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Following on from last weekends lively discussion about Veris… can someone please tell me why there is any need for multiple verifications?
You met one time n they’re genuine… brilliant, good for you…
But why then veri the person again 5 or 6 times?  |
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I tend to hide old verifications after 6 months or so. It's nice to have a fresh one to replace it with if I'm still seeing the person.
Also sometimes after a particularly enjoyable meet I feel like leaving an extra review even if I've given them one before. |
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Often see guys with multiple veris off the same couple or been to the same gang bang 5 or 6 times it just tells us they have found there niche no harm in it at all some people find something that works for them and give up on trying to find something else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Following on from last weekends lively discussion about Veris… can someone please tell me why there is any need for multiple verifications?
You met one time n they’re genuine… brilliant, good for you…
But why then veri the person again 5 or 6 times? "
Totally agree with ya |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see the contention with verifications
It's whatever works for the two parties involved
If their methodology doesn't work for you, fine, just let them be
The projection on here at times is intense |
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"Of course it's territory marking females know what they're doing and how make it clear if someone's basically owned  "
But it would be the guy displaying it for all to see, so he would know what he's doing too |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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It does sometimes feel a bit like lamppost territory marking…. But… it takes 1 to keep posting them and 1 to keep showing the multiple posts
So maybe it says as much about the people showing……
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course it's territory marking females know what they're doing and how make it clear if someone's basically owned
But it would be the guy displaying it for all to see, so he would know what he's doing too "
He might be scared not to show it. |
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"Of course it's territory marking females know what they're doing and how make it clear if someone's basically owned
But it would be the guy displaying it for all to see, so he would know what he's doing too "
Yeah but tons of guys will do whatever make sure they get regular nooky, each to there own. Id let it be displayed once the first time and wouldn't play with controlling people who kept asking why didn't display there newest one |
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I have one repeat veri from my fab bestie. They were posted 3 years apart and as we aren't currently meeting either on our singles profiles or our couples profile it shouldn't really matter to anyone else.
The second one is obviously done as a bit of fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same person more than once, you are definitely telling people to stay the fuck away!
Though inevitably it ends with one of them leaving, seen it a few times with forum folk.
Learn to share people!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me repeat veris are like trip advisor, youve met them they are real they turned up no need to go into the ins and out of your multiple times youve met them |
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We’ve got a couple of people who we’ve got veris from and given to a couple of times.
The meets initially were a couple of hours. Then next time was a weekend spent together.
Very different types of meets and so very different verifications.
Verifications are for us to reminisce more than for other people, so we don’t worry if people think it’s wrong/stupid or not.
K
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a scent marking exercise, a clear message that this is mine, stay clear......that's my little opinion....but only ppl know there motives for multiple veris from same person and to give them... |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
I've had buddies I've seen daily ranging from a few months to more than 7yrs. I can understand the signals repeat veris send, but when you've met others in between or when there's months between sending a veri, it's not like you look at them. It's more 'that was a good night, it's worth typing about'. Obviously when you get past a year or so you don't really verify.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Suppose its how you make use of the veri system, some use them to show how awesome they are in bed some use them just to make sure the person is real and turns up or not no ones right or wrong |
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Also none of our veri’s are lamp post pissing at all. We spend time with that person and then we go our separate ways.
If they meet others or not is up to them. We will be meeting others or maybe we won’t. But we aren’t tied to each other.
Swinging is different to a lot of people but to us we have no ties with anyone - we just enjoy their company for that time and hopefully if we all enjoy it, we’ll do it again 
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"Just me that sees as marking your territory then?
This. Like some sort of ownership."
Has never even occurred to me that verifications would be seen this way. It's most definitely not the purpose of mine  |
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"Following on from last weekends lively discussion about Veris… can someone please tell me why there is any need for multiple verifications?
You met one time n they’re genuine… brilliant, good for you…
But why then veri the person again 5 or 6 times? "
It’s lamppost pissing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People can do what they want. If it’s not hurting anyone they shouldn’t be called out for it imho"
Agreed fellow Berkshire resident.
But this is fab. 100% judgmental.
On here you’re damned if you do and damned if you dont. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
Pleasuretown |
"Lamp posts, marking territory
Funny given where we are, but there you go 
This when it's just the same people verifying one another constantly "
Yep, im aware of that
Others have said the same too on this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People can do what they want. If it’s not hurting anyone they shouldn’t be called out for it imho
Agreed fellow Berkshire resident.
But this is fab. 100% judgmental.
On here you’re damned if you do and damned if you dont. "
It's people's opinions, the world would be a boring place if everyone just agreed with everyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People can do what they want. If it’s not hurting anyone they shouldn’t be called out for it imho
Agreed fellow Berkshire resident.
But this is fab. 100% judgmental.
On here you’re damned if you do and damned if you dont.
It's people's opinions, the world would be a boring place if everyone just agreed with everyone.
