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What one thing can instantly put you off?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Was catting to this guy earlier. Liked the profile and liked his pics. Conversation was going well but then he went and done it. That one thing that instantly puts me off (surprisingly not a cock pic) he used the word fanny. I almost threw up in my mouth.

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that’s mine too.

But also - mention of the word Daddy.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

Oftentimes men when they're trying to be dominant with me... I just can't take them seriously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use of any of the below words/phrases.

Heehee

Tits/titties

Mmmmmm

Baby

Bae

I bet you taste gorgeous

Pussy

Just any sex talk really.

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By *oxy jWoman over a year ago

somerset

think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unnecessary swearing or crudeness. I'm not a prude, honest!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unnecessary swearing or crudeness. I'm not a prude, honest! "

Well fuck, that's me out.

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By *oo..Woman over a year ago

Boo's World

Most people do something if I'm 100% being honest!

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

When they tell me to be honest and are a lying deceitful sack of shit themselves is usually a good one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

Try being a man in real life. And a white one as well. We have it the worst!

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Most people do something if I'm 100% being honest! "

Try being 67% honest and see if your answer changes!?!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unnecessary swearing or crudeness. I'm not a prude, honest!

Well fuck, that's me out. "

Lol, see funny is okay. It's a fine line really.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

Try being a man in real life. And a white one as well. We have it the worst!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

Try being a man in real life. And a white one as well. We have it the worst!

(I was being sarcastic)

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By *oo..Woman over a year ago

Boo's World

"Most people do something if I'm 100% being honest!

Try being 67% honest and see if your answer changes!?!?

No, if this is the male half you still talk too quiet! Ha ha

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I’d love to shag your fanny OP

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

Cock pics &

I want to do xxx to you (instant turn off)

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rex Holes. If I need to get myself together then I bring up profile up.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"Rex Holes. If I need to get myself together then I bring up profile up."

I like your pierced nip

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Rex Holes. If I need to get myself together then I bring up profile up.

I like your pierced nip

A great couple of additions huh?

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By *batMan over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

In real life .......

Bad smells.

Gbat

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

Going in to graphic detail about what they want to do to me…. Yawn! I try to be nice and explain how many times I have read/ heard it all before.

Mention of mummy role play

Mansplaining

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"When they tell me to be honest and are a lying deceitful sack of shit themselves is usually a good one!

Yes!!! Absolutely.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

If someone starts talking about someone else. A lot.

I'm not a swinger. I value some discretion. It also doesn't really do anything for me. I can be happy for someone and think great but... I don't know. It's not going to have me leaving a slug trail of arousal in my seat.

If you're talking to someone and you don't have an established friendship, maybe get that first if they're as odd as me. Or check your audience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When they tell me to be honest and are a lying deceitful sack of shit themselves is usually a good one!

Yes!!! Absolutely. "

Sounds eerily familiar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was catting to this guy earlier. Liked the profile and liked his pics. Conversation was going well but then he went and done it. That one thing that instantly puts me off (surprisingly not a cock pic) he used the word fanny. I almost threw up in my mouth.

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?"

Similar but I've started to hear guys call it a muffin a lot recently and that is on my mind even worse because it's an icky word but also sounds completely pathetic

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By *ORBCouple over a year ago

Dundalk

When they go into detail about what they want to do to me (Bo) and completely ignore the fact that this is a couple's profile or decide that we should be a cuck couple to suit what they want

Bo.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan over a year ago

IPSWICH

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?"

Are you sure he wasn't American?

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By *hyme2020Woman over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

[Removed by poster at 30/01/23 16:55:16]

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By *hyme2020Woman over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

Any kind of Daddy talk

Any kind of mummy talk

The use of the word panties. Just don’t like it at all.

Anyone mentions drugs it’s an automatic block.

I don’t mind cock pics, but I hate unprotected pics. Bad grammar. Total grammar snob here. Sorry, but just no!

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By *aximum_funMan over a year ago

West Herts

Tricky isn't it, I think so much relies on reading the profile and responding in kind, but still easy to miss the spot.

Some profiles will say "tell me what you want to do to me", in which case I guess sex talk is warranted from the off.

Unless someone is going to be explicit about what they want, you're always going to be feeling your way through it to an extent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well if I say it here they'll know & start faking around it.

Then how will I know they're not for me

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By *idnight_Express69Man over a year ago

Rochdale

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

Try being a man in real life. And a white one as well. We have it the worst!

