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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Straight/Bi ladies of Fab, as I understand it, you tend to get inundated with messages from male profiles. However, what I was wondering is when wanting to make contact will someone, do you prefer to search and browse the male profiles for yourself, or do you like to go through those who've sent messages to you? |
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Respond, I've never been inundated with messages.
Find it hard to search when I can't see face pics, as that's where the attraction lies for me... I'm never going to msg anyone with a dick for their avatar. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh, that's interesting that you don't get inundated (especially having looked at your pics). How many messages do you get a day, on average, do you think?
And agree - if a person has a dick as a profile pic, probably an accurate indication of their personality. |
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"Respond, I've never been inundated with messages.
Find it hard to search when I can't see face pics, as that's where the attraction lies for me... I'm never going to msg anyone with a dick for their avatar."
Exactly our experience ^^ |
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"Oh, that's interesting that you don't get inundated (especially having looked at your pics). How many messages do you get a day, on average, do you think?
And agree - if a person has a dick as a profile pic, probably an accurate indication of their personality. "
I don't really keep count, but never more than about 50. Certainly not 100s like some of the ladies on here. |
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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow Scotland |
I have never searched for a man on here. I would just normally respond to a message if I saw one that took my fancy. I think I have maybe sent a first message a few times if I have seen a status update or something. |
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"Ahhh, see 50 seems like quite a lot to me, but I suppose it is relative.
And maybe it's not that much is the vast majority of the messages are trash."
95% get deleted as they haven't read the profile and aren't a match |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I actually do something entirely different OP. I message people I've engaged with in the forum - having checked out their profiles and got a sense of who they are from their forum comments."
That actually seems like a very sensible way to approach the situation. It works well, I'm guessing? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So you've never browsed to see what is available?
I've looked, and maybe sent a wink, but never messaged "
So you've been window shopping, as it were, but never enquired. |
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"I actually do something entirely different OP. I message people I've engaged with in the forum - having checked out their profiles and got a sense of who they are from their forum comments.
That actually seems like a very sensible way to approach the situation. It works well, I'm guessing?"
I have had some awesome outcomes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t search single male profiles at all as it’s not what we are looking for. We do search for couple and single ladies though and even message some.
J |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
I tend to look at who has looked at my profile (when I haven’t let my membership lapse  ). If they look a lot, and I really like their profile, then I usually say hi. That’s when I want to make new connections…sometimes I just enjoy fab for the forum and the profiles without initiating anything. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, thus far, it's not an either or situation, no option is clearly the preferred one generally - but I'm getting the impression that you ladies do like being messaged, even you still want to look for yourselves. |
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"So, thus far, it's not an either or situation, no option is clearly the preferred one generally - but I'm getting the impression that you ladies do like being messaged, even you still want to look for yourselves. "
Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So, thus far, it's not an either or situation, no option is clearly the preferred one generally - but I'm getting the impression that you ladies do like being messaged, even you still want to look for yourselves.
Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do."
Yeah, I get the impression that a lot of men who message are just doing so blindly, throwing things against and seeing if anything sticks.
Probably not the best way to go about it. |
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"So, thus far, it's not an either or situation, no option is clearly the preferred one generally - but I'm getting the impression that you ladies do like being messaged, even you still want to look for yourselves.
Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do.
Yeah, I get the impression that a lot of men who message are just doing so blindly, throwing things against and seeing if anything sticks.
Probably not the best way to go about it. "
Not just men do this ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, thus far, it's not an either or situation, no option is clearly the preferred one generally - but I'm getting the impression that you ladies do like being messaged, even you still want to look for yourselves.
Mostly I'd rather people didn't message if there's no chance of a connection. But I'm glad the rare interesting ones do.
Yeah, I get the impression that a lot of men who message are just doing so blindly, throwing things against and seeing if anything sticks.
Probably not the best way to go about it.
Not just men do this ^^ "
You get women doing it as well? |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't get many messages thanks to tight filters. When I meeting anyone new it's a mix between searching for profiles and making first contact or replying to messages if I like the profile. Both have worked for me in the past. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the response I've gotten to this post. I'm new here, and I wanting to find the best way to play before going any further. |
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I've tried searching OP, but finding profiles with a face pic is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
So I hope folk will read my profile & include a face pic.
Also, pretty tight filters mean I'm not inundated with messages, so it's pretty easy to manage. |
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"Respond, I've never been inundated with messages.
Find it hard to search when I can't see face pics, as that's where the attraction lies for me... I'm never going to msg anyone with a dick for their avatar."
I for one would welcome a feature of being able to filter by at least one admin verified face pic. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace 
I now feel utterly unwanted 
Don't forget the  perving
Pokeball?? "
Used for catching a target, yes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I browse ... then may message if there's someone I want, but mainly I just perv in peace
I now feel utterly unwanted
Don't forget the perving
Pokeball??
Used for catching a target, yes "
A cake carrying target |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value
Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there! "
As a blind person it's hard to tell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value
Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!
As a blind person it's hard to tell "
Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you .
Commiserations..can i lend a hand |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value
Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!
As a blind person it's hard to tell
Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you .
Commiserations..can i lend a hand "
I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value
Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!
As a blind person it's hard to tell
Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you .
Commiserations..can i lend a hand
I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way "
Interesting! As i also have cat references in my profile.
Does he wear a smoking jacket and have a dish of roe on the side ,? Least you can do. Though obviously apologies if he's a she or a they!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value
Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!
As a blind person it's hard to tell
Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you .
Commiserations..can i lend a hand
I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way
Interesting! As i also have cat references in my profile.
Does he wear a smoking jacket and have a dish of roe on the side ,? Least you can do. Though obviously apologies if he's a she or a they!!!"
"He" has a diamond encrusted bow tie collar and prefers salmon cutlets...a boy of particular taste...when awake! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value
Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!
As a blind person it's hard to tell
Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you .
Commiserations..can i lend a hand
I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way
Interesting! As i also have cat references in my profile.
Does he wear a smoking jacket and have a dish of roe on the side ,? Least you can do. Though obviously apologies if he's a she or a they!!!
"He" has a diamond encrusted bow tie collar and prefers salmon cutlets...a boy of particular taste...when awake! "
Then i bow the knee to his superior taste in cutlets and collar ( good couples name there ) |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I have searched ,but so many have no pics or just cock/action shots and that immediately puts me off
Then not that many fill in about themselves so there's nothing to go on.
I do have lots of filters on in the hope that it will encourage more of the people I want to vhat to. |
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I’ve tried both.
But as I’m not actively looking to meet anyone at the moment, I will respond to the messages if there’s interest from my side, assuming there’s already interest from them as they sent a message first.
Hope it makes sense. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
"I refrain from perving, I only go on profiles for the artistic value
Plenty of " artistic value" around isn't there!
As a blind person it's hard to tell
Ahhh man ! That must be REALLY hard for you .
Commiserations..can i lend a hand
I have to get my cat to type for me, so any help is appreciated...when I find a profile he thinks I might like he goes "mee, ow" on a typically unperving kind of way "
Don’t you mean purrving? |
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Respond, never search. The most I’ll ever do is wink at a profile I stumble upon, other than that i never initiate contact on here. I never initiate anything in clubs either, i don’t have the confidence. If a guy is waiting for me to approach him he’ll be waiting a loooong time. |
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