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Hello people of fab,
I was hoping some of you could help suggest a few ideas to do on a first date, It will be my first time taking a girl out since separating from my wife 3 years ago feel a little out my depth right now lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dinner and a walk or something
Avoid noisy pubs and clubs that play music
Also avoid quiet places like the cinema and such or in less going for dinner first
Always make it a place you can freely have a good chat
bowling Could be a good indear |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Hey Op, I'm going to echo the exciting sentiment above. If you get those nervous butterflies, remember they're a very good thing! I still get those even after months of dating people. When I don't I start to erm... slow fade.
So. First date. Go somewhere where you'll feel comfortable. Not too loud or busy but if you get on well there's always the option to stay out later.
Why not go for a country walk and stop at a little pub along the way? If the weather's grim you can skip to having a drink. But I think somewhere quiet, where you can relax is a good idea. Activities can be fun but not if it's your first in a bit.
Personally I love bookstores so grabbing a coffee/drink and then mooching around a couple of independents sounds fantastic to me but I know it might not be for everyone.
Good luck OP.  x |
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Been dating a lot recently after getting divorced in 2016.
My advice is a nice coffee shop an independent one rather than a chain or nice pub in which ordering a pot of tea / specialty coffee isn’t unusual.
If the date goes well a nice winter walk afterwards to chat more.
No matter what you do, good luck  |
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If you get to second or third date I highly recommend the back of a truck kitted out with blankets and cushions, some string fairy lights and a picnic under the stars  |
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"Check out the new 45s in Our Price, then to Laser Quest and then finish a perfect night out at the Beefeater.
Works every time
Esty! Play nice.  "
Just because you got banned from Laser Quest for cheating. |
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By *eliWoman
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"If you get to second or third date I highly recommend the back of a truck kitted out with blankets and cushions, some string fairy lights and a picnic under the stars "
Oh and make sure it's a full moon! That sounds perfect.  |
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"Check out the new 45s in Our Price, then to Laser Quest and then finish a perfect night out at the Beefeater.
Works every time
Ignore my suggestion….this "
Steph knows |
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If you’ve got as far as going on a date then you’ve spoken at least so maybe ask her what she likes?
If she’s into sports, food, books, history, comic books…. Then tailor it accordingly.
The 2 best things for a great date are
effort. So matching the date to her will go down really well.
And honesty. Don’t be afraid to tell her you’re nervous. I would take that as a compliment personally.
I hope it goes really well for you. |
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"If you get to second or third date I highly recommend the back of a truck kitted out with blankets and cushions, some string fairy lights and a picnic under the stars
Oh and make sure it's a full moon! That sounds perfect. "
Ooh yes! I’ve yet to experience it myself but the idea definitely appeals! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some good and sensible advice already from others.
Id echo most of what they are saying.
Id suggest a pub or coffee shop. But a quieter one, where you dont have to shout to be heard. A nice relaxing atmosphere.
You'll relax after a few drinks (but not too many).
And if in a decent pub, and you click, you have the option of then going on to have a meal.
On the other hand, if no real spark, you dont feel obliged to drag it out and you can leave after a few drinks.
(Oh, and dont keep looking at your phone). |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"Hello people of fab,
I was hoping some of you could help suggest a few ideas to do on a first date, It will be my first time taking a girl out since separating from my wife 3 years ago feel a little out my depth right now lol
Thank you "
Whatever you decide, I hope that you have an amazing time |
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"I'm so glad I posted this I was thinking of an escape room then meal or hire a rowing boat then stop at a pub "
Escape rooms are good, just check she’s not claustrophobic first |
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A book shop with a cafe is a good idea…if you both are book worms. An Indy record store is a good idea…if you both like music- why? Because if you start to struggle to find things to talk about, you can make a game out of finding each other a book or music recommendation that tells the other about yourself in some way, or that you think matches each other’s personality. Some meet-cute ideas sound dumb on paper, but beat staring awkwardly across a Wetherspoons table!
