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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There are profiles where the profile pic is a woman with a cock down her throat... Or a pair of naked tits.... Or a gaping fanny..... Or even just a cock....
Someone sees that pic and sends a mail along the lines of "I'd love to cram my hard cock in you"
The person/ people with the profile are offended.
But is it really the fault of the person sending the mail? Should they have sent a polite mail saying they'd love to get to know them?
Or .... are they right in assuming that the person/ people with the profile with a gaping fanny are wanting some sex...... and therefore just tailoring their mail accordingly??
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Suppose it depends how you interpretate the profile and the pics.
Too many display a "do what I say, not what I do" type of attitude 
You'll upset some folk and you'll appeal to others.
There's no right or wrong on here |
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I'd always think it best for a first message to a stranger to be a simple explanation of what you offer and what you are looking for.....
Specifics such as crudity and filth can wait until you know it's wanted or you've gauged humour types etc....
Since when did being a swinger mean you had to dispense of common courtesy?
Mind you ........most of the pics on here make me puke. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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the gaping fanny shot acts as the cave of Ali Baba and represents the possible treasures that lie within and the opportunity to enter.
the original message that contains no text or wrong spelling, that ticks all the right buttons acts as the 'open sesame'...
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"There are profiles where the profile pic is a woman with a cock down her throat... Or a pair of naked tits.... Or a gaping fanny..... Or even just a cock....
Someone sees that pic and sends a mail along the lines of "I'd love to cram my hard cock in you"
The person/ people with the profile are offended.
But is it really the fault of the person sending the mail? Should they have sent a polite mail saying they'd love to get to know them?
Or .... are they right in assuming that the person/ people with the profile with a gaping fanny are wanting some sex...... and therefore just tailoring their mail accordingly??
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I suppose it also depends what impression their profile says ...for instance despite the picture if they state they're not looking for single males then I wouldn't even expect to send an email but if the profile is jokey and tongue in check then the comment might be valid with appropriate smiley.... But a profile pic like that isn't the best choice in my opinion  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"the gaping fanny shot acts as the cave of Ali Baba and represents the possible treasures that lie within and the opportunity to enter.
the original message that contains no text or wrong spelling, that ticks all the right buttons acts as the 'open sesame'...
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Some of them may require you to take a pocket full of rice crispies with you lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Suppose it depends how you interpretate the profile and the pics.
Too many display a "do what I say, not what I do" type of attitude
You'll upset some folk and you'll appeal to others.
There's no right or wrong on here "
i agree with this.
its hit and miss. but i do think those profile with tons of shouting (large text), rules etc are not looking to meet and have these in place to give them the perfect reason not to |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"the gaping fanny shot acts as the cave of Ali Baba and represents the possible treasures that lie within and the opportunity to enter.
the original message that contains no text or wrong spelling, that ticks all the right buttons acts as the 'open sesame'...
Some of them may require you to take a pocket full of rice crispies with you lol"
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I avoid certain profiles with certain pics...........Like Granny said, makes me puke! Do I want to meet people that are happy to show THAT (looks like a slash on a wombles back) to everyone/anyone?...NO I dont!!
Can understand how some (well, men mostly) are attracted to them....
And lets face it, if you are happy showing those kind of pics...Why complain about certain messages you receive?....Exactly what kind of a response were you expecting!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd always think it best for a first message to a stranger to be a simple explanation of what you offer and what you are looking for.....
Specifics such as crudity and filth can wait until you know it's wanted or you've gauged humour types etc....
Since when did being a swinger mean you had to dispense of common courtesy?
Mind you ........most of the pics on here make me puke."
I agree. Not saying that swingers don't deserve courtesy and politeness.
Just when you're faced with a 'puke inducing' pic.... It may make it difficult to compose a suitably polite message.....?!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I avoid certain profiles with certain pics...........Like Granny said, makes me puke! Do I want to meet people that are happy to show THAT (looks like a slash on a wombles back) to everyone/anyone?...NO I dont!!
Can understand how some (well, men mostly) are attracted to them....
And lets face it, if you are happy showing those kind of pics...Why complain about certain messages you receive?....Exactly what kind of a response were you expecting!!
