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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a shame but surley true friends wouldn't leave you out and do that? Especially if they knew full well you didn't have one.
Or can't you grab one?
Miss S x |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
That is so rude. Your friend should of mentioned it to you and asked if you wanted her to try and get you a pass or whatever it is.
Could you go with them anyway and see if they'll let you in? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
Who is driving you all there?
I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.  |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Who is driving you all there?
I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do. "
I really feel like doing exactly that |
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over a year ago
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Who is driving you all there?
I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.
I really feel like doing exactly that "
If I was closer I would have asked you out somewhere. I'm pissed off on your behalf.
I wouldn't let them do it again. Hope you can do something else. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate it when people just randomly invite others and change the plan- makes you feel superfluous!"
It's beyond rude. Fair enough invite others and stick to the original plan.
But not this. |
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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
This makes me really sad. Real friends would absolutely not do that to you x |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
"That’s very unfair of your friend you originally made plans with, why can’t you all go to the place you had originally intended to go to
I know- it wouldn't have bloody killed them "
Have you got another friend that you could go out with instead?
Or maybe just brave it out on your own. They can be great adventures  |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"That’s very unfair of your friend you originally made plans with, why can’t you all go to the place you had originally intended to go to
I know- it wouldn't have bloody killed them
Have you got another friend that you could go out with instead?
Or maybe just brave it out on your own. They can be great adventures "
Nope...I'm not going out drinking alone |
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"Ooo hurtful
What are you going to do?
Stay in, I guess. I'm happy to do lots of things on my own, but rocking up to pubs & clubs just aren't something I'd do alone"
No I wouldn't either.
I'm sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, I'd not go. I'd not enjoy a minute in their company knowing their shitty attitude.
They're no kind of friend if they'd happily pull a hijacking job on your plans. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Who is driving you all there?
I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do.
I really feel like doing exactly that "
I’d do that. |
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"Can you not try and get one?
You can't- if that was an option, I would have done just that "
In that case fuck them off, really out of order. Stick up a meet request and find someone to have some fun with instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hugs that’s very not nice off them to do that
You deserve better
If it was me I would go and let them disappear
Stay at the place yous we’re last at and see what was on offer to pull for a wicked night
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Personally, I'd not go. I'd not enjoy a minute in their company knowing their shitty attitude.
They're no kind of friend if they'd happily pull a hijacking job on your plans."
Totally agree with this as it was bang out of order |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Where did they get the passes? Why didn’t they get you one? Or mention it sooner so you could get one?
Lousy of the friend you originally made plans with. I’m very much a one for all and all for one when it comes to friends arrangements so if one didn’t have a pass we would just go elsewhere. Really annoys me. Just thoughtless!
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
just a thought but it is not a birthday night out for you or something and they have got you a pass as a brithday suprise,,??  if not drive them there then leave them to get their own way home,,,  |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Where did they get the passes? Why didn’t they get you one? Or mention it sooner so you could get one?
Lousy of the friend you originally made plans with. I’m very much a one for all and all for one when it comes to friends arrangements so if one didn’t have a pass we would just go elsewhere. Really annoys me. Just thoughtless!
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They have annual passes that you can't buy any more. |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off just a thought but it is not a birthday night out for you or something and they have got you a pass as a brithday suprise,,?? if not drive them there then leave them to get their own way home,,, "
Nope. We're local to Bognor Butlins & they already have passes, which you can't buy any more |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
"Where did they get the passes? Why didn’t they get you one? Or mention it sooner so you could get one?
Lousy of the friend you originally made plans with. I’m very much a one for all and all for one when it comes to friends arrangements so if one didn’t have a pass we would just go elsewhere. Really annoys me. Just thoughtless!
They have annual passes that you can't buy any more. "
So they’d know you’d not have one.
We’ll have yourself a nice pamper sesh, slap on some tunes and have a party for one. |
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I was going to say this is shocking behaviour, but sadly these days it isn't.
I am livid and its not even directly affecting me.
Such a crappy thing to do to a "friend".
I hope some good comes in to your night. |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"I was going to say this is shocking behaviour, but sadly these days it isn't.
I am livid and its not even directly affecting me.
