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Wondering about people can who cause drama for people off here, or ‘out’ people who need discretion
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Bear with me on this as I may have had a light herbal refreshment.
I have come to understand for some people there is a need to be ‘careful’ like never sending face pictures, not giving their real name, very few details given and need constant reassurance of discretion.
And I’m wondering if there are people who for whatever reason want to be malicious , find out where people work and live , do detective work, threaten , torment people or maybe even just out them for the hell of it , people.
My actual question is , how the hell can people be arsed going to all that effort , when the second I get in from work, I just want to eat then I can’t even be arsed to get off the fucking couch, let alone try and get dick, and then try and get off the couch, get dick, then when I’m even more shattered turn into Sherlock fucking Holmes |
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Been on the receiving end of nasty pasties. Sad hollow people using what should be fun stuff against people whose work demands discretion.
I might have missed out on some fun last night, because I never want that shit again.
How do they find the energy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you know why they did that ? Or were they just absolute wronguns?"
Long story. Had to get police involved. Case remains open.
I’m lucky (I guess) I’m a drag queen and openly gay, so my boss and colleagues were very supportive. But it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did you know why they did that ? Or were they just absolute wronguns?
Long story. Had to get police involved. Case remains open.
I’m lucky (I guess) I’m a drag queen and openly gay, so my boss and colleagues were very supportive. But it happens. "
God I’m really sorry to hear that but really glad you’ve been supported |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Beats me, OP. Sounds like it makes life incredibly complex, for themselves as well as those they’re dicking over. Ain’t nobody got time for that!"
Surely they mustn’t all have full time jobs and need to feed themselves and do washing as well. It’s got me wondering if I’ve just got really poor time management |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They’re sad individuals OP. There’s 2 online right now that have actively done this in the past. They’re just not my type of human beings. "
Do they do it because that’s just what they want to do or is it nearly always after the person has p’d them off or not done what they wanted ? |
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"Do they do it because that’s just what they want to do or is it nearly always after the person has p’d them off or not done what they wanted ?"
... That almost sounds victim blamey.
Some people are just assholes. |
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Bear with me on this as I may have had a light herbal refreshment.
I have come to understand for some people there is a need to be ‘careful’ like never sending face pictures, not giving their real name, very few details given and need constant reassurance of discretion.
And I’m wondering if there are people who for whatever reason want to be malicious , find out where people work and live , do detective work, threaten , torment people or maybe even just out them for the hell of it , people.
My actual question is , how the hell can people be arsed going to all that effort , when the second I get in from work, I just want to eat then I can’t even be arsed to get off the fucking couch, let alone try and get dick, and then try and get off the couch, get dick, then when I’m even more shattered turn into Sherlock fucking Holmes"
lol hey I'm not sure either some people are just very quick on the uptake mind.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s really sad and the reason I don’t want my face on public. I’m not in the slightest ashamed of being on here, and would openly tell anyone that asked, but being in a Senior Leadership position in a public facing role, I have to try and eliminate the arseholes!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do they do it because that’s just what they want to do or is it nearly always after the person has p’d them off or not done what they wanted ?
... That almost sounds victim blamey.
Some people are just assholes."
No not feeling victim blamey at all- more about the malicious persons inability to accept that people piss you off and that’s life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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None so quare as folk , if you can at all avoid the assholes who only want to be nosy , l work with a person who wants to always know everyone's business, if people want you to know they'll tell you ..if they don't ..they won't..easy ...but beware of the assholes..ten a penny. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"None so quare as folk , if you can at all avoid the assholes who only want to be nosy , l work with a person who wants to always know everyone's business, if people want you to know they'll tell you ..if they don't ..they won't..easy ...but beware of the assholes..ten a penny."
I am surprised it seems to prevalent and I’m genuinely quite shocked at how lucky I must have been to never have come into contact with someone where that’s felt like a possibility |
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"They’re sad individuals OP. There’s 2 online right now that have actively done this in the past. They’re just not my type of human beings.
Do they do it because that’s just what they want to do or is it nearly always after the person has p’d them off or not done what they wanted ?"
