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Curious musings in bed last night.
We make a point of going to bed together, every night, on nights where we are in together. Had us wondering if we were the minority or the majority?
Do people go to bed together still, or is that the perfect time for some solo downtime and therefore you go at separate times?
What's the consensus amongst the well versed and knowledgeable fab community? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More than not. Sometimes we stay up to have our own time and respect it.
Mr plays a game or two, watches something on the TV.
Mrs sat on her ass outting jigsaw puzzles together or watching a show.
I love going to sleep together but it also feels nice to have the bed to yourself.  |
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"We usually go to bed together but have the occasional time where Mr will stay up to watch a film while Mrs goes up to read in peace 
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Get that totally. Always nice to have the TV/bed to yourself for your own pleasures |
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"Always used to go to bed together and even if there was no sex there was always kisses and cuddles but that was years ago"
Yes, not always sex, just that togetherness is reassuring and comforting.
Hopefully you find someone to share that with again. |
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"More than not. Sometimes we stay up to have our own time and respect it.
Mr plays a game or two, watches something on the TV.
Mrs sat on her ass outting jigsaw puzzles together or watching a show.
I love going to sleep together but it also feels nice to have the bed to yourself. "
Pictuing the biggest and most elaborate starfish ever
Puzzles are good, don't do them often enough really. The curse of games on smart phones perhaps.
TV time to yourself is necessary. You can't always like the same stuff! |
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"We always go to bed together…it’s a chance to regroup, talk about the day or get down and dirty.
K "
Ah yes, ready made therapy/wind down session, in the comfiest room in the house, with your favourite confidant.
Or, as you say, getting intimate, with your favourite confidant  |
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"Mostly together. Occasionally separate. Depends on the telly  "
It's not every day of the year for us either. Socials, seeing friends, sport and volunteering are some of the reasons we won't be together at night. Alone time is crucial isn't it! |
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"We very rarely go to bed together.... Mr is up at 4:30 every weekday morning so is tucked up in bed for 8 every night...... weekends if we are together then we do...."
Yikes, that's a heck of a time to be up. Good for him. I'd be in bed well before 8 if that was me. |
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"Yes we always go to bed together, with 2 little ones finding alone time can be tricky so we make some on an evening, bed together even if just for cuddles and chill.
Mrs "
Ah yes, children are a wonderful catalyst of calendar/free time squeezing! We're the same. 2 kids, with different bed times, means our evening time is often restricted to an hour, and that's if the eldest doesn't prat about getting another drink/going to the toilet/forgetting to tell us something..... |
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"We very rarely go to bed together.... Mr is up at 4:30 every weekday morning so is tucked up in bed for 8 every night...... weekends if we are together then we do....
Yikes, that's a heck of a time to be up. Good for him. I'd be in bed well before 8 if that was me. "
It was 4am today thanks to our stupid cat lol |
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"More than not. Sometimes we stay up to have our own time and respect it.
Mr plays a game or two, watches something on the TV.
Mrs sat on her ass outting jigsaw puzzles together or watching a show.
I love going to sleep together but it also feels nice to have the bed to yourself. "
This is spookily similar to us 
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"We always used to for years but Mr now works shifts so it’s rare that we go to bed together these days and it’s something we both miss.
Kx "
Ah sorry to hear that. Charlie used to work shifts years ago and it was always difficult to find time together. Hope he likes his job though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been together 23 years and married for 21 years and still go to bed together.
Absolutely love snuggles, which inevitably sometimes turn to fuggles  |
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"We've been together 23 years and married for 21 years and still go to bed together.
Absolutely love snuggles, which inevitably sometimes turn to fuggles "
Ah that is lush!!
And absolutely. Snuggles can't transform to fuggles if you go to bed alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Curious musings in bed last night.
We make a point of going to bed together, every night, on nights where we are in together. Had us wondering if we were the minority or the majority?
Do people go to bed together still, or is that the perfect time for some solo downtime and therefore you go at separate times?
What's the consensus amongst the well versed and knowledgeable fab community? "
We always go to bed at the same time, even if one of us isn't tired. We like cuddling and one falling asleep wrapped in the other.
We would rather be awake while the other is snoring than in different rooms |
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Sometimes I (female) will go to bed with him just because he likes to be cuddled to sleep, but get up and go to bed late on. Mainly because I'm exact opposite I can't stand anyone touching me when I go to sleep. |
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Go to bed at different times and get up at different times.
Partner does not accept or tolerate Kaylee but the above means partner does spot the chastity cage, the occasional thong worn at night, the toenail varnish worn in winter 24/7 or the fact I am now fully smooth and have been for the last three years
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"Go to bed at different times and get up at different times.
Partner does not accept or tolerate Kaylee but the above means partner does spot the chastity cage, the occasional thong worn at night, the toenail varnish worn in winter 24/7 or the fact I am now fully smooth and have been for the last three years
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Spot read 'does not spot the chastity cage' |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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Unless I'm struggling with my ME/CFSi pretty much go to bed at the same time as my husband or boyfriend (depending on who I'm with obvs).
