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So my car is currently off the road and I had to use the bus earlier.
When I first got on I had to sit next to someone as it was busy but by the time I got off it was only me and the person I was sitting next to.
I didn't want to look weird by moving as soon as seats on their own became available but the more empty the bus got I became feeling more awkward and wondering if I looked like a weirdo still sitting next to a stranger with the whole bus to ourselves 
Should I have moved or is that weirder than just staying where I was? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"So my car is currently off the road and I had to use the bus earlier.
When I first got on I had to sit next to someone as it was busy but by the time I got off it was only me and the person I was sitting next to.
I didn't want to look weird by moving as soon as seats on their own became available but the more empty the bus got I became feeling more awkward and wondering if I looked like a weirdo still sitting next to a stranger with the whole bus to ourselves
Should I have moved or is that weirder than just staying where I was? "
I haven't used public transport in about 20 years but when I lived in London the only place you'd move seats when loads became free was the tube. Never on buses. Not even night buses.
It just seems weird and rude.
A
*unless they smell of cabbage or lavender |
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"So my car is currently off the road and I had to use the bus earlier.
When I first got on I had to sit next to someone as it was busy but by the time I got off it was only me and the person I was sitting next to.
I didn't want to look weird by moving as soon as seats on their own became available but the more empty the bus got I became feeling more awkward and wondering if I looked like a weirdo still sitting next to a stranger with the whole bus to ourselves
Should I have moved or is that weirder than just staying where I was?
I haven't used public transport in about 20 years but when I lived in London the only place you'd move seats when loads became free was the tube. Never on buses. Not even night buses.
It just seems weird and rude.
A
*unless they smell of cabbage or lavender"
I didn't detect any strange smells coming from her |
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"Bus wanker!
How far from the front of the bus were you and how long til your stop?
One option would have been close to stop and near the back, move closer to the front ready to depart. "
Not used a bus for about 6 years, worst part was I got a ticket on app and machine wasn't working on journey there or back so I could have saved myself some money |
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I would have moved. My sciatica plays up if I can't fidget and find comfy spots and I'd hate to be the one causing the person to think "bloody hell I wish she'd hurry up and move. There is a whole bus free"... |
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"Bus wanker!
How far from the front of the bus were you and how long til your stop?
One option would have been close to stop and near the back, move closer to the front ready to depart.
Not used a bus for about 6 years, worst part was I got a ticket on app and machine wasn't working on journey there or back so I could have saved myself some money "
And almost at the back of bus and journey was about half hour |
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Depends where the open seat is.
Just across the aisle then shuffle across you'll both be more comfortable.
If it's 5 seats back you'll look weird and everyone will assume the person you're fleeing from has something wrong with them. |
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"I’d move as soon as a double seat was available, even if knew well the person sitting with, Nowt wrong or rude about wanting to be comfortable "
I was comfortable though already, I only need one seat for my peach |
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"I would have moved. My sciatica plays up if I can't fidget and find comfy spots and I'd hate to be the one causing the person to think "bloody hell I wish she'd hurry up and move. There is a whole bus free"..."
That's what was going through my mind, if she thought I was weird for not moving  |
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"Depends where the open seat is.
Just across the aisle then shuffle across you'll both be more comfortable.
If it's 5 seats back you'll look weird and everyone will assume the person you're fleeing from has something wrong with them."
Well the whole bus eventually |
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"So my car is currently off the road and I had to use the bus earlier.
When I first got on I had to sit next to someone as it was busy but by the time I got off it was only me and the person I was sitting next to.
I didn't want to look weird by moving as soon as seats on their own became available but the more empty the bus got I became feeling more awkward and wondering if I looked like a weirdo still sitting next to a stranger with the whole bus to ourselves
Should I have moved or is that weirder than just staying where I was? "
Moved as soon as a seat was free.
If you were next to me I’d have asked you if you gave or took. |
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"Depends where the open seat is.
Just across the aisle then shuffle across you'll both be more comfortable.
If it's 5 seats back you'll look weird and everyone will assume the person you're fleeing from has something wrong with them.
Well the whole bus eventually "
Did you both get off the same stop too  |
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"So my car is currently off the road and I had to use the bus earlier.