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This is your opinion and others including us will have another - we are here for nsa sex , we advertise just that and are very happy !
Nor are we offended by messages , although we would never send any like those mentioned on this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is something amusing re photos. I remember reading a highly intelligent and articulate posting by a woman then looked up to see her legs gaping and what she had for dinner!
What makes this site special!
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I guess that basically this is a swingers site for swingers. I'd suggest most swingers are after some fun and a bit of a laugh so I would't think many get offended by any kind of message or picture. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are profiles where the profile pic is a woman with a cock down her throat... Or a pair of naked tits.... Or a gaping fanny..... Or even just a cock....
Someone sees that pic and sends a mail along the lines of "I'd love to cram my hard cock in you"
The person/ people with the profile are offended.
But is it really the fault of the person sending the mail? Should they have sent a polite mail saying they'd love to get to know them?
Or .... are they right in assuming that the person/ people with the profile with a gaping fanny are wanting some sex...... and therefore just tailoring their mail accordingly??
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Some people are exhibitionists, some like to be crude, others use guttural language we all have our sins and vices.
you will find that people are often shallow or lack understanding so base mail based on one snapshot _iew rather than looking deeper into what will and won't achieve results. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What I find offensive is the attitude of this thread
So because someone finds a pic crude or vulgar then others couldn't possibally find the samne pic sexy and erotic?? For real??
And cos YOU find it vulgar then they deserve to be disrespected for it?? So if a woman wears a short skirt into a pub she deserves to be raped as she is obv gagging for it??
Surely u could say being on this site could be seen as being vulgar and what do u expect when receiving such messages?
Everyone should be respected full stop! We r all different after all! |
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"What I find offensive is the attitude of this thread
So because someone finds a pic crude or vulgar then others couldn't possibally find the samne pic sexy and erotic?? For real??
And cos YOU find it vulgar then they deserve to be disrespected for it?? So if a woman wears a short skirt into a pub she deserves to be raped as she is obv gagging for it??
Surely u could say being on this site could be seen as being vulgar and what do u expect when receiving such messages?
Everyone should be respected full stop! We r all different after all!"
yes that is true. i would find some pictures very interesting and others not so.
you are correct |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What I find offensive is the attitude of this thread
So because someone finds a pic crude or vulgar then others couldn't possibally find the samne pic sexy and erotic?? For real??
And cos YOU find it vulgar then they deserve to be disrespected for it?? So if a woman wears a short skirt into a pub she deserves to be raped as she is obv gagging for it??
Surely u could say being on this site could be seen as being vulgar and what do u expect when receiving such messages?
Everyone should be respected full stop! We r all different after all!"
Isn't that a bit extreme?! I wasn't suggesting people shouldn't be respected. And as for the rape comment... slightly immature...
I don't think anyone else was suggesting people shouldn't be respected either.
I would hope that most people on this site are vulgar. Or at the very least filthy... 
I was merely debating whether people respond to certain profile types in different ways. I certainly wasn't suggesting that people should have their profiles this way or that way.
I'm no prude. Just wondering how people perceived different profiles and the responses to them. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Scarlet, I think I can see where you are coming from. If I posted a what I call "vulgar" picture of myself I would kind of expect a similar direct message.
I also do believe there is no right or wrong and we all deserve respect and acceptance of whatever we are... no need to be rude and negative about other people's choices, pictures, profiles.
I personally dont like open fanny shots and would not ever post one of mine, most certainly not publicly. Perhaps... and it is really just a question I ask myself, that is why I rarely get the very blunt messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I find offensive is the attitude of this thread
So because someone finds a pic crude or vulgar then others couldn't possibally find the samne pic sexy and erotic?? For real??
And cos YOU find it vulgar then they deserve to be disrespected for it?? So if a woman wears a short skirt into a pub she deserves to be raped as she is obv gagging for it??
Surely u could say being on this site could be seen as being vulgar and what do u expect when receiving such messages?
Everyone should be respected full stop! We r all different after all!
Isn't that a bit extreme?! I wasn't suggesting people shouldn't be respected. And as for the rape comment... slightly immature...
I don't think anyone else was suggesting people shouldn't be respected either.
I would hope that most people on this site are vulgar. Or at the very least filthy...
