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When it comes to pleasuring who you're with (fingering, oral etc), do you ever feel like your sexual skills maybe lacking in those areas?
I do sometimes. In fact, I sometimes feel like I don't know what I'm doing and I'm afraid of being crap at it. I haven't done oral in years. When it comes to the fingering, my hands seize up too easily. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I think I’m okay at it, people tell me it’s really great, but never though of it as skills it’s more creativity and passion. I kind of just make it up.
Techniques rarely work the same across partners , everyone is different and you have to figure them out. |
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"When it comes to pleasuring who you're with (fingering, oral etc), do you ever feel like your sexual skills maybe lacking in those areas?
I do sometimes. In fact, I sometimes feel like I don't know what I'm doing and I'm afraid of being crap at it. I haven't done oral in years. When it comes to the fingering, my hands seize up too easily."
Always...but research can improve your skills...so there we go |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"When it comes to pleasuring who you're with (fingering, oral etc), do you ever feel like your sexual skills maybe lacking in those areas?
I do sometimes. In fact, I sometimes feel like I don't know what I'm doing and I'm afraid of being crap at it. I haven't done oral in years. When it comes to the fingering, my hands seize up too easily."
have you thought about philately  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think I lack the skills, but I definitely don’t have as much confidence as I used to "
Not just sex wise! I really feel people now. Dont have the confidence to even meet for a face to face coffee off of here??
Hells going on¡ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people do not have the moves.
It's a fact.
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Eye contact,speach. Connections of the minds is really missing! How will the body ever follow,
I really sense this is a major point for all thats going on here!!
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I'm with a new girl now. She wouldn't ever say but she was In a long marriage with a stubborn bloke that trapped her sex was non existent. She isn't very confident with me and really doesn't know what to do with a cock. Hopefully she will one day very soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm with a new girl now. She wouldn't ever say but she was In a long marriage with a stubborn bloke that trapped her sex was non existent. She isn't very confident with me and really doesn't know what to do with a cock. Hopefully she will one day very soon "
Here's hoping she doesn't try BBQ it first. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
I don't think it's more about your own skills but rather more about the communication between people. Those you connect with tends to lead to better sex because you're in tune with one another, knowing what the other person likes and dislikes..
Exploration is also key  |
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"I'm with a new girl now. She wouldn't ever say but she was In a long marriage with a stubborn bloke that trapped her sex was non existent. She isn't very confident with me and really doesn't know what to do with a cock. Hopefully she will one day very soon
Here's hoping she doesn't try BBQ it first. "
He he |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't worry, those that talk a big talk are usually pretty shit at actually doing it.
It's alright those saying they know what they're doing, but surprisingly there isn't a one stop technique that works on everyone.
If you're with someone that likes you for you, you won't have to do a lot to make it good for them. |
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"Just lie there and let them do all the work. That way if its shit they only have themselves to blame!  "
I tried that once, the only problem was they were trying the same thing. We ended watching the whole of avatar then going to sleep  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm immediately wary of those who claim great skills, it usually means they assume the same things work for everyone so just bang through their repertoire and ignore any cues or feedback.
I do what feels right and natural in a given situation. I know my other half is very happy with my skills such as they may be, that's good enough for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm immediately wary of those who claim great skills, it usually means they assume the same things work for everyone so just bang through their repertoire and ignore any cues or feedback.
I do what feels right and natural in a given situation. I know my other half is very happy with my skills such as they may be, that's good enough for me."
Exactly. Different people different strokes. Awareness and communication are so important |
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"I'm definitely lacking in the being able to fuck all night ability, but it's not one of my interests and I like rests in-between sessions, so it's doubtful I'll ever try to learn tbh"
You got to have the rest times, everyone needs a cuppa and a kit kat! |
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"I'm definitely lacking in the being able to fuck all night ability, but it's not one of my interests and I like rests in-between sessions, so it's doubtful I'll ever try to learn tbh
You got to have the rest times, everyone needs a cuppa and a kit kat! "
How many fingers? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the key thing is to communicate with who you're with and get them to show you or tell you what they like.
Nothing wrong with asking and working out what works for them. Generally you should know when you've hit something that feels good by the way they breathe, make sounds, their body language or they've lost the ability to speak
You're never going to be great unless you learn your partner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a great believer in the Indianajones technique.
Go on, what’s the Indiana jones technique?
I’m Also intrigued. 
Refer to it as 'The Temple of Doom'?"
I still don’t get it. |
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