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"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.
A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "
I'd have thought an agent of shield would have had a back up plan for incase they fail to turn up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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 it’s getting ridiculous now.
Sorry op. But, soldier on and remember - it’s not you if you turned up. If they are even the slightest bit unsure, they shouldn’t arrange anything. That should put it off until they now they won’t waste your time travelling/getting ready etc. That’s my thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.
A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "
Says far more about them...no worth a second thought.
Don't let others motivate your actions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.
A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "
Surely the “meet me in Weatherspoons” was a warning sign? Don’t let it beat you though. Hope you hadn’t travelled far. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm sorry AC, that's really crappy. Try and not give up too much hope, which is a lot easier said than done. I hope you're able to pick yourself up soon - their actions aren't a reflection on you, just people being shitty. |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
"I'm sorry AC, that's really crappy. Try and not give up too much hope, which is a lot easier said than done. I hope you're able to pick yourself up soon - their actions aren't a reflection on you, just people being shitty."
No Meli, I am done, I will hang around for the forums and the socials and that's it
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"I'm sorry AC, that's really crappy. Try and not give up too much hope, which is a lot easier said than done. I hope you're able to pick yourself up soon - their actions aren't a reflection on you, just people being shitty. No Meli, I am done, I will hang around for the forums and the socials and that's it"
And what is wrong with that. You probably have a better chance at a social anyway.
At least it was spoons so drinks where cheep. Just think you could have met some where posh payed for you both to have a meal then got blown out. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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the sad thing is its probably other men running fake women/couples profiles ...men making other mens life a misery simply because they get a kick out of kicking others down ..
op if you are getting alot of let downs then its worth revisiting your selection process when trying to find people i cant remember the last time i was let down on this my singles profile or our couples profile the process to meet me tends to put off the timewasters ..
its not great to be a man on this scene as you have to do so much more to succeed and to try and shine amongst the zillions of you im so glad im not a guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ? |
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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ?"
been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ? been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing"
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"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ? been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing"
Perhaps there's a clue in the content of the chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After another failure to turn up, I am finally done.
A waisted day traveling and sitting like Billy no mates in a wetherspoons, I have finally been beaten into submission "
Noooo don’t give up fella , stay strong |
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It’s such a shame when people have to spoil the experience for other people. I understand people change their mind or things come up but there is no excuse for just not turning up. Hopefully you’ll feel better about things after a bit of time.
Kx |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"
Sending you a big hug AC
That's crappy behaviour ,sorry you've had this again .x |
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"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"
awwww hey that must be so frustrating, ive had this happen many times in the past one woman didnt turn up first time she asked me to give her a chance and turned up 2.5 hours late the second time and i met her a few times after that, she was very nervous  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"
Sorry to hear about your day OP.
I really don't think people think twice about how much effect goes into preparing for a meet, both physically and mentally.
Get your a nice hot bath and relax  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"I think you have said this before AC ? So maybe take time and reflect. If this has happened a lot then you do need to change something about who you choose to meet. The good ones are out there but maybe less is more ? been chatting to this one since September off site, so it's not like it was a spur of the moment thing"
That is doubly disappointing. Not just for failing to turn up, but months of communication coming to naught
I'd be very disappointed too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.
Tennyson. ‘ Ulysses ‘
Chin up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can be amazing or beastly. Sometimes both. Hugs for a crappy day. Take time out to do you & maybe in the future revisit what works/doesn't for you here x |
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"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"
Sorry to hear this OP that’s such a rubbish situation and just shows how rubbish this person was sending cuddles! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op sorry to hear this, just proves that there are alot of dick heads out there..but reading through this thread, tells me that yoyr loved and very much liked by many ppl, who shows you've touched their lives in some way, shape, or form...so don't make this mean anything about you, as tge truth is you kept your integrity and showed up like you said you would. She didn't so this speaks volumes about her and not you...
Peace love n hugs |
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I had the same this evening my meet bottled it. They got super nervous and started doing lines and ledt me standing in the rain for half an an hir... So is it a missed opportunity, or bullet dodged? |
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I know it's a glib thing to say, but it really is their loss.
It's a horrid thing to happen AC but I hope that over time it stings less and you don't let it put you off meeting others.
In the meantime sending you a huge squidgy hug  |
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As annoying as it may be, as blokes, we need to accept it. It’s a much bigger deal for women to mert guys than the other way round. A man not turning up for a woman is rude. A woman not turning up for a man is being cautious, and, some would say, sensible.
That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As annoying as it may be, as blokes, we need to accept it. It’s a much bigger deal for women to mert guys than the other way round. A man not turning up for a woman is rude. A woman not turning up for a man is being cautious, and, some would say, sensible.
That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom! "
Sensible cautious maybe, but what about integrity, respect and honesty, in saying sorry i have to cancel. That goes a long way ppl don't play the tape forward in the effects we can have on others, to just not turn up without communicating is selfish and a cowardly way out... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As annoying as it may be, as blokes, we need to accept it. It’s a much bigger deal for women to mert guys than the other way round. A man not turning up for a woman is rude. A woman not turning up for a man is being cautious, and, some would say, sensible.
That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom! "
How ridiculous! It's an adult site. Women aren't precious damsels.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As annoying as it may be, as blokes, we need to accept it. It’s a much bigger deal for women to mert guys than the other way round. A man not turning up for a woman is rude. A woman not turning up for a man is being cautious, and, some would say, sensible.
That she wanted to meet in the first place is a bigger feather in your cap than 99% of blokes have on here so you’re already in the top 1% of winners! Enjoy the stardom!
Sensible cautious maybe, but what about integrity, respect and honesty, in saying sorry i have to cancel. That goes a long way ppl don't play the tape forward in the effects we can have on others, to just not turn up without communicating is selfish and a cowardly way out..."
OP has she apologised? Did she let you know what happened?
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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago
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"That is me finally home, soaking wet as it pissed it down on the walk back from the station, the perfect end to a fucked up day"
Yes but today is a new one so forget about it, it’s over. Dust yourself off and see it as one less timewaster out of your life, leaving you a clearer path for the future.
Hope you are ok? |
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