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There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd probably give it back if it was a heirloom.
One of my friends was told to keep hers because he said he didn't want to erase the past, just not build a future. I thought that was oddly romantic.  |
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"I believe the tradition is that broken engagement - give it back. Divorce, keep it
But mileage and details may vary"
I think if someone had cheated in me then I'd probably want to throw it back at them!
In the other hand I may think fuck you, you're not having it.
If I'd broken it off I'd give it back. |
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"I'd probably give it back if it was a heirloom.
One of my friends was told to keep hers because he said he didn't want to erase the past, just not build a future. I thought that was oddly romantic. "
Yes. I kind of think so too |
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"I'd probably give it back if it was a heirloom.
One of my friends was told to keep hers because he said he didn't want to erase the past, just not build a future. I thought that was oddly romantic. "
Sounds a bit like he was trying to soothe his conscience!
I'd have assumed a woman would want to give it back rather than having a reminder hanging around (no matter who breaks it off), even if a pretty and expensive reminder? |
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"I'd probably give it back if it was a heirloom.
One of my friends was told to keep hers because he said he didn't want to erase the past, just not build a future. I thought that was oddly romantic. "
I'd definitely give it back if it was an heirloom |
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"Engagement rings are given in expectation of marriage (verbal contract) so if that does not happen then the ring goes back to the person who brought it . - that’s why I believe should happen "
As Swing says...it is also tradition. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd probably give it back if it was a heirloom.
One of my friends was told to keep hers because he said he didn't want to erase the past, just not build a future. I thought that was oddly romantic.
Sounds a bit like he was trying to soothe his conscience!
I'd have assumed a woman would want to give it back rather than having a reminder hanging around (no matter who breaks it off), even if a pretty and expensive reminder?"
I think he was but I still liked the poetic way of putting it.
If my engagement ended I'd probably give it back. It would feel weird to keep it. Like a dress that no longer fits, hired from a fancy dress shop and never returned. It would be odd. |
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"There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back?"
If it was a family aireloom, then yeah I would want it back. Otherwise though, I wouldn’t expect or ask for it back. It was a gift meant for them that I wanted them to have so it’s entirely up them what they do with it xx |
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"I suppose the true question is: who would be courteous enough to return it and who would be gracious enough to forsake it."
Or, do the couple know each other well enough to know what's going to be best received, and is the split amicable enough that they can do right by each other? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is actually a law on this
If the engagement ends before a marriage takes place then the ring belongs to whoever purchased it
If tbe marriage goes ahead and ends in break up/ divorce then the recipient gets to keep the ring
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"I suppose the true question is: who would be courteous enough to return it and who would be gracious enough to forsake it.
I'd like to think I'd have enough class to give it back."
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I agree.
Because if one (or both) parties have severed the betrothal, then that split surely has to be 'absolute': I'm letting you go in mind, body, soul...and tangible possessions. Cherry-picking has no place here. |
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"I suppose the true question is: who would be courteous enough to return it and who would be gracious enough to forsake it.
I'd like to think I'd have enough class to give it back.
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I agree.
Because if one (or both) parties have severed the betrothal, then that split surely has to be 'absolute': I'm letting you go in mind, body, soul...and tangible possessions. Cherry-picking has no place here."
Absolute, would be the only way for me.
Like you say... in body and in mind.
I am not one to hang onto the past.
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"I've been engaged three times including my ex husband. Kept two of things as they didn't want them back. The third took his back"
Can I ask do you still have them?
And well...if they didn't want then that that! |
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"There is actually a law on this
If the engagement ends before a marriage takes place then the ring belongs to whoever purchased it
If tbe marriage goes ahead and ends in break up/ divorce then the recipient gets to keep the ring
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Ah ok  |
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"I've been engaged three times including my ex husband. Kept two of things as they didn't want them back. The third took his back"
Couldn't imagine being taken to court and forced to hand the ring over.
I wonder how many times that's happened! |
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"I've been engaged three times including my ex husband. Kept two of things as they didn't want them back. The third took his back
Couldn't imagine being taken to court and forced to hand the ring over.
I wonder how many .
times that's happened!"
Watch judge Judy it happens all the time |
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"I've been engaged three times including my ex husband. Kept two of things as they didn't want them back. The third took his back
Can I ask do you still have them?
And well...if they didn't want then that that!"
I gave one each to my goddaughter and her sister and my eternity ring to the other sister. I kept my wedding ring but I have no idea where that went |
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"I'd probably give it back if it was a heirloom.
One of my friends was told to keep hers because he said he didn't want to erase the past, just not build a future. I thought that was oddly romantic.
Sounds a bit like he was trying to soothe his conscience!
I'd have assumed a woman would want to give it back rather than having a reminder hanging around (no matter who breaks it off), even if a pretty and expensive reminder?
