site, you get blocked if you haven't yet replied to a message... Its no wonder some people are single haha some people are block happy on here, I was blocked once by a woman near me after sending a very nice respectful message asking what she was looking for and if she'd be interested in checking my profile to see if we matched, but no answer no polite refusal just message deleted and blocked."
You did get a reply though. The blocking told you she wasn’t interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I wouldn't... But with some people on this site, you get blocked if you haven't yet replied to a message... Its no wonder some people are single haha some people are block happy on here, I was blocked once by a woman near me after sending a very nice respectful message asking what she was looking for and if she'd be interested in checking my profile to see if we matched, but no answer no polite refusal just message deleted and blocked."
What's wrong with that, she clearly wasn't interested, no one needs to give a reason or a polite refusal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been late for two different meets over the years, one was cos I could not find a parking space, but she waited twenty minutes for me in the cafe and i was really relieved. The other was just before Christmas and I let her know a work meeting had run late, so I would be 15 minutes late, however traffic was awful so I was 25 minutes late and I got a text saying where was I and she was leaving - I did take a photo to show I had shown up, but I can understand being peed off waiting on a cold winters evening.
I would not block someone without hearing the excuse first, but I would hope that they did get in touch at the time to say they were running late or were not going to show up. |
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I block when there's no further, or any, compatibility. This will include lack of respect for me, which a lack of fulfilling a commitment would encompass, without appropriate communication.
When trust is lost, it's too late |
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It's not an issue I've had since coming back as a single rather than a couple, but then I suppose I do more thorough vetting than the ex.
I remember there was a no show who he didn't block that then tried to organise again two weeks later without ever acknowledging that they'd just ghosted and not turned up. So I blocked them.
If I did have a no show, I'd give them a couple of days to reach out and explain before I'd block them. But sometimes life happens and I have no issue with that. |
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Lots of chat and banter and agreed a meet. Despite person not logging in for four days and not replying to my confirmation msg, I travelled into London and slightly delayed arrived at rendezvous. Messaged selfies to prove I had arrived. Waited an hour and messaged after no show. No reply and they have yet to login after five days.
Waste of time and money.
Will only meet at clubs from now on.
Won’t be reporting the person. Waiting for explanation |
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"Lots of chat and banter and agreed a meet. Despite person not logging in for four days and not replying to my confirmation msg, I travelled into London and slightly delayed arrived at rendezvous. Messaged selfies to prove I had arrived. Waited an hour and messaged after no show. No reply and they have yet to login after five days.
Waste of time and money.
Will only meet at clubs from now on.
Won’t be reporting the person. Waiting for explanation "
No offence but I honestly think you were mad doing that with zero communication for 4 days prior to meeting and no reply to your confirmation message. |
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Get this! Chatting for a few days and arranged to meet her. Drove 40 miles to the address given and messaged when there. She said I wasn’t there so took a picture of the location and sent it. “Sorry I forgot I moved” was the reply and gave me another address the other side of town. I asked if she was sure as I was smelling a rat by this time. All I got was a load of abuse and called a time-waster and then blocked - Priceless! |
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"I'd be intrigued as to what reason they gave. And if no reason were given, well then there's no reason to block. They're probably not even going to notice whether or not you block. It's not as if a massive boxing glove springs out the computer and bops them on the nose.
I've never really understood this obsession with blocking. I'd only block if the person was messaging incessantly (which has never happened to me). "
Why does a little bit of me think your last sentence is a challenge ….. nope I’m not that bored today but perhaps tomorrow  |
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"Get this! Chatting for a few days and arranged to meet her. Drove 40 miles to the address given and messaged when there. She said I wasn’t there so took a picture of the location and sent it. “Sorry I forgot I moved” was the reply and gave me another address the other side of town. I asked if she was sure as I was smelling a rat by this time. All I got was a load of abuse and called a time-waster and then blocked - Priceless!"
He had already finished what he was doing before  |
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I once planned to meet a woman in a local pub for a social, and she didn't show up, but told.me she got there early, saw me, and I wasn't her type so she left. The only issue there is I got there 5 mins late ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think we get enough meets booked in to have no shows but we’d definitely block!