I was merely debating whether people respond to certain profile types in different ways. I certainly wasn't suggesting that people should have their profiles this way or that way.
I'm no prude. Just wondering how people perceived different profiles and the responses to them. "
but its only how u see a certain type of picture.. some people may look at things on your profile and see it as vulgar so therefore then they can think you deserve that certain kind of message?? its only your opinion and not relevant in the perception of how the site and everyone on it works!
a pointless thread really..
as for the rape comment.. hardly immature as it is how guys see woman who dress with short skirts etc.. its an anology..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Scarlet, I think I can see where you are coming from. If I posted a what I call "vulgar" picture of myself I would kind of expect a similar direct message.
I also do believe there is no right or wrong and we all deserve respect and acceptance of whatever we are... no need to be rude and negative about other people's choices, pictures, profiles.
I personally dont like open fanny shots and would not ever post one of mine, most certainly not publicly. Perhaps... and it is really just a question I ask myself, that is why I rarely get the very blunt messages."
i dont think many people get alot of blunt messages.. regardless.. ive had on another simular site more revealing pics and it certainly never changed the amount of blunt messages i got |
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By (user no longer on site)
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as for the rape comment.. hardly immature as it is how guys see woman who dress with short skirts etc.. its an anology..
do we?"
er yes.. it happens.. check court records where men have said the woman was asking for it by the way she was dressed or acting..
now obviously it doesnt mean every single guy on the planet.. jez |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Scarlet, I think I can see where you are coming from. If I posted a what I call "vulgar" picture of myself I would kind of expect a similar direct message.
I also do believe there is no right or wrong and we all deserve respect and acceptance of whatever we are... no need to be rude and negative about other people's choices, pictures, profiles.
I personally dont like open fanny shots and would not ever post one of mine, most certainly not publicly. Perhaps... and it is really just a question I ask myself, that is why I rarely get the very blunt messages.
i dont think many people get alot of blunt messages.. regardless.. ive had on another simular site more revealing pics and it certainly never changed the amount of blunt messages i got"
Well, maybe there is no correlation - I just wondered what causes some ladies to get the really blunt messages. Perhaps I dont get them because the lads are scared of me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd always think it best for a first message to a stranger to be a simple explanation of what you offer and what you are looking for.....
Specifics such as crudity and filth can wait until you know it's wanted or you've gauged humour types etc....
Since when did being a swinger mean you had to dispense of common courtesy?
Mind you ........most of the pics on here make me puke."
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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as for the rape comment.. hardly immature as it is how guys see woman who dress with short skirts etc.. its an anology..
do we?
er yes.. it happens.. check court records where men have said the woman was asking for it by the way she was dressed or acting..
now obviously it doesnt mean every single guy on the planet.. jez"
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ya know what, I've never looked at it from that point of _iew. I get so fed up of 'can you fuck me with that?' messages but what else should i expect from my profile & public pictures.
Will do some picture shuffling I think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ya know what, I've never looked at it from that point of _iew. I get so fed up of 'can you fuck me with that?' messages but what else should i expect from my profile & public pictures.
Will do some picture shuffling I think "
i wouldnt worry.. no matter what u do u will get blunt messages.. cos most guys see u as an easy lay just for being on the site..
im on another site with public face pic and not a single bit of nudity but cos i am seekign intimate encounter i get just as many "i wanna lick ur ass" type messages..
no matter how ur profile is there will be a group of people who see it as "come get me lads".. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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as for the rape comment.. hardly immature as it is how guys see woman who dress with short skirts etc.. its an anology.. Very broad and sweeping statement. Maybe some guys do..."
just making the point that no matter what noone should disrespect or assume anything!.. u cant judge someone on their clothes, pictures, spelling etc.. so when u first message someone u should always show respect!
the whole nature of this thread is judging those with explicite pictures and the title saying their own fault is claiming they deserve to be disrespected! shocking attitude |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think? |
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"I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think?"
yes but it still doesnt mean u should approach people with anything but curtosy and respect and for the human they are not as a cheap whore who is only good enough for a quick shag!
treat people as people.. dont let a situation change that.. |
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By *phroditeWoman
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"I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think?
