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Is chatting cheating ?
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I think it depends.
Just general chatting isn't cheating in my opinion but I'd wonder why a partner didn't know. If the chat then moves on to asking advice about your relationship or onto sexual exchanges I'd consider that cheating |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it depends.
Just general chatting isn't cheating in my opinion but I'd wonder why a partner didn't know. If the chat then moves on to asking advice about your relationship or onto sexual exchanges I'd consider that cheating "
Why would you consider asking about your relationship cheating |
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"I think it depends.
Just general chatting isn't cheating in my opinion but I'd wonder why a partner didn't know. If the chat then moves on to asking advice about your relationship or onto sexual exchanges I'd consider that cheating
Why would you consider asking about your relationship cheating"
Emotional infidelity. If a person can't/won't talk to their partner about issues but chooses to discuss them with other people it's cheating in my view. A possibly different matter is if they've tried talking and want advice on a different approach maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it’s not until boundary’s are crossed by one or both.
I state that I’m happy to chat on here but I’m not looking for men at the moment.
Very often I’m contacted via the forums but unfortunately it’s not long before they’re trying to take the chat to a sexual level and the parting shot is I shouldn’t be on here if I’m not going to “put out”  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it depends.
Just general chatting isn't cheating in my opinion but I'd wonder why a partner didn't know. If the chat then moves on to asking advice about your relationship or onto sexual exchanges I'd consider that cheating
Why would you consider asking about your relationship cheating
Emotional infidelity. If a person can't/won't talk to their partner about issues but chooses to discuss them with other people it's cheating in my view. A possibly different matter is if they've tried talking and want advice on a different approach maybe."
This makes sense and I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean, having an account, is deceiving them in some way...I mean, its not being open and honest with them..why would they then believe its only chatting? What's the intention behind it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I mean, having an account, is deceiving them in some way...I mean, its not being open and honest with them..why would they then believe its only chatting? What's the intention behind it?"
Agreed, perhaps the intention is to just be social without going out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I mean, having an account, is deceiving them in some way...I mean, its not being open and honest with them..why would they then believe its only chatting? What's the intention behind it?
Agreed, perhaps the intention is to just be social without going out"
Maybe so, but I'd be wondering why they chose this flatform than any of the others where sex isn't on the agenda...like football or origami |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I mean, having an account, is deceiving them in some way...I mean, its not being open and honest with them..why would they then believe its only chatting? What's the intention behind it?
Agreed, perhaps the intention is to just be social without going out
Maybe so, but I'd be wondering why they chose this flatform than any of the others where sex isn't on the agenda...like football or origami "
Very good point perhaps it’s due to personal desires that they are afraid of talking about ? |
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So being on here full stop would be pretty hard to explain as not at least considering cheating if one partner is unaware. Supposing someone was just on here to find some information about swinging before suggesting it their partner, that's a plausible possibility. If the hypothetical partner found out, looked at the account on here and saw the settings were set to no messaging, no fabs had been sent and that the forum posts were finding things out then I wouldn't class that as cheating. But if the intent to meet is there then yes I think it's cheating. My opinion only, yours may be different.
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I believe in true freedom, but also true honesty. Have to be allowed to see all you want to see in this life as its to short to waste on denial. But, don't steal someone's life by deceiving them, tell them what you are interested in and why. Never know, you might get a nice surprise! Never forget that people can very open minded when they can see you are honest and open. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I believe in true freedom, but also true honesty. Have to be allowed to see all you want to see in this life as its to short to waste on denial. But, don't steal someone's life by deceiving them, tell them what you are interested in and why. Never know, you might get a nice surprise! Never forget that people can very open minded when they can see you are honest and open. X"
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if you were just wanting to chat, then you wouldn't be joining a swingers site full of the nakedness.
Nothing wrong with nakedness lol"
Hugely disagree. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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If you would tell your partner about the chat and allow them to read all of it, not cheating.
If you hide any of it, cheating. It's all about honesty or otherwise.
Gbat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think if you were just wanting to chat, then you wouldn't be joining a swingers site full of the nakedness.
Nothing wrong with nakedness lol
Hugely disagree."
If your ashamed of nakedness is this the right place for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think if you were just wanting to chat, then you wouldn't be joining a swingers site full of the nakedness.
Nothing wrong with nakedness lol
Hugely disagree.
If your ashamed of nakedness is this the right place for you "
If it's alright with you I'll decide that thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think if you were just wanting to chat, then you wouldn't be joining a swingers site full of the nakedness.
Nothing wrong with nakedness lol
Hugely disagree.
