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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who consistently recycle the same conversation whilst simultaneously kicking the meeting can further and further down the road.
They’re worse than the ones who don’t make any effort whatsoever |
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TMN...
To me it means I go in the kitchen and brew up. Sit at the comp ... check e mail and say ...... DO NOT GO INTO FA...... NO DON'T JUST DON'T YOU DON'T LIKE IT.... JUST ...........
Then I do ...... and two hours later I go FUCK .... i've done fuck all! |
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
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Chatting away and thinking you’ve made a connection only to get ghosted the next day. There is a lot of opportunity on here and I think it leads to a flitting mentality in some - probably a common criticism of any dating site. Remember everyone, the best is the enemy of the good! And I’m not good….. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it is simply someone who has no intention of meeting
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Ms. S - is that akin to "Breadcrumbing"? A term that still befuddles me."
It’s means stringing someone along. Just enough attention to keep them interested over a period of time. Like a trail of breadcrumbs. Hence breadcrumbing. |
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"People who don't turn up. It means we wasted time that could have been spent more profitably elsewhere.
I am an expert in wasting my own time thought  "
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Don't you get me started! I've had to rebook the Churchill Suite umpteen times with your endless dithering.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I rarely talk to people anymore, as you get a few messages in and if you don't wanna meet you're a time waster.
To me a time waster is someone who you make plans with and they don't let you know they aren't able to make it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x
I haven't got time for this.
Off you fuck, then. "
-Think this was said in jest - a pun on 'timewaster'  ! |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
MOROCCO Wherever I lay my hat |
"For me it is simply someone who has no intention of meeting
What about if they state that up front? "
Depends. Ofc things happen in life but messaging, arranging a meet, cancelling, apologising, rearranging, cancelling etc. can become a pattern. For that reason second chances with me are rare, third chances are non existent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x
I haven't got time for this.
Off you fuck, then.
-Think this was said in jest - a pun on 'timewaster' !"
Exactly, DD. There was no need for that response. |
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x
I haven't got time for this.
Off you fuck, then.
-Think this was said in jest - a pun on 'timewaster' !"
No, Pete knows how I feel about him. He's not welcome. |
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"For me it is simply someone who has no intention of meeting
What about if they state that up front?
Depends. Ofc things happen in life but messaging, arranging a meet, cancelling, apologising, rearranging, cancelling etc. can become a pattern. For that reason second chances with me are rare, third chances are non existent."
See, I'm giggling because this is me I really want to meet but life gets in the way! I take your point, though. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x
I haven't got time for this.
Off you fuck, then.
-Think this was said in jest - a pun on 'timewaster' !
No, Pete knows how I feel about him. He's not welcome. "
For the last time, Fat Les IS a Christmas song. |
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x
I haven't got time for this.
Off you fuck, then.
-Think this was said in jest - a pun on 'timewaster' !
No, Pete knows how I feel about him. He's not welcome.
For the last time, Fat Les IS a Christmas song."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x
I haven't got time for this.
Off you fuck, then.
-Think this was said in jest - a pun on 'timewaster' !
No, Pete knows how I feel about him. He's not welcome.
For the last time, Fat Les IS a Christmas song.
I ADMIT IT"
Finally. |
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"People who don’t show up to socials / meets and give no notice or valid reasons.
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I'd meet you in  beat. X
God bless you Nero! "
I’ll come to this meet. It looks like a buy one get one free meet lol. |
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Someone who strings me along in deception, the worst one was spread over a year. It took him that long, to admit he had no intentions of meeting me.
The thing that really pissed me off, was that I'd declined making connections with others, because my time was spent on him 
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"People who don't turn up for socials or meets. "
This.....but only if you've done all your due diligence in advance and actually done more than messaged online.
If you've not gone the extra mile and talked on the phone, had a video chat or used your common sense to work out if they're a real person (e.g. verified by people you know or other 'reputable' sources), then you're as guilty of wasting your own time as they are.
Some people set themselves up to fail.
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I’ve never been stood up yet but I’d class that as time wasting. Also someone who you chat to for a while and something just clicks in you telling you this person has no intention of ever meeting. Been caught out with that a few times. I’m a lot more careful these days |
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x"
I expect it and am pleasantly surprised when a date materialises......