yes but it still doesnt mean u should approach people with anything but curtosy and respect and for the human they are not as a cheap whore who is only good enough for a quick shag!
treat people as people.. dont let a situation change that.. "
I am with you on that - I think everybody deserves respect, irrespective of where and under what circumstances. I merely meant that there is an underlying assumption that it is more ok in the context of the site, of swinging that people get "to the point" more readily and more quickly - but yes, respect always! |
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oh.. just wanna add.. just cos im sexually open doesnt mean i am desperate or a nympho looking for sex 24/7..
tho tbh if i dont mind the crude first messages cos it just helps me filter out those i would never have interest in XD...
if some woman like that fine.. but i dont and when my profile is active i state that.. so if they want to ignore what i have clearly written then more fool them |
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"I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think?
yes but it still doesnt mean u should approach people with anything but curtosy and respect and for the human they are not as a cheap whore who is only good enough for a quick shag!
treat people as people.. dont let a situation change that..
I am with you on that - I think everybody deserves respect, irrespective of where and under what circumstances. I merely meant that there is an underlying assumption that it is more ok in the context of the site, of swinging that people get "to the point" more readily and more quickly - but yes, respect always! "
oh yh totally that assumption.. and thats my point over this thread.. that some people assume things over certain pics.. and thats what this thread is doing, assuming!
but you are right that being on this site is _iewed by many as the same thing the OP is saying over the pics.. doubel standards? |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think?
yes but it still doesnt mean u should approach people with anything but curtosy and respect and for the human they are not as a cheap whore who is only good enough for a quick shag!
treat people as people.. dont let a situation change that.. "
I agree with you in principle. However, there are lots of profiles with these 'gaping' pics and status's along the lines of need a big thick cock to fill me with spunk !
Personally, I wouldn't send one of these a message, but they are hardly encouraging a polite hello, did you have a nice tea message |
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"I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think?
yes but it still doesnt mean u should approach people with anything but curtosy and respect and for the human they are not as a cheap whore who is only good enough for a quick shag!
treat people as people.. dont let a situation change that..
I agree with you in principle. However, there are lots of profiles with these 'gaping' pics and status's along the lines of need a big thick cock to fill me with spunk !
Personally, I wouldn't send one of these a message, but they are hardly encouraging a polite hello, did you have a nice tea message "
well how about a "hi i saw your profile and it interested me,maybe we can chat somemore" instead of "i have a big cock i could ram up you" |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think?
yes but it still doesnt mean u should approach people with anything but curtosy and respect and for the human they are not as a cheap whore who is only good enough for a quick shag!
treat people as people.. dont let a situation change that..
I agree with you in principle. However, there are lots of profiles with these 'gaping' pics and status's along the lines of need a big thick cock to fill me with spunk !
Personally, I wouldn't send one of these a message, but they are hardly encouraging a polite hello, did you have a nice tea message
well how about a "hi i saw your profile and it interested me,maybe we can chat somemore" instead of "i have a big cock i could ram up you""
Did you read my post ?
If You saw and advert in the for sale/wanted looking for a lawn mower, and you had one for sale. Would you respond with Hello do you like chocolate eclairs? |
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I don't often get full on sexual messages for the first message, the crudest I've probably had is 'great tits luv'.
I don't know whether its because of the type of pictures I have or whether as part of a couple, men are wary of being too full on because they know another guy will have access to that message.
Maybe people do react to the pictures and the username too. If you have a username like 'fuckslut will swallow your creamy load' then that is very sexual in nature and people may mirror that with a sexual message.
I don't suppose its right or wrong, its just an expression of how we respond to sexual stimuli |
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"I don't often get full on sexual messages for the first message, the crudest I've probably had is 'great tits luv'.
I don't know whether its because of the type of pictures I have or whether as part of a couple, men are wary of being too full on because they know another guy will have access to that message.
Maybe people do react to the pictures and the username too. If you have a username like 'fuckslut will swallow your creamy load' then that is very sexual in nature and people may mirror that with a sexual message.
I don't suppose its right or wrong, its just an expression of how we respond to sexual stimuli "
great tits luv |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Also when you have a bit more information about a person you react differently to them.
