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I think flowers and chocolates are a little outdated, as is the notion of wining and dining.
But sharing nice food with someone will never grow old for me. It doesn't need to involve a fancy restaurant |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Do I think romance is dead?
No.
I think that it's such a personal, fluid construct; while it may appear on the surface that the halcyon days of romance are long gone and simply a marketing tool/feature in songs/films, I think romance still exists.
Romance might be buying someone their favourite book. Brushing their hair after a long day because they're too tired to do it. Replying to their long waffle with kindness because they know it means something to them. Buying someone their favourite brand of pen because you saw it and thought of them.
Wining and dining still exists. But what's truly romantic is knowing someone and tailoring your affectionate gestures to them. Because you know them, care about them and want to make them happy.
I think everyone has a slightly romantic heart, even if they deny it. We never quite give up hope on romance. On love. |
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I don’t think it’s dead. Maybe the out of date notion of what romance is might be dead. It’s evolved into other things where people have so many more different ideas of what romance is and how to display it. |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"I think flowers and chocolates are a little outdated, as is the notion of wining and dining.
But sharing nice food with someone will never grow old for me. It doesn't need to involve a fancy restaurant "
I love to cook for people |
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"I think flowers and chocolates are a little outdated, as is the notion of wining and dining.
But sharing nice food with someone will never grow old for me. It doesn't need to involve a fancy restaurant "
I wholeheartedly agree with this. It needn’t be a ‘special’ day dedicated to it either. |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"Do I think romance is dead?
No.
I think that it's such a personal, fluid construct; while it may appear on the surface that the halcyon days of romance are long gone and simply a marketing tool/feature in songs/films, I think romance still exists.
Romance might be buying someone their favourite book. Brushing their hair after a long day because they're too tired to do it. Replying to their long waffle with kindness because they know it means something to them. Buying someone their favourite brand of pen because you saw it and thought of them.
Wining and dining still exists. But what's truly romantic is knowing someone and tailoring your affectionate gestures to them. Because you know them, care about them and want to make them happy.
I think everyone has a slightly romantic heart, even if they deny it. We never quite give up hope on romance. On love. "
Words can be powerful and convey so much. |
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"I think flowers and chocolates are a little outdated, as is the notion of wining and dining.
But sharing nice food with someone will never grow old for me. It doesn't need to involve a fancy restaurant "
Agreed sharing food is good,
I'm quite partial to a bag of cheese & onion crisps.. 
What can I say I'm a cheap date |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
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Flowers? here are some beautiful things i had killed to give you so you can watch them rot, they cost just as much as your dress.
Whats romantic about food we eat everyday?
I think what has happened is romance has evolved, so i agree with the poster above, wining and dining, flowers and chocolates thats what tv taught us romance was way back at the statt of last century, i don't think many people come to Fab to be romanced.
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"Do I think romance is dead?
No.
I think that it's such a personal, fluid construct; while it may appear on the surface that the halcyon days of romance are long gone and simply a marketing tool/feature in songs/films, I think romance still exists.
Romance might be buying someone their favourite book. Brushing their hair after a long day because they're too tired to do it. Replying to their long waffle with kindness because they know it means something to them. Buying someone their favourite brand of pen because you saw it and thought of them.
Wining and dining still exists. But what's truly romantic is knowing someone and tailoring your affectionate gestures to them. Because you know them, care about them and want to make them happy.
I think everyone has a slightly romantic heart, even if they deny it. We never quite give up hope on romance. On love.
Words can be powerful and convey so much."
Totally agree, words can be so powerful.  |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
Flowers? here are some beautiful things i had killed to give you so you can watch them rot, they cost just as much as your dress.
Whats romantic about food we eat everyday?
I think what has happened is romance has evolved, so i agree with the poster above, wining and dining, flowers and chocolates thats what tv taught us romance was way back at the statt of last century, i don't think many people come to Fab to be romanced.
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Surely that's a bit of an assumption?...
Everyone is here for their own reasons, why shouldn't romance be one of them?.. |
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over a year ago
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Valentine's Day is just a made up commercial event aimed at getting people to spend money.
If you want to buy your significant other something do it, don't wait for a day some marketing executive tells you to wait for.
To answer the OP, no, I don't think romance is dead. |
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We not celebrating Valentine’s Day. It’s known as overpriced bullshit day in our house. But that doesn’t mean romance is dead I show my wife I love her every single day not just in the 14th of feb and big gestures mean nothing to me, keep your materialistic shit, it’s the little things. The random I love you, cuddle, ass grab, holding hands. The look in her eyes that’s says “ I got you “
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
Flowers? here are some beautiful things i had killed to give you so you can watch them rot, they cost just as much as your dress.
Whats romantic about food we eat everyday?
I think what has happened is romance has evolved, so i agree with the poster above, wining and dining, flowers and chocolates thats what tv taught us romance was way back at the statt of last century, i don't think many people come to Fab to be romanced.
Surely that's a bit of an assumption?...