* checks notes * yeah, you mustn’t have got the memo about your white privilege.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Any of the following words used unironically:

Fanny

Daddy

Babygirl

Mistress

Goddess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?"

Harsh. Could you not just tell him that you don't like that word?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Use of any of the below words/phrases.

Heehee

Tits/titties

Mmmmmm

Baby

Bae

I bet you taste gorgeous

Pussy

Just any sex talk really.

The knitting circle is that way...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This thread explains so much.....

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By *linyMan over a year ago

Manchester/London

10 pictures of feet on their profile and nothing else.

School girl uniform, describing themselves as mental, baddest bitch around etc

Anyone that plays bareback(not with their own partner)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Use of any of the below words/phrases.

Heehee

Tits/titties

Mmmmmm

Baby

Bae

I bet you taste gorgeous

Pussy

Just any sex talk really.

The knitting circle is that way...

The sexiest men are the ones that don't bang on about sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

Try being a man in real life. And a white one as well. We have it the worst!

* checks notes * yeah, you mustn’t have got the memo about your white privilege. "

Yeah my secretary is useless at sending my memos too.

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By *hirleyMan over a year ago

somewhere

Woa, how can you not like the word fanny, I say it for lolz mostly but it's just one of them old funny words. Fairly tame. Could imagine "pussy" gets more dislike

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By *ig_eric_tionMan over a year ago

IPSWICH

Normally attitude will put me off. Arrogance, rudeness, hypocrisy etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you put lol at the end of any sentence it's conversation over with

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By *alamity clungeWoman over a year ago

Clungetown

Arrogance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mukbang

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By *ralius ExperticusMan over a year ago

Birmingham, London , Manchester

Women or couples saying, " single men between 33-49 only".Fact - most men you go with on here will be married, and trust me you may say you can tell but you can't! Also, specifying such age ranges makes no sense. I've met women in their 30's who are 'older in body and mind" than women I've met in their 50's ... So people generalising is a big turnoff!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women or couples saying, " single men between 33-49 only".Fact - most men you go with on here will be married, and trust me you may say you can tell but you can't! Also, specifying such age ranges makes no sense. I've met women in their 30's who are 'older in body and mind" than women I've met in their 50's ... So people generalising is a big turnoff!"

Weird fact that. I'm 35 and single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Use of any of the below words/phrases.

Heehee

Tits/titties

Mmmmmm

Baby

Bae

I bet you taste gorgeous

Pussy

Just any sex talk really.

The knitting circle is that way...

The sexiest men are the ones that don't bang on about sex."

I get that, but to condemn someone for using a common term that you happen to not like, harsh I say....

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

Single word or sentence replies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single word or sentence replies. "

That gets you ignored/deleted/blocked apparently. Fuck it......not worth the effort...

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Arrogance. "

Your hair looks different from before

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By *atricia ParnelWoman over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Pushy people

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By *ookie46Woman over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

When they say “Don’t be shy” or “I take it your shy” when I don’t answer a message immediately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?"

My instant put off..in a good way ... is not receiving a reply from a read message , they obviously have no interest so everything ends there and then, as l said it's in a good way and that's the way the cookie crumbles .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

folkstone

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

So yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You SHOULD meet me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?"

being clingy

having a tantrum

name calling if you wont meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Use of any of the below words/phrases.

Heehee

Tits/titties

Mmmmmm

Baby

Bae

I bet you taste gorgeous

Pussy

Just any sex talk really.

Im not into HEHEHE either! Fucking ridiculous blokes sounding like little girls

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"Pushy people"

This, biggest turn off ever!! Shitty follow up messages do us a favour actually, then we know they don't have the patience or respect needed. X

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

This!!! The entitlement is real!

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Use of any of the below words/phrases.

Heehee

Tits/titties

Mmmmmm

Baby

Bae

I bet you taste gorgeous

Pussy

Just any sex talk really.

All of the above and squirting

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

I have this problem with bald men...

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

I have this problem with bald men...

"Just close your eyes"

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By *ananaman41Man over a year ago

Dublin

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

Try being a man in real life. And a white one as well. We have it the worst!

* checks notes * yeah, you mustn’t have got the memo about your white privilege. "

What notes are they?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Use of any of the below words/phrases.

Heehee

Tits/titties

Mmmmmm

Baby

Bae

I bet you taste gorgeous

Pussy

Just any sex talk really.

Im not into HEHEHE either! Fucking ridiculous blokes sounding like little girls"

I just tend to say it Michael Jackson style in my head, kinda ruins the moment.