For example on the forum I couldn't message Blackspice with a sexual message but I could with Keenfucktographer. Both men are extremly articulate, well mannered men, but I would imagine that Keenfucktographer would be more amused than maybe Mr Blackspice would. All of this is assumption and of how I perceive these men from what little I know of them ie, forum posts and I've met Paddy in the flesh.
This must be the same for everyone though, there must be people that we all imagine we could say certain things to that perhaps we feel wouldn't be so appropriate to someone else. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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Its a tough one really.
Some like sexy/graphic pics. Some have different interpretations of sexy/graphic.
Some pics make me vom a bit in my mouth. Others I think wtf. Others I like and then others Im indifferent about.
Some people may receive unwanted attention just from their user name.
I guess to some extent, unless you've got your filters on then in some way one may be 'asking for' it.
Very few messages make me I just delete.
I dont know, I guess its all relevant.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was just thinking... and I am not sure whether that is helpful to the debate or not but here it goes.
To me there is still somewhat of a difference between a woman wearing short skirts and dressing up in a sexy way.... and getting disrespectful comments and approaches and being very "overt" with pictures on this site.
For fabsters merely being on this site, I think we are all making the statement that we are sexually open and dont mind being approached in a sexually suggestive way... a woman in a short skirt is never "asking for it" but perhaps merely by being on here we do?
Just a thought? What do other people think?
yes but it still doesnt mean u should approach people with anything but curtosy and respect and for the human they are not as a cheap whore who is only good enough for a quick shag!
treat people as people.. dont let a situation change that..
I agree with you in principle. However, there are lots of profiles with these 'gaping' pics and status's along the lines of need a big thick cock to fill me with spunk !
Personally, I wouldn't send one of these a message, but they are hardly encouraging a polite hello, did you have a nice tea message
well how about a "hi i saw your profile and it interested me,maybe we can chat somemore" instead of "i have a big cock i could ram up you"
Did you read my post ?
If You saw and advert in the for sale/wanted looking for a lawn mower, and you had one for sale. Would you respond with Hello do you like chocolate eclairs? "
That makes no sense.. The difference with ur anaology is between "hi I'm interested in the mower u have for sale" and "oi mate I want ur mower." Same on sexual matters to |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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I agree with you in principle. However, there are lots of profiles with these 'gaping' pics and status's along the lines of need a big thick cock to fill me with spunk !
Personally, I wouldn't send one of these a message, but they are hardly encouraging a polite hello, did you have a nice tea message
well how about a "hi i saw your profile and it interested me,maybe we can chat somemore" instead of "i have a big cock i could ram up you"
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If You saw and advert in the for sale/wanted looking for a lawn mower, and you had one for sale. Would you respond with Hello do you like chocolate eclairs?
That makes no sense.. The difference with ur anaology is between "hi I'm interested in the mower u have for sale" and "oi mate I want ur mower." Same on sexual matters to"
Ah ok maybe the message they should send (to the said example) is oh hello I have a big thick cock. It also comes supplied with a good helping of spunk. Would you be interested perchance ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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as for the rape comment.. hardly immature as it is how guys see woman who dress with short skirts etc.. its an anology.. Very broad and sweeping statement. Maybe some guys do...
just making the point that no matter what noone should disrespect or assume anything!.. u cant judge someone on their clothes, pictures, spelling etc.. so when u first message someone u should always show respect!
the whole nature of this thread is judging those with explicite pictures and the title saying their own fault is claiming they deserve to be disrespected! shocking attitude"
Please can you point out where I said that people deserve to be disrespected?
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Women (people in general) should be treated with respect whatever their pics are like. It's up to the person messaging to be respectful, its not the responsibility of the person being messaged to make their photos one thing or another. |
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I agree with you in principle. However, there are lots of profiles with these 'gaping' pics and status's along the lines of need a big thick cock to fill me with spunk !
Personally, I wouldn't send one of these a message, but they are hardly encouraging a polite hello, did you have a nice tea message
well how about a "hi i saw your profile and it interested me,maybe we can chat somemore" instead of "i have a big cock i could ram up you"
Did you read my post ?
If You saw and advert in the for sale/wanted looking for a lawn mower, and you had one for sale. Would you respond with Hello do you like chocolate eclairs?
