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By *olf and Red OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston |
If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
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Wouldn't make any difference, just that more people know my sexual preferences, I suppose because I'm quite vanilla it's not really different than most of society. My main eyebrow raiser would be because I like to "borrow" husband's for a night  |
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red "
I like you have been outed at the time it was quite upsetting as I'd kept it to myself.
Now I'm of the opinion that if you don't like it and judge me for it.. then it's not my problem x |
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Wouldn’t make any difference to me - I’m single and my close friends know already.
Don’t think my tiny family would care!
Mortified for you, though, OP. Can you share any details? It doesn’t matter how aggrieved you feel about the conduct of another person/couple, no one on Fab should be held to random in this manner. It’s disgraceful, vengeful human behaviour.
Have you reported them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well my daughter knows I'm on here. Beyond that I'm single, and if someone actually cares enough about my sex life, I'm not mentioning my job. Nor my personal life at all... Also curious to how they outed you OP? |
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Wouldn't make any difference I don't think, a few close friends know and a family member, the only reason we're not completely open is we have kids at an age they can't understand along with other parents opinions at the school gates, I'd rather our kids be unaffected by our lifestyle choices.
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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Not sure work would be overjoyed about my lifestyle choice if it was completely 'outed' but it's my personal life to live... you only get one life (blah, blah, blah)
...Those closest to me know and then seem to live vicariously through me, so thats entertaining on both sides, or they are in the lifestyle too... |
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I outed myself once.
I took a photo of my screen to show my daughter something and about two years later she said to me ' Once when you sent me a screen shot there was a Fab Swingers tab on it' ...... 
Luckily she was about 35/36 at the time and confessed to shutting down her account pronto. |
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red "
none people I'm close to know my enjoyments in life  |
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red "
Yes it does. I wouldn't want to be 'outed' as such.
It's not that i'm ashamed but I should be the one to decide who and when I tell others about my sex life.
It would be very unpleasant to be talking away to friends about different things and then find out that they knew about my sex life. I don't ask about theirs. I don't get why 'outers' think that the sex life of others is for them to reveal. Maybe they are in a prolonged period of celibacy. |
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red
Yes it does. I wouldn't want to be 'outed' as such.
It's not that i'm ashamed but I should be the one to decide who and when I tell others about my sex life.
It would be very unpleasant to be talking away to friends about different things and then find out that they knew about my sex life. I don't ask about theirs. I don't get why 'outers' think that the sex life of others is for them to reveal. Maybe they are in a prolonged period of celibacy."
You're well respected in the swinging community granny, your secret is safe with us  |
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red
Yes it does. I wouldn't want to be 'outed' as such.
It's not that i'm ashamed but I should be the one to decide who and when I tell others about my sex life.
It would be very unpleasant to be talking away to friends about different things and then find out that they knew about my sex life. I don't ask about theirs. I don't get why 'outers' think that the sex life of others is for them to reveal. Maybe they are in a prolonged period of celibacy.You're well respected in the swinging community granny, your secret is safe with us "
I haven't got any secrets. Make one up for me.. but not the one about me being rimmed by a rugby player behind greggs. |
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red
Yes it does. I wouldn't want to be 'outed' as such.
It's not that i'm ashamed but I should be the one to decide who and when I tell others about my sex life.
It would be very unpleasant to be talking away to friends about different things and then find out that they knew about my sex life. I don't ask about theirs. I don't get why 'outers' think that the sex life of others is for them to reveal. Maybe they are in a prolonged period of celibacy.You're well respected in the swinging community granny, your secret is safe with us
I haven't got any secrets. Make one up for me.. but not the one about me being rimmed by a rugby player behind greggs."
Oh, come on Granny, you know you’ve had a secret crush on me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A friend of a guy I met who I wasn't interested in meeting told one of my neighbours. I now only get icy stares from the immediate neighbourhood. It saves on Christmas cards.
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red
Yes it does. I wouldn't want to be 'outed' as such.
It's not that i'm ashamed but I should be the one to decide who and when I tell others about my sex life.
It would be very unpleasant to be talking away to friends about different things and then find out that they knew about my sex life. I don't ask about theirs. I don't get why 'outers' think that the sex life of others is for them to reveal. Maybe they are in a prolonged period of celibacy.You're well respected in the swinging community granny, your secret is safe with us
I haven't got any secrets. Make one up for me.. but not the one about me being rimmed by a rugby player behind greggs."
lol omg not your best friends husbands son |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red
Yes it does. I wouldn't want to be 'outed' as such.
