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Ladies, do you proactively search out partners off fab
If so, would you also make the first move in 'civvie street'?
Guys, how often do women make the first move in said street?
Does it feel good when it happens?
Or do you feel embarrassed and would rather make that move yourself? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, do you proactively search out partners off fab
If so, would you also make the first move in 'civvie street'?
Guys, how often do women make the first move in said street?
Does it feel good when it happens?
Or do you feel embarrassed and would rather make that move yourself?"
Only once in my life has it happened when a middle aged woman said to me
'Corr you look like a pussyteaser'
I thanked her and walked on with a spring in my step |
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"Ladies, do you proactively search out partners off fab
If so, would you also make the first move in 'civvie street'?
Guys, how often do women make the first move in said street?
Does it feel good when it happens?
Or do you feel embarrassed and would rather make that move yourself?
Only once in my life has it happened when a middle aged woman said to me
'Corr you look like a pussyteaser'
I thanked her and walked on with a spring in my step"
That was forward of her! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, do you proactively search out partners off fab
If so, would you also make the first move in 'civvie street'?
Guys, how often do women make the first move in said street?
Does it feel good when it happens?
Or do you feel embarrassed and would rather make that move yourself?
Only once in my life has it happened when a middle aged woman said to me
'Corr you look like a pussyteaser'
I thanked her and walked on with a spring in my step
That was forward of her!"
Yeah she wasn't what I would call the classiest of ladies bless her but you know, it was...sweet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good evening young lady
Work in Retail been busy over Christmas and new year I wouldn’t ask any of lady's because it’s my work
Have been asked when out and about by lady’s
Only about five in six years so not many  |
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C has never made the first move…I’m trying to encourage her to go outside of her comfort zone and approach guys she likes in clubs and I set her a task of trying to pull someone at a weekend away…I think the guy approached her though 
I find it a complete turn on when someone comes over and says you are hot…so it’s good to tell people… 
OP I think you are hot 
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i never make the first move.
i don't like being rejected.. so if i don't do it, then there's no chance of getting my feelings hurt  win win. Px "
You know that's why there is so many men on here complaining about constant rejection though right? |
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When I used to meet I was happy to make the first move.
In my younger days I gad no problem approaching guys in a club or pub but only if eye contact had been made.
I wouldn't walk up to someone in the street through |
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"C has never made the first move…I’m trying to encourage her to go outside of her comfort zone and approach guys she likes in clubs and I set her a task of trying to pull someone at a weekend away…I think the guy approached her though
I find it a complete turn on when someone comes over and says you are hot…so it’s good to tell people…
OP I think you are hot
K"
And it's good to hear too  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I quite like reaching out first.
Don't get me wrong, sometimes I have the oh crap, what happens if he/she/they don't like me. Are only politely entertaining my waffle because well... it's polite. But I like being proactive in messaging someone (when I'm feeling up to it). Sometimes I love if people are more proactive with me. I've never really done it erm... away from fab. People tend to express interest and have to be pretty clear with it or I just think they're being friendly.
There have been a few men who have said right Meli, I'm meeting you at place X at this time and I've swooned. Oh I can't quite express how much I've loved this.
Then again, I'm full of contradictions so want to find people where I can message first. They can. It's not important to me who does, as long as it happens. |
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I once had a woman tell me she could tell my fortune by feeling my balls - turns out her first prediction that I was shortly going to get my brains fucked out was absolutely on the money!! 100% true!! When I was a musician i did get ladies making the first move more often than i thought - think that’s just ‘a thing!’ 9/10 i made my excuses - ‘ a blowjob behind the sound guys desk! ‘ ffs makes me smile now! |
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"I quite like reaching out first.
Don't get me wrong, sometimes I have the oh crap, what happens if he/she/they don't like me. Are only politely entertaining my waffle because well... it's polite. But I like being proactive in messaging someone (when I'm feeling up to it). Sometimes I love if people are more proactive with me. I've never really done it erm... away from fab. People tend to express interest and have to be pretty clear with it or I just think they're being friendly.
There have been a few men who have said right Meli, I'm meeting you at place X at this time and I've swooned. Oh I can't quite express how much I've loved this.
Then again, I'm full of contradictions so want to find people where I can message first. They can. It's not important to me who does, as long as it happens."
Putting yourself out of your comfort zone and asking can be exciting! You've got to be in it to win it.
And, yes. Someone taking control can be just as exciting!
One day maybe you'll do it away from here
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"I used to be nervous reaching out first but thought fuck it, life’s too short "
This! I lost all my fucks to give and just crack on now!
What’s the worst that can happen he tells me I’m just a slapper with a willy*
* True story |
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"I used to be nervous reaching out first but thought fuck it, life’s too short
This! I lost all my fucks to give and just crack on now!
What’s the worst that can happen he tells me I’m just a slapper with a willy*
* True story "
That's awful and out of order  |
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"I used to be nervous reaching out first but thought fuck it, life’s too short
This! I lost all my fucks to give and just crack on now!