They’re just not nice people. They do it out of malice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"None so quare as folk , if you can at all avoid the assholes who only want to be nosy , l work with a person who wants to always know everyone's business, if people want you to know they'll tell you ..if they don't ..they won't..easy ...but beware of the assholes..ten a penny."
Do you think that in general, or on fabs? (‘Assholes ten a penny’) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They’re sad individuals OP. There’s 2 online right now that have actively done this in the past. They’re just not my type of human beings. "
Actively done so to you, Rex? |
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"They’re sad individuals OP. There’s 2 online right now that have actively done this in the past. They’re just not my type of human beings.
Do they do it because that’s just what they want to do or is it nearly always after the person has p’d them off or not done what they wanted ?
They’re just not nice people. They do it out of malice. "
You think about the negative threads on here though Rex they attract more interaction than some of the more positive threads, doesn't excuse bad behaviour, doesn't excuse jealous people and doesn't excuse people who are nasty for the sake of being nasty, some people just thrive on the negative  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did you know why they did that ? Or were they just absolute wronguns?
Long story. Had to get police involved. Case remains open.
I’m lucky (I guess) I’m a drag queen and openly gay, so my boss and colleagues were very supportive. But it happens.
God I’m really sorry to hear that but really glad you’ve been supported "
Thanks sugar appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"None so quare as folk , if you can at all avoid the assholes who only want to be nosy , l work with a person who wants to always know everyone's business, if people want you to know they'll tell you ..if they don't ..they won't..easy ...but beware of the assholes..ten a penny.
Do you think that in general, or on fabs? (‘Assholes ten a penny’)"
There is nothing worse than a person who wants to know your business all the time simply because they don't want you to have more than them ,wether it's success...Financial..or just being happy, they are like " if l can't have it you're not going to have it " ..it really doesn't matter where you meet them ..ten a penny is just a saying that simply means that you don't place any value on what they say or do , they bring drama to your life and you simply don't want to have anything to do with them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think that in general, or on fabs? (‘Assholes ten a penny’)
There is nothing worse than a person who wants to know your business all the time simply because they don't want you to have more than them ,wether it's success...Financial..or just being happy, they are like " if l can't have it you're not going to have it " ..it really doesn't matter where you meet them ..ten a penny is just a saying that simply means that you don't place any value on what they say or do , they bring drama to your life and you simply don't want to have anything to do with them . "
I understand the meaning for that phrase, but I wanted to know if you personally feel they’re prevalent everywhere, or moreso on fabs.
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"They’re sad individuals OP. There’s 2 online right now that have actively done this in the past. They’re just not my type of human beings.
Actively done so to you, Rex?"
Not to me, but have boasted of the things they’ve done to others in an open forum. It’s bonkers. Then some come out of the woodwork and pat them on the back for it, like really??  These people really are bottom feeders |
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It's happened to me, and my whole world nearly fell apart. On another site, there was gossip about me. One woman was upset with me, and as she was a kind of Queen Bee the rumours developed and gained ground. I left the site. But then one of her White Knights thought he'd gain favour by ferreting around, detecting where I worked, and sending my profile page to my boss.
Luckily, it was intercepted by his secretary. I was still summoned for a very awkward half hour, and had to wait an awful week while my posts were officially read and vetted. God, it was horrendous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fuck me, these experiences you’ve had are awful, I’m so sorry.
I’ve spoken before of a colleague who worked out who I was and threatened to print my photos off and stick them up around the depot if I didn’t fuck him. I didn’t, and he didn’t, but everyday for a long time I’d wonder if today was the day. Some people are such unbelievable pricks. |
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"Fuck me, these experiences you’ve had are awful, I’m so sorry.
I’ve spoken before of a colleague who worked out who I was and threatened to print my photos off and stick them up around the depot if I didn’t fuck him. I didn’t, and he didn’t, but everyday for a long time I’d wonder if today was the day. Some people are such unbelievable pricks."
Jesus. That is blackma*l. What a malevolent oxygen thief. You don't still work with him, I trust? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fuck me, these experiences you’ve had are awful, I’m so sorry.