It's not that i'm ashamed but I should be the one to decide who and when I tell others about my sex life.
It would be very unpleasant to be talking away to friends about different things and then find out that they knew about my sex life. I don't ask about theirs. I don't get why 'outers' think that the sex life of others is for them to reveal. Maybe they are in a prolonged period of celibacy."
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I think any one who outs anyone else on here are vile and disgusting individuals and I don't care what their excuses for doing so are. It's not anyone else's place to out anybody else.
If I was outed my immediate family wouldn't care some already know other family members I have nothing to do with so I couldn't care less about them. My work would probably not be too impressed and some of the people would revel in the gossip for a bit .But management would cast a dim view on it I would think.
But as I'm extremely careful with personal info on here I would know exactly who would out me if it happened and hell roast them if they did.It is bad enough they shared my face pic with others. |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
london stratford |
Most friends know I am, my sisters know and some of my family know (only ones who don't know is because I wouldn't want them to worry), From past bad experience, I do not mention it at work. but fuck em if they found out and disproved.Its my life and I am not hurting anyone. |
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It's rude and it's unfair because unfortunately society isn't quite able to cope with people who are comfortable and confident with exploring nuanced sexual outputs. Whilst the close circles of friends you keep will likely be supportive and probably intrigued (if they too are vanilla) the idle gossip from the outsiders could be very detrimental. If you live in a small town or village, lived somewhere for a long time, have a large acquaintance group due to sport, clubs, groups or events you participate in, then it has the potential to be very negative indeed. |
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"I think any one who outs anyone else on here are vile and disgusting individuals and I don't care what their excuses for doing so are. It's not anyone else's place to out anybody else.
If I was outed my immediate family wouldn't care some already know other family members I have nothing to do with so I couldn't care less about them. My work would probably not be too impressed and some of the people would revel in the gossip for a bit .But management would cast a dim view on it I would think.
But as I'm extremely careful with personal info on here I would know exactly who would out me if it happened and hell roast them if they did.It is bad enough they shared my face pic with others. "
Well said! |
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All our friends know and some family, but nobody is really bothered tbh. Our kids have grown up with us living this life, although we don't do one nighters at home because kids have a tendency to climb in our bed in the night. Awkward! Lol |
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You meet up and maybe have sex with people you meet online or in a club I don’t see how it’s any different from having 1 night stands picking someone up on a normal club it just needs to be normalised everyone has there thing |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"You meet up and maybe have sex with people you meet online or in a club I don’t see how it’s any different from having 1 night stands picking someone up on a normal club it just needs to be normalised everyone has there thing "
For a single man you are spot on. Sadly society won't judge single women or couples so kindly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All our friends know and some family, but nobody is really bothered tbh. Our kids have grown up with us living this life, although we don't do one nighters at home because kids have a tendency to climb in our bed in the night. Awkward! Lol"
That's a lot more than awkward!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person. "
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x |
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person.
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x"
It’s the whole double standards tho isn’t it. It was him that got me into swinging yet I’m now the dirty whore .
He did it to try and destroy me ( and a whole load of other things)
Not worked tho. I’m still here 
He’s still on fab as well. Cheating on the latest girlfriend lol. |
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person.
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x
It’s the whole double standards tho isn’t it. It was him that got me into swinging yet I’m now the dirty whore .
He did it to try and destroy me ( and a whole load of other things)
Not worked tho. I’m still here
He’s still on fab as well. Cheating on the latest girlfriend lol. "
That's even lower.
Makes me laugh because if it was the other way round the man would be getting a high five.
Just because your a swinger it doesn't make you a whore.
Wow, glad you escaped from that one then. Just shows what sort of person he is.
Miss S x |
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person.
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x
It’s the whole double standards tho isn’t it. It was him that got me into swinging yet I’m now the dirty whore .
He did it to try and destroy me ( and a whole load of other things)
Not worked tho. I’m still here
He’s still on fab as well. Cheating on the latest girlfriend lol.
That's even lower.
Makes me laugh because if it was the other way round the man would be getting a high five.
Just because your a swinger it doesn't make you a whore.
Wow, glad you escaped from that one then. Just shows what sort of person he is.