Such a crappy thing to do to a "friend".
I hope some good comes in to your night."
Thanks |
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Gosh what a rubbish thing to do - so sorry for you, especially as you were obviously looking forward to it,
I'm on a few Butlins groups on FB & i see it's an adult 80s Weekender this weekend, if you're lucky there is often weekend wristbands being offe_ed ...x |
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OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.
Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?
Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead? |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?
What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into? |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.
Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?
Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead? "
Yes, they're going in to Butlins- they all have passes & I don't.
Finding alternative entertainment isn't really the point |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?
What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into? "
I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?
What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?
I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation "
But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing? |
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"Can you not try and get one?
You can't- if that was an option, I would have done just that
In that case fuck them off, really out of order. Stick up a meet request and find someone to have some fun with instead."
Do this. Your friends have let you down do find your own fun xx |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
bugger me i agree |
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As others have said op. That's pretty scabby thing for so called friends to do. Even the 2 additions would have asked why they didn't have tickets for you surely?
I'd tell her how you feel and leave it at that. Chin up. Oh and just be careful what you plan with her in future. |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?
What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?
I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation
But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing? "
We're local to each other. I spoke to her yesterday to arrange times to head out, etc & she landed this on me. She then said I could meet them for drinks before they go into Butlins. There was a mention of a borrowed pass, so I could get in but I didn't hear another word about it. |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?
What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?
I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation
But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing?
We're local to each other. I spoke to her yesterday to arrange times to head out, etc & she landed this on me. She then said I could meet them for drinks before they go into Butlins. There was a mention of a borrowed pass, so I could get in but I didn't hear another word about it."
Has she apologised? |
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"OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.
Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?
Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead?
Yes, they're going in to Butlins- they all have passes & I don't.
Finding alternative entertainment isn't really the point "
Hi OP, yes I completely agree and sorry - I did mean to suggest that. I suppose I was just trying to help you salvage some enjoyment from a night off and give two fingers to your friend.
As the very wise Outsider has asked, I hope she apologised and understands what she’s done wrong. Not fair on you at all.
I also hope you’re not feeling too down. Big hugs x |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Had you arranged to meet in a particular place initially?
What was your friends explanation for changing this plan to somewhere you cant get into?
I invited her for a night out. There was no explanation
But had you arranged to meet somewhere initially though? Did she actually change pre-arranged plans or were the arrangements loose and then she came with the butlins thing?
We're local to each other. I spoke to her yesterday to arrange times to head out, etc & she landed this on me. She then said I could meet them for drinks before they go into Butlins. There was a mention of a borrowed pass, so I could get in but I didn't hear another word about it.
Has she apologised?"
Nope! I sent her a pic of my feet in slippers & holding a cup of tea- seen but no reply. I won't be bothering with her again |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"OP I’m so sorry to hear your ‘friends’ have screwed you over in favour of their own happiness. That’s the definition of selfish behaviour.
Just a thought because I don’t remember reading this, are they definitely going into butlins? You say they have passes but is it their plan to actually go there?
Do you have any fab friends you could hook up with for a properly steamy night in, instead?
Yes, they're going in to Butlins- they all have passes & I don't.
Finding alternative entertainment isn't really the point
Hi OP, yes I completely agree and sorry - I did mean to suggest that. I suppose I was just trying to help you salvage some enjoyment from a night off and give two fingers to your friend.
As the very wise Outsider has asked, I hope she apologised and understands what she’s done wrong. Not fair on you at all.
I also hope you’re not feeling too down. Big hugs x"
Thanks for that. I feel like shit but at least I know not to bother ever again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.
One friend, who I was once very close to - had asked in October, to arrange a Christmas meal with me. She’s notorious for ‘forgetting’ plans, but like a mug, I went with it. A couple of times we talked about our meal. Two days before, I asked her a q about it - she comes back with, ‘oh, I’ve double booked myself, I can’t come now’. I sent her the screenshot of the cancelled booking.
That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't quite understand all this. However, they are not 'friends' when one lets you down. Dump the friend and you'll be stronger for it. I'm getting on now and realise true friends are very few and far between. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 22/01/23 10:50:25]"
Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old!  |
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"[Removed by poster at 22/01/23 10:50:25]
Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old! "
What a let down |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
Some friends they are |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
they are not friends |
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"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.