As my husband works shifts, when he's transitioning to nights is the only none health related time we don't go to bed together (but he also often sleeps in the spare room then so he doesn't wake me up when he comes to bed - or that I don't when I'm getting up for work) |
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It's something I miss now being single again. On the whole we went to bed together. Sometimes he'd read a while as he needed less sleep.
I do enjoy being a starfish now though x |
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We go to bed at the same time. If one of us is out the other may go to bed but stay awake for the other to come home.
Funnily enough that’s been easier as our children have grown up, when they were small it was often difficult to coordinate getting enough sleep. |
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"Curious musings in bed last night.
We make a point of going to bed together, every night, on nights where we are in together. Had us wondering if we were the minority or the majority?
Do people go to bed together still, or is that the perfect time for some solo downtime and therefore you go at separate times?
What's the consensus amongst the well versed and knowledgeable fab community?
We always go to bed at the same time, even if one of us isn't tired. We like cuddling and one falling asleep wrapped in the other.
We would rather be awake while the other is snoring than in different rooms "
Sounds like you guys have got it sussed! Nicely done. We're the same. There's a comfort to having someone snuggled into the side of you, even if you're wide awake and reading/watching something etc |
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"Go to bed at different times and get up at different times.
Partner does not accept or tolerate Kaylee but the above means partner does spot the chastity cage, the occasional thong worn at night, the toenail varnish worn in winter 24/7 or the fact I am now fully smooth and have been for the last three years
Spot read 'does not spot the chastity cage'"
Looks as though you have a system that works for you! |
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"Unless I'm struggling with my ME/CFSi pretty much go to bed at the same time as my husband or boyfriend (depending on who I'm with obvs).
As my husband works shifts, when he's transitioning to nights is the only none health related time we don't go to bed together (but he also often sleeps in the spare room then so he doesn't wake me up when he comes to bed - or that I don't when I'm getting up for work) "
Crikey, 2 bedtime patterns. Some people are just greedy
It all sounds sensible. I feel guilty when I come in past midnight and offer to sleep downstairs but it's swiftly batted away and I'm told I better be in bed when she wakes up |
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"When we are in the same place. Then we love to go to bed together. Just holding hands and reviewing the day or cuddling. "
Sounds perfect. Ready made wind down session lying next to your favourite person! |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"Unless I'm struggling with my ME/CFSi pretty much go to bed at the same time as my husband or boyfriend (depending on who I'm with obvs).
As my husband works shifts, when he's transitioning to nights is the only none health related time we don't go to bed together (but he also often sleeps in the spare room then so he doesn't wake me up when he comes to bed - or that I don't when I'm getting up for work)
Crikey, 2 bedtime patterns. Some people are just greedy
It all sounds sensible. I feel guilty when I come in past midnight and offer to sleep downstairs but it's swiftly batted away and I'm told I better be in bed when she wakes up "
Ha. Yeah I'm pretty greedy.
I miss cuddles when hubby sleeps in the spare room but given ME can be so affected by sleep or lack of it's the best thing for me.  |
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"It's something I miss now being single again. On the whole we went to bed together. Sometimes he'd read a while as he needed less sleep.
I do enjoy being a starfish now though x"
Sorry to hear that you miss it. But don't underestimate the ability and opportunity to starfish as brazenly as you like |
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"We go to bed at the same time. If one of us is out the other may go to bed but stay awake for the other to come home.
Funnily enough that’s been easier as our children have grown up, when they were small it was often difficult to coordinate getting enough sleep."
Being a parent is a massive game changer isn't it. We find it easier now they're older but their hobbies become more time (and money) consuming! |
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"FB and I don't live together, but when we do manage an overnighter we usually go to bed at the same time, cuddles and cwtches at the very least. "
Serious question, are cwtches better than cuddles?? |
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"Unless I'm struggling with my ME/CFSi pretty much go to bed at the same time as my husband or boyfriend (depending on who I'm with obvs).
As my husband works shifts, when he's transitioning to nights is the only none health related time we don't go to bed together (but he also often sleeps in the spare room then so he doesn't wake me up when he comes to bed - or that I don't when I'm getting up for work)
Crikey, 2 bedtime patterns. Some people are just greedy
It all sounds sensible. I feel guilty when I come in past midnight and offer to sleep downstairs but it's swiftly batted away and I'm told I better be in bed when she wakes up
Ha. Yeah I'm pretty greedy.
I miss cuddles when hubby sleeps in the spare room but given ME can be so affected by sleep or lack of it's the best thing for me. "
Ha ha. Well done for going out and getting what you wanted/needed.
You got to do what's right for you. No point making things worse. Make the sacrifice for longer term satisfaction |
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"We nearly always go up together and spend time snuggling with the tv on in the background. Nice to wind down and chill.
T"
Definitely sign off on this arrangement. Hope you manage to successfully do this tonight! |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Those who go to bed together stay together
Couldn't agree more!! Do your own thing in the be_room if you must but go to bed together if you can "
exactly its the sign of a good relationship  |
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