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I know. That’s why I gave mine. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Also none of our veri’s are lamp post pissing at all. We spend time with that person and then we go our separate ways.
If they meet others or not is up to them. We will be meeting others or maybe we won’t. But we aren’t tied to each other.
Swinging is different to a lot of people but to us we have no ties with anyone - we just enjoy their company for that time and hopefully if we all enjoy it, we’ll do it again
K"
I was just thinking about couples and saw your reply..
I am wondering... is this a thing more associated with singles or even a forum thing?
I am pretty sure that couples who re-verify as they meet the same couples in a circle of good friends or attend the same parties aren't seen as marking lamp posts.
Same as when I didn't know about the fourms and was messaging people. They either responded, didn't, I matched what they were looking for or not.
It seems odd that the majority of people look for fb's, but only expect one verification.
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"They can be handy, especially if they're a different scenario.
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This is similar to what I was about to say, tbh. There can be differences between social meets and play meets, and I think it's good to highlight these via verifications.
Also, like what a previous poster mentioned, verifications are more of a ‘I am real and I was there to experience (and reminisce) the occasion’ |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Following on from last weekends lively discussion about Veris… can someone please tell me why there is any need for multiple verifications?
You met one time n they’re genuine… brilliant, good for you…
But why then veri the person again 5 or 6 times? "
To get the number count up, don't miss out on this one  |
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By *laleeWoman
over a year ago
over the rainbow |
"Same person more than once, you are definitely telling people to stay the fuck away!
Though inevitably it ends with one of them leaving, seen it a few times with forum folk.
Learn to share people!
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"Also none of our veri’s are lamp post pissing at all. We spend time with that person and then we go our separate ways.
If they meet others or not is up to them. We will be meeting others or maybe we won’t. But we aren’t tied to each other.
Swinging is different to a lot of people but to us we have no ties with anyone - we just enjoy their company for that time and hopefully if we all enjoy it, we’ll do it again
K
I was just thinking about couples and saw your reply..
I am wondering... is this a thing more associated with singles or even a forum thing?
I am pretty sure that couples who re-verify as they meet the same couples in a circle of good friends or attend the same parties aren't seen as marking lamp posts.
Same as when I didn't know about the fourms and was messaging people. They either responded, didn't, I matched what they were looking for or not.
It seems odd that the majority of people look for fb's, but only expect one verification.
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I think verifications can be interpreted in so many different ways.
I imagine if it’s two singles and all they do every week is veri each other and no one else then it could be lamp post pissing.
For us, it’s really to reminisce - we’ve met some people again who we’ve not verified again, met some we’ve not verified at all.
Verifications don’t show anyone anything other than the people involved. Well except for the really graphic ones, then everyone can imagine it then
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure it really matters. It’s your profile, do what you want to do. It might change.
Sometimes, I wish I’d waited to veri someone after three meets, when I realised, they’re a bit odd! 
Then, I leave and come back to fab, so nothing really matters! Start over.
Sometimes it’s nice to relive a memory, from another persons point of view. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it strange how many people see it as possessive or territory marking, given the entire nature of swinging.
But hey. Everyone is entitled to their opinions."
What is the nature of swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it strange how many people see it as possessive or territory marking, given the entire nature of swinging.
But hey. Everyone is entitled to their opinions."
Yep agreed.
If I wanted to mark my territory I'd piss on him not verify him. But I'm not a cat |
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"People can do what they want. If it’s not hurting anyone they shouldn’t be called out for it imho
Agreed fellow Berkshire resident.
But this is fab. 100% judgmental.
On here you’re damned if you do and damned if you dont.
It's people's opinions, the world would be a boring place if everyone just agreed with everyone.
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When was the last time you agreed with someone???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People can do what they want. If it’s not hurting anyone they shouldn’t be called out for it imho
Agreed fellow Berkshire resident.
But this is fab. 100% judgmental.
On here you’re damned if you do and damned if you dont.
It's people's opinions, the world would be a boring place if everyone just agreed with everyone.
When was the last time you agreed with someone??? "
A few hours ago actually. That's me done till 2024. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it strange how many people see it as possessive or territory marking, given the entire nature of swinging.
But hey. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
What is the nature of swinging? "
Straighten your legs then bend really quickly. |
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"I find it strange how many people see it as possessive or territory marking, given the entire nature of swinging.
But hey. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
What is the nature of swinging? "
Christ that's a whole can of worms.
Of course everyrhing is open to individual interpretation. But sharing and community should be pretty common threads to most peoples grasp of the concept.
The less ingrained ideas of ownership and possessiveness are why I like this community. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it strange how many people see it as possessive or territory marking, given the entire nature of swinging.
But hey. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
What is the nature of swinging?
Christ that's a whole can of worms.
Of course everyrhing is open to individual interpretation. But sharing and community should be pretty common threads to most peoples grasp of the concept.