One friend, who I was once very close to - had asked in October, to arrange a Christmas meal with me. She’s notorious for ‘forgetting’ plans, but like a mug, I went with it. A couple of times we talked about our meal. Two days before, I asked her a q about it - she comes back with, ‘oh, I’ve double booked myself, I can’t come now’. I sent her the screenshot of the cancelled booking.
That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people."
Yeah our only friend remaining in this area will make arrangements to meet up but then nearly every time, something comes up or she's made a mistake etc. I've stopped being bothe_ed about meeting up. It means no friends in this area to meet up with, but that's life, I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't quite understand all this. However, they are not 'friends' when one lets you down. Dump the friend and you'll be stronger for it. I'm getting on now and realise true friends are very few and far between. "
Yep
Hasn't it always been said we're lucky to have 3 true friends across our entire lifetimes  |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
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Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old! "
Lol!! Thanks for thinking about me
I can't lie, I didn't sleep last night. I don't normally let stuff get to me, but this has. People, eh? x |
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A friend of mine was always cancelling and rearranging our dates. Eventually I gave a very non committal response to yet another cancellation, she then accused me quite aggressively of not wanting to see her any more.
I pointed out the number of times she'd cancelled in me and left it at that. Cue an apology and flowers next time we met. She now sends photographic evidence if she has to cancel for any reason  |
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"[Removed by poster at 22/01/23 10:50:25]
Bugger! Was gonna message you to ask how you were today, and posted on her, so deleted! Then managed to message myself(what a numpty!), but I cant message you cos I am too old!
Lol!! Thanks for thinking about me
I can't lie, I didn't sleep last night. I don't normally let stuff get to me, but this has. People, eh? x"
It's horrible when friends hurt your feelings isn't it. People tell you not to care but if you didn't care about them you wouldn't have been their friend in the first place |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"A friend of mine was always cancelling and rearranging our dates. Eventually I gave a very non committal response to yet another cancellation, she then accused me quite aggressively of not wanting to see her any more.
I pointed out the number of times she'd cancelled in me and left it at that. Cue an apology and flowers next time we met. She now sends photographic evidence if she has to cancel for any reason "
It never ceases to amaze me how people don't recognise their own behaviour! |
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By *edMan
over a year ago
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Assertiveness is key.
People often think only of themselves, and sometimes they need to be told, gently but directly how they made you feel.
No need for arguments or drama
Tell them and leave them to decide what their response is.
That response will tell you what you need to know
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
Who is driving you all there?
I'd tell them to fuck off. That's an utterly shit thing to do. "
I completely agree! That’s tight as fuck! |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.
One friend, who I was once very close to - had asked in October, to arrange a Christmas meal with me. She’s notorious for ‘forgetting’ plans, but like a mug, I went with it. A couple of times we talked about our meal. Two days before, I asked her a q about it - she comes back with, ‘oh, I’ve double booked myself, I can’t come now’. I sent her the screenshot of the cancelled booking.
That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people."
Its a common thing here..... I actually allow for it.  |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.
One friend, who I was once very close to - had asked in October, to arrange a Christmas meal with me. She’s notorious for ‘forgetting’ plans, but like a mug, I went with it. A couple of times we talked about our meal. Two days before, I asked her a q about it - she comes back with, ‘oh, I’ve double booked myself, I can’t come now’. I sent her the screenshot of the cancelled booking.
That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people.Its a common thing here..... I actually allow for it. "
I'm sure it does, but what I expect from randoms on Fab & my expectations of friends are two different things |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
I totally understand your frustration, OP. It's things like this that remind me of my insecurities brought on by being excluded from events, situations and experiences for whatever reason. It's just a horrible feeling and it can make you start doubting your decisions, tbh. I just hope it doesn't affect you, because you seem like a mentally strong person unlike me, unfortunately 
Hopefully, once your anger subsides, you'll be able to analyse the situation and do things differently next time.
I hope things work out for you |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off "
I'd of told them to fuck off and then grabbed the nearest fuckable person!! |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.