Miss S x"
Yes very lucky escape but he’s still trying to destroy me and it’s been years! |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person.
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x
It’s the whole double standards tho isn’t it. It was him that got me into swinging yet I’m now the dirty whore .
He did it to try and destroy me ( and a whole load of other things)
Not worked tho. I’m still here
He’s still on fab as well. Cheating on the latest girlfriend lol. "
I think you should "out" him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person.
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x
It’s the whole double standards tho isn’t it. It was him that got me into swinging yet I’m now the dirty whore .
He did it to try and destroy me ( and a whole load of other things)
Not worked tho. I’m still here
He’s still on fab as well. Cheating on the latest girlfriend lol.
That's even lower.
Makes me laugh because if it was the other way round the man would be getting a high five.
Just because your a swinger it doesn't make you a whore.
Wow, glad you escaped from that one then. Just shows what sort of person he is.
Miss S x
Yes very lucky escape but he’s still trying to destroy me and it’s been years!"
What a loser!
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person.
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x
It’s the whole double standards tho isn’t it. It was him that got me into swinging yet I’m now the dirty whore .
He did it to try and destroy me ( and a whole load of other things)
Not worked tho. I’m still here
He’s still on fab as well. Cheating on the latest girlfriend lol.
That's even lower.
Makes me laugh because if it was the other way round the man would be getting a high five.
Just because your a swinger it doesn't make you a whore.
Wow, glad you escaped from that one then. Just shows what sort of person he is.
Miss S x
Yes very lucky escape but he’s still trying to destroy me and it’s been years!"
He is a sore pathetic loser. He's trying and failing to drag you down to his level. You ride high x |
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person. "
I've found that people don't ever ask, they just believe it and spread the rumour.  |
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My in laws and my mother would be shocked I would have thought.
My mum would worry about safety aspects because I expect she'd have a very narrow view of what goes on in clubs for example.
My daughter is too young to know at the moment.
My dad would probably be fine. In fact he nearly found out at the weekend when Mr Dot accidentally sent a text about local club to my dad instead of me !! However we think he was asleep and the WhatsApp was deleted before he saw it.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red "
We got outed to Fox's mother shortly after we started meeting and long before we were actually in a real relationship.
Awkward initially but a long chat to explain we were sensible and safe and it was all fine.
She still asks if we're going to one of 'those parties' every time we ask her to child sit at weekends though..... 
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"If someone "outed" you what affect would it have on your life?
We’ve potentially had this, this week. Luckily my children already know as I’ve been honest with them about it for a while. But it does make you think how others in your life might react.
Red We got outed to Fox's mother shortly after we started meeting and long before we were actually in a real relationship.
Awkward initially but a long chat to explain we were sensible and safe and it was all fine.
She still asks if we're going to one of 'those parties' every time we ask her to child sit at weekends though.....
A"
Oh that would defo be my mum.
She was excruciatingly embarrassing enough when I was dating let alone this |
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"My ex outed me in our very small town. Surprisingly no one has ever asked me outright, they either are too scared to ask or just don’t actually care and think he’s just vindictive nasty person.
Wow. Sad people.
It does make me wonder why anybody would want to "out" someone, what so they even again from it
Miss S x
It’s the whole double standards tho isn’t it. It was him that got me into swinging yet I’m now the dirty whore .
He did it to try and destroy me ( and a whole load of other things)
Not worked tho. I’m still here
He’s still on fab as well. Cheating on the latest girlfriend lol.
I think you should "out" him"
I have thought long and hard about this. But if I do and she leaves he will Blame me and I will get the full force or his anger. Or she will stay with him and I’ll have both of them against me.
I think it’s better I take the higher ground and just know what he’s up to and laugh to myself. Cheaters normally get caught. |
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over a year ago
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There isn't anyone to "out" us to.
Anyone of any importance in our lives, already knows and doesn't give a flying fuck what we get up to. If someone tried they would probably just get laughed at.
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We were outed during a meet with a 'single' guy at our place when his wife arrived at the door and created a scene which was witnessed by neighbours and folk walking by on the street.
It was the gossip of our small town for quite a while afterwards but after getting over being mortified we just thought we are doing nothing wrong, it's not illegal and our lifestyle is nothing to be ashamed of.
We got a lot of snide comments directed our way when we were out but soon stopped when it was realised we were not bothered by it. Now we are happy to have face pics on our public profile, even a face pic with my tits out. |
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