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Fed up with fake timewasters
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ????? |
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"I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ?????"
I don't see how being photo verified would rectify that..
There is always going to be the dreamers & fakes..
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ?????"
Are the fakes and time wasters you interact with not photo verified? If so then surely you just need to change who you talk to? |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Photo veried doesn't mean much. But if you think it's important just don't interact with anyone who isn't photo veried.
Fakes are pretty easy to spot anyhow and to avoid. Time wasters also are easy enough to spot if you take time to chat a bit rather than rush to meet I found. |
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Is a fake timewaster different to a real timewaster?
In 6 years here I've never had a no show or been one.
I've never been asked for money or favours.
I've never been scammed.
I've never called any conversation that has fizzled out a waste of time.
If you find your fab experience is like groundhog day then surely it's time to look at the common denominator which isn't the site itself or everyone else.
Take a long hard look at how you vet those you choose to speak to.
If you keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome that's not really on anyone else.
It's an adult site not a creche. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I've ever come across anyone that's a fake or a time waster.
I've been called both multiple times though.
Trouble on here is people think too much with their downstairs brain instead of applying a bit of common sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you find your fab experience is like groundhog day then surely it's time to look at the common denominator which isn't the site itself or everyone else.
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If you keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome that's not really on anyone else.
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"I don't think I've ever come across anyone that's a fake or a time waster.
I've been called both multiple times though.
Trouble on here is people think too much with their downstairs brain instead of applying a bit of common sense. "
Same. Sometimes the more I get to know someone, the less I want to meet them. And apparently then I'm a time waster... |
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"Is a fake timewaster different to a real timewaster?
In 6 years here I've never had a no show or been one.
I've never been asked for money or favours.
I've never been scammed.
I've never called any conversation that has fizzled out a waste of time.
If you find your fab experience is like groundhog day then surely it's time to look at the common denominator which isn't the site itself or everyone else.
Take a long hard look at how you vet those you choose to speak to.
If you keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome that's not really on anyone else.
It's an adult site not a creche."
(Stands up and applauds every single word.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've ever come across anyone that's a fake or a time waster.
I've been called both multiple times though.
Trouble on here is people think too much with their downstairs brain instead of applying a bit of common sense.
Same. Sometimes the more I get to know someone, the less I want to meet them. And apparently then I'm a time waster..."
Yep! Which is why I hardly ever get into conversations anymore. |
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"I don't think I've ever come across anyone that's a fake or a time waster.
I've been called both multiple times though.
Trouble on here is people think too much with their downstairs brain instead of applying a bit of common sense. "
The only time I've been called a timewaster directly was when a couple contacted me out of the blue and wanted me to meet them at a club the following night.
When I explained that would involve a 10 hour round trip on a Sunday night to a club that only holds ticketed events and doesn't allow walk-ins apparently I was then wasting their time? |
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By *ee_78Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've ever come across anyone that's a fake or a time waster.
I've been called both multiple times though.
Trouble on here is people think too much with their downstairs brain instead of applying a bit of common sense. "
I agree….I’ve been called fake in last month because after very limited chat:
1. I’m not meeting you right now.
2. I won’t send a random guy my phone number
3. Don’t send face pic after 2 msgs
4. Won’t share pics of down there
Sorry but yes I will stop chatting as these all make me uncomfortable. |
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"Is a fake timewaster different to a real timewaster?
In 6 years here I've never had a no show or been one.
I've never been asked for money or favours.
I've never been scammed.
I've never called any conversation that has fizzled out a waste of time.
If you find your fab experience is like groundhog day then surely it's time to look at the common denominator which isn't the site itself or everyone else.
Take a long hard look at how you vet those you choose to speak to.
If you keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome that's not really on anyone else.
It's an adult site not a creche."
Don't think it needs to be added but why not?
This should apply across the board and isn't just a rule of thumb for single men.
Lots of whinging by women and couples who seem incapable of using the tools the site offers and prefer to blame everyone else for their negative experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ?????"
We wouldn't sign that petition, we'd just use our filters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've ever come across anyone that's a fake or a time waster.
I've been called both multiple times though.
Trouble on here is people think too much with their downstairs brain instead of applying a bit of common sense.
Same. Sometimes the more I get to know someone, the less I want to meet them. And apparently then I'm a time waster...
Yep! Which is why I hardly ever get into conversations anymore. "
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Can you just get in bed with me then?…   |
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I block newbies for this reason, tweak your filters to help you find more people that you want.
However...time wasters you have no protection from, apart from trusting your gut. People can and will string you along without any intentions to meet you. I'm quite brutal now, after experiencing it twice after a lengthy period of time, and if we are not moving forward at the same time then, then into friendzone they will go.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I block newbies for this reason, tweak your filters to help you find more people that you want.
