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By *ee04 OP Man
over a year ago
Essex |
You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse. |
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Not really! It's always been like that, and I understand why if someone isn't interested. There was a time when I would reply to all messages,but it didn't last long. Got fed up of either abusive or whining replies, trying to make me change my mind.
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"Not really! It's always been like that, and I understand why if someone isn't interested. There was a time when I would reply to all messages,but it didn't last long. Got fed up of either abusive or whining replies, trying to make me change my mind.
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"You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse. "
Mate.
Many people use the block function as an organizational tool as well. If you're not what they're looking for, the quickest/easiest thing to do is block for future reference.
If you're upset over strangers hitting a button, it's time for a break  |
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over a year ago
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"You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse. "
Think of being blocked as a positive in that the person isn't interested and so you don't waste your time again in the future if you come across their profile. |
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If you reply, then future message filters don't apply, also the vast majority of men take it as a route to keep messaging. Appreciate that women (and some couples) get hundreds of messages per day. |
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"You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse.
Mate.
Many people use the block function as an organizational tool as well. If you're not what they're looking for, the quickest/easiest thing to do is block for future reference.
If you're upset over strangers hitting a button, it's time for a break "
That's one of the ways I use the block button,and it works well for me.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse. "
Hi op
Blocking helps users filter out that don't meet their requirements it's a great way to use the site leaving possibly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've just had to block someone, I didn't like the tone of his messages, so kept deleting them, he kept messaging, the messages were rude, he obviously didn't understand that because I was deleting I wasn't interested, so blocked him |
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We get the compliments messages which you know are leading up to when can we meet messages…I’d rather they do it all in the one message instead of having to say thanks for the compliments and then get the ‘so fancy a meet?’
Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then! 
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
"We get the compliments messages which you know are leading up to when can we meet messages…I’d rather they do it all in the one message instead of having to say thanks for the compliments and then get the ‘so fancy a meet?’
Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!
K
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I'd compliment you both on your photography with no expectations of meeting  |
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"You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse. "
they block because they dont fancy you, so you dont send another message asking why or just for the future, its rotten i know just cuts down on time wasted  |
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By *ee04 OP Man
over a year ago
Essex |
"We get the compliments messages which you know are leading up to when can we meet messages…I’d rather they do it all in the one message instead of having to say thanks for the compliments and then get the ‘so fancy a meet?’
Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!
K
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Was not looking to meet as they were not local just wanted to compliment them on their pics nothing more.
As for the other it was a conversation and then block for no reason.
Never been abisive or pestering as I’ve had the same which pisses me off, I can understand blocking then. |
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I don't know what the message / compliment you sent was, that got you blocked, but very often when the sender thinks is a compliment, and how it is received can be very different.
Eg. 'luv yr tits and yr fat ass, luv to cum in yr mouth' accompanied by a knob shot.
Please excuse the probably incorrect abbreviations. I don't speak text.
That isn't a compliment.
Then again neither is 'hiya, love your profile. You look hot. Wanna meet?'
Sent to someone who clearly states not meeting.
Or they were just not interested. |
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"We get the compliments messages which you know are leading up to when can we meet messages…I’d rather they do it all in the one message instead of having to say thanks for the compliments and then get the ‘so fancy a meet?’
Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!
K
Was not looking to meet as they were not local just wanted to compliment them on their pics nothing more.
As for the other it was a conversation and then block for no reason.
Never been abisive or pestering as I’ve had the same which pisses me off, I can understand blocking then. "
Yes but a lot of time a compliment isn’t just a compliment - they think it’s a way in.
I used to reply with enthusiasm if someone sent us a message complimenting us, however after them coming back then suggesting we meet a lot of the times, we send a ‘thanks ’ now so we don’t encourage the next ‘when can we meet’ message.
Call it cynical but I’d say a good 90% see it as a way in instead of just a compliment.
OP if you have a blank profile pic, bland profile, you’ll find people block you so they don’t hear from you again as you aren’t compatible…it’s saving time for everyone so be grateful instead of bitter.
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over a year ago
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"We get the compliments messages which you know are leading up to when can we meet messages…I’d rather they do it all in the one message instead of having to say thanks for the compliments and then get the ‘so fancy a meet?’