I’ve spoken before of a colleague who worked out who I was and threatened to print my photos off and stick them up around the depot if I didn’t fuck him. I didn’t, and he didn’t, but everyday for a long time I’d wonder if today was the day. Some people are such unbelievable pricks."
What's more unbelievable is 80% of them type of pricks are on Fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jesus. That is blackma*l. What a malevolent oxygen thief. You don't still work with him, I trust?"
Coincidentally he got the sack, for unrelated reasons. Karma, I reckon. |
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I've been told quite a few tales about people being outed and having to leave the site. Some well known forumites are no longer with us because they had the temerity to say no to members of the clan.
I also know from experience that some very high profile forum posters have multiple accounts just for this purpose.
I and many others have witnessed them accidentally posting from the wrong account and outing themselves and their actions.
I've also been dragged into other peoples drama when professional victims have blamed others for doing the very thing they themselves have initiated, namely information gathering.
There are currently people tagging each other in posts as fab besties who in the background are putting an unbelievable amount of time and effort into demonising each other and sharing each others details.
Those lovely chatgroups they are in together feed on the sharing of information and it's actually hilarious that they are so thick and stupid they either can't see how their "friends"are passing their names and facepics to strangers or they just don't care because they are doing it too.
I know one woman who keeps files and is able to supply names and facepics of people she met 2 or 3 years ago. I know those for a fact because she used to send them to me every time I had a disagreement with someone on the forums and she believed having this information would give me added ammunition. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been told quite a few tales about people being outed and having to leave the site. Some well known forumites are no longer with us because they had the temerity to say no to members of the clan.
I also know from experience that some very high profile forum posters have multiple accounts just for this purpose.
I and many others have witnessed them accidentally posting from the wrong account and outing themselves and their actions.
I've also been dragged into other peoples drama when professional victims have blamed others for doing the very thing they themselves have initiated, namely information gathering.
There are currently people tagging each other in posts as fab besties who in the background are putting an unbelievable amount of time and effort into demonising each other and sharing each others details.
Those lovely chatgroups they are in together feed on the sharing of information and it's actually hilarious that they are so thick and stupid they either can't see how their "friends"are passing their names and facepics to strangers or they just don't care because they are doing it too.
I know one woman who keeps files and is able to supply names and facepics of people she met 2 or 3 years ago. I know those for a fact because she used to send them to me every time I had a disagreement with someone on the forums and she believed having this information would give me added ammunition. "
Are these Lounge people or from the Ireland forum? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think sometimes people get so caught up in their own dislike/boredom/desire to please another that they'll go to great lengths to try and destroy another. There's a lack of self awareness of just how bad some people can be, they justify away negative behaviour under the guise of it being important or useful.
It's quite sad really. |
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"I've been told quite a few tales about people being outed and having to leave the site. Some well known forumites are no longer with us because they had the temerity to say no to members of the clan.
I also know from experience that some very high profile forum posters have multiple accounts just for this purpose.
I and many others have witnessed them accidentally posting from the wrong account and outing themselves and their actions.
I've also been dragged into other peoples drama when professional victims have blamed others for doing the very thing they themselves have initiated, namely information gathering.
There are currently people tagging each other in posts as fab besties who in the background are putting an unbelievable amount of time and effort into demonising each other and sharing each others details.
Those lovely chatgroups they are in together feed on the sharing of information and it's actually hilarious that they are so thick and stupid they either can't see how their "friends"are passing their names and facepics to strangers or they just don't care because they are doing it too.
I know one woman who keeps files and is able to supply names and facepics of people she met 2 or 3 years ago. I know those for a fact because she used to send them to me every time I had a disagreement with someone on the forums and she believed having this information would give me added ammunition.
Are these Lounge people or from the Ireland forum?"
Both actually |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think that in general, or on fabs? (‘Assholes ten a penny’)
There is nothing worse than a person who wants to know your business all the time simply because they don't want you to have more than them ,wether it's success...Financial..or just being happy, they are like " if l can't have it you're not going to have it " ..it really doesn't matter where you meet them ..ten a penny is just a saying that simply means that you don't place any value on what they say or do , they bring drama to your life and you simply don't want to have anything to do with them .
