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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a pre-op Transgirl there are days when I look in the mirror and hate what I see. Things have slowly got better as I have started on hormones, finished having laser hair removal , grown out my hair and am saving for breast augmentation.
But there are times when I'm still very uncomfortable with my body. It's not as overwhelming as it was but yeah my confidence can be extremely low.
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Oh of course.
My body is great. It works for me. It works for the people I want it to work for.
But sometimes, the confidence just vanishes. All I can see are the flaws and imperfections and things to pull apart and criticise. Those moments pass though. My body is good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very much. I worked really hard to be comfortable in my own skin, still sometimes the years of conditioning from numerous sources, are hard embedded in my subconscious and find myself hating what I see.  |
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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago
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Massively.
I get this.. bouts of not feeling good enough, for me and the people I love... and want to be loved by...
Physically, mentally, in work and other achievements or lack of them.
But it is natural, in a world which is built around making us feel inadequate so that we buy more shit!
New diet, different food, better work-out app, gym membership,
Home exercise equipment...
Clothes that suit us...
And so on...
And so on...
But it is hard to listen to those that big us up, when everything else around us tells us another message!
Let's all try to be happy in ourselves and the best versions of ourselves that we can be!
OP - you look great man!
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Y’know what? This place has done wonders for my body confidence.
I didn’t have much before. Any, really. I mean - I didn’t hate myself or anything. I didn’t feel I had issues. Just that physically I never felt like anything special. I relied on people fancying me for my actions and my mind, not my looks.
But posting photos on Fab, and having really, really hot, sexy people tell me they liked what they saw … it’s made a difference. I’ve got a little bit of swagger nowadays. I feel sexier.
So thanks, you lot. Seriously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have only 1 issue with body confidence...to do with my tummy(4 c sections, 1 which goes down my stomach) as long as my stomach is covered the rest of me i am happy with...Inked tells me im silly and that he loves my body and that it has been through some major stuff and i should be proud but easier said than done.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yeah, my confidence lacks massively more often than not.
i literally just fake it until ive convinced myself im actually alright.
self-gaslighting if you will.
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
Honestly no - I’ve had this in the past where I thought I wasn’t good enough but I thought I wasn’t good enough for the wrong people just didn’t realise it at the time.
I worked on myself and learned to love the skin I’m in - those how matter don’t mind, those who mind don’t matter!
Love yourself first xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It very much depends on your other mindset. If you are suffering in other ways, that voice becomes a little louder and we all give ourselves a harder time than we should. Sad thing is no one will ever be as unkind to us as we are to ourselves.
Confidence isn't something that comes easy to most people but self acceptance can. Turn up that love of our flaws louder and turn down the opinions of others. |
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Not low body confidence as such but I do think that where once I was happy to get naked with strangers I wouldn't be so much now. I know I'm in pretty good nick but as you get older so does your body.
Ps this is not a woe is me post, I'm quite accepting of the fact  |
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Always have those kind of days chap. Fab can help, but it can hinder. I think if we can change the things we want to change then we should. If we can’t, then we need to accept, but more than that, be kind to ourselves and let negative feedback wash over us and away. |
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By *rMonkeyMan
over a year ago
Somewhere |
Yes. I've been through some big changes over the last 2 years or so.
I was always painfully skinny as a teen and hated it, was bullied a lot. I worked out hard for years and went from 60kg to 112-114kg over a 20+ year period.
Injury and age have taken over and I've now dropped to about 93-94kg and hate it. All I see is the skinny kid and my confidence is about as low as it can be.
I have had compliments on here and I do appreciate them but just can't see it for myself. |
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Suffered all my life with body issues/low confidence/self esteem, and a few relationships did make the issues worst.
Over the last 6mths, I have started to like the skin I'm in and feeling a bit more confident in myself.
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I (Mrs M) always struggled with my body confidence through the years. It has only been since I met Mr M that I can be me and be appreciated for every inch of me. Everyone has their down days. Hugs to all x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. There are parts of my body I absolutely hate and I am very self conscious of them.
I've also had many negative comments both on here and non Fab life which can get to me, even though I shouldn't let it.
I do try to be happy and content with how I look, and sometimes I can be very confident and I can feel like a goddess, then other times, meh, just depends. |
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I would say the answer is yes for the majority of people. Probably a significant majority.
It's a definite yes from me - but not what necessarily based on what others think, just what I like and don't like about myself. |
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I'm all over the place with my body image... Sometimes I think I'm hot and other times I think I look like shit.
Personally just want to be a bit more toned, little extra muscle and not so skinny... But I'm not really complaining about my body image |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did, from years of conditioning that I was ugly and would never do any better than the person I was with
Since I jibbed him off I’ve never had a day where I felt down on myself |
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I have no self confedence i have no self worth due to years of not being good enough (parents)
Im well over weight and i pre warn anyone who messages me of that fact and 95% of the time thats the last message im u sure how to get my self worth and self confesence back i was on here on the hope that a meet or two would help
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My partner isn't very confident, or comfortable with her body.
Personally, I love it! I love every inch of her body, because every part of her, is her. It makes no difference to me what size or shape she is.
It's her I love!
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"I’m not very confident in my own skin at the moment. Not had the best six months or so and I’ve gained a fair bit of weight in that time, and that’s on top of baby weight I hadn’t shifted. ???????"
