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So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Sounds like a lucky swerve to me.
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
You got blocked.
You don't know why though.
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Barely know where to start with this one!
OP, I’m sorry if you’ve had a few rejections, I really am. But have you considered the myriad of other reasons that individual may have chosen to do what they did? Not least it’s entirely up to them how they run their fab profile.
Personally, if I’m not going to respond to a message right now, or indeed ever, I delete it from my inbox. The best thing you can do is delete your sent items - it stops you getting hurt by deletions. |
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Sounds like you had a motive |
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Not sure about the video scenario, but when you say you agreed with someone, how do you mean? Did you message them as a response to a forum post or a status you’d seen? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some women on fabs get a lot of messages.
Some couples of fabs get a lot of messages.
If they don’t believe someone will be suited, they sometimes block, because they don’t have time to respond to everyone telling them no.
It would take too long to respond to all, plus then they’d often get into a dialogue about why/get abuse.
If they’re not interested in you, fine. Move on, find people who are. You can’t be everyone’s type. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agreed with them on a topic, nothing malicious whatsoever, still got blocked."
I'd block you too. I don't want random dick pics emailed to me, which is what you're doing when you message someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agreed with them on a status they put which was along the lines of "its hard to get meet on here" something similar and I agreed in DMs"
Yes and you also sent them a dick pic which they didn't ask for...get it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
It's fab op, don't know what you expect, ppl have a right to pick and choose what they do with messages they recieve...or those they block...I myself have never been blocked lol..
Op there's no need to be wary, just move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agreed with them on a status they put which was along the lines of "its hard to get meet on here" something similar and I agreed in DMs"
You sent them a message agreeing it's hard to get a meet. They then messaged you back with a video. You complimented the video. Then you got blocked? Is that correct? |
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over a year ago
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"I agreed with them on a status they put which was along the lines of "its hard to get meet on here" something similar and I agreed in DMs"
Tap reply+quote OP, then people know who you’re responding to here in your thread. |
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"I agreed with them on a topic, nothing malicious whatsoever, still got blocked."
How did you agree with them though?
The reason I ask is, I comment on a lot of forum posts, but I don’t want a message in my inbox from a stranger about it.
I update my status often, but if someone messages me who’s outside my preferences, I don’t appreciate it.
Like someone else says said above, lots of people make full use of their block button to prevent them having to interact with someone they have no interest in. So you don’t have to have actually ‘sone’ anything, they just don’t want to have sex with you. |
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over a year ago
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"I agreed with them on a status they put which was along the lines of "its hard to get meet on here" something similar and I agreed in DMs"
I'll be honest and say I'm a bit lost off? If you sent a DM agreeing with someone's status, then there's no reason for them to respond... If they sent you a vid as part of a forum game? Then once again no reason for them to continue a conversation |
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"I agreed with them on a status they put which was along the lines of "its hard to get meet on here" something similar and I agreed in DMs
I'll be honest and say I'm a bit lost off? If you sent a DM agreeing with someone's status, then there's no reason for them to respond... If they sent you a vid as part of a forum game? Then once again no reason for them to continue a conversation "
I don't mind if they don't respond, I get that |
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"I agreed with them on a status they put which was along the lines of "its hard to get meet on here" something similar and I agreed in DMs
I'll be honest and say I'm a bit lost off? If you sent a DM agreeing with someone's status, then there's no reason for them to respond... If they sent you a vid as part of a forum game? Then once again no reason for them to continue a conversation
I don't mind if they don't respond, I get that"
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"I just said I agree about what they said in their status, that's about it"
If a stranger with a dick pic profile messaged me out of the blue in response to a status I’d likely block them too tbh.
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"I just said I agree about what they said in their status, that's about it"
OP for those of us who get one message a day, that’s a nice thing. If they seem like a decent person I may even chat for a while.
But women get dozens, nay hundreds, of messages a day. Unsolicited messages from people in whom they are not remotely interested are highly likely to get binned.
