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What is the thrill with taking someone else's partner from them?
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"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T" Who is trying to cadge C off you?! The cheek! | |||
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Trust being the foundation of any meaningful relationship.
Maybe I'm just old fashioned...! | |||
"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T" I assume you don’t mean in a swinging sense and instead that someone is trying to break up the relationship? | |||
"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T" Bulls? Cuckolds? | |||
"Frost and seeping damp can be lethal elements in microscopic cracks, in otherwise strong walls and rocks. Some people like any chase, especially tough ones too. " Food for though! | |||
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"I know some people set out deliberately to do that but I think the other person must willingly go rather than be taken. Nobody who's completely satisfied with their relationship leaves it, do they? I honestly don't know." Boredom. Its been saìd for women some relationdhops are long dead. Its just that the man has not clued on. The woman moved on long ago emotionly!! | |||
"I know some women like to fuck partnered men because it makes them feel as if they're better than their wife of girlfriend. One woman I knew used to phone the guys partner afterwards. " What the fuck! Now thats dark cruel. | |||
"It's hateful. Many on here seem to see the sex as cheap currency and lay waste to others without a thought. Just a dick a day. Veris tossed off like confetti and the next sucker lined up before the sheets are cold. If they put no value on the sex or the person they are fucking then it doesn't matter, doesn't count, it's just a fuck, no harm done. No one is allowed to be bothered if they aren't. It's devastating for others on the other side of connections though. The seedier side of fab for sure. " Well stated. It all goes back in the box!! | |||
"I dont know about guys but I've known women that have tri3d to entice a guy away" Cheers for the info.  | |||
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"I used to have a friend like this. She would deliberately go after married men as she liked knowing they were risking everything just to fuck her. She didn't like it so much when the guy she had a baby with cheated on her though. To go after someone you know is in a relationship just smacks of low self esteem and generally just being a huge fucking dickhead. There's a few about. " What goes around comes around | |||
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"I used to have a friend like this. She would deliberately go after married men as she liked knowing they were risking everything just to fuck her. She didn't like it so much when the guy she had a baby with cheated on her though. To go after someone you know is in a relationship just smacks of low self esteem and generally just being a huge fucking dickhead. There's a few about. " We would never kink shame anyone but this is one I just can’t get with. To actively go looking for attached people says a lot about a person and as your friend experienced - they don’t/ won’t feel the same way when it happens to them. | |||
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"I've known a few women like this and I think they believe it somehow makes them superior. But the reality is you're an easy option, a bit on the side and you could never compare to what he has. I'm a bit of a hypocrite as I wouldn't be put off by a married man but I wouldn't ever befriend someone who seeks out married men and gets off on cheating. It's a selfish and nasty trait to have and says a lot about someone. " I think your not being out off and seeking one out to specifically split him from his wife are quite different | |||
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"I’ve never done it but I’ve had people attempt to do it to me. One of the standout ones, I texted from his phone and arranged to meet her at a shopping centre for a date… where I turned up and it’s probably best that I don’t disclose the rest. Looking back, she was doing me a favour and I should have just let her have him. " Hindsight is 20/20 vision | |||
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"I’ve never done it but I’ve had people attempt to do it to me. One of the standout ones, I texted from his phone and arranged to meet her at a shopping centre for a date… where I turned up and it’s probably best that I don’t disclose the rest. Looking back, she was doing me a favour and I should have just let her have him. Hindsight is 20/20 vision" If I knew then what I know now  | |||
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"Wow, I must be a bit green as didn’t even realise this was a thing! " I'm with you on this one. I don't knowingly know anyone like this. Personally when I've been cheated on in the past, I've never blamed the other person. If they were single. It was my relationship and partner that were the problem. | |||
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"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation. So yeah, fault on both sides. A cheater will cheat. A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on." Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances. | |||
"I know some women like to fuck partnered men because it makes them feel as if they're better than their wife of girlfriend. One woman I knew used to phone the guys partner afterwards. " Having worked in various offices, I agree with this. I've even been there at social/office gatherings when women have propositioned! They must get bored easy. | |||