Everyone is here for their own reasons, why shouldn't romance be one of them?.. "
if you aee here for romance, but on the forum questioning if romance is dead.. that kind of confirms my suspicions, no? |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"Do I think romance is dead?
No.
I think that it's such a personal, fluid construct; while it may appear on the surface that the halcyon days of romance are long gone and simply a marketing tool/feature in songs/films, I think romance still exists.
Romance might be buying someone their favourite book. Brushing their hair after a long day because they're too tired to do it. Replying to their long waffle with kindness because they know it means something to them. Buying someone their favourite brand of pen because you saw it and thought of them.
Wining and dining still exists. But what's truly romantic is knowing someone and tailoring your affectionate gestures to them. Because you know them, care about them and want to make them happy.
I think everyone has a slightly romantic heart, even if they deny it. We never quite give up hope on romance. On love.
Words can be powerful and convey so much.
Totally agree, words can be so powerful. "
That's why I write poems x |
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Romance is subjective. If you are romantic then romance cannot die. It does not survive without romantics and romantic action.
Wining and dining isn't outdated, nor are flowers or chocolates but the manner in which they are given could be outdated.
St. Valentine's is nothing but a money making exercise as are all the other 'Hallmark' days. |
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"Not at all but for us being together so long those things are nice but more a cuppa in bed or something thoughtful means more than the typical flowers etc xx but they are nice too xx"
 exactly this. All to easy to get lazy and comfortable, forgetting to still give each other attention all year round not just the commercial days we feel obliged to. Cuppa and a hug or bit of affection goes a long way x |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago
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No I do t think romance is dead at all. I have had some lovely encounters with very romantic men who’ve displayed their romantic side to me. I’m just not very good at giving it back and displaying affection but it doesn’t mean I don’t feel  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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If your perception of romance is purely wining and dining then I imagine it is dead for a lot of people but if you see romance in a wider context, small acts of loveliness- just because you can, gentle touches of a hand or an arm with eye contact full of love and do on, then I would say romance is very much alive and well  thankfully. |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
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"No I do t think romance is dead at all. I have had some lovely encounters with very romantic men who’ve displayed their romantic side to me. I’m just not very good at giving it back and displaying affection but it doesn’t mean I don’t feel "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nope don't bother! We probably didn't after the 4 or 5 year mark of being together, not done it for years and we've been together 12 years this year. We don't need one day to show we love eachother.
I think it's good for dating, new relationships etc and good on anyone who wants to it, just we choose not too
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do I think romance is dead?
No.
I think that it's such a personal, fluid construct; while it may appear on the surface that the halcyon days of romance are long gone and simply a marketing tool/feature in songs/films, I think romance still exists.
Romance might be buying someone their favourite book. Brushing their hair after a long day because they're too tired to do it. Replying to their long waffle with kindness because they know it means something to them. Buying someone their favourite brand of pen because you saw it and thought of them.
Wining and dining still exists. But what's truly romantic is knowing someone and tailoring your affectionate gestures to them. Because you know them, care about them and want to make them happy.
I think everyone has a slightly romantic heart, even if they deny it. We never quite give up hope on romance. On love. "
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Romance is far from dead hubby is always doing little things to make sure that I feel special eg candles set up for me to use while in the bath, little post it notes with cute silly lovely messages and drawings |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No.
Romance is a huge turn on, it's to know someone has you on their mind, to know they've been thinking about you in your absence. It's not just a box of chocolates or a bunch of flowers. It's the little personal things that no-one would think of. Well that's what it is to me! I like a little romance. |
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"Not at all. Romance is still very much alive and kicking. Not flowers, but the small gestures that are done without hesitation, the words that are spoken. "
I should of mentioned that these are done all year long, not just Valentines Day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope don't bother! We probably didn't after the 4 or 5 year mark of being together, not done it for years and we've been together 12 years this year. We don't need one day to show we love eachother.
I think it's good for dating, new relationships etc and good on anyone who wants to it, just we choose not too
Miss S x"
I wrote that as I read the post as if it was just valentines day.
We don't bother with valentines day but we still always make time for eachother, go for food, drinks or whatever that may be. We certainly wouldn't say romance is dead, not in our case anyway
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
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We often get each other small gifts for no reason. I think romance is about more than gifts and meals out though. It's a windscreen defrosted while you're in the shower, a cup of coffee in bed that sort of thing |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
We often get each other small gifts for no reason. I think romance is about more than gifts and meals out though. It's a windscreen defrosted while you're in the shower, a cup of coffee in bed that sort of thing "
awwww he sounds lovely  |
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I think the commercialisation of Valentine's Day along with the associated price hiking has put a lot of people off doing anything "special" for the day. Just go for nice meals out any other day of the year, what difference does February 14th make?