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By *ananaman41Man over a year ago

Dublin

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?

What?

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By *aximum_funMan over a year ago

West Herts

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

That's brilliant, who knows better what you like? You, or some random internet stranger?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

I have this problem with bald men...

"Just close your eyes"

Give me your hand, darling, do you feel your heart beating , do you understand.

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

folkstone

Rudeness

Entitlement

Arrogance

I like kind and funny (in any order)

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

folkstone

"Rudeness

Entitlement

Arrogance

I like kind and funny (in any order)

Oh and did I mention opinionated

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By *irginLad32Man over a year ago

Catford

People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?

What? "

He’s put off someone by not getting a response from them, but he sees it as a positive.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

I have this problem with bald men...

"Just close your eyes"

Give me your hand, darling, do you feel your heart beating , do you understand."

Epic tune

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me. "

Calm down lad!

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By *irginLad32Man over a year ago

Catford

"I got a message off a man saying how he needed to tell someone his secret that his auntie used go in his room n abuse him as a kid!!!

Wtf !!"

As the buddha once said

What

The

Actual

Fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

I have this problem with bald men...

"Just close your eyes"

Give me your hand, darling, do you feel your heart beating , do you understand."

Just Pete will be so proud of you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And a new one - people who argue with you about your preferences

I have this problem with bald men...

"Just close your eyes"

Give me your hand, darling, do you feel your heart beating , do you understand.

Just Pete will be so proud of you

I'm slightly worried for me.

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By *hyme2020Woman over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

"I got a message off a man saying how he needed to tell someone his secret that his auntie used go in his room n abuse him as a kid!!!

Wtf !!"

Oh my god I got a message like this last year sometimes and he said he had to tell someone something and he felt like he could trust me!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got a message off a man saying how he needed to tell someone his secret that his auntie used go in his room n abuse him as a kid!!!

Wtf !!

Oh my god I got a message like this last year sometimes and he said he had to tell someone something and he felt like he could trust me!! "

This makes me really sad

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By *alamity clungeWoman over a year ago

Clungetown

A right moany cunt too.

I hate negativity. It dulls my sparkle.

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By *hyme2020Woman over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

"I got a message off a man saying how he needed to tell someone his secret that his auntie used go in his room n abuse him as a kid!!!

Wtf !!

Oh my god I got a message like this last year sometimes and he said he had to tell someone something and he felt like he could trust me!!

It’s very sad if it’s true. If not, and just attention seeking, it’s horrible. I can’t remember exactly what happened in the end, but he definitely disappeared

This makes me really sad

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By *ohn KanakaMan over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Vulgarity.

And Tories obviously

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By *itty_gizmoCouple over a year ago

Mordor

The offer of a female friend to try and sweeten the deal

Sharing content I didn't ask for

Any talk about their length

Talking AT me rather than to me

Talking as if I'm theirs

Going into detail out of nowhere of what they'd do to me

Well that was longer than I thought

K x

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By *ldbutrandyMan over a year ago

West Midlands

If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

I'm not saying it's wrong. It's just the way it is. If a woman has a choice of a hundred men, the slightest thing will push her choice one way or the other. In real life we come across people every day that do / say things we don't like/ agree with. but unlike on here we cant dismis them.

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By *alamity clungeWoman over a year ago

Clungetown

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

I think it's more likely that some women just don't have the time or desire to give folk the benefit of the doubt or try to decipher meaning in messages when their inboxes are bursting.

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By *irginLad32Man over a year ago

Catford

"Vulgarity.

And Tories obviously "

I can't stand lefties and cyclists. Wonder why. Tories are the lesser of two evils. Cyclists are just self entitled pricks.

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

But they make it hard for themselves (excuse the pun)

Maybe if they were a little more thoughtful and polite, and used less crass terminology, they'd get a bit further?

I will quite happily dismiss people in real life if they say and do things I find repulsive.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Pretty much any dirty talk, not our thing over messages... however face to face flirty and dirty is a entirely different ball game

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dirty talk in a first message

using words like 'honey darling babe hun'....

thats a big no no you don't know me

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By *ananaman41Man over a year ago

Dublin

"Vulgarity.

And Tories obviously

I can't stand lefties and cyclists. Wonder why. Tories are the lesser of two evils. Cyclists are just self entitled pricks. "

I cycle a lot, but i have to agree, a lot of cyclists are horrendous and you only realise it when you get back behind the wheel of a car.