.. dont be you look great
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"I’m not very confident in my own skin at the moment. Not had the best six months or so and I’ve gained a fair bit of weight in that time, and that’s on top of baby weight I hadn’t shifted. ???????.. dont be you look great"
Thanks, I appreciate that |
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Firstly we are our own worst critics. Sadly that means at times we can pick at and point our imperfections no one would ever notice never mind consider a ‘flaw’
Secondly it sadly takes 10 positive reinforcements to counteract 1 negative one. So with the first and second points it can easily get out of control
There are times I just look in the mirror and think urgh! I was given a suggestion many years called the ‘naked mirror test’. Take all of your clothes off and stand in the mirror. Yup that’s you be sure to wave
Now pick out three things you like. Sound silly but say them out loud. And if you have to, pick out something you’d like to work on.
The end result for me is that I’m actually ‘ok’ with where I am, are there things I’d like to improve sure, but I can work on those should I choose to, they’re not flaws, just works in progress |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
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Every day. I feel my confidence is especially low just now. It was zero after my marriage ended then built up a bit with some friends I made who made me feel sexier than I ever felt in my life. Then that stopped and any time something negative happens like someone I had been getting on well just ghosts me or someone that had made arrangements to meet and it just doesn’t happen, my confidence is massively affected and I always think it’s down to my appearance.
I hate my body. Always have done. I just tolerate it and try emphasise the “better parts”. It’s in my hands to try make it better though. I will just need to not be naked with anyone again until I feel more confident.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every day. I feel my confidence is especially low just now. It was zero after my marriage ended then built up a bit with some friends I made who made me feel sexier than I ever felt in my life. Then that stopped and any time something negative happens like someone I had been getting on well just ghosts me or someone that had made arrangements to meet and it just doesn’t happen, my confidence is massively affected and I always think it’s down to my appearance.
I hate my body. Always have done. I just tolerate it and try emphasise the “better parts”. It’s in my hands to try make it better though. I will just need to not be naked with anyone again until I feel more confident. "
I was the same after my marriage but still trying to find it.
You look fantastic |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
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"Every day. I feel my confidence is especially low just now. It was zero after my marriage ended then built up a bit with some friends I made who made me feel sexier than I ever felt in my life. Then that stopped and any time something negative happens like someone I had been getting on well just ghosts me or someone that had made arrangements to meet and it just doesn’t happen, my confidence is massively affected and I always think it’s down to my appearance.
I hate my body. Always have done. I just tolerate it and try emphasise the “better parts”. It’s in my hands to try make it better though. I will just need to not be naked with anyone again until I feel more confident.
I was the same after my marriage but still trying to find it.
You look fantastic "
Thank you! Definitely don’t feel it or look it in person lol |
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"Every day. I feel my confidence is especially low just now. It was zero after my marriage ended then built up a bit with some friends I made who made me feel sexier than I ever felt in my life. Then that stopped and any time something negative happens like someone I had been getting on well just ghosts me or someone that had made arrangements to meet and it just doesn’t happen, my confidence is massively affected and I always think it’s down to my appearance.
I hate my body. Always have done. I just tolerate it and try emphasise the “better parts”. It’s in my hands to try make it better though. I will just need to not be naked with anyone again until I feel more confident. "
I'm sorry x |
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When I first ever went to a club I was so body conscious cause I had this perception that clubs were full of all these beautiful people with their toned figures and 6 pack bodies abs chiselled look.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm confident that my body will always let me down... if that counts?
My certainly has lately. Who knew tendons were so important  or hurt so much "
Perimenopause has made my body do all kinds of weird and wonderful stuff, I never know what's going to happen next |
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By *empusMan
over a year ago
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"Oh of course.
My body is great. It works for me. It works for the people I want it to work for.
But sometimes, the confidence just vanishes. All I can see are the flaws and imperfections and things to pull apart and criticise. Those moments pass though. My body is good."
I agree with this. Cycles of self doubt/hate seems to be a normal part of being human. Hopefully you also have days when you feel great about your body OP? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My body confidence is better than it was, but I have days where although I love it , I hate it at the same time.
When you get a message been abusive or negative it knocks ya, have taken a step back from meeting over the last whole,need to find my mojo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Albeit all that cocksucking and cum guzzling I'm convinced is acting as hormone enhancement and started to give me bitch tits which is somewhat starting to get embarrassig.  |
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Definitely not alone OP. So much more common than you realise even by those who don’t show it. I’ve always struggled with it, both sexually and general life. Never feeling wanted or good enough, always making the effort with little or no return in past relationships sadly embeds those fears and lack of confidence further and can make you feel like shit
Just a little effort goes a long way with the right partner but is definitely hard to overcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A very touchy subject tbh ...and my advice is be happy in your own skin ..do NOT let ANYONE make you feel like you're inferior..from a guys point of view there's Billions of women in the world but the last time l checked there were only a handful of so called " supermodels " in it so just be happy in your own skin ..and do NOT worry or care about what others think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah I remember a time it completely consumed me. I was constantly comparing myself to others and had unrealistic expectations. It's a difficult mindset to get out of but I got there eventually. I have finally found a way to learn to care less about what my body looks like and what others think of it. I am diagnosed with body dysmorphia but I think I'm doing much better these days. I do have days where I feel grim and obsess over it. But luckily they are quite rare.
If it's every once in a while I wouldn't worry too much, normal I think. But if it's something that's bothering you constantly you need to find a way to work on it. Maybe therapy, or just finding small ways to change your mindset. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only stopped caring about how my body looks in the last few months.
I've always though I was to small or to fat and this was before being in an enm marriage.
I still get crap days but they are not as bad as before. |
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