Expect the worst and be surprised at the outcome  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who don’t show up to socials / meets and give no notice or valid reasons.
That's 85% ot the ladies on here unfortunately "
95% round these 'ere parts. |
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"For me it is simply someone who has no intention of meeting
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Ms. S - is that akin to "Breadcrumbing"? A term that still befuddles me.
It’s means stringing someone along. Just enough attention to keep them interested over a period of time. Like a trail of breadcrumbs. Hence breadcrumbing. "
I'm more likely to follow a trail of chocolate bars... I suspect though that "chocolate barring" might be a very different sort of thing... |
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"For me it is simply someone who has no intention of meeting
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Ms. S - is that akin to "Breadcrumbing"? A term that still befuddles me.
It’s means stringing someone along. Just enough attention to keep them interested over a period of time. Like a trail of breadcrumbs. Hence breadcrumbing.
I'm more likely to follow a trail of chocolate bars... I suspect though that "chocolate barring" might be a very different sort of thing..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Timewasters ??? This Jungle is full of them , wine drinking couch surfers who just want compliments and never have any intention of ever meeting from the get go, the sad part is that you have to go through the hoops before it dawn's on you but you realise from the signs the next time so you don't waste any more time on them , once you realize that you block and have nothing more to do with them . |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Example..
Well verified attractive couple contacted us on a Thursday, looking to meet on the Saturday. Communication flowed well and
we were very excited.
Mr was working till 9 ish, but negotiated and earlier leave at the cost of an extra full day's work..
I had hair, nails and wax done and arranged child care for the evening and overnight (in case..)
Everything sorted Friday and Saturday morning, place, time etc..
Then ghosted from 1pm till 10.45 when we get a "very sorry he couldn't get away from work"
   WTAF!!
Ironically they messaged again 6 months later and winked us..
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Anyone who messages me and chats, who is keeping something important from me that means we won't meet, are wasting my time.
If they want attention or something to wank over there's a plethora of stuff on here and elsewhere they can use.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Timewasters ??? This Jungle is full of them , wine drinking couch surfers who just want compliments and never have any intention of ever meeting from the get go, the sad part is that you have to go through the hoops before it dawn's on you but you realise from the signs the next time so you don't waste any more time on them , once you realize that you block and have nothing more to do with them ."
The trick is to not jump through the first hoop.
They realise they won't get anything from you and back off.
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People who will waste your time by sweet talking and setting up a meet.. only to not show up. Radio silence, no replies. Even if they’re well verified and seem ‘genuine.’
I’m sure a lot of other TV/TS have the same experience? As many guys get cold feet and are too nervous (usually if they are first timers) maybe because being with us might be seen as ‘taboo’. That’s why I only meet guys who are confident in their TS attraction.
I always report to admin and block their ass  Try me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think for some they love the chase and getting other people interested in them almost as an ego boost. And they shrink away when they've had that fix and move on to the next chase. |
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"People who don't turn up for socials or meets.
This.....but only if you've done all your due diligence in advance and actually done more than messaged online.
If you've not gone the extra mile and talked on the phone, had a video chat or used your common sense to work out if they're a real person (e.g. verified by people you know or other 'reputable' sources), then you're as guilty of wasting your own time as they are.
Some people set themselves up to fail.
A"
This is so not true. I've had people I've met for socials, not turn up for meets. That's definitely not my fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No shows are an obvious one.
We have interacted with guys that were falling over themselves to show how keen they were to meet us. They then want lots of details or pics. Never have any intention of meeting. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
People can only waste my time if I allow them to.
I'm not doing new meets at the moment and I've guys still messaging me asking to meet or to chat. I don't do chats as it tends to lead to expectations of me meeting them even when I've been clear from the very start that I'm not interested in meeting them. The only time they waste is their own if they ignore what I say and what's my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Time is actually tickimg away!!
People will only do to you,what you allow them to do!!
Time and air is more valueable than most know of it. Yet its the most wasted!
Why?? |
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I left a while ago because I was getting so many time wasters I was lucky if 1 in 10 would turn up.
I'm reasonably thick skinned but after awhile does gets to you. I have guys that have confirmed they are coming, but still don't turn up. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Our personal definition is not turning up to an arranged meet.