What’s the worst that can happen he tells me I’m just a slapper with a willy*
* True story
That's awful and out of order "
Meh - it’s not far off lol |
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"I used to be nervous reaching out first but thought fuck it, life’s too short
This! I lost all my fucks to give and just crack on now!
What’s the worst that can happen he tells me I’m just a slapper with a willy*
* True story
That's awful and out of order
Meh - it’s not far off lol "
You can say it but they can't! x |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
MOROCCO Wherever I lay my hat |
On here I rarely hunt tho have been known to message first on rare occasions.
Out in the wild I have only ever once picked up a guy. That was in a lift.
So my username is somewhat misleading - I'm more like a lion waiting for the meat to be delivered to me |
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"On here I rarely hunt tho have been known to message first on rare occasions.
Out in the wild I have only ever once picked up a guy. That was in a lift.
So my username is somewhat misleading - I'm more like a lion waiting for the meat to be delivered to me "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On here I rarely hunt tho have been known to message first on rare occasions.
Out in the wild I have only ever once picked up a guy. That was in a lift.
So my username is somewhat misleading - I'm more like a lion waiting for the meat to be delivered to me "
Just Eat?! |
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"On here I rarely hunt tho have been known to message first on rare occasions.
Out in the wild I have only ever once picked up a guy. That was in a lift.
So my username is somewhat misleading - I'm more like a lion waiting for the meat to be delivered to me "
I would love to see deliveroo handle me to your doorstep!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Truthfully, I’ve had a few 1st messages.  and it’s lovely and flattering to know somebody looked at you or has thought they wanted to talk.
I’ve even got to meet a couple of people. Isn’t this what fab is supposed to be about? Talking, making friends and then meeting up? |
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"i never make the first move.
i don't like being rejected.. so if i don't do it, then there's no chance of getting my feelings hurt win win. Px "
Or lose - you may have missed out on someone great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i never make the first move.
i don't like being rejected.. so if i don't do it, then there's no chance of getting my feelings hurt win win. Px
Or lose - you may have missed out on someone great. "
I just sent her a dick pic. You think she’ll like it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only make the first move when Ii at the club, CJ's because I feel more comfortable there x
I’ve heard good things about CJs"
Always have a good night in there. You should get yourself up here sometime x |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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I do on here... saves the Fab admin with filters, and rejection on here is easier to cope with as 99% are really polite.
...and years ago used a few awful one liners in clubs to chat up guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do on here... saves the Fab admin with filters, and rejection on here is easier to cope with as 99% are really polite.
...and years ago used a few awful one liners in clubs to chat up guys "
Yes! Go on! |
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"i never make the first move.
i don't like being rejected.. so if i don't do it, then there's no chance of getting my feelings hurt win win. Px "
So by that logic, how many approaches do you get, I mean legitimate face to face ones? Because your pictures and videos tell me that any man is in for a once-in-a-lifetime treat he'll never forget. |
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I often make the first move on here. Worst that can happen is that they decline or ignore my message. Hardly a big deal is it?
In the real world I’m usually out with a group of female friends - only really come across chaps when queuing at the bar and they’re either young or I assume they’re in a relationship. I find fab far simpler and more straight forward. |
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By *hirleyMan
over a year ago
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Takes me by surprise if I get hit on. I usually calculate everything so if someone tries to bring their emotion into the mix I have no idea how to react and results vary. Although it used to happen much more when I was younger, don't really get it much now |
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Online yes, I actively search whatever site I'm using for profiles that appeal and then message.
In real life hell no. I can't tell someone is flirting with me even when they make it ridiculously obvious, so there's a very high likelihood I'm just misreading signals from someone who isn't in any way interested.
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On here, I've only ever met one man who I didn't initiate contact with (but I did have him on my radar, I just hadn't got round to messaging him yet).
Oh goodness, I used to be terrible for chatting random blokes up on nights out when I was (much) younger. It never fazed me if I saw someone that I liked the look of, I'd just walk right up to them in the middle of their bunch of mates and say hello.
I'd likely do the same now if I was single, I love a good flirt |
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On Fab I’ve had a handful of messages, mainly from couples but some single women. Sadly none of them were my type or were fakes!
Never in my non-fab life have I been approached first (pouts) apart from the swathes of prozzies in Marbs (always said no, obvs) |
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Personally I have no problems making the first move.
However, I seem to get better results by not chasing. I normally put myself in a position whereby I get noticed but then don't act on it, awaiting for the other party.
For instance, in the gym, I normally do the right work at the right time to get noticed but never engage with any of the girls.
On here, I am not really active but more interested in learning about people. I do send first messages, occasionally, with a picture and can expect a no response most of the time. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"I do on here... saves the Fab admin with filters, and rejection on here is easier to cope with as 99% are really polite.
...and years ago used a few awful one liners in clubs to chat up guys
Yes! Go on!"
Do you know they do curry flavoured condoms?! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Virtually everyone I met here came about from my taking the initiative in expressing interest to meet. From the outset I've had a "nothing ventured nothing gained" mindset. Rejection was nothing to be feared and all part of the process of courting someone.
As they say, you win some you lose some |
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