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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The beautiful and fierce 45 year old Shakira (Colombian singer who sang Hips Don’t Lie a few years back) has been unceremoniously dumped by her younger husband Gerard Pique, 35. He has very suspiciously quickly moved on with a new girlfriend, much younger at 22.
Shakira has released what could have been an embarrassing move, a revenge track about the cheating ex…which has already broken YouTube records, with 63 million views in 24 hours.
But what I would like to know, first rate forumites, is if you’ve ever got revenge on someone. And how?
Did you feel guilty afterwards? |
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"The beautiful and fierce 45 year old Shakira (Colombian singer who sang Hips Don’t Lie a few years back) has been unceremoniously dumped by her younger husband Gerard Pique, 35. He has very suspiciously quickly moved on with a new girlfriend, much younger at 22.
Shakira has released what could have been an embarrassing move, a revenge track about the cheating ex…which has already broken YouTube records, with 63 million views in 24 hours.
But what I would like to know, first rate forumites, is if you’ve ever got revenge on someone. And how?
Did you feel guilty afterwards?"
I have.
I can't say.
And Hell no.
Dish served cold? You bet. Cross me, and more so the ones I love, and I'll reverse global warning.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s particularly healthy to seek revenge, and you probably didn’t more harm to yourself than anything.
Better to let go, and move forward. |
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"I don’t think it’s particularly healthy to seek revenge, and you probably didn’t more harm to yourself than anything.
Better to let go, and move forward. "
I agree with others, seeking revenge is unhealthy. That said, it's surprising how often events unfold to offer the opportunity for revenge in time. Then it's a question of whether to strike or let it pass. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a fab perspective I'd take amazing photos and post them to my profile... But in reality that's as exciting as it would get..
I'm great at 'letting it go' and counselling others  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think it’s particularly healthy to seek revenge, and you probably didn’t more harm to yourself than anything.
Better to let go, and move forward.
I agree with others, seeking revenge is unhealthy. That said, it's surprising how often events unfold to offer the opportunity for revenge in time. Then it's a question of whether to strike or let it pass."
I have seen unpleasant people get their just desserts without my intervention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think it’s particularly healthy to seek revenge, and you probably didn’t more harm to yourself than anything.
Better to let go, and move forward.
I agree with others, seeking revenge is unhealthy. That said, it's surprising how often events unfold to offer the opportunity for revenge in time. Then it's a question of whether to strike or let it pass."
Yes. It's interesting that at times it just presents itself. An evil temptation or universe saying- time for a lesson?  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"But what I would like to know, first rate forumites, is if you’ve ever got revenge on someone. And how?
Did you feel guilty afterwards?"
Oh yes, many times over the years. I hold a grudge, and am happy to wait a long time to spring my revenge.
I would share what I have done, but it may or may not be of questionable legality! 
As for feeling guilty, nope. If I don’t feel guilty for how I have treated those close to me, why would I feel guilty for those that now mean nothing to me?!? |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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The best is making sure someone knows you could take revenge, but you play it straight. They are simply waiting for the axe to fall, but it never does. Quietly satisfying.
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Revenge is definitely a dish best served cold OP. However the best revenge I find is just to move on for myself. Not getting revenge at all. No second chances. No contact. No late night begging texts. Nada. Zilch.
I keep my own council and remember always that I am enough.
Funnily enough I’ve never ever fallen out with an ex and they’ve always come back to be friends when invariably they realise they’ve fucked up.
And yes karma is alive and well here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i just run.
run away completely, and try and keep my brain busy so i don't have a chance to think about anything.
if i sit with my thoughts, and ruminate on things, i spiral, and that isn't good. Px  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Yeah, once sadly. Though I was about to say no as it was nothing to do with a relationship and more to do with a flatmate getting me kicked out of a house. I pissed in his shampoo. OOOOOOOh.
I'm not the revengy type - nothing has really needed revenging relationship wise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The beautiful and fierce 45 year old Shakira (Colombian singer who sang Hips Don’t Lie a few years back) has been unceremoniously dumped by her younger husband Gerard Pique, 35. He has very suspiciously quickly moved on with a new girlfriend, much younger at 22.
Shakira has released what could have been an embarrassing move, a revenge track about the cheating ex…which has already broken YouTube records, with 63 million views in 24 hours.
But what I would like to know, first rate forumites, is if you’ve ever got revenge on someone. And how?
Did you feel guilty afterwards?"
Yes I have and no I didn’t  |
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If I ever got revenge I would prefer to serve it ice cold and possibly in the most cruelest or brutal way I can think off depending on the individuals and what they have done to me..