A no on Fab, or not being able to arrange a meet no matter how hard we try is not in our books a timewaster as I would have been on Fab anyway so its not as if I had plans to do anything else at that time. |
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I only consider my time wasted if I've arranged a social/meet and they don't turn up, as I've obviously put time and effort into getting ready then travelling to the meeting point.
Happened to me on Wednesday, got to the venue and messaged him to say I'd arrived, which he instantly read. I'd popped onto the site and discovered that he'd blocked me and deleted the photos he'd sent, as well as the photo on his WhatsApp- too late though as I'd already screengrabbed his pic beforehand
He'd also blocked me on WhatsApp, saved me the hassle. Reported and blocked everywhere, obviously. Just glad I hadn't travelled far and wasted petrol, times are hard after all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only consider my time wasted if I've arranged a social/meet and they don't turn up, as I've obviously put time and effort into getting ready then travelling to the meeting point.
Happened to me on Wednesday, got to the venue and messaged him to say I'd arrived, which he instantly read. I'd popped onto the site and discovered that he'd blocked me and deleted the photos he'd sent, as well as the photo on his WhatsApp- too late though as I'd already screengrabbed his pic beforehand
He'd also blocked me on WhatsApp, saved me the hassle. Reported and blocked everywhere, obviously. Just glad I hadn't travelled far and wasted petrol, times are hard after all "
Sorry to hear all that!
Sad people out there.
Onwards and upwards i say, chin up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why I rarely talk to people anymore, as you get a few messages in and if you don't wanna meet you're a time waster.
To me a time waster is someone who you make plans with and they don't let you know they aren't able to make it.
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"I only consider my time wasted if I've arranged a social/meet and they don't turn up, as I've obviously put time and effort into getting ready then travelling to the meeting point.
Happened to me on Wednesday, got to the venue and messaged him to say I'd arrived, which he instantly read. I'd popped onto the site and discovered that he'd blocked me and deleted the photos he'd sent, as well as the photo on his WhatsApp- too late though as I'd already screengrabbed his pic beforehand
He'd also blocked me on WhatsApp, saved me the hassle. Reported and blocked everywhere, obviously. Just glad I hadn't travelled far and wasted petrol, times are hard after all
Sorry to hear all that!
Sad people out there.
Onwards and upwards i say, chin up.
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And he's the reason I've raised my minimum age back to 30, tired of silly little boys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Example..
Well verified attractive couple contacted us on a Thursday, looking to meet on the Saturday. Communication flowed well and
we were very excited.
Mr was working till 9 ish, but negotiated and earlier leave at the cost of an extra full day's work..
I had hair, nails and wax done and arranged child care for the evening and overnight (in case..)
Everything sorted Friday and Saturday morning, place, time etc..
Then ghosted from 1pm till 10.45 when we get a "very sorry he couldn't get away from work"
WTAF!!
Ironically they messaged again 6 months later and winked us..
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What can you say ..a perfect example of Timewasters and a lot more besides, Imagine going through all that and then that happens..oh boy.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only consider my time wasted if I've arranged a social/meet and they don't turn up, as I've obviously put time and effort into getting ready then travelling to the meeting point.
Happened to me on Wednesday, got to the venue and messaged him to say I'd arrived, which he instantly read. I'd popped onto the site and discovered that he'd blocked me and deleted the photos he'd sent, as well as the photo on his WhatsApp- too late though as I'd already screengrabbed his pic beforehand
He'd also blocked me on WhatsApp, saved me the hassle. Reported and blocked everywhere, obviously. Just glad I hadn't travelled far and wasted petrol, times are hard after all "
What about the time spent talking or chatting ?..A minute spent in a Timewasters company is a minute too much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apparently saying no to someone is being a timewasters ? "
No , I don't think it is , if you say no you're just not interested, l don't think anyone is a Timewaster for being straight up,I've already stated what l think a Timewaster is and I think they are people best avoided at all times , if a person doesn't want to meet within a week or hasn't brought meeting up during the week chatting then they have no intention of meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I said no and hadn’t made any reference to meeting and was immediately told I was a time waster "
Some people struggle with the meaning of the word no sadly. It's a reflection on them not on you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Spending money on hotel meets hours away just to get ghosted at the last minute."