The less ingrained ideas of ownership and possessiveness are why I like this community."
Fair points. |
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"Same person more than once, you are definitely telling people to stay the fuck away!
I have never once even thought of it that way. Until seeing this thread, anyway.
Thought the same
Some people literally have nothing else to moan about do they
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Some people clearly think about this more than I do, I couldn't give two shits. If I see more than one verification from a person I just treat it as one veri.
Who cares? More important things to worry about. |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I find it strange how many people see it as possessive or territory marking, given the entire nature of swinging.
But hey. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
What is the nature of swinging?
Straighten your legs then bend really quickly. "
lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive had 5 good meets only verified one
and had reg with one not verified him either dont feel the need why would you not verify a good meet?"
dont know just didnt at the time |
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I've got a few repeat veris, mainly just down to the fact my old ones were in my old name and they were kind enough to reverify using my new name (I've hidden all the ones that refer to my old name, more to stop any confusion!) |
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By *rettyflamingoCouple
over a year ago
Where the flamboyance of flamingos live |
"I don't see the contention with verifications
It's whatever works for the two parties involved
If their methodology doesn't work for you, fine, just let them be
The projection on here at times is intense"
Yep I agree with you |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Don't see it as territorial.. We have a few repeat veris. We stayed in touch, and met again, helping them with thing's they wanted to try, but with a known entity.. Both them and us net others in the meantime so why not.. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"I don't see the contention with verifications
It's whatever works for the two parties involved
If their methodology doesn't work for you, fine, just let them be
The projection on here at times is intense
Yep I agree with you "
Third that! Move on if you don't like, what is their choice and frankly none of your business!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haven't ever given it any thought really. I mean if somebody posted on someone's saying 'Oi, piss off, they're mine! I sit outside their house watching'... Might give me some concerns. But other than that why the hell would I care? |
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"Following on from last weekends lively discussion about Veris… can someone please tell me why there is any need for multiple verifications?
You met one time n they’re genuine… brilliant, good for you…
But why then veri the person again 5 or 6 times? "
It shows that "repeat meets" are an option. Also, current verifications show that they are still meeting. |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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I've done one where the first was just a brief social meet, and the second was a meet meet.
Generally then I wouldn't do another unless a few years down the line if someone comes back to fab.
Fab can be used any way you wish so long as it doesn't harm others, so if f**k buddies want to give eachother weekly reviews, leave them to it, and get on with your own journey. |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
I have some repeat veris and these are usually from social events Ive attended
I very rarely display meet veris as that’s my private business and it’s also caused some unwanted drama in the past with messages landing in my inbox |
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It shows that "repeat meets" are an option. Also, current verifications show that they are still meeting."
That’s the reason we like seeing repeat veris. It shows that someone is into that kind of meet, which is our preferred option. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
If anyone thinks veris are a complete diary of someone's sexual activity and that one is left each time someone has sex.......I have some magic beans to sell you.
Worrying about other people's veri count, content or frequency is as pointless as a blunt pencil.
If they put you off? Move on. If you think someone has too many? Move on. If you don't like who they've met? Move on. I doubt they'll be bothered at all.
If you don't think someone has enough? Go shag them and leave one. Problem solved.
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By *rettyflamingoCouple
over a year ago
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"If anyone thinks veris are a complete diary of someone's sexual activity and that one is left each time someone has sex.......I have some magic beans to sell you.
Worrying about other people's veri count, content or frequency is as pointless as a blunt pencil.
If they put you off? Move on. If you think someone has too many? Move on. If you don't like who they've met? Move on. I doubt they'll be bothered at all.
If you don't think someone has enough? Go shag them and leave one. Problem solved.
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I’m enjoying your comments on various threads this morning |
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"If anyone thinks veris are a complete diary of someone's sexual activity and that one is left each time someone has sex.......I have some magic beans to sell you.
Worrying about other people's veri count, content or frequency is as pointless as a blunt pencil.
If they put you off? Move on. If you think someone has too many? Move on. If you don't like who they've met? Move on. I doubt they'll be bothered at all.
If you don't think someone has enough? Go shag them and leave one. Problem solved.
A"
I completely agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have no problem with multiple veris from the same person on other profiles, and we have no issues showing them. In our opinion it shows that they/we are worth the time and energy. We also don’t care who it puts off - if you’re that sensitive that it bothers you, we wouldn’t be compatible anyway - so a handy filter. |
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Ive a few by the same person, most are social nights, going out for drinks etc.
Never really thought about it to be honest, not all my meets have left veris.
Multiple veris at least show you not a one night stand kind of guy if nothing else  |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I think it’s useful. As others have said, it shows that they are into more than just a one off.
I actually like reading veris. Some of them are funny, some are highly complimentary and others are sarcastically complimentary. Reading between the lines can give quite a bit of insight also |
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