Ahhh so the compliment wasn’t really meant then!
K
Was not looking to meet as they were not local just wanted to compliment them on their pics nothing more.
As for the other it was a conversation and then block for no reason.
Never been abisive or pestering as I’ve had the same which pisses me off, I can understand blocking then.
Yes but a lot of time a compliment isn’t just a compliment - they think it’s a way in.
I used to reply with enthusiasm if someone sent us a message complimenting us, however after them coming back then suggesting we meet a lot of the times, we send a ‘thanks ’ now so we don’t encourage the next ‘when can we meet’ message.
Call it cynical but I’d say a good 90% see it as a way in instead of just a compliment.
OP if you have a blank profile pic, bland profile, you’ll find people block you so they don’t hear from you again as you aren’t compatible…it’s saving time for everyone so be grateful instead of bitter.
K"
Absolutely right. Usually the conversation starts of great. A compliment follows and you thank them so the next message is as if we've just given them the golden key to open Mrs gates of heaven.
Move on, don't be silly. Learn how to handle rejection. If you feel bad about being rejected through a message. Try being rejected in person.
Don't sulk about it. Nobody really cares. Nobody owes you anything. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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With compliments it's hard I find,you say thanks and then they start asking to meet.They're usually said to get chatting to that person.
I use the block button now if I've said no thanks ,saves any come back or if someone is a pest with messages .
I can't say why you're getting blocked op ,but it's a tool that's useful . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to reply to every message including ones we wouldn't meet etc
Always resulted in what they thought was a green light to carry on messaging.
We've stopped replying to all messages now and use the block button when something clearly isn't for us.
We have messages ignored etc, we dint take it personal, nobody owes us anything and we probably are not what they're looking for |
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"You pay a compliment or do what people ask and still the block you why? I can understand if you’re abusive or pushy but for no reason you get blocked what’s wrong with thanks but no thanks or another polite reply? It’s getting to the point where dabbing a pic will get you blocked. This site really is getting worse. "
It’s rarely anything personal.
If it gets to you to the point of being so upset, maybe it isn’t a right site for you.
Sorry if it sounds harsh but you asked, you got answers. |
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"We used to reply to every message including ones we wouldn't meet etc
Always resulted in what they thought was a green light to carry on messaging.
We've stopped replying to all messages now and use the block button when something clearly isn't for us.
We have messages ignored etc, we dint take it personal, nobody owes us anything and we probably are not what they're looking for "
Exactly, we get loads of messages ignored but it's not an invitation to harass them x |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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We block for all manner of reasons.
An incoming message asking to meet now, as it's clear in our profile text what will happen when that question is asked.
Crude, cringy messages aimed specifically at one of us.
Or simply a mind numbingly dull message from a profile we're 110% never going to be interested in.
We also proactively block profiles we'll never be interested in when we're browsing to stop them showing up in future searches, if we've seen something offensive in a status update or forum post, or if someone comes across as whiny, having any sign of entitlement/expectations or something as simple as a photo that has us reaching for the eye bleach.
It's a filter, albeit a permanent one. Not an insult, not a reason to take offence nor anything but a very useful site tool.
A total stranger preventing you from contacting them or seeing their profile isn't cause for upset. It's their right to block anyone they want for whatever reason they choose.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reality is, it’s quite rare for two parties to match up for a meet. Every person who looks at your profile or message, but doesn’t contact you is in a way rejecting you. It’s a long slow process. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.
Try not to take it personally."
Some people block when you haven't even messaged them |
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"Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.
Try not to take it personally.
Some people block when you haven't even messaged them "
Yeah exactly. Had someone has presumably viewed my profile, sent me an abusive message, then blocked me. Why? It’s not even someone that I’ve viewed in the first place.
It’s so easy to sit behind a keyboard and send abuse without any reprisal. It’s not going to affect me but suppose they do it to someone who is feeling down anyway. |
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"Some people send abuse when you say no thank you, so many people don't reply.
Try not to take it personally.
Some people block when you haven't even messaged them "
Lots of people block as a filter |
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Nope I don't get them 