Haha. Been there. I just went anyway, and it was the best nights sleep I’d had for a while. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Spending money on hotel meets hours away just to get ghosted at the last minute.
Haha. Been there. I just went anyway, and it was the best nights sleep I’d had for a while. "
Premier Inn beds are nice ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Spending money on hotel meets hours away just to get ghosted at the last minute.
Haha. Been there. I just went anyway, and it was the best nights sleep I’d had for a while.
Premier Inn beds are nice ! "
^this was my online review |
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"I only consider my time wasted if I've arranged a social/meet and they don't turn up, as I've obviously put time and effort into getting ready then travelling to the meeting point.
Happened to me on Wednesday, got to the venue and messaged him to say I'd arrived, which he instantly read. I'd popped onto the site and discovered that he'd blocked me and deleted the photos he'd sent, as well as the photo on his WhatsApp- too late though as I'd already screengrabbed his pic beforehand
He'd also blocked me on WhatsApp, saved me the hassle. Reported and blocked everywhere, obviously. Just glad I hadn't travelled far and wasted petrol, times are hard after all
What about the time spent talking or chatting ?..A minute spent in a Timewasters company is a minute too much. "
I would have been online chatting to people anyway, so in that respect I don't see time being wasted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate timewasters ....giving all the shpiel in chat , talking it up then not having the noodles to back it up . Taking the chances of us genuine lads away .
Don't tar me with that brush pleeeeese |
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"Someone who strings me along in deception, the worst one was spread over a year. It took him that long, to admit he had no intentions of meeting me.
The thing that really pissed me off, was that I'd declined making connections with others, because my time was spent on him
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You spent a year on building up hopes through online chat? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apparently saying no to someone is being a timewasters ? "
Makes me laugh so much when they say this!!
Their 1st message: fuck?
My reply: No
Them: timewaster!
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"Spending money on hotel meets hours away just to get ghosted at the last minute.
Haha. Been there. I just went anyway, and it was the best nights sleep I’d had for a while. "
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I think this is utterly brilliant: a reversal of misfortune turned into a positive. Well done Woody!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it is simply someone who has no intention of meeting
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Ms. S - is that akin to "Breadcrumbing"? A term that still befuddles me.
It’s means stringing someone along. Just enough attention to keep them interested over a period of time. Like a trail of breadcrumbs. Hence breadcrumbing. "
Every day is a school day on Fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone who you chat to for ages,get to the point of arranging a meet they disappear shows up several weeks later then starts the same crap again "
yep i ignore now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone who you chat to for ages,get to the point of arranging a meet they disappear shows up several weeks later then starts the same crap again yep i ignore now "
Tell em take a jump!
Then go and double up your meets lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who don't turn up. It means we wasted time that could have been spent more profitably elsewhere.
I am an expert in wasting my own time thought "
agreed! Even own time wasted. I kick my own olive skinned ass lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it is men pretending to be a woman or couple. Using up good chat time as they hunt wank material. "
fully loaded and correct!
Had a dead fool from blackburn do that for a whole week. I demanded he get his wife to call my mobile! Lol
Hes hid under the bed since!
Mouse! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x"
To me ? It means people should stop whinging about it.
It’s the nature of the game. It’s going to happen and keep happening regardless of how many threads are started about it in here.
It happened before we got into the lifestyle and it will be happening long after we’re gone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being strung along with false promises when they never intend to follow through with any of the talk.
Happens in real life too. "
Flakes. Weed them out!
Many have choices, waiting for the next helicopter to land. Most are hovering like flys to land on a turd!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a shame they you can’t rate people for more than just meets, like comms and ghosting !"
Fully agree! Deff have something to hide!'
You both say it openly in your profile. Send pics or show them!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a common complaint round here, but what does it mean to you?
Mrs TMN x
To me ? It means people should stop whinging about it.
It’s the nature of the game. It’s going to happen and keep happening regardless of how many threads are started about it in here.
It happened before we got into the lifestyle and it will be happening long after we’re gone. "
Best read so far!' Put up,or get out lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone who arranges to meet you but then doesn't show up without letting you know that they aren't going to make it. Thankfully it hasn't happened to me. |
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