However...time wasters you have no protection from, apart from trusting your gut. People can and will string you along without any intentions to meet you. I'm quite brutal now, after experiencing it twice after a lengthy period of time, and if we are not moving forward at the same time then, then into friendzone they will go.
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it just does yr nut in. Why start a conversation. If you have no intention and just want to f****** screw with someone's head |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constantly get messages from men saying I'd love to see my wife suck or fuck your big cock.. why isn't she on here then as a couple profile .. pointless "
They are just dreamers and fantasists. If you are interested in couples genuinely then just engage with couples accounts that have verifications from various other genuine users (i.e not just a small closed loop of accounts set up to verify each other). If the veris mention or come from real life events such such as club event or a social event or similar even better). Same applies to any type of account single males, females, couples, TV TS etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ?????"
What would a photo verification prove? It's not a babysitting service.
Why are you wasting people's time? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Honestly I think. And everybody is entitled to their opinion..
To keep it safe. Or as safe as anything is.
Must be a face pic as verification and not body as an option.
Should have the date on the verification pic. Maybe ??
Should have to get verified in the first 24-hours or your account is deleted.
And possibly pay £5 for a month or a special deal.. with lovehoney. Everyone loves a special deal for joining something..
Keep the site more for people that want to have the right kind of fun which is why we join this site..
My opinion go mental.. loving the forum posts.. agree with most of u that said with changing the settings and filters.. it's more with the people that want to waste your time.. when something as simple as sex shouldn't be a drama.
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"Honestly I think. And everybody is entitled to their opinion..
To keep it safe. Or as safe as anything is.
Must be a face pic as verification and not body as an option.
Should have the date on the verification pic. Maybe ??
Should have to get verified in the first 24-hours or your account is deleted.
And possibly pay £5 for a month or a special deal.. with lovehoney. Everyone loves a special deal for joining something..
Keep the site more for people that want to have the right kind of fun which is why we join this site..
My opinion go mental.. loving the forum posts.. agree with most of u that said with changing the settings and filters.. it's more with the people that want to waste your time.. when something as simple as sex shouldn't be a drama.
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Except your definition of the right kind of fun could be completely different to everyone elses. Not everyone is here for the same thing.
I've no interest in lovehoney.
I've no interest in having to pay monthly.
I've no interest in having to give a facepic.
I've no interest in changing the site just to suit me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I block newbies for this reason, tweak your filters to help you find more people that you want.
However...time wasters you have no protection from, apart from trusting your gut. People can and will string you along without any intentions to meet you. I'm quite brutal now, after experiencing it twice after a lengthy period of time, and if we are not moving forward at the same time then, then into friendzone they will go.
it just does yr nut in. Why start a conversation. If you have no intention and just want to f****** screw with someone's head"
So people aren't allowed to change their mind about meeting you?
If someone chats for a while they HAVE to fuck?
What actually happened? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I block newbies for this reason, tweak your filters to help you find more people that you want.
However...time wasters you have no protection from, apart from trusting your gut. People can and will string you along without any intentions to meet you. I'm quite brutal now, after experiencing it twice after a lengthy period of time, and if we are not moving forward at the same time then, then into friendzone they will go.
it just does yr nut in. Why start a conversation. If you have no intention and just want to f****** screw with someone's head"
This is why a lot of messsges go unresolved to. The idea that someone thinks there is a agreement to meet just from exchanging a few messages. It doesn’t work like that. |
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I think it’s quite sad that you can’t engage in a conversation with some people even if you don’t want to fuck them without being called a timewaster . Guess there’s some very anti social people about |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s quite sad that you can’t engage in a conversation with some people even if you don’t want to fuck them without being called a timewaster . Guess there’s some very anti social people about "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s quite sad that you can’t engage in a conversation with some people even if you don’t want to fuck them without being called a timewaster . Guess there’s some very anti social people about
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Shame, but let’s all focus on the good people here x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you thought that maybe you’re part of the problem OP going after the ‘fresh meat’ all of the time………."
fresh meat. On this site.. where do i need to look for that
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its when you see the same username pop up all the time as a new account , what's the point ? A silhouette as a picture, no profile description then a few days later new account same username same headline , which is usually something like ...I need fucking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is a fake timewaster different to a real timewaster?
In 6 years here I've never had a no show or been one.
I've never been asked for money or favours.
I've never been scammed.
I've never called any conversation that has fizzled out a waste of time.
If you find your fab experience is like groundhog day then surely it's time to look at the common denominator which isn't the site itself or everyone else.
Take a long hard look at how you vet those you choose to speak to.
