Hi split up from mrs (ain’t gonna bore you with details) but have a new fem partner on the go, I e been honest about what I have been upto etc, I’ve put the thought in her mind about playing, she ain’t said no but she pretty shy at the min but likes her pics been taken….. advice please |
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"Advice? She said 'no'. No means no so leave it at that
How do you know she said no?"
She hasn't said yes, therefore no consent.
Have a discussion with her about whether she would consider consenting to a joint photo on your profile, any distinguishing features blurred out. Let her come to her own decision. If she says no, that's it.
She may consent to the photos, but not consent to joining you in swinging. Communication is everything.
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"Hi split up from mrs (ain’t gonna bore you with details) but have a new fem partner on the go, I e been honest about what I have been upto etc, I’ve put the thought in her mind about playing, she ain’t said no but she pretty shy at the min but likes her pics been taken….. advice please "
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"Hi split up from mrs (ain’t gonna bore you with details) but have a new fem partner on the go, I e been honest about what I have been upto etc, I’ve put the thought in her mind about playing, she ain’t said no but she pretty shy at the min but likes her pics been taken….. advice please
Anyone else concerned over this post"
I’ve no concern with his post. He’s sharing his situation and people are going to provide him advice . Clearly he’s open to talking about it.
Communicating is a good thing and where possible being non judgemental is a plus. |
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"Hi split up from mrs (ain’t gonna bore you with details) but have a new fem partner on the go, I e been honest about what I have been upto etc, I’ve put the thought in her mind about playing, she ain’t said no but she pretty shy at the min but likes her pics been taken….. advice please
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I’ve no concern with his post. He’s sharing his situation and people are going to provide him advice . Clearly he’s open to talking about it.
Communicating is a good thing and where possible being non judgemental is a plus. "
Communication is a great thing, probably best done with the actual person. That would be my advice to the op. We don't know his girlfriend but he does. |
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Take pics...enjoy pics ...don't post her pics here without her permission...what you do together should remain with just the both of you  |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"Hi split up from mrs (ain’t gonna bore you with details) but have a new fem partner on the go, I e been honest about what I have been upto etc, I’ve put the thought in her mind about playing, she ain’t said no but she pretty shy at the min but likes her pics been taken….. advice please "
You say that you've put the thought in her mind, now you need to give her time to think about it.
You won't be able to pressure or convince her- she needs to make that decision for herself.
Asking for advice sounds to me like you want a quicker decision & makes you sound impatient.
If you want this to work, by all means talk to her openly about it, but nobody can advise you how to speed this up- she may never want to get involved in the lifestyle. If you can't wait for her, maybe she's not the one for you. |
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"Advice? She said 'no'. No means no so leave it at that
He said she HASNT said no
She hasn't said yes. Consent involves saying yes "
I dont follow what youre trying to say here, she hasn't said no to anything so hes now asking for advice about to take it further. What has consent got to do with the conversation? |
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"Hi split up from mrs (ain’t gonna bore you with details) but have a new fem partner on the go, I e been honest about what I have been upto etc, I’ve put the thought in her mind about playing, she ain’t said no but she pretty shy at the min but likes her pics been taken….. advice please
You say that you've put the thought in her mind, now you need to give her time to think about it.
You won't be able to pressure or convince her- she needs to make that decision for herself.
Asking for advice sounds to me like you want a quicker decision & makes you sound impatient.
If you want this to work, by all means talk to her openly about it, but nobody can advise you how to speed this up- she may never want to get involved in the lifestyle. If you can't wait for her, maybe she's not the one for you."
Since when does asking for advice sound like he wants to speed it up? Thats sounds like a strawman youve just created there to argue against |
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Let her enjoy having her picture taken, if she wants to allow you to put them on your profile, then make a couples one. We are all comfortable with different things and stepping into different comfort zones at different speeds.
I wouldn’t bring it up again for a while so she doesn’t feel pressurised into something.
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"Hi split up from mrs (ain’t gonna bore you with details) but have a new fem partner on the go, I e been honest about what I have been upto etc, I’ve put the thought in her mind about playing, she ain’t said no but she pretty shy at the min but likes her pics been taken….. advice please
You say that you've put the thought in her mind, now you need to give her time to think about it.
You won't be able to pressure or convince her- she needs to make that decision for herself.
Asking for advice sounds to me like you want a quicker decision & makes you sound impatient.
If you want this to work, by all means talk to her openly about it, but nobody can advise you how to speed this up- she may never want to get involved in the lifestyle. If you can't wait for her, maybe she's not the one for you.
Since when does asking for advice sound like he wants to speed it up? Thats sounds like a strawman youve just created there to argue against"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe show her your profile? See what she thinks.
Yes. Do this. And then don’t act shocked when the lady leaves, slamming the door behind her."
I thought this is a dating site because people keep saying it |
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Assuming the op is genuine, it's very simple.
He's talked about fab with her but she's unsure about joining him here.
She hasn't said no to joining but is thinking about it.
However, we don't know if she's okay with any pictures of her being shared on here so he needs to clarify that. |
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