It’s not personal, it’s just fab admin. If you aren’t her type/age/preference etc, chances are she’ll block you so she doesn’t get these kind of messages in response.
Best to chalk it up to fab life and move on. There will be people out there who are interested in you. Often it takes time and effort but stick at it, pal |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"I just said I agree about what they said in their status, that's about it"
But you may not be what they are looking for in terms of age, distance etc and it can be easier to block people that don't match. It's not about being malicious, you might just not be their type  |
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"Some women on fabs get a lot of messages.
Some couples of fabs get a lot of messages.
If they don’t believe someone will be suited, they sometimes block, because they don’t have time to respond to everyone telling them no.
It would take too long to respond to all, plus then they’d often get into a dialogue about why/get abuse.
If they’re not interested in you, fine. Move on, find people who are. You can’t be everyone’s type."
Agree with most of above, we don't use block because we are rude but if there is really no interest in the profile or if someone is too close, we use block as a filter. Absolutely nothing to get disheartened about. |
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over a year ago
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"Yes totally agree get messaged by someone, start chatting and then conversation ends and they stop replying to your messages.
Instant block from me can't be bothered with time wasters "
That's not time wasting.
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Sounds like you sent the compliments with expectation or agenda.
They received the compliment. Over.
Not sure why you'd be checking back on messages to see if you've been blocked or the message had been deleted. |
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over a year ago
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Everyone has their own issues on here it's not all about the single man getting stick ya know.
If a woman is nice and not rude to anyone then folk think it's a free pass and get nasty because they think theyve been led on! |
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Dear OP, I feel for you. The fab ocean is beset by the nauseating undulations of despair and delight, like the ebb and flow of life. The FÅB maidens and women torment us, they beguile us, they set us adrift, they seduce us with their syrup-and-honeyed words of promise.
And then they break our hearts and throw the fragments like confetti. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes totally agree get messaged by someone, start chatting and then conversation ends and they stop replying to your messages.
Instant block from me can't be bothered with time wasters
That's not time wasting.
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Totally agree ,
Chats come to an end for all-sorts of reasons
Something you said or they were just being polite etc |
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"Yes totally agree get messaged by someone, start chatting and then conversation ends and they stop replying to your messages.
Instant block from me can't be bothered with time wasters
That's not time wasting.
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Probably not to you. |
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Expect little here, other than your own actions. You can't predict those of others, nor predict what people want or how they will respond.
Many don't do much other than ignore spam and unsolicited messages and calls in real life. The same can be true here. Your never know the position or state of mind anyone is in, when you contact them.
Be aware that thousands here get bombarded and overloaded with contact from unknowns, every day.
You may mean well. But overall it's wise to use your efforts here with thought and without expectations, other than hearing nothing in return. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think you should tarnish everyone with the same brush "
Agreed. Do the simple basic checks. Phone chat,vid call etc. All pàrties on the same page,seeking the same style or fun type.
There are tons of fake profiles. And blokes dreaming they are part of a couple¡ lol.
I keep saying many run on emotions. And get distracted easily. Then they onto the next pic profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know I shouldn't, but it's happening too often to me.
Some of us are polite on here "
..polite is fine.
If not interested vice/ verse. Delete message/ block!
Move on!
I had racial profileing the other day, by a bloke,as a couples profile!
When i called him up on it!
He,delted my message. ..FLAKE in my eyes.
Blocked him!! ... move on, give time to those who give you time. You cant. Change people change you only for the better.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary.
Barely know where to start with this one!
OP, I’m sorry if you’ve had a few rejections, I really am. But have you considered the myriad of other reasons that individual may have chosen to do what they did? Not least it’s entirely up to them how they run their fab profile.
Personally, if I’m not going to respond to a message right now, or indeed ever, I delete it from my inbox. The best thing you can do is delete your sent items - it stops you getting hurt by deletions."