As for the first bit, i feel sorry for anyone who shows disdain for someone purely because of their political persuasion

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By *ohn KanakaMan over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

Yes but in real life they are also unlikely to fuck people who say things they dislike.

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By *ananaman41Man over a year ago

Dublin

"People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me. "

Do you not have people over that aged blocked from contacting you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Vulgarity.

And Tories obviously "

My bra is Tory blue

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By *ocky82Man over a year ago

Watford

Not smelling nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sex talk

Dick pics in message

Txt spk

Bad grammar /spelling

Breathing

Being straight

Being too gay

Hpw

Mentioning cross dressing interests

Shorter than me

Use wrong brand washing up liquid

Calling people shy while they can’t even show their face on here (tip just fuck off)

Treating people like a utility (free now? I’m horny)

Gender politics

Lists

Using etc end of sentences

Etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't be shy", makes me drier than the Sahara

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

That’s why I’m going to be a woman starting next week.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Oh!

"Mmmmmmmmmmmmm"

That's an instant ick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh!

"Mmmmmmmmmmmmm"

That's an instant ick."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

That’s why I’m going to be a woman starting next week. "

You poor fellas you really do have to jump through hoops , glad I’m a woman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As I’m a “creep and so fucking desperate…”. Nothing puts me off.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Think it's bad attitude rather than a pic, word or phrase.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh!

"Mmmmmmmmmmmmm"

That's an instant ick."

That’s a delete and block so instantaneous I’ve almost blocked them before they’ve sent the message. It’s beyond ick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

That’s why I’m going to be a woman starting next week.

You poor fellas you really do have to jump through hoops , glad I’m a woman "

But we don’t have to. Profiles ask, but we don’t HAVE to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"think guys try to impress and by doing so often slip up ... id hate to be a guy on here i really would

That’s why I’m going to be a woman starting next week.

You poor fellas you really do have to jump through hoops , glad I’m a woman

But we don’t have to. Profiles ask, but we don’t HAVE to.

Very true

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

But they make it hard for themselves (excuse the pun)

Maybe if they were a little more thoughtful and polite, and used less crass terminology, they'd get a bit further?

I will quite happily dismiss people in real life if they say and do things I find repulsive."

I dare say he was using 'fanny' as an attempt at using less crass terminology than he usually uses!

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

Any attempt at sex talk or lengthy “erotica” novel of possible scenarios.

Ugh.

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By *aximum_funMan over a year ago

West Herts

"Sex talk

Dick pics in message

Txt spk

Bad grammar /spelling

Breathing

Being straight

Being too gay

Hpw

Mentioning cross dressing interests

Shorter than me

Use wrong brand washing up liquid

Calling people shy while they can’t even show their face on here (tip just fuck off)

Treating people like a utility (free now? I’m horny)

Gender politics

Lists

Using etc end of sentences

Etc "

This explains why it always starts going south when I mention fairy liquid

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?

Harsh. Could you not just tell him that you don't like that word?"

I did abd he continued to use it. I told him I wasn't kidding but he thought it was funny.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?"

So calling it a sugar puff out then

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

""Don't be shy", makes me drier than the Sahara "

That's so cringe...

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?

Harsh. Could you not just tell him that you don't like that word?

I did abd he continued to use it. I told him I wasn't kidding but he thought it was funny. "

Maybe his 'u' was broke if he thought it was funny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

I didn't say I blocked him. I actually messages him and said I don't like that word and found it was a turn off for me. He massaged back to ask if my fanny was wet? I told him I wasn't kidding and again he used the word so I did eventually block him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Degradation names that are not on my terms.

Bald men.

Text speak.

Pious, uppity types.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any form of closet racism that gets exposed after chatting with someone.

Totally kills it for me..

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By *aximum_funMan over a year ago

West Herts

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?

Harsh. Could you not just tell him that you don't like that word?

I did abd he continued to use it. I told him I wasn't kidding but he thought it was funny.

Maybe his 'u' was broke if he thought it was funny. "

Maybe he was just a cant.

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By *onnie 90Woman over a year ago

Leeds

Males who message saying they want to "ruin" me or "give it to me good". Clearly they think porn is real...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any form of closet racism that gets exposed after chatting with someone.

Totally kills it for me.."

You have a very pretty penis

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By *dalisqueWoman over a year ago

land of make believe

I can be put off by lots of things that others consider insignificant, language is a big one ,even if I am really into someone, incorrect grammar ruins it for me lol x

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By *irginLad32Man over a year ago

Catford

"People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me.