One friend, who I was once very close to - had asked in October, to arrange a Christmas meal with me. She’s notorious for ‘forgetting’ plans, but like a mug, I went with it. A couple of times we talked about our meal. Two days before, I asked her a q about it - she comes back with, ‘oh, I’ve double booked myself, I can’t come now’. I sent her the screenshot of the cancelled booking.
That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people.Its a common thing here..... I actually allow for it.
I'm sure it does, but what I expect from randoms on Fab & my expectations of friends are two different things"
well yes from friends you expect them to honour their plans, i used to get this organising squash meets two guys in particular friends for years let me down all the time, i stopped playing them in the end |
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"A friend of mine was always cancelling and rearranging our dates. Eventually I gave a very non committal response to yet another cancellation, she then accused me quite aggressively of not wanting to see her any more.
I pointed out the number of times she'd cancelled in me and left it at that. Cue an apology and flowers next time we met. She now sends photographic evidence if she has to cancel for any reason
It never ceases to amaze me how people don't recognise their own behaviour!"
I think they recognise it but justify it to themselves so they don't have to face their own failings.
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
I'd of told them to fuck off and then grabbed the nearest fuckable person!!"
She didn't want sex she wanted her friend to stick to her arrangements |
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"Don't quite understand all this. However, they are not 'friends' when one lets you down. Dump the friend and you'll be stronger for it. I'm getting on now and realise true friends are very few and far between. Yep
Hasn't it always been said we're lucky to have 3 true friends across our entire lifetimes "
Well two of mine are dead, leaving the last one worried.... |
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"2 weeks ago, I arranged to go for a night out with a friend & I've been really looking forward to it- we both enjoy clubbing, so it would have been a late one. I confirmed yesterday & it turns out that she's invited 2 others- that's no problem, but the 3 of them have Butlins passes & I don't, so I get to have drinks with them until the 3 of them bugger off into Butlins at 10pm. I'm absolutely bloody livid...what a waste of a Saturday night off
I'd of told them to fuck off and then grabbed the nearest fuckable person!!
She didn't want sex she wanted her friend to stick to her arrangements "
That doesnt matter...its all thr brain thinks about so it gets spewed out into a comment |
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"Don't quite understand all this. However, they are not 'friends' when one lets you down. Dump the friend and you'll be stronger for it. I'm getting on now and realise true friends are very few and far between. Yep
Hasn't it always been said we're lucky to have 3 true friends across our entire lifetimes
Well two of mine are dead, leaving the last one worried.... "
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"Do you know, OP, something similar happened to me the other week.
One friend, who I was once very close to - had asked in October, to arrange a Christmas meal with me. She’s notorious for ‘forgetting’ plans, but like a mug, I went with it. A couple of times we talked about our meal. Two days before, I asked her a q about it - she comes back with, ‘oh, I’ve double booked myself, I can’t come now’. I sent her the screenshot of the cancelled booking.
That dumping people for a better offer mentality doesn’t occur to me, and I think it’s a shite way to treat people.
Yeah our only friend remaining in this area will make arrangements to meet up but then nearly every time, something comes up or she's made a mistake etc. I've stopped being bothe_ed about meeting up. It means no friends in this area to meet up with, but that's life, I suppose. "
I've had a similar experience trying to make female friends on here, which is one of the main reasons I don't bother any more, sick of sitting in random places waiting for someone to admit they've no intention of showing up!
OP, I can't add much to what's already been said: those aren't the actions of a friend.
It's hurtful, but I hope you take some consolation in the reactions on here - it's a crappy thing to do to someone they purport to care about. |
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I hope you managed to process that and let them know how you feel. Not nice to be excluded when you were the one who made the original plans. You aren't category B friend. They could have arranged another eve at Butlins without rubbing it in your face. |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I hope you managed to process that and let them know how you feel. Not nice to be excluded when you were the one who made the original plans. You aren't category B friend. They could have arranged another eve at Butlins without rubbing it in your face. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe it's a wind up!
Maybe they secretly have a pass for you as a birthday surprise
Errr, no. I got ready to go out, sat waiting for her to message me the time to meet & nothing. "
Omg I'm sorry to hear that
I didn't think the date had passed |
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