When I first got on I had to sit next to someone as it was busy but by the time I got off it was only me and the person I was sitting next to.
I didn't want to look weird by moving as soon as seats on their own became available but the more empty the bus got I became feeling more awkward and wondering if I looked like a weirdo still sitting next to a stranger with the whole bus to ourselves
Should I have moved or is that weirder than just staying where I was?
Moved as soon as a seat was free.
If you were next to me I’d have asked you if you gave or took. "
If I had been sitting next to you and you said that I would have just moved seats |
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"Depends where the open seat is.
Just across the aisle then shuffle across you'll both be more comfortable.
If it's 5 seats back you'll look weird and everyone will assume the person you're fleeing from has something wrong with them.
Well the whole bus eventually
Did you both get off the same stop too "
I would have freaked
I got off before her, I don't say that often |
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"So my car is currently off the road and I had to use the bus earlier.
When I first got on I had to sit next to someone as it was busy but by the time I got off it was only me and the person I was sitting next to.
I didn't want to look weird by moving as soon as seats on their own became available but the more empty the bus got I became feeling more awkward and wondering if I looked like a weirdo still sitting next to a stranger with the whole bus to ourselves
Should I have moved or is that weirder than just staying where I was?
Moved as soon as a seat was free.
If you were next to me I’d have asked you if you gave or took.
If I had been sitting next to you and you said that I would have just moved seats "
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"So my car is currently off the road and I had to use the bus earlier.
When I first got on I had to sit next to someone as it was busy but by the time I got off it was only me and the person I was sitting next to.
I didn't want to look weird by moving as soon as seats on their own became available but the more empty the bus got I became feeling more awkward and wondering if I looked like a weirdo still sitting next to a stranger with the whole bus to ourselves
Should I have moved or is that weirder than just staying where I was?
Moved as soon as a seat was free.
If you were next to me I’d have asked you if you gave or took.
If I had been sitting next to you and you said that I would have just moved seats
And that is my point! "
I don't think I was at risk of her saying that to me |
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You should have got to the point of it being so awkward that you should have either:-
Got off straight away and waited for another bus
Or
Bring it up about how awkward it is making the situation even more awkward, so you have to get off
K |
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"You should have got to the point of it being so awkward that you should have either:-
Got off straight away and waited for another bus
Or
Bring it up about how awkward it is making the situation even more awkward, so you have to get off
K"
I did talk to her a bit when the couple of loud mouths got off and it was quiet
I almost asked her if it was weird I was still sitting next to her but I thought I'd look weird asking |
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This was me a few weeks ago, it's that sick feeling you get at each stop hen you see the people get on the bus and scan the seats, eyes fix on you, nopity nope, no thank you. My invisible support friend is sat there! Absolutely not!
I have my car back now thank goodness |
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Eugh, I've been using buses here n there since I've been on maternity as Mr J has the car and I honestly hate them, before that I'd not been on one for yearsssss, even put my card on the wrong part of the machine to pay the first time 
But in reply to your question OP, yes I would've moved otherwise I'd of felt more awkward if I didn't lol
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"This was me a few weeks ago, it's that sick feeling you get at each stop hen you see the people get on the bus and scan the seats, eyes fix on you, nopity nope, no thank you. My invisible support friend is sat there! Absolutely not!
I have my car back now thank goodness "
I would have been more comfortable if was the one already sitting and someone sat next to me |
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"Eugh, I've been using buses here n there since I've been on maternity as Mr J has the car and I honestly hate them, before that I'd not been on one for yearsssss, even put my card on the wrong part of the machine to pay the first time
But in reply to your question OP, yes I would've moved otherwise I'd of felt more awkward if I didn't lol
Miss S x"
I would have been asking you if I smelt bad if it was you |
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I’ve been in this dilemma before on the megabus….so awkward as I totally over think it haha! But once I got the courage I would move, but then assume the person then thought I was terribly rude haha |
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"I’ve been in this dilemma before on the megabus….so awkward as I totally over think it haha! But once I got the courage I would move, but then assume the person then thought I was terribly rude haha "
I think it's one of those situations where you probably look weird either way |
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"Eugh, I've been using buses here n there since I've been on maternity as Mr J has the car and I honestly hate them, before that I'd not been on one for yearsssss, even put my card on the wrong part of the machine to pay the first time
But in reply to your question OP, yes I would've moved otherwise I'd of felt more awkward if I didn't lol
Miss S x
I would have been asking you if I smelt bad if it was you "
Wait, what, why
Miss S x |
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What a valuable thread! I’ve been in that position many times. Next time I’ll come back here for tips.