I think he was but I still liked the poetic way of putting it.
If my engagement ended I'd probably give it back. It would feel weird to keep it. Like a dress that no longer fits, hired from a fancy dress shop and never returned. It would be odd."
Yes, I agree - if you're going to break off an engagement, that's a nice way of putting it! Better than saying he's had a rethink and can't imagine spending the rest of his life married to her! |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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Give it back.....
If you have no interest in marrying the person anymore why would you want to keep it?
Keeping the ring just to sell it possibly or keep it out of spite type reasons and cash in is just knobbish behaviour in my opinion .
Give back, clean break everyone's as happy as they can be.  |
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"I've been engaged three times including my ex husband. Kept two of things as they didn't want them back. The third took his back
Can I ask do you still have them?
And well...if they didn't want then that that!I gave one each to my goddaughter and her sister and my eternity ring to the other sister. I kept my wedding ring but I have no idea where that went"
My mom gave me her wedding ring after her and dad got divorced. I've no idea where it is now. It was a long time ago.
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"Give it back.....
If you have no interest in marrying the person anymore why would you want to keep it?
Keeping the ring just to sell it possibly or keep it out of spite type reasons and cash in is just knobbish behaviour in my opinion .
Give back, clean break everyone's as happy as they can be. "
What if they had left you in ruins .... financial ruins?
Would you consider selling it then? |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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"Give it back.....
If you have no interest in marrying the person anymore why would you want to keep it?
Keeping the ring just to sell it possibly or keep it out of spite type reasons and cash in is just knobbish behaviour in my opinion .
Give back, clean break everyone's as happy as they can be.
What if they had left you in ruins .... financial ruins?
Would you consider selling it then?"
Still give it back personally |
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"Give it back.....
If you have no interest in marrying the person anymore why would you want to keep it?
Keeping the ring just to sell it possibly or keep it out of spite type reasons and cash in is just knobbish behaviour in my opinion .
Give back, clean break everyone's as happy as they can be.
What if they had left you in ruins .... financial ruins?
Would you consider selling it then?
Still give it back personally "
Fair enough. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back?"
The pawn broker. |
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I have both my engagement and wedding ring but then was married for almost 20 years, split a decade ago.
I hate to part with my engagement ring as I really like it but obviously haven’t worn it in a very long time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Engagement rings are given in expectation of marriage (verbal contract) so if that does not happen then the ring goes back to the person who brought it . - that’s why I believe should happen "
It should be returned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Give it back.....
If you have no interest in marrying the person anymore why would you want to keep it?
Keeping the ring just to sell it possibly or keep it out of spite type reasons and cash in is just knobbish behaviour in my opinion .
Give back, clean break everyone's as happy as they can be. "
Especially if it's an heirloom. |
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"There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back?"
If it was passed down through generations it goes back to the giver and if its an engagement then it should rightfully go back to the person who paid for it, i of course wouldn't care about that ring because I'm about the person not the trinket  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Its a conditional gift so should be handed back to the person who gifted it.
Personally I would expect it to be given back, irrespective of its financial value, due to what it actually meant to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A broken off engagement the ring should be returned.
He will have spent a decent amount on it but he’s been rejected so return his property.
If he’s cheated on you then it’s just spite that might make you keep it and for what? Sell it at a pawn shop? |
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My ex kept hers.
I told her in conversation that I still had the box and r the servicing book in the hope that she would say ah yes I will give it back.
She just turned up one day when I was out and took the box as well.
Alls fair in love and war. |
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"Give it back.....
If you have no interest in marrying the person anymore why would you want to keep it?
Keeping the ring just to sell it possibly or keep it out of spite type reasons and cash in is just knobbish behaviour in my opinion .
Give back, clean break everyone's as happy as they can be.
What if they had left you in ruins .... financial ruins?
Would you consider selling it then?"
Pawn it, give them the ticket and tell them they can redeem it out of the money they owe you  |
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I read about half of the replies and most imply a hetero relationship with lots of 'he' being thrown in ...... so I guess it's also implied that the 'he' bought a ring and the 'she' wears it .....
Funny old tradition.
Anyway ...... regardless of who bought what ... A ring purchased as an indentification that an engagement to be married has been entered into should be given back to whoever purchased it.
To my mind....... if people are so bloody equal rights minded they should BOTH have a ring of engagement and BOTH have contributed financially OR just bought their own OR just not have rings..... there are other things to buy.
BUT..... if the engagement stops give the ring back ffs.... |
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"I read about half of the replies and most imply a hetero relationship with lots of 'he' being thrown in ...... so I guess it's also implied that the 'he' bought a ring and the 'she' wears it .....
Funny old tradition.
Anyway ...... regardless of who bought what ... A ring purchased as an indentification that an engagement to be married has been entered into should be given back to whoever purchased it.