Do you not have people over that aged blocked from contacting you? "
yep but they still get through the filters for some reason. I have it set to over 50s.

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By *irginLad32Man over a year ago

Catford

"Vulgarity.

And Tories obviously

I can't stand lefties and cyclists. Wonder why. Tories are the lesser of two evils. Cyclists are just self entitled pricks.

I cycle a lot, but i have to agree, a lot of cyclists are horrendous and you only realise it when you get back behind the wheel of a car.

As for the first bit, i feel sorry for anyone who shows disdain for someone purely because of their political persuasion"

Well since the original comment felt the need to mention Tories for absolutely no reason, I thought I'd put in my two cents.

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By *avexxMan over a year ago

cheshire

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

"
,, the guy was a total clown,,

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

Imagine being that stupid. Given how many men complain that they can't even get a woman to reply. This guy has a conversation going and shoots himself in the nuts

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman over a year ago

London (She/Her)

When their profile either rants about:

How they’ve been heartbroken but are getting over it now (no, you’re clearly still besotted and weep into your pillow every night)

How women on here are awful/rude/bitches who never met them. The entitlement can be galling.

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By *ove2PlayLincsCouple over a year ago

Gainsborough

Daddy stuff. Or someone who talks like Mrs is some piece of meat.

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By *opman121Man over a year ago

stoke on trent

Smoking like kissing a ashtray

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By * F 2018Couple over a year ago

shropshire

sending too many cock pics

Fanny

One word messages

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By *ananaman41Man over a year ago

Dublin

"People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me.

Do you not have people over that aged blocked from contacting you? yep but they still get through the filters for some reason. I have it set to over 50s. "

That shouldnt be happening, unless youve already been messaging them or winked at them in the past.

Id contact admin if i were you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me.

Do you not have people over that aged blocked from contacting you? yep but they still get through the filters for some reason. I have it set to over 50s.

That shouldnt be happening, unless youve already been messaging them or winked at them in the past.

Id contact admin if i were you"

Can't, too old.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me.

Do you not have people over that aged blocked from contacting you? yep but they still get through the filters for some reason. I have it set to over 50s.

That shouldnt be happening, unless youve already been messaging them or winked at them in the past.

Id contact admin if i were you

Can't, too old. "

I'm joking!!

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By *avexxMan over a year ago

cheshire

"People messaging me who don't meet my meet interests criteria. Ie over 65s. I have no interest in them infact it repulses me.

Do you not have people over that aged blocked from contacting you? yep but they still get through the filters for some reason. I have it set to over 50s.

That shouldnt be happening, unless youve already been messaging them or winked at them in the past.

Id contact admin if i were you

Can't, too old.

I'm joking!!"
,,, very sensitive us oldies

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By *iger4uWoman over a year ago

In my happy place

Panties.

Nope.

Oh and wat size r they .

Instant turn off.

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By *odders88Man over a year ago

Northampton

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?"

“I don’t have Yorkshire Tea bags I’m afraid” is a killer for me

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Any hint of bigotry

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What's your instant put off when messaging someone ?

So calling it a sugar puff out then

Nope that's what my daughters nickname is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men

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By *uby StarCouple over a year ago

Durham

If they mention the word scat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guys who’s pics are about 12 years old. Is not hard to take new pics and update them

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

The word banter

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By *empusMan over a year ago

Poole

"If you put lol at the end of any sentence it's conversation over with"

Thank you. Can’t stand this either, thought it was just me.

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By *itonthesideWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

Finding out about the n’er before mentioned wife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hypocrisy instant killer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blimey reading this thread i realise how easy going i am

Had to pinch myself amd remember it IS actually a sex site

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By *ldbutrandyMan over a year ago

West Midlands

"If anything shows the power women have on a site like this , this post does.

A guy types 1 word that doesn't suit and.....bang. blocked.

Now , if you'd explained that from the start......totally different situation.

He was a ass.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lack of integrity.

A lack of class.

Sleazy choices.

Who they've been with.

Who they associate with.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Bigotry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Continually messaging if we don’t reply. Being pushy. Or a combination of those.

Sometimes we haven’t replied just because we are busy.

‘So are you not free then?’ (After 2 previous messages) just about puts the kibosh on it!

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

The word "play"

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"The word "play"

I agree. It's awful.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Telling me what I will have to do for the, usually in graphic detail. Whilst ignoring my needs.

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By *oubleswing2019Man over a year ago

Colchester

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By *oubleswing2019Man over a year ago

Colchester

Unsolicited humour.