What about when a better spot in a cafe opens up. Do you find an excuse for the person next to you who kept making small talk, or just move and never look back? |
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"Eugh, I've been using buses here n there since I've been on maternity as Mr J has the car and I honestly hate them, before that I'd not been on one for yearsssss, even put my card on the wrong part of the machine to pay the first time
But in reply to your question OP, yes I would've moved otherwise I'd of felt more awkward if I didn't lol
Miss S x
I would have been asking you if I smelt bad if it was you
Wait, what, why
Miss S x"
Well I'd hope you recognised me and asked if I wanted to move to the back of the bus with you  |
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"What a valuable thread! I’ve been in that position many times. Next time I’ll come back here for tips.
What about when a better spot in a cafe opens up. Do you find an excuse for the person next to you who kept making small talk, or just move and never look back? "
Exactly, these are real dilemmas we're talking about |
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over a year ago
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Some creepy shit. Up there with standing next to me in toilet. Obviously this doesn’t apply to mixed toilets as I would let women hold whilst I take a piss |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Some creepy shit. Up there with standing next to me in toilet. Obviously this doesn’t apply to mixed toilets as I would let women hold whilst I take a piss "
Yeah and thats not creepy at all!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lmaoooo bless you  I can totally read this was very innocent on your behalf but yes, I would have moved. I fucking hate the bus. "
I’d show you my meme collection on the way to printworks |
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I would have moved as soon as a window seat was available. Most people do move anyway. I'm sorry but I hate people who do this. Last time it happened to me, I just politely said to the woman next to me that there were free seats now. She moved |
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"I would have moved as soon as a window seat was available. Most people do move anyway. I'm sorry but I hate people who do this. Last time it happened to me, I just politely said to the woman next to me that there were free seats now. She moved "
That wouldn't have made me feel awkward at all |
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"lmaoooo bless you I can totally read this was very innocent on your behalf but yes, I would have moved. I fucking hate the bus.
I’d show you my meme collection on the way to printworks"
*inserts that little cute successful kid picture here*
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"I would have moved as soon as a window seat was available. Most people do move anyway. I'm sorry but I hate people who do this. Last time it happened to me, I just politely said to the woman next to me that there were free seats now. She moved
That wouldn't have made me feel awkward at all "
That's where men and women are different |
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"lmaoooo bless you I can totally read this was very innocent on your behalf but yes, I would have moved. I fucking hate the bus.
Yeah I don't like them either "
At least for next time you know! And another top tip for the bus is don't have a wank unless the bus driver gives you the signal (the signal is usually he crashes the bus into a local dogging spot). |
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"I would have moved as soon as a window seat was available. Most people do move anyway. I'm sorry but I hate people who do this. Last time it happened to me, I just politely said to the woman next to me that there were free seats now. She moved
That wouldn't have made me feel awkward at all
That's where men and women are different "
I'd probably only say it if they smell bad |
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"lmaoooo bless you I can totally read this was very innocent on your behalf but yes, I would have moved. I fucking hate the bus.
Yeah I don't like them either
At least for next time you know! And another top tip for the bus is don't have a wank unless the bus driver gives you the signal (the signal is usually he crashes the bus into a local dogging spot)."
If I find myself next to you then I won't be playing with myself  |
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Do what I do. Bring your own chair (on wheels) and park it in the special space at the front. Main downside is when standing people's arses or groins are in your face when it's busy, but you never have to sit next to anyone else! |
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"Do what I do. Bring your own chair (on wheels) and park it in the special space at the front. Main downside is when standing people's arses or groins are in your face when it's busy, but you never have to sit next to anyone else!"
I don't fancy random groins and ass in my face |
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