Whatever the idea is, having an activity to do that helps overcome nerves without preventing conversation is a great help. |
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"I'm so glad I posted this I was thinking of an escape room then meal or hire a rowing boat then stop at a pub
Escape rooms are good, just check she’s not claustrophobic first "
That is a very good idea I don't think of that Thank you |
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McDonald's,find one with a ball pit happy days,then give her a backie on your bike 
Failing that and bear with me on this.
An arcade with the old 2p slot games, and the like just have fun then go for a coffee after.
Or
Show her your collection of shrunken heads
Sorry I'm not being much help.
A nice bar that serves coffee and tea, maybe near a river to sit and watch the world go by,it's not really going for a walk weather unfortunately. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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A first date for me would involve a coffee and a walk somewhere with the option to get something to eat/go bowling if we liked each other.
I'd never go for dinner with someone I wasn't sure I liked, I'd find that really awkward.
Good luck OP |
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"I'm so glad I posted this I was thinking of an escape room then meal or hire a rowing boat then stop at a pub "
I'd be very cautious about an escape room with someone I didn't know well. Rowing boat sounds lovely but if she turns up in heels and a dress how's she going to feel about getting in and out?
You sound as if you've put a lot of thought into this and that's something that I hope she'll appreciate |
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"Hello people of fab,
I was hoping some of you could help suggest a few ideas to do on a first date, It will be my first time taking a girl out since separating from my wife 3 years ago feel a little out my depth right now lol
Thank you "
Maybe something social with a few friends to just ensure no awkward silence and wondering, afterwards maybe go elsewhere to continue the conversation and who knows, depends on the times it could be a late meal, even a late cinema showing or a nightcap with nothing on offer.. |
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"I'm not sure if I'm excited or nervous lol we are planning late afternoon early evening time "
Find a nice restaurant and for good sake Book you can cancel but you don't want to get somewhere and there full.
Try and find an independent Italian check if they have vegan vegetarian. As this all shows you care its hard work but.
The ground work makes the date more relaxed for you. And on return her. I normally try and go in and book so can sort of check the place.
Once you with her relax and just be you.
Oh and good luck.. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"Hello people of fab,
I was hoping some of you could help suggest a few ideas to do on a first date, It will be my first time taking a girl out since separating from my wife 3 years ago feel a little out my depth right now lol
Thank you "
Country pub for some nice food maybe a walk before |
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First date should just be a quick coffee somewhere, no pressure, no expectations, just a friendly chat. Keep it reasonably short 1-2 hrs, then if you get on arrange a second date for the following week. |
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Totally depends on your mutual interests and how well you vibe before meeting. For some people a coffee and chat will be fine, others would think that's rather predictable even boring.
Good luck whatever you decide OP |
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"Hello people of fab,
I was hoping some of you could help suggest a few ideas to do on a first date, It will be my first time taking a girl out since separating from my wife 3 years ago feel a little out my depth right now lol
Thank you "
Sking, tennis, swimming, and windsurfing. |
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"If you get to second or third date I highly recommend the back of a truck kitted out with blankets and cushions, some string fairy lights and a picnic under the stars "
I would love to do this one a 2nd or 3rd date! So cute |
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"Hey Op, I'm going to echo the exciting sentiment above. If you get those nervous butterflies, remember they're a very good thing! I still get those even after months of dating people. When I don't I start to erm... slow fade.
So. First date. Go somewhere where you'll feel comfortable. Not too loud or busy but if you get on well there's always the option to stay out later.
Why not go for a country walk and stop at a little pub along the way? If the weather's grim you can skip to having a drink. But I think somewhere quiet, where you can relax is a good idea. Activities can be fun but not if it's your first in a bit.
Personally I love bookstores so grabbing a coffee/drink and then mooching around a couple of independents sounds fantastic to me but I know it might not be for everyone.
Good luck OP. x"
Slow fade, I’m going to have to use that one haha |
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Hey all you fab people many thanks foe your suggestions tonight was the night we met for our first meet taking on some suggestions made by some of you I believe it was a successful evening and would like to thank you all for your suggestions and helping me along the way helping me keep my nerves ended the evening with a beautiful kiss and a follow up date |
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I would keep it relaxed just with drinks for a first date, then dinner for 2nd date. Good luck 