"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T" Not sure there is a thrill in breaking up others relationships. Or have I misunderstood the op? | |||
"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T Not sure there is a thrill in breaking up others relationships. Or have I misunderstood the op? " Sometimes... Misery loves company! Thrill of the chase and keeping secrets, makes it more exciting. Wanting and getting something you shouldn't really have. Revenge could be a part of it. | |||
"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation. So yeah, fault on both sides. A cheater will cheat. A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on. Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances. " This . And if they are then it wasn’t meant to be. Not worth fighting to keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept. | |||
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"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer. People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can. I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened" It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions." Agree 110% we all are aware of what we are doing,knowingly and unknowingly! Unless a Psycopath with no Empathy coldblooded lol | |||
"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation. So yeah, fault on both sides. A cheater will cheat. A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on. Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances. This . And if they are then it wasn’t meant to be. Not worth fighting to keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept. " | |||
"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer. People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can. I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened" It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions." | |||
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"I personally don't think a person can be taken who isn't ready to be plucked out of their situation. So yeah, fault on both sides. A cheater will cheat. A keeper will brush off anyone outside of their relationship and give them no 'in' to work on. Agreed. As I said earlier if you're happy with your relationship you're not going to be open to advances. This . And if they are then it wasn’t meant to be. Not worth fighting to keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept. "Simple but applicable. | |||
"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer. People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can. I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened" It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions. "Also don't spin that was faced 'it was a d*unken, one off mistake' line. If you're so inebriated you have sex by mistake, you need help | |||
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"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him. "That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. | |||
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"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. "It was awful. Seeing my friend in that much pain was horrendous and he was a total dipshit about it. | |||
"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad.
It was awful. Seeing my friend in that much pain was horrendous and he was a total dipshit about it. "What is wrong with these people! | |||
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"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. "my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon.. Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x | |||
"I've often heard it said that many women find a man with wedding ring attractive ! Some kind of challenge?" Think it's more they know a married man can keep a secret...  | |||
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"The shock and horror from cheater #1 when cheater #2 inevitably then cheats on them too is always fairly karmic " Yes and funny to see! | |||
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"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..
Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x "How in God's name did he pull that one off | |||
"Borrowing is so much better than taking "I like to think I'm giving the woman a break from the relentless sleep pokes in the back. Lol! I'm taking them off the woman's hands for a bit so she can do her own thing. ( sleep, look after kids, go to work, fuck other men) Not sure about bi-men. I've been a wife and I distinctly remember wanting to sleep and feeling pressure to have sex with my husband as some sort of wifely duty. In the grand scheme of things, my sleep was probably more important than his need for sex but I just went along with it because I wanted him to be happy. Now I'm not a wife.....I've been single for 9 years and I definitely don't want to take someone's man. I like looking after me only and not someone else's man-child. Lol!  You ladies can keep them. | |||
"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..
Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x "Jesus Christ, Mary and Joseph and all the saints above.
Wow that you didn't know he was the groom...
That's probably the reason I've been single for 9 years too. I can't put up with this kind of fuckery. | |||
"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..
Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x "I'm sorry you were lied to and treated in such an abhorrent way. | |||
"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..
Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x
How in God's name did he pull that one off "people only do unto you,what you allow them to do! I understand some of it though. | |||
"You do see people who blame the other man/woman for their partner's infidelity, as if their partner is a poor, hapless fool unable to resist the charms of a vile seducer. People cheat for two reasons either they're unhappy for one of a million reasons or they're the type of opportunist who does it just because they can. I often see people say things like "I just couldn't help it" or "the inevitable happened" It wasn't inevitable and you could help it, you're a grown adult with a functioning brain, take responsibility for your actions." I've agreed with your posts so far completely. One thing that really gets me is when a partner is viewed as too weak to resist the advances of someone else. To me that's insult to the intelligence of that person and their strength and says they aren't in the relationship for the right reasons. And if they are viewed as unable to resist doesn't that mean that they were to weak to resist the advances of their partner in the first place. The partner thinks they are only there because they managed to crack them easily? An insult given with a back at you attached! I think this happens quite often towards women, men can be possessive and want other guys to get lost in fear of them making advances (knowing how men think) on the woman and her being to weak or stupid to deal with them. I know this applies the other way round too though. T | |||
"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T Who is trying to cadge C off you?! The cheek!" Haha! Love the assumption. It could be me someone is tryung to take of C. It's neither though. And not fab specifically. This is just a general question based on conversations I'd had with friends. T | |||
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"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T" Sexually I only get a buzz if the mr wants me to fuck his mrs. That’s an ego thing I think. | |||
"Or trying to? Do people do this when it's been done to them? Or is it just a kink? Or an ego boost? I'm genuinely trying to work this one out. Does it make you more the man/woman if you manage it? T Who is trying to cadge C off you?! The cheek! Haha! Love the assumption. It could be me someone is tryung to take of C. It's neither though. And not fab specifically. This is just a general question based on conversations I'd had with friends. T" Soz, I didn't mean to ASSuME, more to make a joke
I agree with those Nicecouple types, but then again, they're very often right!
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"I know some people set out deliberately to do that but I think the other person must willingly go rather than be taken. Nobody who's completely satisfied with their relationship leaves it, do they? I honestly don't know." Yes, and some women in unhappy relationships are desperate to be taken away and I imagine that gives some men an ego boost , but for me it’s a big red flag, it’s the worst type of woman to get involved with | |||
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"I know some people set out deliberately to do that but I think the other person must willingly go rather than be taken. Nobody who's completely satisfied with their relationship leaves it, do they? I honestly don't know. Yes, and some women in unhappy relationships are desperate to be taken away and I imagine that gives some men an ego boost , but for me it’s a big red flag, it’s the worst type of woman to get involved with " If someone waits to be taken away from an unhappy relationship they probably are the worst type of person to get involved with. If you're willing to put up with a bad relationship until a better offer comes along you're probably very passive I'd reckon | |||
"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..
Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x
How in God's name did he pull that one off "the new wife was very d*unk and didn't notice him missing and his best man knew he had invited me.. neither told me he was the groom... I felt awful and dumb... | |||
"Kat replying, had a female on here offer a 3sum but we are looking for Couples, Dan replied declining the 3sum & she offered to meet him solo! There's a million single men on here to approach I wasn't the least bit impressed & blocked Some utter narcissistic morons in every walk of life sadly " the single women approaching the male to meet behind partners back happens a lot. I had a lady wait till I went to the toilet to ask my fella once.. he couldn't see why I was furious when he told me.  | |||
"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..
Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x
How in God's name did he pull that one off the new wife was very d*unk and didn't notice him missing and his best man knew he had invited me.. neither told me he was the groom... I felt awful and dumb... "You were the innocent party in this | |||
"I had a friend who on the day after her wedding found out the groom had been seeing 3! Other women. He basically tried to claim they had all tricked him.
That would be funny if it wasn't so sad. my ex got away with something similar. I felt awful. As he had invited me to a family wedding reception... claimed he had managed to get the keys to the honeymoon suite as the bride and groom had decided to jet off straight to their honeymoon instead. He looked so good in his suit.. we had a good hour or two in their.. he said he had to to see the bride and groom off and would see me soon..
Stopped replying to my texts....I got worried and asked a mutual friend.. who said he's on his honeymoon.. I felt sick and so guilty . As the realisation that I'd slept with him in his honeymoon suite on the night of his wedding.