I’ve lost count the amount off times in life for e.g. when someone has anonymously wronged or fucked me over big time in previous jobs I’ve worked in the past and I’ve felt a white hot rage get even with them…
Only a few people will do it openly most off them are too chicken shit to screw you over openly…
There have also been people in my personal life who have either wronged myself or a family member off mine and there is nothing more I value in this world then my family in general…
Even sometimes people you encounter online you can end up holding a grudge and want to seriously get back at them..
You can drive yourself mad sometimes thinking about it but then I remember life is too short, sometimes you might get a small revenge or victory so to speak…
But big time revenge with no holding back or settling the score with people who have seriously crossed the line with you or someone you are close to is harder to get…
Unless you’re willing to pay a heavy price to get that satisfaction like trouble with the law and ending up in prison for a long time…..
or worse being on the run from some seriously twisted people who are involved in criminal activities and have no qualms in committing unspeakable acts off revenge themselves.. |
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"The beautiful and fierce 45 year old Shakira (Colombian singer who sang Hips Don’t Lie a few years back) has been unceremoniously dumped by her younger husband Gerard Pique, 35. He has very suspiciously quickly moved on with a new girlfriend, much younger at 22.
Shakira has released what could have been an embarrassing move, a revenge track about the cheating ex…which has already broken YouTube records, with 63 million views in 24 hours.
But what I would like to know, first rate forumites, is if you’ve ever got revenge on someone. And how?
Did you feel guilty afterwards?"
Pique has definitely used the song to his full advantage though!! So while it may have been meant as revenge it’s clearly backfired.
As others have said, revenge is rarely a good way forward. Karma always finds it’s way… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never taken revenge on anyone, although, when a lot younger, I have discussed various ways in which I might, or my friends might, get revenge on people...
..none of us ever did though. At least, not that I know of  |
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The desire for revenge can be toxic, many of us will perhaps have been in the situation where the desire for revenge is quite strong but with years comes knowledge and when you can let the feeling for revenge go you can truly feel the weight lifted from you.
We do like to believe in Karma, though sometimes karma could perhaps be a little more prompt in arriving ???? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Not intentionally.
After I got fat, and found out my husband was cheating on me he said no one would want me because of how fat I had become-I'd put on 9 stone.
A couple of years later I met a much younger, very attractive man. My husband (who was my ex at that time) found out and wasn't too happy, because he thought he still had control over me.
He said he only wants you for one thing. I replied well I'm only after one thing too.
I knew it ate him up inside but I did it for me, not to get back at him.
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"The beautiful and fierce 45 year old Shakira (Colombian singer who sang Hips Don’t Lie a few years back) has been unceremoniously dumped by her younger husband Gerard Pique, 35. He has very suspiciously quickly moved on with a new girlfriend, much younger at 22.
Shakira has released what could have been an embarrassing move, a revenge track about the cheating ex…which has already broken YouTube records, with 63 million views in 24 hours.
But what I would like to know, first rate forumites, is if you’ve ever got revenge on someone. And how?
Did you feel guilty afterwards?"
No. Not interested in revenge |
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"No I usually just let karma do it's thing, now excuse me as I need to give Shikira a call to check she's ok and offer her my cock, I meant shoulder "
Shakira, nobody tell her I spelt her name wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Revenge might feel great for a second but it sets their claws a little deeper in you yourself though, so it's a no from me.
When I'm done? I'm gone. They move to stranger status with zero access and zero value
Best to move on and live well as they watch you walk away.... don't forget to sway  |
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"I would exact my revenge at the first possible opportunity... Whenever, Wherever
You’re just thinking about Shakira and her gorgeous hips aren’t you beautiful? Me too  "
Pretty much, that video (as awful as the effects look now) made me have a crush on her  |
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By *rolicUsCouple
over a year ago
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"I would exact my revenge at the first possible opportunity... Whenever, Wherever
You’re just thinking about Shakira and her gorgeous hips aren’t you beautiful? Me too "
And her breasts so small and humble
Probably her ex’s new squeeze has really massive boastful bangers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't seek revenge but if the opportunity arises you bet I'm on it. Fuck that karma bollocks !
I thought Pique came out pretty well from the celebrity bust up btw. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't seek revenge but if the opportunity arises you bet I'm on it. Fuck that karma bollocks !
I thought Pique came out pretty well from the celebrity bust up btw."
Karma bollocks
Impatient much ? |
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Nope.
What little revenge I may have ever wanted to mete out to anyone has been more than superseded by the ability of Karma to deposit all sorts of unholy crap on others.
There's no way I can compete with Karma in that score, so it's not even worth trying.
Karma is allowed to mete out revenge, not me.
I'm just allowed a wry smile from the side-lines before moving on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and it was on fab
Guy stood me up once
So I went thought his verification list
And contact people from it
His verification list wasn’t really my type off guy but none the less I “took one for the better good”
And let one off them have they way with me
Couple off weeks later he contacted me for a meet
During the conversation it came up that he had herd from a friend that had meet me that I had meet
My words to him was yip your friend got what you could have had if you didn’t stand me up 4 weeks ago
And blocked him
Leave him knowing that his friend got me and he missed his chance |
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I don't tend to hold grudges or seek revenge.