To my mind....... if people are so bloody equal rights minded they should BOTH have a ring of engagement and BOTH have contributed financially OR just bought their own OR just not have rings..... there are other things to buy.
BUT..... if the engagement stops give the ring back ffs.... "
I vote for...... Lets not get married..... Marriage in most cases these days only lasts 10 years tops, some don't even manage that |
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"There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back?"
Depends.
If the ring has significant monetary or emotional value to one party over the other... Then I'd say they should have it.
If it's just going to sit in a drawer and then sold for scrap value to pay for a weekend away... Well may as well be put to better use. |
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I would tell my ex to keep it then have her arrested for theft after telling the police that we weren’t ever engaged and she was a fruit loop and the ring was my mothers that she had nicked. Id also run up credit card bills in her name that i wouldn’t pay and ruin her credit history. Cut up all her clothes ( even in her own house) and have 3 tons of horse shit dumped on her neighbours drive with a note from her saying - now keep the fucking noise down!! Signed Stacy ( or whatever her name was!) I’d also email a painter and decorator to paint her house ‘slut red’ from a fake account with her name. Hmmmmm think that’s about it!! |
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"I would tell my ex to keep it then have her arrested for theft after telling the police that we weren’t ever engaged and she was a fruit loop and the ring was my mothers that she had nicked. Id also run up credit card bills in her name that i wouldn’t pay and ruin her credit history. Cut up all her clothes ( even in her own house) and have 3 tons of horse shit dumped on her neighbours drive with a note from her saying - now keep the fucking noise down!! Signed Stacy ( or whatever her name was!) I’d also email a painter and decorator to paint her house ‘slut red’ from a fake account with her name. Hmmmmm think that’s about it!! "
The car escaped lightly |
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over a year ago
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"There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back?"
Traditionally, if he breaks the engagement, she keeps the ring. If she breaks it, he gets it back |
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"I would tell my ex to keep it then have her arrested for theft after telling the police that we weren’t ever engaged and she was a fruit loop and the ring was my mothers that she had nicked. Id also run up credit card bills in her name that i wouldn’t pay and ruin her credit history. Cut up all her clothes ( even in her own house) and have 3 tons of horse shit dumped on her neighbours drive with a note from her saying - now keep the fucking noise down!! Signed Stacy ( or whatever her name was!) I’d also email a painter and decorator to paint her house ‘slut red’ from a fake account with her name. Hmmmmm think that’s about it!!
The car escaped lightly "
Oh that caught fire ages ago!!! Electrical fault… apparently |
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During preganancy her fingers swelled up and I had to cut one of her rings, so she could get it off same thing they would have done at hospital.
She cut my engagement ring to her, into 3 pieces worth total scrap value. |
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
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Iv been engaged before. He actually bought me 2 different engagement rings. A traditional one and then a ring I seen that I liked.
I still have the rings. They are mine. I plan to give them to our daughter one day when she’s old enough.
My auntie was also engaged 3 times in her life before she married. She kept all 3 engagement rings. I actually have 2 of those as well. |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back?"
Funny enough there is a courtroom video on YouTube about this very situation lol.
I say you give the ring back if you break up! Some ladies may protest but if the roles where reversed & they had to buy the guy say Patek Philippe watch for engagement I’m pretty sure they would wanted it back  |
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over a year ago
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"Or one day I might sell them and take the kids to Disneyland Paris again.
Do it
Seriously considering it, my kids want to go back anyway. "
Ahh, I definitely would then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it was an heirloom, I'd give it back, if not possibly throw it at their head depending on the situation. I kept both of mine personally, I was never asked for them back.
Pxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's been an engagement with a beautiful expensive engagement ring.
The engagement has now been broken off.
My question is .....
Who gets the beautiful expensive ring?
Maybe it was a ring passed down through the generations, who would it now belong to?
Guys/gals would you expect it to be given back?
Would you give it back?"
Was given with love at that very moment
Either keep ,pop it in a box and it’s a memory of the happy times
Give it back and its journey ‘may’ go on to the different person ,or perhaps stay within the family
Tricky one….mind ,heart or gut feeling …
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Erm, legally I think a person can keep a gift...
Morally? I'd return a family ring.
Although the idea of wearing someone else's ring gives me the heebie jeebies so that'd not happen with me in the first place. I'd rather do without a ring
If it ended badly and I wanted something good to come from bad? I'd sell it and donate the proceeds to a good cause  |
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"My ex kept hers.
I told her in conversation that I still had the box and r the servicing book in the hope that she would say ah yes I will give it back.
She just turned up one day when I was out and took the box as well.
Alls fair in love and war. "
Forget the ring you should have got the keys back! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh this is a good question..
Who broke the e gagement off.. if it was the original ring giver they don't get it back out of sheer spite
Ring receiver returnas a sign of respect for someone you omce loved |
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