As to why people do it.. I think its a challenge... I stay single as had it happen a few times x
How in God's name did he pull that one off the new wife was very d*unk and didn't notice him missing and his best man knew he had invited me.. neither told me he was the groom... I felt awful and dumb...
You were the innocent party in this "I was but in hindsight knowing him how I did.. I should have realised x | |||
"Kat replying, had a female on here offer a 3sum but we are looking for Couples, Dan replied declining the 3sum & she offered to meet him solo! There's a million single men on here to approach I wasn't the least bit impressed & blocked Some utter narcissistic morons in every walk of life sadly " Yes this happened to me whilst in a couple on here. Also had *gay* men asking to meet him alone  was quite funny, I did all the profile admin & would just send a laughing emoji so they blocked us it's all power games  | |||
 one of them I think the lady put as a condition they blocked me so she would get back together with him, lol…. (He did and they did!) We are all adults and I’m not going to be policing relationship status or health of the people I see.
Same with some people I classify as friends now and I care a lot about them. My mind wanders sometimes and I think what would it be like to be in a relationship with them but it’s a couple of minutes thing and then feet are back firmly on the ground. I have enough problems as it is to add any more haha | |||
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"I have absolutely no problem as a cuck with Jane meeting guys alone, but any guy who confuses me being a cuck with someone who would even begin to accept another guy taking her away from me.....god help him." God help him you pathing the way smoothly to date and bed your wife,so she comes back to you with smiles like a chesire cat,and get sent back by you for 2nds. | |||
"Many years ago my girlfriend now wife went off and had a fling with the local casanova for two weeks we then got back together but looking back more than forty years later I realise I never could feel the same about her after, she has always denied that anything sexual ever happened between them lol. Strange thing is I would love to see her fucked by another guy now." Have you not confronted her yet? Derdrie page here. | |||
"I’ve never done it but I’ve had people attempt to do it to me. One of the standout ones, I texted from his phone and arranged to meet her at a shopping centre for a date… where I turned up and it’s probably best that I don’t disclose the rest. Looking back, she was doing me a favour and I should have just let her have him. Hindsight is 20/20 vision If I knew then what I know now "Experience is a great thing x | |||
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"Aw where's OP gone " That’s a shame. I liked those two  | |||
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"Aw where's OP gone That’s a shame. I liked those two "Who was it | |||
"Aw where's OP gone That’s a shame. I liked those two "Same | |||
"Aw where's OP gone That’s a shame. I liked those two
Who was it "Their name escapes me now (I'd recognise their pic straight off) but they were quite prolific on here | |||
"Aw where's OP gone That’s a shame. I liked those two
Who was it "Vanilla masquerade x | |||
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"I've known a few women like this and I think they believe it somehow makes them superior. But the reality is you're an easy option, a bit on the side and you could never compare to what he has. I'm a bit of a hypocrite as I wouldn't be put off by a married man but I wouldn't ever befriend someone who seeks out married men and gets off on cheating. It's a selfish and nasty trait to have and says a lot about someone. " Yes, I completely agree...there's a big difference. Similarly, I'm perfectly fine meeting married women, but wouldn't go out of my way to do anything to split up her marriage. That would be seriously evil... | |||
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"The need to feel powerful, when your a weak ass slime ball. *just my opinion. " Your opinion is accurate | |||
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"It might not answer OP’s question exactly but whenever I’m with a couple or a single member of a couple , it’s not about taking one of them from the other but about the privilege of being invited to share an experience with them. It’s not about the taking but about being given something if that makes sense? " What you're describing is perfectly fine. It's a shared experience with one or two more people that's completely consentual, and where no-one is trying to deliberately split up a partnership / relationship. You're clearly enjoying yourself, as are the other parties...and that's why we're all on here, right? Xx | |||
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"If they leave - they were never really yours… " The Op was never really ours…. | |||
"If they leave - they were never really yours… The Op was never really ours…." Pmsl - Ouch!!! | |||
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