I am a tremendously petty creature, I've no doubt said some particularly sharp things in the heat of the moment. But mostly once someone is at that point with me I just cut them out and forget they exist as much as possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer to let karma sort it out, which it always does at some point"
I don’t believe in Karma, much as I’d like to. It’s more fortunate coincidence. I’ve seen far more people get away with their misdeeds than be held to account for them. Perhaps sometimes Karma just needs a hand?.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my early 20s i moved house id got the kids some chrimbo pressies online but forgot to change the address so when i went to the old house i found the family there refusing to give me my things even tho they had clearly signed it in one of thems names
I called the police yet again failed to get me any justice as is the trend with them lot
So i went back the following night and posted a bag of maggots thru the letterbox and pissed thru the dryer vent in revenge |
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"Yes and it was on fab
Guy stood me up once
So I went thought his verification list
And contact people from it
His verification list wasn’t really my type off guy but none the less I “took one for the better good”
And let one off them have they way with me
Couple off weeks later he contacted me for a meet
During the conversation it came up that he had herd from a friend that had meet me that I had meet
My words to him was yip your friend got what you could have had if you didn’t stand me up 4 weeks ago
And blocked him
Leave him knowing that his friend got me and he missed his chance "
Spooky, spiteful and verging on... Some kind of stalking type thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These days im too old to make the effort i cannot be arsed with it i tend not to hold any grudge like when i was a lad i seem to have grown soft in my old age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've done revenge before on an ex in my life.
But as the saying goes, when you peer into the abyss for too long, the abyss looks back at you.
And that's what happened to me in a way.
We both broke each other pretty good I'd say. None of our lives have been the same ever since we knew each other and things ended the way they did.
Is it worth seeking revenge? I think this is a wrong question to ask. Because when the red mist drops, it's never about rationality, whether it's "worth it". The heart wants what it wants. And wounds demand blood to close them.
We just live with the aftermath, and then some of us might kid ourselves and say it was either worth it or not worth it, to try and make some bigger philosophical meaning out of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes and it was on fab
Guy stood me up once
So I went thought his verification list
And contact people from it
His verification list wasn’t really my type off guy but none the less I “took one for the better good”
And let one off them have they way with me
Couple off weeks later he contacted me for a meet
During the conversation it came up that he had herd from a friend that had meet me that I had meet
My words to him was yip your friend got what you could have had if you didn’t stand me up 4 weeks ago
And blocked him
Leave him knowing that his friend got me and he missed his chance
Spooky, spiteful and verging on... Some kind of stalking type thing. "
Not really so meeting people is not stalking ??? |
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I was going to say no…
Then I had a think.
Ex there was a situation where I had the opportunity to get revenge and it would have completely blown up his life. He knew I could have done this…but I didn’t and I have it on good authority this caused him way more stress than perhaps if I had acted.
A soon to be ex boss, I was just going to walk away, then they pushed their luck and their boss was there too and it just was last straw and I let rip! Everyone has their breaking point.
Mostly though I just walk away, but this can inc completely cutting people out of my life. |
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Nobody has ever done anything bad enough to me for me to want revenge. I'm too lazy anyway I'd rather just get on with my life.
However if anyone hurt one of my children or a loved one it might be different. I'm currently wishing the supermarket worker who walked away from my partially sighted father when he was trying to use the self service till would sit on a hedgehog |
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No such thing as revenge in my opinion.
I look at it as every action has a reaction.
So you have to judge if you’re willing to deal with the reaction your action brings. If so go ahead. If not better think twice.
piqué obviously thought his action was worth the reaction.
The mr |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"Nobody has ever done anything bad enough to me for me to want revenge. I'm too lazy anyway I'd rather just get on with my life.
However if anyone hurt one of my children or a loved one it might be different. I'm currently wishing the supermarket worker who walked away from my partially sighted father when he was trying to use the self service till would sit on a hedgehog "
That would be unfair on the hedgehog. Replace said hedgehog with several drawing pins on seat. |
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"Nobody has ever done anything bad enough to me for me to want revenge. I'm too lazy anyway I'd rather just get on with my life.
However if anyone hurt one of my children or a loved one it might be different. I'm currently wishing the supermarket worker who walked away from my partially sighted father when he was trying to use the self service till would shit a hedgehog "
Sounds painful.
Winston |
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Nope, rather put the effort into me. My Dad told me I was stupid and never go to uni. Just gave me more drive to succeed. Doesn't mean I don't smirk when their bad behaviour catches up with them though. |
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"Nobody has ever done anything bad enough to me for me to want revenge. I'm too lazy anyway I'd rather just get on with my life.