Think about it.

If your very first interaction with someone is them attempting to be funny, then it demonstrates that they value making you laugh more important than they value just talking and listening to you.

You have to ask yourself why this person has taken this initial approach?

You wouldn't got up to a never-met-before canine and immediately start tickling its belly would you ? It might not like it for a start.

Present the hand, let it sniff you, allow it to decide if you are friend, foe or a tasty snack. Tummy rubs might be allowed to emerge later, but going straight in with comedy is insincere and, well, cringe-worthy.

(I hated using a canine analogy for various reasons, but fundamentally we're just animals ourselves and I think we forget that quite a lot of the time. But that's a topic for another thread, I feel).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unsolicited humour.

Think about it.

If your very first interaction with someone is them attempting to be funny, then it demonstrates that they value making you laugh more important than they value just talking and listening to you.

You have to ask yourself why this person has taken this initial approach?

You wouldn't got up to a never-met-before canine and immediately start tickling its belly would you ? It might not like it for a start.

(I hated using a canine analogy for various reasons, but fundamentally we're just animals ourselves and I think we forget that quite a lot of the time. But that's a topic for another thread, I feel).

This is where it’s hard as we are all different. I love a bit of humour on first approach. In fact our profile invites it.

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By *uby StarCouple over a year ago

Durham

"Unsolicited humour.

Think about it.

If your very first interaction with someone is them attempting to be funny, then it demonstrates that they value making you laugh more important than they value just talking and listening to you.

You have to ask yourself why this person has taken this initial approach?

You wouldn't got up to a never-met-before canine and immediately start tickling its belly would you ? It might not like it for a start.

(I hated using a canine analogy for various reasons, but fundamentally we're just animals ourselves and I think we forget that quite a lot of the time. But that's a topic for another thread, I feel).

I enjoy humour in a message. Laughter is one of life's best tonics so if someone can make me laugh in a message then I think that's a good thing.

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By *ames-77Man over a year ago

milton keynes

Ugly feet

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By *etterdays2021Man over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Shallow people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too many veris

Sex chat

Sex pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too many veris

Sex chat

Sex pics"

Rudeness xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unsolicited humour.

Think about it.

If your very first interaction with someone is them attempting to be funny, then it demonstrates that they value making you laugh more important than they value just talking and listening to you.

You have to ask yourself why this person has taken this initial approach?

You wouldn't got up to a never-met-before canine and immediately start tickling its belly would you ? It might not like it for a start.

(I hated using a canine analogy for various reasons, but fundamentally we're just animals ourselves and I think we forget that quite a lot of the time. But that's a topic for another thread, I feel).

If first invited to sniff someone's arsehole?.. I'll take dad jokes every day of the week instead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ugly feet "

I have fugly teeth & toes!... Fortunately I also have fanny so that makes me Fab gold!

*Copywrite*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unsolicited humour.

Think about it.

If your very first interaction with someone is them attempting to be funny, then it demonstrates that they value making you laugh more important than they value just talking and listening to you.

You have to ask yourself why this person has taken this initial approach?

You wouldn't got up to a never-met-before canine and immediately start tickling its belly would you ? It might not like it for a start.

(I hated using a canine analogy for various reasons, but fundamentally we're just animals ourselves and I think we forget that quite a lot of the time. But that's a topic for another thread, I feel).

That's me fucked.

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By *intiemintieWoman over a year ago

Scottish Borders

Poor spelling (or nasty underwear)

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Any kind of arrogance based around how many options they have in Fab, simply due to the fact they have a vagina...

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By *mily36CWoman over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Overuse of the word 'naughty' like we're all being bad ... why's it naughty and not just fun

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Messages. They put me off immediately. Bloody things

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People who aint straight forward and upfront

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Any sex talk really...no fun.being called babe...hun...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mansplaining !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hows you?" - one liners.

Apostrophe Abuse (see above)

"would of"

I'm either a grammar/spelling nazi or I just find being thick a turn off.

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By *idnight RamblerMan over a year ago

Pershore

Prickliness

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By *ab365XMan over a year ago

Paisley

When you go to the persons house for a meet, & it’s an absolute toilet of a place!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Using the words:

Babe

Mate

And particularly the word hun

When they tell you that they want to "eat you out"

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By *mily36CWoman over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

When they tell you that they want to "eat you out" of house and home "

... times are tough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Profiles that are months and months old and all they have on their bio is "Fill in later"

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