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
We often get each other small gifts for no reason. I think romance is about more than gifts and meals out though. It's a windscreen defrosted while you're in the shower, a cup of coffee in bed that sort of thing awwww he sounds lovely "
He is but how do you know it's not me doing this stuff? |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
We often get each other small gifts for no reason. I think romance is about more than gifts and meals out though. It's a windscreen defrosted while you're in the shower, a cup of coffee in bed that sort of thing awwww he sounds lovely
He is but how do you know it's not me doing this stuff? "
lol true..... Is it?  |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
We often get each other small gifts for no reason. I think romance is about more than gifts and meals out though. It's a windscreen defrosted while you're in the shower, a cup of coffee in bed that sort of thing awwww he sounds lovely
He is but how do you know it's not me doing this stuff? lol true..... Is it? "
It's about even with us I think. He gets coffee and breakfast in bed nearly every day, I suppose true romance would be me serving it naked and offering a blow job at the same time. Lets take it steady, we've only been together 42 years, one step at a time... |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
Flowers? here are some beautiful things i had killed to give you so you can watch them rot, they cost just as much as your dress.
Whats romantic about food we eat everyday?
I think what has happened is romance has evolved, so i agree with the poster above, wining and dining, flowers and chocolates thats what tv taught us romance was way back at the statt of last century, i don't think many people come to Fab to be romanced.
Surely that's a bit of an assumption?...
Everyone is here for their own reasons, why shouldn't romance be one of them?..
if you aee here for romance, but on the forum questioning if romance is dead.. that kind of confirms my suspicions, no?"
No...
It was just a light hearted question...
As far as I am aware the Forums are here to post things on...serious, funny, etc..
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
We often get each other small gifts for no reason. I think romance is about more than gifts and meals out though. It's a windscreen defrosted while you're in the shower, a cup of coffee in bed that sort of thing awwww he sounds lovely
He is but how do you know it's not me doing this stuff? lol true..... Is it?
It's about even with us I think. He gets coffee and breakfast in bed nearly every day, I suppose true romance would be me serving it naked and offering a blow job at the same time. Lets take it steady, we've only been together 42 years, one step at a time... "
Awee that's lovely... |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
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I'd like to think not, but I don't tend to focus on marketed dates and try to be spontaneous all year. Having said that it does require a partner to lavish romantic attention on  |
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"Keep the flowers and chocolates, I'd rather go out somewhere for the day or weekend and explore new places. "
My vibe too. Nothing like booking a nice hotel together and inviting half of fab to join  |
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"Do I think romance is dead?
No.
I think that it's such a personal, fluid construct; while it may appear on the surface that the halcyon days of romance are long gone and simply a marketing tool/feature in songs/films, I think romance still exists.
Romance might be buying someone their favourite book. Brushing their hair after a long day because they're too tired to do it. Replying to their long waffle with kindness because they know it means something to them. Buying someone their favourite brand of pen because you saw it and thought of them.
Wining and dining still exists. But what's truly romantic is knowing someone and tailoring your affectionate gestures to them. Because you know them, care about them and want to make them happy.
I think everyone has a slightly romantic heart, even if they deny it. We never quite give up hope on romance. On love. "
Perfectly put......
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"If your perception of romance is purely wining and dining then I imagine it is dead for a lot of people but if you see romance in a wider context, small acts of loveliness- just because you can, gentle touches of a hand or an arm with eye contact full of love and do on, then I would say romance is very much alive and well thankfully. "
I just used those as examples,
It's so lovely to read the things people do...makes me go all gooey inside.. |
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"With Valentines day approaching do you think the art of romance is dead?....
Do people wine & dine someone now?..
Give them flowers or chocolates or little gifts for no reason?..
Flowers? here are some beautiful things i had killed to give you so you can watch them rot, they cost just as much as your dress.
Whats romantic about food we eat everyday?
I think what has happened is romance has evolved, so i agree with the poster above, wining and dining, flowers and chocolates thats what tv taught us romance was way back at the statt of last century, i don't think many people come to Fab to be romanced.
Surely that's a bit of an assumption?...
Everyone is here for their own reasons, why shouldn't romance be one of them?..
if you aee here for romance, but on the forum questioning if romance is dead.. that kind of confirms my suspicions, no?
No...
It was just a light hearted question...
As far as I am aware the Forums are here to post things on...serious, funny, etc..
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Conventional generic approaches to Romance are not for me.
I dont think a dozen red roses is in anyway Romantic but then... I always struggle with the concept of Romance because....what even is it? Blake and Shelley and Gothic novels.. how the hell did we get from there to here....?
Unconventional, thoughtful and intimate suits me better. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I always buy flowers on a first date / social
I'll get the bill if it's a meal
I used to buy flowers and gifts for no reason for my ex.
So for me no it's not dead."
I don’t do anything like that but I went on a date recently and messed up the arrangements, part language barrier, we met 3 hours late so I’d got her a little gift to say sorry.
If I’m really into someone I’ll often buy her random gifts for me! Make up, underwear , clothes etc |
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I think romance lives in that little part of your consciousness where the person you care for resides 24/7 and if you see a thing or think of them randomly whatever you do/buy/say as a result is intended to communicate to them that they were in your thoughts and heart at that moment and every moment. That, even when apart, they're still with them.
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