When we first joined we had a couple of no shows and blocked them. Since then we’ve been a bit more selective who we arrange plans with.
We have to arrange a sitter and plan it all so if we get let down that’s our chance gone for the month |
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We’ve never had a no show but it would totally depend on if they let us know ,it would be a bit harsh of us to block someone who gave us a reason for not turning as we know ourselves sometimes stuff happens and it can’t be helped.
If no reason was given then yeah we would definitely block. |
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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Unless they could give a very genuine explanation, I'd be reaching for the block button.
XX This, perhaps it was a genuine reason but if not then hit the block button. I do for a lot less."
Exactly because sometimes things do happen but the minute i smell bs its a block. its just rude to not show if you said you were.
My biggest pet peve is when people say they are on there way and never show |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My biggest pet peve is when people say they are on there way and never show "
I've got an 18yr old car, I broke down years ago on my way but fortunately I had their phone number and they believed me, we had quite a few meets after my car was repaired, I wonder how many people would block me if it happened again ? |
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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago
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My biggest pet peve is when people say they are on there way and never show
I've got an 18yr old car, I broke down years ago on my way but fortunately I had their phone number and they believed me, we had quite a few meets after my car was repaired, I wonder how many people would block me if it happened again ?"
I would have believed you because these thing happen and it’s understandable that you couldn’t make it. Its when you get excuses like my dog is sick or my baby sitter is late then its a issue for me (they are just not really believable as they are way over used) |
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show? "
As long as your speaking to the person and they give a plausible excuse can't see why you would block, feeling sexy is a mood and moods go for whatever reason so it could be that or it could be nerves i had a meet with a woman who suffered terribly with nerves she didn't turn up but kept me informed after the fact but same day and when she eventually did turn up we got on great |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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My biggest pet peve is when people say they are on there way and never show
I've got an 18yr old car, I broke down years ago on my way but fortunately I had their phone number and they believed me, we had quite a few meets after my car was repaired, I wonder how many people would block me if it happened again ?"
I'm curious about which car you have now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My biggest pet peve is when people say they are on there way and never show
I've got an 18yr old car, I broke down years ago on my way but fortunately I had their phone number and they believed me, we had quite a few meets after my car was repaired, I wonder how many people would block me if it happened again ? I'm curious about which car you have now."
Same one  |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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My biggest pet peve is when people say they are on there way and never show
I've got an 18yr old car, I broke down years ago on my way but fortunately I had their phone number and they believed me, we had quite a few meets after my car was repaired, I wonder how many people would block me if it happened again ? I'm curious about which car you have now.
Same one "
Classic  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show?
Has it happened to you? It's very disrespectful and rude if someone simply fails to show up without telling you."
Had it done 4 times on the trot. Not the same person each time i might add. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My biggest pet peve is when people say they are on there way and never show
I've got an 18yr old car, I broke down years ago on my way but fortunately I had their phone number and they believed me, we had quite a few meets after my car was repaired, I wonder how many people would block me if it happened again ? I'm curious about which car you have now.
Same one Classic "
Wish it was a classic but it's just my car, and tbh I'm thinking that may of been the only time that it broke down, bloody egr valve.
You wait it'll break down tomorrow on the way to work  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’d listen to the explanation (if one was forthcoming) and depending on whether it sounded genuine or not, I’d take it from there.
No explanation or any contact? Then yes, I’d not bother again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would block, the time and effort required to line all our ducks up to get free time alone, that's before the cost of travel/hotels and the such. It may sound entitled but plenty of others that will prove more reliable. |
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
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I will always block a no show if I don't get an apology and a honest reason.
I go to the trouble of showering fresh getting clean inside and out, not eating anything for a good four or five hours before the time, so my little blue helper works as it should, lay out towels and make sure the bedroom is warm, clean tidy and smelling nice and dress in a way which the guy may like. So I take a very dim view of no shows. Also my heart goes out to T gurls and C D 's who must go through a much longer "getting ready" to rock time what with make up and all, only to be left hanging by no shows. It's rude ignorant and extremely bad manners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m curious… do y’all block after a no show? "
We'd find out if everything was OK first. And if they didn't have a genuine reason then it would be a block from us
Mrs |
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