Well well well.
Heres something.
I wonder if it is time to call a halt to all this swinging stuff and dedicate myself to the garden, my dog and DIY?
I turned 60 last month, and whilst I dont feel any older I do wonder if trying to keep up with the hunt is worth all the effort. Last week, for instance I and a few others had a splendid time, but there was no question, it did not have the same buzz as it would have done a dozen years ago.
But then again, it is such a nice thing to be able to set aside all of those norms that exist in the real world, and let go a bit sometimes. But like a really good meal, just because you have enjoyed one, it does not mean that you want another.
So how do others, maybe similar to me in the maturity stakes, feel about it all? |
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I as the woman in this couple feel that I want to do things differently to how we once did and probably to how the majority of swingers do. By that I mean more slowly, less urgently and probably not as frequently but erotically and sensually.
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"I as the woman in this couple feel that I want to do things differently to how we once did and probably to how the majority of swingers do. By that I mean more slowly, less urgently and probably not as frequently but erotically and sensually.
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A good point. I would rather have one really nice encounter than a dozen frantic ones |
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"I as the woman in this couple feel that I want to do things differently to how we once did and probably to how the majority of swingers do. By that I mean more slowly, less urgently and probably not as frequently but erotically and sensually. "
I feel like that and I'm only 48! |
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"I've had breaks, totally lost my mojo a few years ago, it came back kicking and screaming a while ago so I'm trying not to scare it away but sometimes a break is good"
I am a bloke - trust me we get breaks whether we want them or not. Covid was a particular bleak period nookie -wise |
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"I as the woman in this couple feel that I want to do things differently to how we once did and probably to how the majority of swingers do. By that I mean more slowly, less urgently and probably not as frequently but erotically and sensually.
A good point. I would rather have one really nice encounter than a dozen frantic ones"
I often think of the Mrs Patrick Campbell quote
'The deep, deep peace of the double-bed after the hurly-burly of the chaise-longue' to describe how I feel now about swinging. The problem is that lots of people are still at the chaise-longue stage (that's not wrong) and I feel a bit like a fish out of water |
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"I as the woman in this couple feel that I want to do things differently to how we once did and probably to how the majority of swingers do. By that I mean more slowly, less urgently and probably not as frequently but erotically and sensually.
I feel like that and I'm only 48! "
It's probably not an age thing then. When we used to get messages from very young guys promising me long nights of repeat sex I used to think how disappointed they'd be.  |
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"I as the woman in this couple feel that I want to do things differently to how we once did and probably to how the majority of swingers do. By that I mean more slowly, less urgently and probably not as frequently but erotically and sensually.
I feel like that and I'm only 48!
It's probably not an age thing then. When we used to get messages from very young guys promising me long nights of repeat sex I used to think how disappointed they'd be. "
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
We took a 5 year + break.
No meets, maybe one or two nips into the forums each year and nothing else.
Was good for us and we came back when we felt ready. There's nothing wrong with taking a step back when you're not feeling it, whether it's for a month, a year or longer.
Swinging isn't a subscription service you have to commit to. It doesn't come with attendance requirements, participation commitments or any binding guidelines as to what you need to do and when.
It's whatever you want it to be, whenever you want to be involved. Nothing more.
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