If you keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome that's not really on anyone else.
It's an adult site not a creche."
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"Honestly I think. And everybody is entitled to their opinion..
To keep it safe. Or as safe as anything is.
Must be a face pic as verification and not body as an option.
Should have the date on the verification pic. Maybe ??
Should have to get verified in the first 24-hours or your account is deleted.
And possibly pay £5 for a month or a special deal.. with lovehoney. Everyone loves a special deal for joining something..
Keep the site more for people that want to have the right kind of fun which is why we join this site..
My opinion go mental.. loving the forum posts.. agree with most of u that said with changing the settings and filters.. it's more with the people that want to waste your time.. when something as simple as sex shouldn't be a drama.
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Sex for most people isn't simple. Even on a swinging site you have to be compatible with the the person you are meeting.
I am no fake, I've had meets with plenty of men. All of which I have chatted with for quite a while before meeting.
That chatting is done on here, I won't move to other apps to chat to someone. (Apparently to some that makes me fake).
I also won't meet without getting to know someone first and I don't mean 3 or 4 messages. I mean actually finding out if we click.
To some again wanting to chat makes me a timewaster.
At the end of the day I do this in a way I feel comfortable if that doesn't suit you I'm sorry but I simply don't do things your way.
Just because this is a site where people are looking for sex doesn't mean it's basic or simple and the fact you think it is would actually a big red flag to a lot of people. |
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"I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ?????"
Don't talk to unverified people, you're wasting your own time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly I think. And everybody is entitled to their opinion..
To keep it safe. Or as safe as anything is.
Must be a face pic as verification and not body as an option.
Should have the date on the verification pic. Maybe ??
Should have to get verified in the first 24-hours or your account is deleted.
And possibly pay £5 for a month or a special deal.. with lovehoney. Everyone loves a special deal for joining something..
Keep the site more for people that want to have the right kind of fun which is why we join this site..
My opinion go mental.. loving the forum posts.. agree with most of u that said with changing the settings and filters.. it's more with the people that want to waste your time.. when something as simple as sex shouldn't be a drama.
Sex for most people isn't simple. Even on a swinging site you have to be compatible with the the person you are meeting.
I am no fake, I've had meets with plenty of men. All of which I have chatted with for quite a while before meeting.
That chatting is done on here, I won't move to other apps to chat to someone. (Apparently to some that makes me fake).
I also won't meet without getting to know someone first and I don't mean 3 or 4 messages. I mean actually finding out if we click.
To some again wanting to chat makes me a timewaster.
At the end of the day I do this in a way I feel comfortable if that doesn't suit you I'm sorry but I simply don't do things your way.
Just because this is a site where people are looking for sex doesn't mean it's basic or simple and the fact you think it is would actually a big red flag to a lot of people. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly I think. And everybody is entitled to their opinion..
To keep it safe. Or as safe as anything is.
Must be a face pic as verification and not body as an option.
Should have the date on the verification pic. Maybe ??
Should have to get verified in the first 24-hours or your account is deleted.
And possibly pay £5 for a month or a special deal.. with lovehoney. Everyone loves a special deal for joining something..
Keep the site more for people that want to have the right kind of fun which is why we join this site..
My opinion go mental.. loving the forum posts.. agree with most of u that said with changing the settings and filters.. it's more with the people that want to waste your time.. when something as simple as sex shouldn't be a drama.
Sex for most people isn't simple. Even on a swinging site you have to be compatible with the the person you are meeting.
I am no fake, I've had meets with plenty of men. All of which I have chatted with for quite a while before meeting.
That chatting is done on here, I won't move to other apps to chat to someone. (Apparently to some that makes me fake).
I also won't meet without getting to know someone first and I don't mean 3 or 4 messages. I mean actually finding out if we click.
To some again wanting to chat makes me a timewaster.
At the end of the day I do this in a way I feel comfortable if that doesn't suit you I'm sorry but I simply don't do things your way.
Just because this is a site where people are looking for sex doesn't mean it's basic or simple and the fact you think it is would actually a big red flag to a lot of people. "
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"I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ?????
Don't talk to unverified people, you're wasting your own time "
To be fair looking at his profile if he messaged us we’d consider him a Time waster |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I've been doing this a number of years enjoying swinging. But lately the amount of time wasters an fakes omg... can't we start a petition that all users in the first 24hrs have to get photo verified or the account gets deleted ?... or something ?????"
I know a woman who since I've been counting has had 36 profiles she comes up on my local updates  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Honestly I think. And everybody is entitled to their opinion..
To keep it safe. Or as safe as anything is.
Must be a face pic as verification and not body as an option.
