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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes definitely without a doubt, the only thing I suffer from is unpredictability on the monthly lady curse , plays havoc with planning "
Completely this. When i was single I nearly had to give up due to being unpredictable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Male menopause has for me
There’s always one 
Meaning
Look on the NHS website "
Meaning the OP asked for experiences of women. They are more likely to inform as to how others have been affected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My sex drive is fairly high, my periods are all over the shop! Currently waiting on blood tests back as I think I'm starting peri... I plan on pushing for HRT if I am |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My sex drive is fairly high, my periods are all over the shop! Currently waiting on blood tests back as I think I'm starting peri... I plan on pushing for HRT if I am "
It's definitely made a difference with myself. I suffered more in the peri than now. Period's are still very unpredictable but mood swings and tiredness has leveled out . |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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I am very fortunate in that my sex drive went into overdrive post menopause (but full disclosure it also coincided with becoming single after a long and largely sex less relationship which undoubtedly helped!). Never go anywhere without lube tho as I can sometimes go from being wetter than an otters pocket to the Atacama in the blink of an eye - irrespective of how turned on I am. Other than that and bloody'brain fog' I have had no other issues. |
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I am In full menopause now. Luckily carefully researched supplements and the coil have abated most of my symptoms and I can avoid hrt. My main symptom that affected my playtime was disinterest in sexual penetration as it became uncomfortable. But my fwb's are very loving and understanding so we worked through it with lots and lots of lube  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am In full menopause now. Luckily carefully researched supplements and the coil have abated most of my symptoms and I can avoid hrt. My main symptom that affected my playtime was disinterest in sexual penetration as it became uncomfortable. But my fwb's are very loving and understanding so we worked through it with lots and lots of lube "
Is that the Mirena? I have a copper one at the minute |
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Yes menopause has had a huge effort on my life including my fab life. It started over 3yr ago.
At the beginning it turned me onto a horrid person, I lost my sex drive completely, very moody, tearful, weigh gain.
It's only been the past 6mths that I've actually felt so much better and the past month my sex drive is back with a vengeance 
Have been on hrt for a year, its taken a while to get the right combination etc. I also in the past few yrs, doing lots of self healing and I'm now a nice person than I was before menopause.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am very fortunate in that my sex drive went into overdrive post menopause (but full disclosure it also coincided with becoming single after a long and largely sex less relationship which undoubtedly helped!). Never go anywhere without lube tho as I can sometimes go from being wetter than an otters pocket to the Atacama in the blink of an eye - irrespective of how turned on I am. Other than that and bloody'brain fog' I have had no other issues. "
Sorry . All i took from that was " otter's pocket" fabulous  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am In full menopause now. Luckily carefully researched supplements and the coil have abated most of my symptoms and I can avoid hrt. My main symptom that affected my playtime was disinterest in sexual penetration as it became uncomfortable. But my fwb's are very loving and understanding so we worked through it with lots and lots of lube "
What supplements do you take and what symptoms do they help?
(feel free to message if you if prefer not to do in the forum x) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have any ladies/couples found it has impacted on your swinging lifestyle. Both negative and positive?"
It does for me
I’ve got no drive, don’t feel sexy and really can’t be arsed as my mojo is back and forth  |
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I don't think I'm quite there yet, at 46, but definitely keeping an eye on things and tracking my cycles. Still pretty regular.
I have fatigue and brain fog due to other issues, so not sure how much different that will be.
I do get the occasional hot flush, the most recent one was actually quite painful, and my period pains have been worse in the last 6 months or so.
My interest in sex fluctuates at the best of times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have any ladies/couples found it has impacted on your swinging lifestyle. Both negative and positive?"
im 50 and not peri yet periods are still reg but need for lube is crazy so dry at times so got cream from docs considering reg contraception have tried copper coil but was a nightmare and the mini pill not good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for the replies. Certain Menopause
sites seem to shade over the effect on a women's ( and partners sex life ) though more research is now being done it is a struggle dealing with both body and mind sometimes becoming alien to you whilst wanting to lead a healthy and fun sex life.