Nice words of wisdom,point in right direction etc.
Well done sir.
There are good people out there. Attract them. Be that Mirror¡
Peace |
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over a year ago
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary.
Sounds like you had a motive "
he wanted to get layed! Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women on fabs get a lot of messages.
Some couples of fabs get a lot of messages.
If they don’t believe someone will be suited, they sometimes block, because they don’t have time to respond to everyone telling them no.
It would take too long to respond to all, plus then they’d often get into a dialogue about why/get abuse.
If they’re not interested in you, fine. Move on, find people who are. You can’t be everyone’s type."
Well put and stated from a womans persective.
Positive,constructive input always welcome.
I keep saying. Guys improve yourself,then the world around of yoy improves.
" all in the Mindset "
Peace |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agreed with them on a topic, nothing malicious whatsoever, still got blocked.
I'd block you too. I don't want random dick pics emailed to me, which is what you're doing when you message someone "
How do you know he did? What your saying he did?
Just asking tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people need to stop expecting gratitude for something that wasn't asked for in the first place on here. That's not being kind, it's being entitled and if something is expected in return, it wasn't geniune in the first place. |
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"I agreed with them on a topic, nothing malicious whatsoever, still got blocked.
I'd block you too. I don't want random dick pics emailed to me, which is what you're doing when you message someone
How do you know he did? What your saying he did?
Just asking tbh"
His profile pic is a picture of his penis |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I think people need to stop expecting gratitude for something that wasn't asked for in the first place on here. That's not being kind, it's being entitled and if something is expected in return, it wasn't geniune in the first place. "
Yep.
It's a rare day a compliment is given with no motive. I don't feel the need to message someone just because their photo or video gave me a slight boner.
Or because their photos have helped me lose the urge completely and concentrate on something important..... 
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
People block for all kinds of reasons. Some rule people out rather than rule people in. Some make a pre emptive strike. Because they don't think they'd want to interact with you. Try not taking it to heart. |
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"I agreed with them on a topic, nothing malicious whatsoever, still got blocked.
I'd block you too. I don't want random dick pics emailed to me, which is what you're doing when you message someone
How do you know he did? What your saying he did?
Just asking tbh
His profile pic is a picture of his penis "
It dont float your Boat! Let hom sail away! Lol |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Why be wary. You sent messages the people weren't interested that's all. And to be fair most compliments on here are just a way to try and get someone chatting quite a lot are disingenuous,and you go from stunning to a fat ugly sow fast if you don't respond the way they want. So a lot of people don't reply to them. If they sent you a video it's a bit odd they didn't reply though,but then what you think was a compliment they may not.
Replying to a status update is always going to be hit and miss at the best of times.The person could have had a load of replies when they didn't want them. And if they blocked it surely that saves you anymore time wasted on that person just block back and move on. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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People are cunts. Who knew.
Though instead of complaining about it just accept they are cunts because you didn't like what they did, which means they were not much of a match or compatible with you, so move on to the next. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like being kind OP so I will. Thanks  "
I like your vibe! Bless
Kindness is a quality shared. Only some can. Many cant and wont!
Trauma's of life and events has hardened people,and fast pace of life and media! |
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary.
Why be wary. You sent messages the people weren't interested that's all. And to be fair most compliments on here are just a way to try and get someone chatting quite a lot are disingenuous,and you go from stunning to a fat ugly sow fast if you don't respond the way they want. So a lot of people don't reply to them. If they sent you a video it's a bit odd they didn't reply though,but then what you think was a compliment they may not.
Replying to a status update is always going to be hit and miss at the best of times.The person could have had a load of replies when they didn't want them. And if they blocked it surely that saves you anymore time wasted on that person just block back and move on. "
reads like a sales pitch heh!