Should have the date on the verification pic. Maybe ??
Should have to get verified in the first 24-hours or your account is deleted.
And possibly pay £5 for a month or a special deal.. with lovehoney. Everyone loves a special deal for joining something..
Keep the site more for people that want to have the right kind of fun which is why we join this site..
My opinion go mental.. loving the forum posts.. agree with most of u that said with changing the settings and filters.. it's more with the people that want to waste your time.. when something as simple as sex shouldn't be a drama.
Sex for most people isn't simple. Even on a swinging site you have to be compatible with the the person you are meeting.
I am no fake, I've had meets with plenty of men. All of which I have chatted with for quite a while before meeting.
That chatting is done on here, I won't move to other apps to chat to someone. (Apparently to some that makes me fake).
I also won't meet without getting to know someone first and I don't mean 3 or 4 messages. I mean actually finding out if we click.
To some again wanting to chat makes me a timewaster.
At the end of the day I do this in a way I feel comfortable if that doesn't suit you I'm sorry but I simply don't do things your way.
Just because this is a site where people are looking for sex doesn't mean it's basic or simple and the fact you think it is would actually a big red flag to a lot of people. "
and I have also changed my mind about meeting some men that I've chatted to because of things they have said while.It's a good way to spot red flags of course then I've been called a time waster because how dare I chat for a while then not give them sex .The cheek of me to do that
It's also why now when I'm not doing new meets I don't do chats with anyone new because even when you tell people from the very start you aren't meeting at the moment you chat for a handful of messages and they then expect you to meet them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really annoying and frustrating and ruins it for genuine people "
I don’t believe that’s wholly true.
Time wasters and fakes haven’t ruined anything for me. They’ve not been a barrier to my successfully meeting people. |
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I’m not photo verified….am I a ‘fake’ time waster….I also don’t reply to blank silhouettes or profiles that are one jumble of words so I guess I should be labelled doubly for that too
Good luck OP, lots of good advice on this thread. Yes it’s frustrating when you actually get stood up but timewasters aren’t those who don’t reply to messages or don’t want to fuck you after replying to you. You can tell most of the time quite easily whos just looking for fantasy/photo collecting so you can avoid them. There’s also a filter to stop brand new profiles from messaging you that you may find useful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's the most common tendencies in fake profiles you guys tend to find ? "
New profile
No pictures or pictures too good to be true.
No verifications.
Fill in later or very short bios.
Zero effort in first message or a cut and paste spam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I block newbies for this reason, tweak your filters to help you find more people that you want.
However...time wasters you have no protection from, apart from trusting your gut. People can and will string you along without any intentions to meet you. I'm quite brutal now, after experiencing it twice after a lengthy period of time, and if we are not moving forward at the same time then, then into friendzone they will go.
it just does yr nut in. Why start a conversation. If you have no intention and just want to f****** screw with someone's head"
Just because I start a conversation with someone it doesn't automatically mean I want to have sex with them...?
I wouldn't even know that until I'd spent time in their company.
I might change my mind at any point in time, and the reality is most people I don't want to have sex with...I might have to look at 100 or more profiles, have even more false starts before finding someone I'm interested in pursuing something with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just thinking (it does happen now and again), if someone is a 'fake" timewaster, does that infact mean they are genuine?
They are pretending to be a timewaster... |
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"Some people think that just looking at their profile means the person wants to have sex with them..........
Which is exactly why I have my settings so I don't show on who looked at me. "
Me too...
Though doesn't stop some.. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
The only person who stood me up and wasted my time was well verified .
That's what I class as a time waster,arranging to meet with no intention of turning up.
Just don't chat to unverified profiles ,but that doesn't guarantee they'd turn up just because they have a photo showing they're a woman/couple etc. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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who are these time wasters ?? ive not had one for years dont get me wrong i know they are here but they are so easy to work out that they just dont affect me ...block button is your best friend ..
problem for guys is ...guys ..with fake women/couples accounts .. fancy that guys ruining it for guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"who are these time wasters ?? ive not had one for years dont get me wrong i know they are here but they are so easy to work out that they just dont affect me ...block button is your best friend ..
problem for guys is ...guys ..with fake women/couples accounts .. fancy that guys ruining it for guys"
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We have had a few no shows and they had verifications,maybe they got a better offer and just did not want to tell us.
Just because someone is verified doesn't mean they will show up,that is the main reason we like going to clubs,everyone there is there for the same reason |
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"Have you thought that maybe you’re part of the problem OP going after the ‘fresh meat’ all of the time………. fresh meat. On this site.. where do i need to look for that "
The same place where you’re finding all these fakes that have joined within 24hrs. You know, the fresh meat section  |
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