I shall continue to lug around my aldi's organic olive oil |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have any ladies/couples found it has impacted on your swinging lifestyle. Both negative and positive?
It does for me
I’ve got no drive, don’t feel sexy and really can’t be arsed as my mojo is back and forth "
I think I've been peri for the last 10 years, I'm on hrt about 9 months and thankfully some of the symptoms are gone but my sex drive is non existent, don't feel sexl at all and the thought of getting naked for a guy makes me want to run for the hills. I've stopped meeting as I just can't put myself through anymore let downs on here.
Its shite  |
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I went off sex best part of a year, would bleed with sex, became really fed up but, touch wood sex drive is back with a vengeance and sex is great although.... Fragile handle with care, just in case!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with what you said about your body feeling alien. I think I have been in peri for a few years and have had all sorts of difficult symptoms all that hasnt make me feel myself or trust my body at all. I have had zero sex drive but thats no surprise since just getting up every day and keeping going takes all my bodies reserves. I didnt have periods for almost 9 mths but put that down to being underweight and anaemic. Have just started having periods again now I have some weight on that are so heavy so expecting to be anaemic all over again. But that seems to have stopped the other shitty peri symptoms. But all in all I think I shall go to the doc and ask for some meds as I am fed up not being myself and would like to feel sexy and healthy and springy again. |
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I was put in a medical menopause prior to having everything whipped out 4 years ago. Luckily T is very understanding & patient as my drive is now very low. When we do have sex it’s fantastic although I feel really dry he says I’m not but lube is always at hand. I find it really frustrating…. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree with what you said about your body feeling alien. I think I have been in peri for a few years and have had all sorts of difficult symptoms all that hasnt make me feel myself or trust my body at all. I have had zero sex drive but thats no surprise since just getting up every day and keeping going takes all my bodies reserves. I didnt have periods for almost 9 mths but put that down to being underweight and anaemic. Have just started having periods again now I have some weight on that are so heavy so expecting to be anaemic all over again. But that seems to have stopped the other shitty peri symptoms. But all in all I think I shall go to the doc and ask for some meds as I am fed up not being myself and would like to feel sexy and healthy and springy again. "
I would. I suppose ( stupidly) tried to battle it with herbal supplements , exercise and healthy eating for 2 year's. I wish I'd gone to the doctor's before that.
Most weeks it would be " what fresh hell is this" some i could handle but some like the restless legs and pain in arms and legs were sometimes debilitating. HRT has kind of turned the tap down to just drips of symptoms. But I feel more like me.
Good luck x |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Not sure if mine is peri menopause related or just a sign of the times, but I don’t want to date, I don’t want casual sex, I don’t want the intrusion a relationship brings, casual or otherwise. Just can’t be bothered with it all. But whatever, it’s fine. It might be a temporary thing or it may last forever, but either way I’m good with it. |
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By *0coupleCouple
over a year ago
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I'm in peri, I don't really feel sexy and my sex drive has dropped off and periods are all over the place. No hot flushes etc yet so that's one good thing. Taking herbal tablets, not sure if doing much good but thought I'd give them a go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in full menopause and no libido at all, feel like crap, put weight on. Not comfortable with myself so no confidence. "
My wife is exactly the same. Been in menaphause for over two years and still struggles with it |
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By *0coupleCouple
over a year ago
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So how do you guys cope?
Is it just a waiting game and patience.
M is still a very hot and sexy lady. I find her more attractive everyday. I just want to support and be there for her.
What else should I be doing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in peri, I don't really feel sexy and my sex drive has dropped off and periods are all over the place. No hot flushes etc yet so that's one good thing. Taking herbal tablets, not sure if doing much good but thought I'd give them a go."
I'm the same, peri & symptoms went into full swing around 5 years ago inc hot flushes. I went full hrt (patches, progesterone) took a while to get correct dosage but so, so worth it |
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