Wtf where do we go! Lol |
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"Dear OP, I feel for you. The fab ocean is beset by the nauseating undulations of despair and delight, like the ebb and flow of life. The FÅB maidens and women torment us, they beguile us, they set us adrift, they seduce us with their syrup-and-honeyed words of promise.
And then they break our hearts and throw the fragments like confetti."
You been watching too many pub landlord gigs ! |
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"People are cunts. Who knew.
Though instead of complaining about it just accept they are cunts because you didn't like what they did, which means they were not much of a match or compatible with you, so move on to the next. "
Are you Tony Robbins? |
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"Dear OP, I feel for you. The fab ocean is beset by the nauseating undulations of despair and delight, like the ebb and flow of life. The FÅB maidens and women torment us, they beguile us, they set us adrift, they seduce us with their syrup-and-honeyed words of promise.
And then they break our hearts and throw the fragments like confetti."
There is a point and wisdom in everything. Maybe we will notice later!
Nicely shared and cared freely. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"People are cunts. Who knew.
Though instead of complaining about it just accept they are cunts because you didn't like what they did, which means they were not much of a match or compatible with you, so move on to the next.
Are you Tony Robbins? "
I can confirm I am not. I don't have massive banana hands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are cunts. Who knew.
Though instead of complaining about it just accept they are cunts because you didn't like what they did, which means they were not much of a match or compatible with you, so move on to the next.
Are you Tony Robbins? "
Lol good ole tommy lad! |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"People are cunts. Who knew.
Though instead of complaining about it just accept they are cunts because you didn't like what they did, which means they were not much of a match or compatible with you, so move on to the next.
Are you Tony Robbins?
Lol good ole tommy lad! "
Tony Robins, not Tommy Robinson |
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Wtf where do we go! Lol
You can go wherever you want. Just don't message expecting a reply when you do
Whats the whole frigging point then???? "
Not wanting to put words in anyone else's mouth... But putting words in someone else's mouth..
I think the point is.. Expect nothing and you won't be too disappointed. Or as Tony Robbins said above... People are cunts... So expect shithousery and anything else is a bonus |
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"People are cunts. Who knew.
Though instead of complaining about it just accept they are cunts because you didn't like what they did, which means they were not much of a match or compatible with you, so move on to the next. "
C×××'s everywhere really. Some you sniff out,òthers hide with coating!
All a game and playground.
" all goes back in the box" why the struggle.
Some think they are wiñning!! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As the song says .. Welcome to the Jungle...Do NOT being blocked bother, worry or concern you one little bit it happens ALL the time and you will never know why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People do FAB in so many ways - if it doesn’t match yours then they’ve done you a favour.
Don’t dwell on it - move on and find people who are likeminded and it’ll be so much easier.
K"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People use the block button as a filter. It means they aren’t interested in you or receiving messages from you. Not every forum post or status is an invitation to make contact, especially from random penis avatars. It isn’t personal and you shouldn’t take it to mean anything malicious. Especially couples and single women; they get way too many messages as it is.
Don’t be kind? That’s terrible advice. |
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exactly if they are complimentary whether you accept it as a compliment surely its a nice gesture either way, they are not to know whats gone before  |
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
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It is easier to expect nothing.
If you are upset because you were blocked, fab ain't for you
If you are upset because you can't understand why you were blocked, fab ain't for you.
If you are upset because you were blocked and you think that you deserved a different response or think people should be nice because you were being nice, you ain't for fab.
No one is owed anything here. Everyone uses fab differently, using the tools they have at their disposal. Being blocked may have had nothing to do with you and been entirely about them. |
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"So guys...if you agree with anyone on here or want to send compliments, don't, otherwise they'll delete your message or block you.
I sent a compliment to someone who sent a video to me, a simple thanks and that message got deleted.
I agreed with someone on meeting up can be hard and difficult and guess what...I got blocked.
So please be wary. "
Jesus what a clusterfuck of a thread.
OP sorry but i cant even follow what you're trying to say. Whats the video reference about?
And put the cock away please |
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