However if anyone hurt one of my children or a loved one it might be different. I'm currently wishing the supermarket worker who walked away from my partially sighted father when he was trying to use the self service till would shit a hedgehog
Sounds painful.
Winston "
ya' devil!
I nearly wrote that but modesty forbid |
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I used to work for a publication that allowed personal ads. The number of people who placed nasty, spiteful break up ads detailing the ex's failings, naming new partners, accusing people of all sorts was astounding. Obviously we couldn't publish them but the lengths some people would go to to 'get their own back' and the accusations they would make sometimes shocked me |
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Not revenge as such but on the exit interview from one of my jobs I gave the Manager some insight to what I, and some of the rest of the team, thought of him.
Over the years his Manager found out what he was like and he ended up being disciplined etc.
Years later when I was looking to acquire some technology for a company I used to work for he turned up to do the sales pitch for the investment.
I took great pleasure in ripping their idea to shreds as it couldn't work ... then told him karma was a bitch as he left the building. |
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"There’s still a bully from school whose tyres go flat once a month
I’m not petty at all  "
Shame to see he's still getting a reaction out of you.
My bullies became nothing to me years ago. To even consider revenge would imply that they deserve a second's attention from me - which they do not. |
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"Not revenge as such but on the exit interview from one of my jobs I gave the Manager some insight to what I, and some of the rest of the team, thought of him.
Over the years his Manager found out what he was like and he ended up being disciplined etc.
Years later when I was looking to acquire some technology for a company I used to work for he turned up to do the sales pitch for the investment.
I took great pleasure in ripping their idea to shreds as it couldn't work ... then told him karma was a bitch as he left the building. "
Erm won't karma get you in that case?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone I know burgled my house when I was a teenager. He didn’t know that I knew and when we were young adults he invited me to a house party at his. I pissed in his kettle. I feel no remorse and would do it again if I had the chance |
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"Someone I know burgled my house when I was a teenager. He didn’t know that I knew and when we were young adults he invited me to a house party at his. I pissed in his kettle. I feel no remorse and would do it again if I had the chance "
I like that.
That’s the good kind of retribution that only you will ever know about
Apart from the 500 or so strangers on a swinging site now of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone I know burgled my house when I was a teenager. He didn’t know that I knew and when we were young adults he invited me to a house party at his. I pissed in his kettle. I feel no remorse and would do it again if I had the chance
I like that.
That’s the good kind of retribution that only you will ever know about
Apart from the 500 or so strangers on a swinging site now of course."
But they all know not to fuck with me now. |
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"Someone I know burgled my house when I was a teenager. He didn’t know that I knew and when we were young adults he invited me to a house party at his. I pissed in his kettle. I feel no remorse and would do it again if I had the chance
I like that.
That’s the good kind of retribution that only you will ever know about
Apart from the 500 or so strangers on a swinging site now of course.
But they all know not to fuck with me now."
And not to leave you unattended in their kitchens. |
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"I don’t have that hate in my heart to actually give a fuck about revenge. I really wouldn’t and couldn’t give any less fucks
I love you enough to piss in your kettle "
I’d forgive you by cleaning my toilet with your toothbrush  |
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"I don’t have that hate in my heart to actually give a fuck about revenge. I really wouldn’t and couldn’t give any less fucks
I love you enough to piss in your kettle
I’d forgive you by cleaning my toilet with your toothbrush "
Oh you animal, I’m absolutely bristling! |
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"Not revenge as such but on the exit interview from one of my jobs I gave the Manager some insight to what I, and some of the rest of the team, thought of him.
Over the years his Manager found out what he was like and he ended up being disciplined etc.
Years later when I was looking to acquire some technology for a company I used to work for he turned up to do the sales pitch for the investment.
I took great pleasure in ripping their idea to shreds as it couldn't work ... then told him karma was a bitch as he left the building.
Erm won't karma get you in that case? "
Only if you believe in it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I did get my revenge once.
He kissed my friend.
So I let his tyres down.
On his bike. We were 10.
…and then my Mum found out and walked me round to his house to apologise |
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"There’s still a bully from school whose tyres go flat once a month
I’m not petty at all
Shame to see he's still getting a reaction out of you.
My bullies became nothing to me years ago. To even consider revenge would imply that they deserve a second's attention from me - which they do not."
This particular one found himself grained in my mind the day he jumped on both my legs after I’d not long had serious operations on them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I did get my revenge once.
He kissed my friend.
So I let his tyres down.
On his bike. We were 10.
…and then my Mum found out and walked me round to his house to apologise
Well done mum! "
She’s wonderful. Tenacious, strong, caring |
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"I did get my revenge once.
He kissed my friend.
So I let his tyres down.
On his bike. We were 10.
…and then my Mum found out and walked me round to his house to apologise "
And have you fingered any valves since? |
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