If your ashamed of nakedness is this the right place for you
If it's alright with you I'll decide that thanks. "
Of course didn’t mean to insult anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs "
Pretty much this.
Or you can do what my ex did and just say he hid it because he thought I'd get upset, bloody women eh. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs
Pretty much this.
Or you can do what my ex did and just say he hid it because he thought I'd get upset, bloody women eh."
But was he cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs
Pretty much this.
Or you can do what my ex did and just say he hid it because he thought I'd get upset, bloody women eh."
He was right though....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you get dumped you'll find the answer
? Who get dumped I’m single and have been for a while lol
Intrigued as to why you started the thread OP?"
Tbh it was just out of curiosity it didn’t even really have to relate to forums more so just chatting in general to people the other person does t know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs
Pretty much this.
Or you can do what my ex did and just say he hid it because he thought I'd get upset, bloody women eh.
He was right though.... "
I thought this lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs
Pretty much this.
Or you can do what my ex did and just say he hid it because he thought I'd get upset, bloody women eh.
He was right though.... "
I can't argue with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs
Pretty much this.
Or you can do what my ex did and just say he hid it because he thought I'd get upset, bloody women eh.
He was right though....
I thought this lol"
And this is why we're single.... |
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"If you get dumped you'll find the answer
? Who get dumped I’m single and have been for a while lol
Intrigued as to why you started the thread OP?
Tbh it was just out of curiosity it didn’t even really have to relate to forums more so just chatting in general to people the other person does t know "
Chatting on the forums of a swingers site is very different to just general chatting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs
Pretty much this.
Or you can do what my ex did and just say he hid it because he thought I'd get upset, bloody women eh.
He was right though....
I thought this lol
And this is why we're single...."
Exactly we’re single |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you would tell your partner about the chat and allow them to read all of it, not cheating.
If you hide any of it, cheating. It's all about honesty or otherwise.
Gbat "
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"I mean if someone was just on here chatting in the forums would you consider that cheating ?"
why do you ask, are you married? Then yes if you've been here a while contemplating cheating but if you've never considered cheating, no.
A good example would be Tess Daleys husband Vernon Kaye texting women he never met any but she viewed it as him cheating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be chatting in the forums you would need to be a member, which would raise questions right away.
Other than that, just forum chatting is fine I reckon. |
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"perhaps it’s due to personal desires that they are afraid of talking about ? "
If this is the case in any relationship you have problems.
My OH knows I am here, she's even done me a veri (admittedly from when we were not so serious) and she's on here too and we discuss everything, no secrets, total honesty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i don't think chatting or flirting on forums is cheating at all.
arranging to / meeting people is a different story. Px  "
Exactly. No-one here is offering me a shag, we chat about non-sexual stuff, mostly. |
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If what you're doing is going to hurt someone who loves you it might not be cheating but it's not a good thing to be doing.
If you're (generic you) asking if it's cheating to try and justify continuing doing the hurtful thing, either to yourself or the hurt person, that's not a good thing to be doing either. |
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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs "
This...
If you know you are not supposed to be doing it. Its cheating. It's a simple question to ask yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I found out the hard way which is what ended my last relationship.
It was on Twitter not here though.
Its a form of "Micro Cheating" I think."
What were you doing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you get dumped you'll find the answer
? Who get dumped I’m single and have been for a while lol"
So why the question, who's it about because you have seem vague about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you get dumped you'll find the answer
? Who get dumped I’m single and have been for a while lol
So why the question, who's it about because you have seem vague about it "
It was just in case |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you get dumped you'll find the answer
? Who get dumped I’m single and have been for a while lol
So why the question, who's it about because you have seem vague about it
It was just in case"
Just in case what ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it depends.
Just general chatting isn't cheating in my opinion but I'd wonder why a partner didn't know. If the chat then moves on to asking advice about your relationship or onto sexual exchanges I'd consider that cheating
Why would you consider asking about your relationship cheating"
I would consider it being disrespectful definatly . Talking to strangers on here about your relationship ain't good |
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As a general rule, if you feel the need to hide it from your partner, it's cheating.
Obviously less applicable to things like unfortunate intestinal distress. But if you make choices that you think would upset them, and then hide those choices from them, then that's cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anything you do you have to lie about, hide or do behind someone's back is cheating in my opinion.
Mrs
Exactly this  "
So booking her a surprise holiday or gift is cheating? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When Doughnut and I got together (we met on here) we decided to take a break while we got to know each other etc and then I found some messages and videos be had been sending, did I class it as cheating? Nope, it was just talking and stuff. If however he moved it further to meeting behind my back, then that is a whole different level.
I was more pissed off be didn't come to me and include me lol |
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