That makes no sense.. The difference with ur anaology is between "hi I'm interested in the mower u have for sale" and "oi mate I want ur mower." Same on sexual matters to
Ah ok maybe the message they should send (to the said example) is oh hello I have a big thick cock. It also comes supplied with a good helping of spunk. Would you be interested perchance ? "
I nearly chocked on my drink reading that. |
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I havent read all the thread, but i do believe you reap what you sow. Over the years ive had all sorts of photos on _iew from very hardcore to what i have on now. I have to say my messages have always been in line with what ive had on show. So in my opinion if you have all holes gaping and spunk dripping out of each hole you cant blame a guy/woman/couple for a hardcore message |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Please can you point out where I said that people deserve to be disrespected?
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You haven't but the thread title could be read as provocative.
How we choose to present ourselves is all that we have to offer those that don't know us. That goes both ways.
I love my cleavage - I have the best _iew of it and I am happy to display it both here on Fab and out there in the world of people. I like my feet and my shoes. I have learnt that pictures of my feet and shoes lead to messages I just don't want to get so I no longer use those as my avatar.
I don't have picture of a yawning canyon and would never think to put them on here. I am very fond of it but I don't think it shows who I am. Other people are happy to show theirs. Each to their own.
If that is your lead image and you have virtually nothing written on your profile then you're not giving people a lot to go on. Equally, if you want to make an impression and get past the message being deleted you might want to think of some words to string together that show interest but aren't off-putting.
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"I'd always think it best for a first message to a stranger to be a simple explanation of what you offer and what you are looking for.....
Specifics such as crudity and filth can wait until you know it's wanted or you've gauged humour types etc....
Since when did being a swinger mean you had to dispense of common courtesy?
Mind you ........most of the pics on here make me puke.
I agree. Not saying that swingers don't deserve courtesy and politeness.
Just when you're faced with a 'puke inducing' pic.... It may make it difficult to compose a suitably polite message.....?!
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erm this message is pretty much suggesting those with explicite pics deserve what they get!! |
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"I havent read all the thread, but i do believe you reap what you sow. Over the years ive had all sorts of photos on _iew from very hardcore to what i have on now. I have to say my messages have always been in line with what ive had on show. So in my opinion if you have all holes gaping and spunk dripping out of each hole you cant blame a guy/woman/couple for a hardcore message"
who decides what what is acceptable as being _iewed as what u sow.. we all see things differently.. being polite in the first off and not assuming anything to a complete stranger.. |
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"I havent read all the thread, but i do believe you reap what you sow. Over the years ive had all sorts of photos on _iew from very hardcore to what i have on now. I have to say my messages have always been in line with what ive had on show. So in my opinion if you have all holes gaping and spunk dripping out of each hole you cant blame a guy/woman/couple for a hardcore message
who decides what what is acceptable as being _iewed as what u sow.. we all see things differently.. being polite in the first off and not assuming anything to a complete stranger.. "
I can only speak from my personal experience and how ive had varied messages depending on what photos i have on _iew Yes i think everyone should be treated with politeness but again from my own experience i think that some think politeness in messages can go out of the window depending on the photos |
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"I havent read all the thread, but i do believe you reap what you sow. Over the years ive had all sorts of photos on _iew from very hardcore to what i have on now. I have to say my messages have always been in line with what ive had on show. So in my opinion if you have all holes gaping and spunk dripping out of each hole you cant blame a guy/woman/couple for a hardcore message
who decides what what is acceptable as being _iewed as what u sow.. we all see things differently.. being polite in the first off and not assuming anything to a complete stranger..
I can only speak from my personal experience and how ive had varied messages depending on what photos i have on _iew Yes i think everyone should be treated with politeness but again from my own experience i think that some think politeness in messages can go out of the window depending on the photos"
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Must admit, I wouldn't tailor my message because of the pictures as the profile is more important, however the pictures can often put me off as I much prefer a hint rather than being able to see what I might possibly get. And that goes for guys too, a cock picture is okay but not when there are half a dozen taken at various angles and even worse when they hold a fat belly out of the way and/or pose on all fours holding their arse cheeks apart |
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