I understand the meaning for that phrase, but I wanted to know if you personally feel they’re prevalent everywhere, or moreso on fabs.
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it really doesn't matter where you meet them ,it can be anywhere, it doesn't make them wrong , it doesn't make you wrong but what it does mean is that you don't want anything they can bring to your life, you avoid all people that can bring drama to your life where possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Worried
I've found similar
Direct neighbors & people from the past, that never really liked me or what I had,
Usually find they've run through the sites at you. Providing each other and ran considerable gangs to support it
Evolvement
Seems bit far fetched but if 1/+ worked through IBM DURING the Snowdon/YEWTREE case - Aimed at you. With Intensions - Greed & Jealousy. With little more themselves,
They want to hurt you
Would you be considerable
While they're-
Sat waiting for your next page turn
Strange relationships explaining themselves in Blacklite - Really are normally true
No Doubt |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ask why some people are internet trolls...they are just wired that way.
A lot I feel it comes down to jealousy. They see you have something they don't and want to take it away. You may not actually have whatever it is they think you have, but they see it as you do.
Like in said, wired wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A couple found out where I lived, worked, sent hate mail to my boss, 21 colleagues, friends …all with photos of me. Sad. "
Wow if I looked like you I would not have given a toss xx |
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"Some people will turn nasty out of rejection too.
Those are people I find most dangerous."
A group buddy of mine is worried about this, a girl he meets at the clubs is jealous and possessive, keeps agreeing to meet because he's scared she will turn nasty.
Yes, we've all told him, many times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hopefully threads like this act as a cautionary tale for those who want to be known and have wide appeal on places such as this...it's not wise to overshare"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've read some replies on here and it's quite disturbing how vicious, malicious and destructive people can be. This is why I'm extremely careful who I share my personal information with.
I do know there are several group chats go on away from here behind the scenes and the drama in those are unbelievable, especially the people who have double profiles and go around pretending to be someone else, bad mouthing and sending screenshots of private conversations. It makes me sick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've read some replies on here and it's quite disturbing how vicious, malicious and destructive people can be. This is why I'm extremely careful who I share my personal information with.
I do know there are several group chats go on away from here behind the scenes and the drama in those are unbelievable, especially the people who have double profiles and go around pretending to be someone else, bad mouthing and sending screenshots of private conversations. It makes me sick. "
But some people still deny it. I wonder why. |
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"Some people will turn nasty out of rejection too.
Those are people I find most dangerous.
A group buddy of mine is worried about this, a girl he meets at the clubs is jealous and possessive, keeps agreeing to meet because he's scared she will turn nasty.
Yes, we've all told him, many times."
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"Some people will turn nasty out of rejection too.
Those are people I find most dangerous.
A group buddy of mine is worried about this, a girl he meets at the clubs is jealous and possessive, keeps agreeing to meet because he's scared she will turn nasty.
Yes, we've all told him, many times."
More fool him. He needs to put a stop to being black-mailed like that. |
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"Some people will turn nasty out of rejection too.
Those are people I find most dangerous.
A group buddy of mine is worried about this, a girl he meets at the clubs is jealous and possessive, keeps agreeing to meet because he's scared she will turn nasty.
Yes, we've all told him, many times.
More fool him. He needs to put a stop to being black-mailed like that.
Would you say that if it were a woman?"
Yes, damn right I would. No one should allow themselves to be black-mailed. It's happened to me so I'm talking from personal experience. |
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"Some people will turn nasty out of rejection too.
Those are people I find most dangerous.
A group buddy of mine is worried about this, a girl he meets at the clubs is jealous and possessive, keeps agreeing to meet because he's scared she will turn nasty.
Yes, we've all told him, many times.
More fool him. He needs to put a stop to being black-mailed like that.
Would you say that if it were a woman?
Yes, damn right I would. No one should allow themselves to be black-mailed. It's happened to me so I'm talking from personal experience."
Very true, it is the worst thing ever. Glad you sorted it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Rejection and the resulting behaviour down to the lack of emotional intelligence and regulation, sensitive egos being bruised, God's gift complex shattered, so let's act out in a way that makes them feel a bit of the pain that the individual is feeling. |
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